I apologize in advance for the long read. It's been a horrific last few years and I am trying to get as much out there as possible.

With that being said....

My name is Ris and I am reaching out for assistance in helping my precious babies (ages 4/3/1) and I after experiencing the traumatic loss of my husband and then jumping right into a relationship full of unforeseen horrors of unimaginable domestic violence.

To say it has been a horrific last few years would be an understatement. In May 2023, 2 months before my 28th birthday, I lost my sweet husband. He died in his sleep right next to me. The trauma from that day still haunts me every single day. At the time of my husband's death, him only being 36, we had a newly turned 2-year-old and a newly turned 1-year-old. I had been with my husband since I was 15. So I grew up with my husband and only knew my husband....

I was very much in denial and tried to figure out a way to block the trauma and continue on. But because I was so distraught and devastated, my choices weren't the best and I missed flying red flags. Almost 3 months to the day later, I met who I thought was a wonderful man and the man that I truly believed was my soulmate and my "chapter 2."

Little did I know, I was completely wrong and a horrific 3 years was still to come. 6 months into this new relationship, things started turning for the worse. The lying, cheating, manipulating, and controlling behavior started. I had to quit my job and drop out of school. I was made to cut off all my friends and family members because they were "not wanting me to be happy." Then the physical, emotional, and sexual abuse started. I was sexually assaulted pretty much every single day, multiple times a day. I was drugged numerous times and passed around between this man and his friends. He would hit me, spit on me, choke me, and starve me. He was extremely mean and nasty to my small children. He ended up getting me pregnant during one of the assaults. I thought the abuse would stop because I was carrying his son, which he expressed he was so desperate for his son to make his arrival. But nope, he still abused me, even pushed me down the stairs at 8 months pregnant. Every single day there was some sort of abuse to my children and me. I was trapped and he controlled everything.

Back in April of 2025, he pointed a loaded firearm to my temple and made me beg for my life. I called the police, he was arrested, but because he's active duty, I didn't want him in trouble. So those charges were dropped. Fast forward to September 2025, he ended up strangling me in broad daylight to the point of successfully unaliving me me then barricaded himself in the house which prompted the SWAT team to respond, the military (again he's active duty), and even news crews set up. He was arrested and let out on bond. But he managed to reel me in convincing me he had "changed" so then back in January of this year, I again, got charges dropped. He treated me right for a week then went right back to the same old person. The horrific physical and sexual abuse. And the devastating emotional abuse.

In March of this year, he started getting even worse, which I didn't think was possible. But I was so wrong. He violently sexually assaulted me to the point that he caused damage and made me bleed. I was fed up and done. I reported everything. While I was in the hospital getting treatment for what he did, he somehow found out that I had reported him and was getting a kit done at the hospital. So, while I was there he decided to make me pay for leaving him & reporting him. He took my car (it's in his name and considered "shared"), turned off my cell phone, and drained all our bank accounts. He proceeded to break into my house (he was mandated to stay in the barracks because of all the DV), completely trashed it, and then poured bleach all over every single bit of food that I had for my babies and me.

We have been placed in safe housing meant for DV victims. We have absolutely nothing. No car, no working phone, and not a dime to our name. We have exhausted the resources given to us by DV case workers and we either don't qualify or there's no funds available for our needs.... What's even more heartbreaking is the materialistic things that we DO have are in a small storage unit (that I can't even afford) that's about to be auctioned off and that storage unit has both my grandmother's ashes and my late husband's So I will be devastated if we lose that too.

We are humbly pleading for assistance to help get us back on our feet. I am desperately searching for jobs and have had zero luck and it's hard obtaining a job when I don't even have a phone.

All funds collected will go to necessities. The phone & storage are #1. Housing costs, hygiene needs, and anything else will follow.

I have posted several pictures of the physical abuse done to me in the last few months. I am willing to do whatever it takes or provide whatever proof needed for assistance.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

My sweet Littles and I appreciate this more than anyone will understand ❤️❤️