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I am bad with these experiences the universe has made me feel compelled to do in order to Turn this year around for not only my girls before myself as I’m learning if I can’t love myself, they will struggle just like I do… however, my dad was a very prideful man, and I feel ashamed for doing this, but to be clear. The goal was to not be evicted and to try and find a way to stay in the space in… We’ve been given a lot of grace through this transitional year, but my landlord is serious about not being late on rent anymore. I’ve changed jobs and I’m also delivering for Instacart plus doing hair on the side… Great Clips and my own space so I’m trying to learn the honest hustle, but unfortunately this is part of it. And we’ve been paying rent closer to the 20th for the last couple months as I got unexpectedly fired again… I work very hard, but I’m super honest again because of losing my family if it’s not honest and straightforward it feels dangerous to me because I’ve been alone for a long time…

And my experience here in Chapel Hill has been really hard to say the least… It’s only been more challenging since my health issues and losing all my hair… Which started after my second daughter and a big part of closing my salon. I have been fired from two salons for wanting a change and after I lost all my hair, I tried to relocate to West Virginia and was successful for the total of 10 days before we came back and I tried to find a hair home and got fired two more times for my troubles and the frustrating thing is they knew I was a single mom who was struggling more than most because multiple reason dealing with family here, but also my lack of living family anywhere… My health issues and recent relocation. My experience with women supporting women here has been so disappointing and unfortunately, still… I kept trying to work for other people more than for myself and my clients because I had no confidence and no hair, and I was in constant pain. No diagnosis and no one who believed me… Bar, a few people.

thank you to everyone who’s already given and those that can’t, I was really surprised that for having a career and business in this area for the last eight years… Very surprised that most of the donors came from my life before Chapel Hill, a little discouraging, but I’m gonna hope that it’s because a lot of people that I’ve been there for over the years just haven’t seen it.

Take Two of this shame and embarrassment of needing financial support AGAIN because I swore when my mom, dad and brother died that I would never find myself in this position again… well, dang. 2025 is gonna be so much more awesome for so many people!! But I have to admit I am very disappointed in the people that have donated so far being mostly people from my past and people that have not actually seen how real the struggle got for my girls and I… I know and realize people think my health and hair issues were self-inflicted.. done this whether it was or wasn’t my girls and I didn’t deserve the struggle and judgment we received and really hoping the fear I have a raising kids in Chapel Hill isn’t valid but more that people haven’t seen my post… Entitlement is no excuse for blindness, and the women in our world are struggling. Let’s try to do better for our kids, whether they be boys or girls… People are in a unique position to change the way things are by raising their voice to understand their emotions as to not be Weaponized against anyone else for lack of empathy and pairing, I think come a little more naturally to females, and it is our job to help our children understand their emotions! Not use them to dictate what we feel is safe or the right decision for them… Our job is to give them the tools to make their own decisions and then trust them to do just that… Protecting your kids is a concept people take way too far, especially these days! In our after Covid, digital world, we find ourselves in where people don’t know how to coexist anymore!