A New Beginning: Help me to relocate with my little ones

Hello friends, This is a mother's and her three children's story, and my name is Yeliannis Ruiz. I never imagined I would wind up talking so candidly about a situation in my life, but now more than ever I need to concentrate on coming up with answers and changing things. I am the full-time mother of three little children, ages three, five, and six. The children were born in Turkey, but the father is from one nation and I am from another. I have been in this country for the past ten years, but the past year has been a little rocky, filled with many ups and downs and challenges since I became a single mother.

My children's father and I are still legally married, but I want to leave this country and provide a totally different life than the one my kids are living. He further asserts that he has imposed a prohibition that forbids me from taking the kids abroad. He does no longer resides in Turkey, he is back in his country and expect that I will continue living here until the moment he can finally return with the financial means to finally open a case of divorce and make a final decision on our children. However, I cannot stay in this country till he eventually finds the money to come, it is not just a matter of not wanting, but also a fact of life. The residency that I have been awarded it’s only valid for six months; after that, I will need to renew it. Additionally, there is always a chance that this application process might be rejected. What should I do in the event that I can not longer sustain myself or if our residence permits are rejected? Just to remain here unlawfully due to his ban? 

My goal in starting this fundraising is to open an international divorce lawsuit, and also to be able to have some money for moving from Turkey and starting over in a country near to mine, in which I can easily bring my parents with me and have their support.

To provide some additional context, I used to work online for a company in Bulgaria, but I lost that job six months ago. I'm still looking through job boards and LinkedIn for any remote opportunities. However, after numerous interviews, it appears that for companies in Istanbul on-site jobs is still the main option, which is not feasible for me at this moment.

My ex-partner returned to his home country. He has been paying for the housing and other expenses, but he has cautioned me that he won't do so for very long, and that I should be able to support myself. This is a little self-centered and impractical because I got to get up in the morning, drop the kids off at school, and then go again to pick them up. I cook for them, do the laundry, clean the house by myself, and still assist them with their classes and so on. I get seizures every three to six months; the last time I experienced one, I was at home by myself with the children. And this worries me a lot; I need a change in my life. I have never had a more difficult experience in my life than this.

The worst part is that he thinks I'm not strong enough or suitable to look after the kids by myself. He would rather divide them up, leaving the youngest with me and taking one or two children with him. Which is not only the worst thing he can do to a mother, but it is extremely cruel towards them. I recognize that he has the right to be involved in their lives as well, but regrettably, things are this way. None of us wants to live in the other’s country because we are not from the same place. I understand how awful it is for any child to not see any of their parents because I am a daughter who adores my father myself.

However, separation was the only path for us, therefore this is regrettably the reality. We can now only let the court make the decision. Any assistance you may give would be very appreciated and it means a lot to me. 

Thank you so much!

Divorce costs are exorbitant in Turkey; I've received quotes ranging from 1800 USD to 8000 USD. 

My goal is to raise money for the lawyer and also the necessary cash to book the tickets to leave Turkey and mantain myself for a short time until finding a new job.

Blessings and again thanks for reading this!