As some of you already know we have been trying to conceive for a couple years now with no results, and now we are sharing our journey with everyone. Infertility is an emotional and financial road. I have unexplained infertility. I have a low egg reserve, which means my eggs aren't healthy enough to conceive, and I'm not producing as many eggs as I should be for my age. Women still get pregnant with low egg reserve, but so far I have not. It's been a difficult road, and I haven't told everyone because at first I was embarrassed and just all around emotional. I like to stuff my feelings and show that I am strong, when on the inside its eating me alive. The more I talk about it, the better I feel. I felt alone and that no one else understood what I was going through, yet millions of couple's have the same journey as us.
When we started out it was just taking Femara (hormone enhancer) after we did this for several months, we were sent to the fertility specialists, who diagnosed me with stage 2 endometriosis, and unexplained infertility. Endometriosis is a cause for infertility, but a lot of women who have it can still get pregnant. The next step was to have laparoscopic surgery to remove some of the endometriosis, once they remove it normally women get pregnant in the first 3 months with the help of Femara, unfortunately that didn't work for us either. We then decided to do the next option which was an IUI, which means using inject-able hormones and having Brent's sperm put directly in my uterus where the eggs will be. We did this twice in Louisville and each time only produced one egg using stronger hormones. We took a break for awhile and started looking into adoption. I was having a hard time getting excited that each time it would work and I would be pregnant. I was giving up on the fact that I would get pregnant and why waste more money when we could save up for adoption.
The day I was calling to get information on adoption a friend called and said you need to go to the Institute for reproductive health in Cincy, everyone was having great results from their doctors. Brent and I decided to go have a consult and met with Dr. Schreiber. We both really liked him and he was straight up with us. He went over my charts and said he my best option would be egg donation, which means using another woman's egg with Brent's sperm and putting it inside my uterus for me to carry. He also said we could try the IUI one more time with a higher dosage and different hormones, but given my history he was unsure if my eggs were strong enough. We decided to try the IUI one more time, we did have 3 eggs this time, but unfortunately again it didn't work. My eggs must not be healthy enough to get pregnant on my own. This is a tough pill to swallow. I have so many thoughts going through my head, I won't share them all, but the one that hurts the most is that I wouldn't have a baby that has my features or any part of me. It hurts just to type that sentence. We decided to do the egg donation over adoption, because it will have Brent's DNA, and I would be able to get pregnant and bond with baby. I've always wanted to be pregnant and feel the miracle inside me grow. Here we are today trying to figure out how to get us further along with our journey. Some of you may know our journey personally as you are going through it yourselves, or have had a similar journey. I feel for you in so many ways and hope everyone gets their miracle. For those of you that don't I hope me sharing helps you understand our journey and heartache.
The road to egg donation is not only emotionally hard, but expensive, and we will be doing some fundraisers throughout the rest of the year to help us get there faster. I hope that you can help us on our journey and meet our miracle baby Bennett. We are hoping to raise enough money, that we can start the process at the beginning of next year. Thank you for all of the love and support we have received so far, it's appreciated more than you know.
Thank you for being apart of our lives and sharing our journey!
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