Needs Your Help

In the span of three days, we went from having a healthy, running grief-support site, to the tipping point where the site crashed because we had grown so much we needed a new server. Basically, we were helping so many people from around the world that the server had a meltdown. has grown so much that we need a new home! However, that new home comes with a price.

Since 1997, has helped over a million people, from over 100 countries, free of charge. People have forged lifelong friendships, discovered new depths to themselves, and found healing they never thought would occur. Numerous people over the years have said to us that they would never had made it through their grief journeys without the support of others who understand exactly what they are feeling. That support helps them eke through one more minute... an hour... a day. Tears can be shed without judgment and virtual hugs are given freely here at Stories of our loved ones who have passed on before us can be shared and treasured. is a home and a safe haven for those on their grief journeys, and we would like to keep it running for future people in need.

This is where you can help. All of the sudden, much to our shock, on August 27, 2019, needed a home of its own. However, we couldn't afford to buy its own server, and we only had one day to move before the posts and members from the database would be irretrievably lost! That was NOT an option for us. Instead, we are on a server that we share with one or two others—for now.

30 Days

We only have 30 days before a special server price expires, which requires us to pay ahead in a lump sum. Then, the price will triple. Since is fully funded by two middle class ladies (Elyse & Kelly), from our own pockets, we need your help to raise $5000 to lock in the lower server rate in's new home, which also includes server maintenance to prevent issues in the future.  In addition, financial assistance is needed to pay for technical support for the forum software, which is separate from the server. We need the technical parts to run smoothly so that we minimize stress and maximize support for the community members. 

Next, we need to look to the future, and to a new permanent home for on its own server. This would require hiring a company to keep it in good, running condition. If we raise more than $5000, the funds will go toward a new permanent home. For now, we just want to keep the wheels running after this significant unexpected change.

The good news is that people are finding and receiving support from all of you. Thank you for being here, and thank you for helping us continue to be here for you and others.

Kelly & Elyse

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    • 4 mos
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Kelly Baltzell 
Hanover, MN
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