My Husband and I have been trying to expand our family with a precious baby Longworth for over 6 years now. The road has been long and disappointing with many heartaches and breaks over the years. I was diagnosed with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome a few years ago and was told that having a baby would probably never happen without the help of fertility meds.
We started with taking the fertility medicine Clomid. A few months of taking them we were expecting our first baby. We were so excited and couldn’t wait until we went in a week later for our first ultrasound visit. A day that should have been one of the most exciting days of our lives was one of the most devastating days we will never forget. “We can’t find it,” is what we heard instead. Our baby was not in my uterus where it should be. That was the first time I ever heard the words ectopic pregnancy. We were given a few days to decide how we were going to terminate the pregnancy which were truly the worst days of my life. In the end, on the day I was to give the doctor our answer, I ended up having a miscarriage instead.
Even though the experience was devastating to us, it gave us hope that we would be able to have a child. I spent almost 3 years on Clomid with no other signs of pregnancy. At this time in our lives, it was the only possible means of trying, as my job wasn’t conducive to being able to move up to fertility injections yet.
Finally in the summer of 2012, since I was a teacher and would be off the entire summer, we decided to visit a fertility institute and try a different approach to having a child. That June we visited with a Doctor at the institute and she talked about our plan. She spelled out the plan for my husband and I of what was going to happen. (I was to go on birth control until my cycle started. Then I was to call in letting them know we were ready for fertility injections which I would start taking. Then I would come in to be monitored…..) That is what my husband and I thought was going to happen but instead, on the day that I called in, I was informed by a nurse that the doctor refused to help me until I lost 60 pounds. 60 POUNDS!!! Everything she told us in our meeting had been a lie. Since we weren’t able to start the fertility meds on time, the summer had been a bust.
It took my husband and me 2 more years before we tried a different fertility doctor. At this point I had given up my job so I could be free to try the fertility injections and make it to doctor appointments whenever I needed. The cost of the injection medicine was significantly higher than Clomid. (around $3,000) Our first round was unsuccessful. We immediately tried again. On the second time, I had heavy bleeding before time to take a pregnancy test. I figured it was just my cycle starting and heartbroken it didn’t work again. However, a few days later I had a positive pregnancy test confirmed by the doctor. Our happiness was very short lived. The doctor thought that due to the amount of blood lost, he believed it was another ectopic pregnancy and a few days later I miscarried again.
The doctor now believed that the only way we would conceive would be through Invitro Fertilization. Due to the cost of IVF, (about $25,000 including meds) we opted to try just the injections one more time; another unsuccessful attempt.
Determined not to give up, we started the plan for IVF hoping and praying that it would give us the family we had been longing for. It was three days after Thanksgiving that I went in to have my eggs removed. I was very hopeful because I knew that I had many eggs ready to be taken, especially from my right ovary which is my more active ovary. However, when I awoke from the procedure, I quickly learned that it was not as successful as we had hoped. We learned that my right ovary is trapped in my intestines and unable to safely be reached to take out the eggs. They were only able to retrieve 3 eggs from my left ovary. I was beyond disappointed, but we were trying to stay positive with the 3 we had.
We had decided we were going to have the genetic testing done on the 3 embryos. After waiting a few days for them to grow, we learned that only 2 out of the 3 had grown. Now we were down to two. It was a little past the middle of December when we got the results back on the 2 remaining embryos. It wasn’t the news anyone would want to hear. The first one I was told about was about our little boy. He had an extra Chromosome 19. Having the extra chromosome 19 means that if he were to attach in the uterus, he would never make it to full term, eventually ending in a miscarriage as well.
I was already devastated and hoped that the news of the remaining embryo would be good. Then came the words “inconclusive”. What does that mean??? It means the test hadn’t worked and that they would need to retest. Then, when thinking things couldn’t have gotten worst, they did. We were informed that the place that does the genetic testing would be closed (for a month) for Christmas. We had to wait another month before hearing any news about the last embryo. It felt like forever. A normally joyous holiday season was just spent worried, stressed, and fearful.
Middle of January the news of the embryo finally came. It was a normal,,, girl. My husband and I were happy that she was normal, but the rejoicing could not begin yet. I had to go through another month of expensive medicines, painful shots everyday, to prepare for the transfer. Transfer day came and went, and now started the week long wait.
The day came, and we were saddened to find out that our baby girl would not be staying with us. Our hearts ache for all the little angels we will never get to see grow. They will forever be in our hearts and on our minds.
Our doctor is very optimistic that trying IVF again, with a new plan now that we know my right ovary is trapped, is the next step. We are still hopeful that our journey to becoming parents to a baby Longworth is not yet over. Unfortunately, we are out of resources to pay for another round of IVF. That is why we have started this donation in hopes to raise money to try IVF again. We are very appreciative with any donation amount. We understand that not everyone is able or willing to donate to our cause. However, if it is laid upon your hearts to help us in our journey please know that we would forever be:
David & Tracey Longworth
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