Ashley & Will's Quest for a Baby
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My name is Ashley Beers. My husband, Will, and I have been trying to start a family for over a decade, but our dreams of becoming parents have been shattered after losing six babies early in my pregnancies. I don’t normally put myself out there, especially when it comes to something so deeply personal, but Will and I are desperate to be parents and we need help. Mentally and physically I cannot get pregnant again, as my body will not carry a baby to full term, so we have decided to try surrogacy. Please read on to learn more about our journey.
I met Will in 2006, and we knew right away that this was it. We had that connection, and got married in June of 2007. Will and I have always known that we wanted children; it’s something that is so true and deep in our hearts. We never thought it wouldn’t happen for us. Not only that, but that it would be such a painful part of our lives.
In the beginning of 2008, we got the exciting news that we were pregnant. Within a couple of weeks, we lost the baby by miscarriage. I can’t describe the emptiness and disappointment I felt as a woman and new wife. It was difficult for Will as well, as he was dealing with the loss while trying to console me.
Soon after we got the okay from the doctor, we tried again and got pregnant. We made it through the first trimester and were elated with each week that past. I was connected to our baby and feeling so much joy and excitement for our future as a family! At 17 weeks, we had complications, and I ended up having to deliver a stillborn. We consulted our doctor to see if there is anything that we were doing wrong or should be doing, but they had no answers for us.
Within another year we tried again and were successful. We were faced with more devastation when my embryonic sack broke causing me to go into labor again at only two months pregnant.
After three losses, we were adamant about finding out what the issue was. I underwent numerous tests and scans where my doctors discovered that I was born with a deformed uterus. Apparently there are multiple different cases and types, and it took a year of testing to find out that I have a very rare case called Uterus Didelphys. Uterus Didelphys in simple terms means I have a double uterus with a septum dividing the two, which causes issues with the growth of a baby. Doctors were still optimistic by suggesting a surgical procedure to correct the septum which was dividing the uterus, so we decided to go forward with the surgery. There were many complications during this surgery, leaving my uterine wall perforated, which lead to a lengthy recovery.
After I fully recovered, we wanted to see if the surgery was a success. We got pregnant for a fourth time, but after several weeks lost that baby. Our doctor did tell us it was possible to have a miscarriage after the surgery, but of course, we were devastated.
Will and I tried again for the fifth time and again were successful—this time with twins! At my 11-week checkup, our happiness was shattered when we learned our babies were stillborn, and had been since they were 9 weeks old.
It has been several years now of recovering physically and mentally from our losses but we have never lost the drive nor the desire to have kids. Will and I absolutely still believe it's possible and don’t want to give up trying. We have been married for 12 years now and want to take the next step at making our dreams come true with having a little one who we will love and cherish forever.
We really don’t feel whole and feel that we are honestly meant to have a child in our lives. I know very strongly in my heart that Will and I will excel at being wonderful parents. All we want is a chance.
I met Will in 2006, and we knew right away that this was it. We had that connection, and got married in June of 2007. Will and I have always known that we wanted children; it’s something that is so true and deep in our hearts. We never thought it wouldn’t happen for us. Not only that, but that it would be such a painful part of our lives.
In the beginning of 2008, we got the exciting news that we were pregnant. Within a couple of weeks, we lost the baby by miscarriage. I can’t describe the emptiness and disappointment I felt as a woman and new wife. It was difficult for Will as well, as he was dealing with the loss while trying to console me.
Soon after we got the okay from the doctor, we tried again and got pregnant. We made it through the first trimester and were elated with each week that past. I was connected to our baby and feeling so much joy and excitement for our future as a family! At 17 weeks, we had complications, and I ended up having to deliver a stillborn. We consulted our doctor to see if there is anything that we were doing wrong or should be doing, but they had no answers for us.
Within another year we tried again and were successful. We were faced with more devastation when my embryonic sack broke causing me to go into labor again at only two months pregnant.
After three losses, we were adamant about finding out what the issue was. I underwent numerous tests and scans where my doctors discovered that I was born with a deformed uterus. Apparently there are multiple different cases and types, and it took a year of testing to find out that I have a very rare case called Uterus Didelphys. Uterus Didelphys in simple terms means I have a double uterus with a septum dividing the two, which causes issues with the growth of a baby. Doctors were still optimistic by suggesting a surgical procedure to correct the septum which was dividing the uterus, so we decided to go forward with the surgery. There were many complications during this surgery, leaving my uterine wall perforated, which lead to a lengthy recovery.
After I fully recovered, we wanted to see if the surgery was a success. We got pregnant for a fourth time, but after several weeks lost that baby. Our doctor did tell us it was possible to have a miscarriage after the surgery, but of course, we were devastated.
Will and I tried again for the fifth time and again were successful—this time with twins! At my 11-week checkup, our happiness was shattered when we learned our babies were stillborn, and had been since they were 9 weeks old.
It has been several years now of recovering physically and mentally from our losses but we have never lost the drive nor the desire to have kids. Will and I absolutely still believe it's possible and don’t want to give up trying. We have been married for 12 years now and want to take the next step at making our dreams come true with having a little one who we will love and cherish forever.
We really don’t feel whole and feel that we are honestly meant to have a child in our lives. I know very strongly in my heart that Will and I will excel at being wonderful parents. All we want is a chance.
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