This Beautiful couple has gone through so much just to have a baby! One thing they have always wanted. 5 Years of fertility now and so many heartbreaks. One that just currently happened.

Egg 4 was placed and it took! Egg 4 turned into a baby. Weeks passed but unfortunately when week 8 hit, Jen had a miscarriage. Still so fresh for the couple. Still trying to heal from the pain of the loss. They both decided they wanted to continue for the next. The doctor has mentioned she needs to give her body a break before she can start again. Which gives us time to help them save for the next step.

IVF is expensive. The first IVF treatment is covered by the government until all eggs in that cycle are done. Jen and Oliver have used all the eggs they had fertilized which means help from the government is up and everything from here on out is all out of pocket. IVF treatment in Canada can range from $10,000 to $20,000 per cycle. Meaning per egg transfer.

I would like to help them get as much money as they can to start their next cycle and have the baby of their dreams! No pressure to help out at all! Every donation is greatly appreciated!

Story Of Jen

I am writing this post because this girl needs to know how strong she is and how much I care for her. (Was approved by her before I posted)

I meet this girl in 2011 through a mutual best friend of ours. She was the shyest person I have ever met at the time. Wouldn't say a single word to me for the longest time lol. We made her go to countless bars with us. A couple of months in I forced her to go to a tragically hip concert with me and said you WILL be my friend. We weren't talking much and weren't close at this point but I didn't want to go alone and I tried to set her up with an ex-boyfriend's friend. Little did I know she was already talking to a ginger she met at Walmart. That was the day he asked her to be his girlfriend over text as soon as her phone died . This was just the beginning of our friendship. From here it blossomed. We started spending every weekend together. Sometimes during the week. Years passed and I watched her and Olly grow with their love as she supported me through relationships until I found the right one. 2016 she and Olly got married, I watched them walk down the aisle and I celebrated their love with them. At this point, I had been in a 2-year relationship with Steve and had a baby of my own. In 2018 she and Olly decided they wanted a baby of their own. So they started trying. They realized something wasn't quite right, so they looked for help from a fertility specialist who told them they will need help to have a baby together. So the process started, trigger shots and meds. Stopping ovulation and starting it. Countless needles and doctor visits began.

This girl tried. They tried on their own, with help of the doctor. That just to wasn't working.

So onto IUI's, they went. While waiting to get accepted for IVF treatment. Which at the time was a 2-year wait. They went through 4 iuis. One of them I remember specifically. Jenny came over to my place where she, Steve and I were going to St.jacobs. That morning she had gone for blood work. And was waiting on the call from the nurse. We thought nothing of it as we had gone through this before." Nope, not this time Jen, let's try again in a month" is what we were used to hearing. But the call came at 9:30 or so in the am. Congratulations Jen! It's A positive!

Excuse me?! Pardon me?! Did you say that correctly? You called Jen Wightwick you know?

She and I balled our eyes out like little babies! We screamed and jumped up and down like children. Later that week she goes for another test to make sure her HCG levels were rising. This was the beginning of many heartbreaks. "Sorry Jen but your levels have dropped and the baby detached. It may have been a chemical pregnancy." That's when Jen went blank and heard nothing beyond that point of the conversation. She and I cried so hard! My hopes dropped and I know hers fell completely. She and Olly fell into a sadness overload. I picked her up and said it's ok I am here we can do this! You are strong, let's keep pumping! It will happen. A couple more iuis and she finally gets accepted for IVF.

At this point, they were skeptical about the fertility doctor. Unsure if she was getting pulled around for money or if it was her and Ollie's genetics. So they searched for help from another doctor in London for a second opinion. They decided to stick with their current one as it would be another 2-year wait if they switched. So now more needles started as they prepared for egg retrieval. At this point, they did countless other tests to see if anything else was wrong than their original diagnosis. On egg retrieval day they retrieved 12 eggs. 4 survived the fertilization period. This was the start of the IVF transfers and more heartbreak.

Egg one: Attaches. At the first blood test, the Hgc levels rose. At the second blood test, they had dropped and the egg detached. I was driving home from the grocery store when she called me crying. I just knew. I cried with her. We stayed on the phone for a bit and just cried. It's ok hun. We got this! We can do this if it's ok. I love you! You are so strong I have watched you grow into an amazing person from all this heartache! She had her cry and pick back up and onto the next one she went.

Egg 2: Nothing. No attachment or anything. Another roller coaster of emotions we go. At this point, she decided she needed a little break. She took a couple of months' break to recoup her body and mind. She really needed that at this point. She seeks comfort through fertility groups and counselling. All helped her become even strong in the process.

Egg 3: Same thing as egg one, But less HCG so we knew it wasn't working. A second blood test and confirms the suspicion. It was gone.

During these IVF treatments, she and Olly both were going through tests to see if anything else could be wrong or done. To find out Oliver has a gene in his body making Jens's body attack the baby thinking it was a foreign object. So including all the trigger shots and IVF meds. She had to take blood thinners too, to help combat the gene that he had.

After egg 3 they took another break to help their wallet and to just breathe. They were told when egg 4 was time, that she would need an IV for 2 hours called intralipids. Which is a fatty solution to help attach the egg.

During all this, we had so many cries and talks and discussions on the next steps of what-ifs.

She has had a couple of people offer to carry the baby for her. But it wasn't the same. She wasn't ready to think about that. She wanted the experience of carrying their baby! Which every woman who wants children want! So we stopped talking about the what-ifs, and it waited.

Egg 4: and here we wait. When it is time for egg 4, the intro lipids will start. The trigger shots will start again. The med daily schedule will start. Taking a pill literally almost every single hour of the day. This time I am sure her belly will bruise and blood vessels will break. Her body has gone through so much. Her body has been so confused for 4 years. But the shots are nothing to her now, it's just a normal life thing. When the day of the transfer comes we will wish her and Olly well and we will wait for the process all over again for the blood work and phone calls to come. It's a continuous waiting battle.

The difference with egg 4, is it a 20% chnace. The rest has mutated genes. Which they can't tell them what that means, because the doctors just don't know, but say any percent is a chance. So with this one we have no hopes. No expectation. We just wait for the nope, It failed again. And that's ok. We will move on to another retrieval and start again if it does.

Through all these years of fertility they have spent $12,000 in medicine. Countless pregnancy tests. Countless crys, And smiles and needles and meds. She has changed the way she eats and drinks and lives. This women has changed. This man has changed. I have watched Jen turn into an amazingly strong women, from shaking and almost passing out after having to place the needles to the needles being nothing but a normal thing. Able to carry so much grief and heartache. This women, deserves the world! I would do anything to help her get what she wants. And all she wants is a baby of her own!

This women is my soulmate. My everything. I plan to grow old with her and watch her children grow. She may not be my sister by blood but she is my sister by heart. I love this women so much. And I know one day, no matter how! Her and Oliver will have their babies! Soon this will be a story to tell their beautiful baby, of the miracle they really are! This story of a strong women and man, just goes to show you don't know what anyone is going through. She has hide her story for years. And I think it's time for her to share her story and for other to know what a strong women she is. This is just my experience with her. There have been so many amazing people to hold her up and support her and him through this time!

I just know one day we will have our last heartbreak cry! And the only cry we will be crying is the one when we hold her babies in our arms and say you were worth it!

I love you Jen. I am here for you every damn step of the way! I will continue to pick you up and continue to be your rock. ❤️❤️