Dear friends and colleagues.

I started this campaign on Abbe’s behalf just 5 days ago. At that point, I had asked for a specific amount of money ($19,380) for perceived at-home nursing care. She entered into at-home hospice 10 days ago. Abbe was diagnosed with terminal stage 4 small cell lung cancer in January. Abbe passed very quickly on the afternoon of May 29th so this specific need has evaporated.

We all hoped for the best and planned for the worst. She passed surrounded by family members and friends.

I would ask you to still consider contributing to her GoFundMe campaign. As some of you may know from personal experience, it devastates the body, and your family, and creates an avalanche of bills for the survivors.

Fortunately, Abbe had insurance. Nonetheless, as her brother, I am deeply aware and concerned for her husband Doug, being overwhelmed by forthcoming bills.

For context, I am leaving the original request campaign information below. It adds context to her life and the family's needs.

Thank you all for your consideration. Peace. Tim

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ORIGINAL STORY/REQUEST:

I regretfully report that my younger sister Abbe was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer in December. After some rounds of chemotherapy to stem the tide, she is now under the umbrella of hospice care at home in Connecticut with her husband Doug and their three cats. We are all devasted.

As you can imagine, this has severely impacted the family and the family’s finances. I am reaching out on Abbe’s and Doug’s behalf, to ask for your help.

Insurance covers some things, but it does not cover the required at-home skilled care needed for her end-of-life treatment. I am looking to raise $19,320. This number was determined by known costs: $34.50 hr x 10 hours a day x 7 days a week x 8 weeks = $19,320.

Here is her cancer story:

In November of 2022, they sold and packed up their home in California and with their vociferous and malcontented cats drove moved back to their home state of Connecticut, where they could begin relaxing around friends and family.

Within a few days of their arrival, both Doug and Abbe had what seemed like the beginning of pneumonia. They made a trip to urgent care. Both of them were given a prescription for antibiotics. Doug almost immediately showed signs of recovery, but Abbe did not.

Within a few short weeks, Abbe was diagnosed with stage 4 small-cell lung cancer. It had already spread into her upper back, liver and lymph system and her breathing is severely stressed. She was told this was a terminal condition, and perhaps she could expect another year of life. This was not the homecoming they were hoping for.

She has attempted several rounds of chemotherapy to slow down the spread. They have been unsuccessful, and in fact, the treatments almost killed her. After her last emergency hospital stay, she decided to live her remaining time in her home under hospice care.

Cancer is a horrible disease. It doesn't care about any of us. Our age, race, personality, religion how we vote, or our history of kindness. It is a stupid myopic disease because it only knows to grow monstrously and then kill its host and thus die itself. Every one of us has been affected by this disease: brothers, sisters mothers fathers friends-perhaps you are a survivor. Our older brother died at age 45 from pancreatic cancer.

My sister is a wonderful fine person. She is a gentle and kind. She donates time and energy to MS Research, which she has lived with for 20 years, and Alley Cat Allies (Abbe Doug and I have a deep affinity for cats!), and spends lots of time camping with her husband and her friends.

I don't want my sister's last days to be even more uncomfortable than they need to be. I don't want her husband, my friend and my brother-in-law, to be crippled with crushing debt. I wish I could do more for my sister and her husband. I wish I didn't feel so helpless. If you can help with some of these expenses, please consider contributing to her care and know they will be accepted with gratitude.

If you would be willing to share this Go Fund Me campaign with

your other communities, please do so. I am attaching a short video of Abbe's story for those of you who are more visual (like me).

Peace and thank you