2019 is going to be a year of new beginnings for us. Not only do we intend on celebrating our union with a ceremony this coming summer, but we’re also hoping to start a family.
Recently, Anthony got a full-time job doing Data Analysis at Clearwater and Daniel continues to work full-time as a high school English teacher. With two salaries, an extra room, and a solid committed relationship, we thought it was finally time to open our home to a child who needs one. To adopt a kid from the American foster care system.
We have been together for almost nine years, and even though it hasn’t been legal for us to get married for most of those years, we always knew we would spend the rest of our lives together. More importantly than marriage, though, we’ve always wanted to have a family. To experience some of the same things so many other people our age get to experience. We also knew that being a gay couple our options were limited to make that happen. No matter which route we took (adoption, in vitro, surrogacy, etc.) it would inevitably incur expenses that other couples don’t generally have to worry about when starting a family.
For the past few months we have been keeping an eye on various adoption websites looking for a child who would be a good match for our home. A few weeks ago we came across a child that we believe we could give a great home to; however, without a completed home study we cannot inquire further about this particular child. With that in mind we thought we’d finally begin the adoption process in hopes of having the chance to adopt this specific child or, if that doesn’t work out for some reason, to be able to adopt another child we have yet to discover. Either way we’re excited to open our home to someone who needs one.
While the adoption process is, understandably, difficult in terms of its comprehensiveness it is also fairly expensive. As we begin this process many of you have asked how you could help--well the truth is, that no matter what costs we anticipate, there will always be something unexpected: maybe a trip out of state or an application/legal fee we didn’t see coming. Plus all of the initial costs from having a new child move into their new home (clothes, furniture, etc.).
So, in the same spirit that people have baby showers, we’d like to think of this as our “adoption shower”. A chance for our friends and family to help support our future family. We figured this would be the best way for you to give since we can’t put together a registry for a child we don’t know about yet. We appreciate any amount no matter the size!