10 years and still just the 2 of us.......

Our story begins in 2007 after being married for 5 years, with a scare of possible cancer, surgerys times 4, a private adoption taken away from us and ending with the only option of IVF.  All leaving us feeling empty, incomplete and devistated.  We have always dreamt of having a family, what we would name our children, we had everything figured out. Now, with the exception of how we are going to reach our desier of a famliy bigger then 2,   We are not ones to reach out, put it all out there and ask for money to help with anything. But its time to rise above our fear and ask.  We both work hard for everything we have, but it seems we just cant seem to get the needed funds for our ideal family. This is why we ask you, our family and friends to help with what ever you can to get us closer to this desire.  Every little bit helps, anything you are able to give will be very much appreciated!! All will be used towards IVF, anything left over will be used for our child(ren) or another cycle if possible.

For those of you who dont know our whole story, it is a long one for sure............................. 


It has been a long journey since marrying in May of 2002. We have gone through different employers, Jon has had back surgery, I have had multiple surgeries (that I will get into later) and even had the excitement of a private adoption, to have that fall through our fingers and again take away the chance of having a family that felt so close. 

Our story starts in the fall of 2007, we had been ”trying” (if it happens it happens kind of trying) for about a year or two. At this point I felt there was something wrong, with a cycle that was on time but giving so much pain and discomfort I headed to the GYN. We hadn’t even had a “well maybe, I think maybe, Im late” occurrence. So for the appointment I go, then blood work and ultrasound after that and wait…… I get a call a few days later my ultrasound showed endometriosis (stage 4, cant get any worse) and cysts everywhere and my blood work showed that my CA125 (a blood test to screen for GYN Cancer, not as great as they thought!!) is 218, its suppose to be under 35!!!! Put a fear in me that I never want to feel again, EVER!! So, we then add another doctor to the list. A GYN Oncologist, one of the best in the area we were told. He gave us some comfort and said he didn’t think I had Cancer!! He wanted to do surgery right away but I wanted to wait, I needed to wait!! I didn’t want to have to take a whole semester off of college. So we waited until the summer and in July of 2008, I went through my first surgery, ever!! I wake up to an abdomen with bruises and swelling with 28 or so staples hip to hip. (I call it my C-section scar with nothing to show for it.) The pain was out of this world and I never thought I would ever be able to move again. With that over and on the road to healing, minus one fallopian tube and 60% of my right ovary, we hoped to be able to start tying again in the fall. Come to find out that next October from our first Fertility Specialist, by then my Left tube was now 100% occluded. I had another surgery with this doctor in 2009, clean everything up, again, cauterize my other tube (nope not done, couldnt find it) to improve our chances with IVF. I went on lupron shots to shrink everything and hoped to do IVF. We met with a very well known Fertility MD to talk about options and about the grant that they offer. No grant for us, I don’t have 2 ovaries so Im not eligible!! For many reasons we did not get that far. Then a while after that we go to yet another GYN specialist to help with the pelvic pain I was having, just to add more diagnosis to the list and yet another surgery. Again, to “clean it all up”. So the “clean up” again was done.  At this point we don’t know what to do or what direction to even go. I was a complete mess, mentally and physically.

So, now up to 3 surgeries and feeling no closer to a family of our own we got the surprise of our life!! A friend knew of someone who were thinking of putting the baby up for adoption. We were speechless to say the least. We patiently waited months for a decision and were told they were going to let us adopt the baby!! We felt every emotion possible all at the same time. We could now finally tell our family and friends, we were going to adopt!! A few months after we told everyone, she changed her mind and again we were left devastated, empty, incomplete. We continued to feel this way as we watched our friends children graduate and all these people that didn't  seem to care that they had kids and had no idea at all how lucky they are.

Finally in the summer of 2016 we met with Dr Kiltz with CNY Fertility, a very highly recommended specialist with a high, VERY high success rate!! FINALLY, we were going to do this!! So Surgery in August, yup another one, to “clean everything up” AGAIN, remove the septum in my uterus and cauterize my Left tube, “Increase the chances for a successful IVF cycle.” Well, all went well and he was able to find my tube (unlike others that tried) and do what needed to be done. It was a rough couple weeks healing but all went well.

Now that we are where we are, we now try to figure out how to get the funds. Yet another obstacle, with insurance that covers everything up to artificial insemination and nothing for IVF. This is where we reach out to our friends, family and anyone that feels they can help us over come this last obstacle in hopes to start our family. Everyday it lingers that we don’t have children, we are getting older and don’t want to wait, we have waited long enough, to long. Watching friends children graduate and move on to start their own life, younger friends getting married and starting families of their own, with others close to us who were children when we got married 15 years ago having kids of their own. That is not the way it was suppose to be, it should have been us first!!
Please help us be "next", let it be "our turn" so we can feel whole...................