My name is Reuben and my partner Jay and I are trying to raise the necessary funds to make a baby!
We are both trans / non-binary trans and don't have a drop of sperm between us! However, we have found a donor from within the Brighton trans community who has amazingly and kindly offered to help with this.
I have always wanted to become a parent, and initially believed that I would do this through adoption. However, I realised that due to my circumstances and the difficult nature of the adoption process this option is sadly not available to me.
As a queer couple, we have come across many barriers to the fertility treatment that we require to conceive our baby!
Most frustratingly, the type of help that we are looking for would be available for us for free if either of us were assigned male at birth and had viable sperm!
As this help is not available to us, we are now raising the money ourselves so that we can start our family :)
Here's a breakdown of the most significant costs involved with this treatment:
- Sperm banking
- Sperm testing within the HEPA guidelines
- Intrauterine insemination (this increases the chances of conception, and is necessary due to my age and the six years that I was taking testosterone)
I have been advised that it will take several attempts for the pregnancy to take, which is why the amount of money we are trying to raise is so high. However, if we do get pregnant earlier than expected then we will of course donate any excess money to a charitable cause!
In addition to this crowdfund page, we are also getting ready to organise fundraising events in Brighton. These events will be food focused with all of the baking / cooking be done by ourselves and our friends.
Please donate and be part of the Bun in the Oven cause!
We would love to share our journey with you and to raise awareness of this issue. You would be helping us make our dream come true to have a child.
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- Nick Aldwinckle
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