Fighting for my son

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Fighting for my son

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Most of the people who see this know my story but if you don't I will try to briefly share it with you. When my son was born it was the greatest day of my life. Truely holding him for the first time I realized I would love this little bundle of joy forever and would do anything to protect him. His mother and I had struggled coming to terms on things. Before Tristan was a year old she dissapeared and left me to care for him by myself. To say that is was challenging to work full time and raise a baby is an understatement. I decided to move back N.Y. to be closer to family and friends that could help. During this time my mother became very I'll so on top of raising a child and working full time I was also trying to care for her which included driving 3 hours to buffalo, N.Y. so she could get proper care. 4 years passed and I didn't hear anything from Tristans mother, not even a phone call. While in N.Y. I decided to get full custody of Tristan to ensure he would be safe. I was put through the ringer to get it but when I finally did it was one of the greatest days of my life because I knew Tristan would always be safe and she couldnt take him away, or so I thought. A decision was made for my mom, my son, and I to move back to Florida. I thought my mother could get better care here. I also wanted Tristan to get to know his other grandparents because, while she had issues and didn't seem to care, they expressed interest in him and wanted to be part of his life. The move was hard but we did it in November of 2014. Shortly after my mother was diagnosed terminal and she passed February 12th 2015. This was a devastating blow to my son and I. Together we kept each other strong and made it through the best we could. Tristans other grandparents began to help as needed to watch him while I was at work. Things were very good for a while. After a couple years Tristans mother began to reach  out and  I allowed her to speak with him. I didn't want him to resent me for keeping him away from his mother. As a single father with no parents left, I guess I was wanting him to experience family. He already experienced so much loss at young age. His mother decided to move back to Florida. I was not for all this and I felt it was to fast but of course her family supported her because, as most of us are with family, they wanted to believe she would finally do right this time. At first she was very nice and wanted to be part of Tristans life in every aspect. I used this opportunity to work and pay Bill's I need to catch up on. 2 months ago. Tristan's mother, Without me knowing took him to stay at a different location on several occasions. She began being late for drop off blaming me for not having a car even though I would make arrangements for rides to meet her. 2 weeks ago she refused to bring him home. When I finally got him home he told He kept telling me he doesn't want to go back with her, and my heart said that from this point on I will never make him. This is a feat for me because I'm trying to work and find a sitter for a almost 11 year old who is begging to be trusted to be left alone because he feels responsible enough. So I decided to give him a chance for 2 hours to try being alone until the sitter got to him. I checked laws and in Florida, as long as the parent feels the child is responsible, they can be left alone for a short period of time. I made sure the door was locked and that he had food, his phone, and our protective lab, Mia, to make him feel secure and I headed off to work. Well I get a text from his mother an hour and a half later that she felt he was unsafe and she came to my house and took him! I don't know how she knew he was there nor how she knew he was alone. I can only imagine how scared and confused he was. I called the police who informed me there is nothing they can do because custody from N.Y. cant be enforced in Florida. She will not tell me where he is and has refused to let me see him. She has informed she has got a lawyer and is taking me to court. My heart is broken. I have loved my son and always put him first since the day he was born. The pain I'm going through is excruciating. I don't want to ask anybody for anything but, as you can imagine the legal costs for this is going to be high. I am asking for any donations to help fund my legal battle. I will fight as long as I can. I'm sorry I have to ask but know his future depends on him coming home to me.  Any of you who are close to me and know my relationship with my son if you are willing to write letters of recommendation on my character please PM me it will be a big help.  Anything helps and I appreciate the outpouring of people who are already doing alot to accomplish this goal. Any little bit helps even if it is a dollar, it's a dollar closer to my goal. Thank you for your time and reading my story.

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Ryan Loftus
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Boynton Beach, FL
Anthony Cimino
Beneficiary
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