Empowering a Journey to Justice and Healing

Justice and Healing

I’m reaching out to share my story and ask for your support in order to navigate an incredibly challenging legal battle. For 8.5 years, I’ve been battling the fallout of an abusive relationship that began in 2014, and it has not only impacted my life but the lives of my children.

Since the birth of my second child, I’ve faced years of indescribable physical, psychological, emotional, and financial abuse. Despite it all, I am more determined than ever to create a better future for myself and my children. I am focused on healing, growth, and rebuilding a life rooted in truth and authenticity.

At first, I hesitated to start a GoFundMe because I feared it might make me look weak or incapable of managing my life. But now I realize it would be irresponsible not to ask for help. The abuse and predatory behavior I’ve faced aren’t just personal failures—they reflect systemic issues that countless women and men face in silence. With your help, I can put use to my courage, seek justice, and share my story.

I’m currently facing litigation abuse, a smear campaign, and the threat of losing my daughter. My ex has consistently hired very expensive and litigious attorneys in order to subdue me into settling with him repeatedly, even though he is abusive, and I never felt that he should be trusted with custody of our daughter because I know what he’s done buying closed doors. I eventually settled with him with 50-50 custody and apparently that’s not enough for him. Apparently he wants to follow through on a threat that he made eight years ago. He wants to take our daughter for me. I have a video in which he says that he would do that and now he is acting out that threat. He is guilty of parental alienation, and I believe that it’s time for our daughter to get her normalcy back in her life and you know, I’ve needed a second to recalibrate and to deal with the effects of the PTSD that he has triggered through these custody proceedings. He’s gone to court and blatantly lied on me I can prove each of these lies are not true. I have proof undeniable proof. There’s no question about it. He lied and said that I lost custody of my son. He said that DCFS took custody of my son for me that is not true my son has been staying at his dad‘s because I allowed that to happen. I don’t need court intervention in order to make decisions that are in the best interest of my children. I think that my son at 16 years old should should be living with his father and it should be around his father and I’m ecstatic and happy for him that he gets to know his father and no one had to take away my custody in order for that to happen. Also, he said that I’m on drugs. This is not true. He provided evidence in the form of pixelated photos screenshots from my Instagram and they were distorted on purpose, and he said that there was drugs in the background there were no drugs in the background. Can I have the original photo that shows what’s in the background? What’s in the background is my tattooing equipment. he said that I neglected our daughter‘s hair for six months that I put her hair in a style first and then neglected it for six months that’s not true. I twisted her hair in order to start dreadlocks for her. I had to put dreadlocks in her hair because he wasn’t helping me maintain it and she would come back from his house with her hair in disarray and I was the only one combing it, and our daughter would be upset with me because I was the only one combing her hair out. The dreads were well maintained. I put my son‘s dreads in his hair as well and he still has them, but he misrepresented this to the court and made the court believe that I neglected our daughter’s here for six months. The reality is I’m the only person between his household and mine that have has actually cared for our daughter‘s hair. I have evidence of this I have years of photos of damn near every single hairstyle that I’ve ever put in her hair and I’m really good at braiding and he has no photos of any way that he’s ever styled her hair. He paid someone recently to her last June he paid someone to comb out our daughter‘s dreadlocks, and I was gonna do it. I was gonna comb her dreads out and braid her hair for her cause that’s what she requested but instead he wanted to beat me to the punch and he paid someone a lot of money to do what I was going to do for free and then he made it seem like he was doing our daughter a favor and rescuing her from me and I knew that he was just accumulating evidence to use against me in court and he did this mind you while he was $15,000 over $15,000 behind in child support in arrears. So he paid someone else to do that even though he owes $15,000 in arrears and then he also has misrepresented the truth about so many things last spring semester our daughter was bullied pretty bad and because of that some days I didn’t make her go to school, but I would supplement that when she was at home. I’ve homeschooled my son before so I know what homeschooling looks like. No one at the school called child protective services. I was in constant communication with the principal and her teachers and everyone necessary and you know i’m I’m a very involved mom normally under normal circumstances and he had her daughter saying that she missed school because I refuse to wake up. That wasn’t true you know I guess she would go back and tell him things and he just totally misrepresents everything and uses everything he can to make me look bad and to make me look like a bad parent and I have proof of him doing this. I have solid proof of this and I just need an attorney I need representation. I cannot do this without representation. It’s a very easy case to prove if I have representation I can’t do it without it and I might need to pay you know to have experts come in and so I’m asking for all this money but it’s it’s for a very good cause and it will pay off. Hello hi who is this? The stack of paper in my cover photo represents almost seven years of litigation, most of which were filings against me from my abuser. It’s been hard to keep a job at times because of this, because he can’t own up to who he is, what he’s done, and what he’s continuing to do. This isn’t just "drama." It’s something I’m being subjected to against my will and it’s a real issue that has impacted our lives long after I garnered the bravery to exit the relationship. The physical violence has stopped, but that’s not the worst part of Domestic Violence. He’s willing to do and say things that my brain can’t even imagine. There’s an extreme imbalance of power, he has money, and I don’t. And the truth doesn’t matter when you don’t get the proper opportunity to tell your story.

Additionally this man is in child support arrears for over (at least) a year’s worth of payments. An amount that would afford me the opportunity to procure legal representation, fix my car, and solve a lot of other problems for his child and I. He lives as if there will never be any consequences for him. While I’ve lived under fear and duress for far too long. But through this pain, I’ve rediscovered my voice and passion for art—mediums that have helped me regain my strength.

While I’ve been a victim, I identify more as a survivor. This isn’t a battle between two equal sides—this is about one person trying to dominate another long after the relationship has ended. The system often fails to recognize this power imbalance, leaving survivors like me to fend for ourselves. But this isn’t just about me—it’s about building a life for my children, free from fear and control. Although he erased all of my evidence against him 8 years ago, I 100% can still prove what he’s done, as well as what he’s been doing - I just need help figuring out the rights steps to take.

I acknowledge that I’m not perfect. I’ve made mistakes, and I take responsibility for my part in the challenges I’ve faced, and how they’ve impacted my children. But it’s important to emphasize that no amount of personal growth can overcome the predatory behavior I’ve endured. I seek acknowledgment, belief in who I am, and respect for the person I’m striving to become.

As I fight this legal battle, I’m also using my experiences to fuel my artistic practice. Every dollar raised will support my legal efforts, help cover basic living expenses, and allow me to continue creating art, which is essential for my survival and growth. Through my work, I hope to foster healing, raise awareness, and create beauty.

I’ve always connected deeply with my community through art, and I refuse to let this situation silence me or stop me from pursuing my dreams. By supporting me, you’re not just helping me in this fight—you’re investing in my journey as an artist, a mother, and a survivor.

This GoFundMe isn’t just about money—it’s about transparency, accountability, and healing. I see it as an investment, not only in my personal journey but in the larger fight against abuse. I will document this process in my public journal, sharing my thoughts on art, life, domestic violence, and the legal system.

If financial support isn’t possible, there are other ways to help: book a tattoo session, purchase my artwork, attend an art show, or share my story with someone who might need to hear it. I’m also open to moral support or legal advice to help navigate this fight.

I believe that the truth is the foundation of healing. While confronting abuse can be uncomfortable, allowing it to continue unchecked is far worse. My story is just one of many, but with your help, I can turn this experience into something that not only changes my life for the better but uplifts others as well.

Thank you for considering supporting me on this path toward justice, healing, and artistic expression.

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