It has been a while since I last spoke with you, well it has been a year and five months since I receive custody of my nephew's and things are slowly getting better. I did not come on here to ask for help with Christmas gifts because truly our Christmas is having a roof over our heads, lights and gas on that will be the best Christmas ever. I really need help as we have gotten so far behind in bills that it is really impossible for me to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Prayers are welcome to because I truly believe that God has something great for us as a family.
I haven't been able to work for a year and five months because of the trauma and emotional and behavioral issues the boys present, this was kind of a reality check for me. Don't get me wrong I would not change my decision to take custody of them because I work with "At Risk" youth and their families for 21 years and I love the work that I do and I am very good at my job that is why it is a career and not just a job. It just looks a little different when you are dealing with it up close and personal. Please understand that all neglect and child abuse is personal I guess it being my own family came as a surprise to me. These boys were dealt a very crappy hand and their life has not even begun and it hurt my heart. Mind you I am 48 years old and my baby is 26 years old so taking custody of a 6 year old and a 7 year old is like starting all over but I wouldn't change it for anything in the world. To see them now and to know where they came from I would do it again and all the struggling in the world would not change my mind.
I thought that I would be able to get back to work pretty quickly after taking custody of the boys I am using every resource possible and putting them in afterschool programs giving them structure and routine. Well that was not the case I began to get phone calls from the schools and I say schools because I had to put them in to different schools due to past behavior being in the same school. They became aggressive physically which caused hands on and I would have to go pick them up, they would run out of the classroom and put themselves in unsafe situations again warranting a phone call from the school needing me to go pick them up. This situations are not as frequent as they were in the beginning however they are not gone. My nephew's have become apart of our family and everyone is doing their part to support them, my son is a great role model for the Jose and Joseph just as he is for my grandson. I have changed their counselor because this counselor will not go to the school and meet with them and me scheduling different times to meet is taking a toll on my day as they both get home pretty late from school. I have knocked down the door of every state and local agencies that I can TAFDC did tell me that I would be allot 491.00 a month and food stamps. These boys eat that in food in a matter of two weeks if I allow it they tell me that I am the best cook in the world makes my heart smile. I am on so many different waiting list I can't keep up and I advocate for everything that I know they need. I am learning all over again it was so different when my boys were young it feels like things are so much harder but I am not giving up!!
I am asking if you could find it in heart to donate $10 or $20 dollars I will be forever in your debt I have a landlord that is losing patience with me and I am struggling to get caught. I put some money on this bill and some money on that bill and it is never enough I still always seem to be behind I haven't been caught up in so very long. All I want for Christmas is a roof over our heads and lights and gas on my nephew have found safety here with us and I would do anything not to have that disrupted. These boys need structure and consistency please, please help and if not please forward the link to family and friends no donation is to small. I hope that you and your family have a very Merry Christmas.
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