The day I met my husband, and discovered his love for children was a strong as mine, reinforced this deep yearning for a family; not only for me but, within both of us. We hoped for a honeymoon baby, but no success. No problem! We would just keep trying. We spend hours discussing the traits and values we hope our children will have; my ambition, his sense of humor. In the beginning it was exciting and fun to plan for our family. However, as time passed on and the blessing of children never revealed itself to us; our dream of completing our family turned into a determination like no other.
We hoped for a first year of marriage baby, yet nothing. We wanted nothing more than to complete our family. After three years of trying and using all kinds of methods, such as timing, temperature taking, ovulation kits, and others, we went to the doctor. After a few tests it was discovered that I had cervical cancer. The diagnosis wasn't as scary as it sounds because we revealed it in the extremely early stages. Our doctor was able to biopsy the infected cells, and I have had a clean check up ever since.
The years pressed on. All of our energy was invested in trying to conceive a child. We moved and found a good doctor. Many tests were performed, and medications, such as clomid were tried. This was a very rough time. I thought I was going crazy. These medications alter your emotions and have many side effects. As the months pressed on, our hopes were dashed with no results. Our doctor took me off the clomid and we tried other medications. More months pressed on with no results. At this point our doctor referred us to a fertility specialist.
We spent two years, and our entire life savings trying everything the fertility specialist threw at us. I had so many injections, drugs, and probing done that it became unbearable. The emotional toll was excruciating. Shockingly, the doctor could not give us a reason as to why we have not conceived a child. Each month we built up our hopes only to have the dream crushed.
The times we used to spend discussing our dreams for our children, the values we would instill in them, and what they might be like, began to hurt. The pain of putting every energy and effort into trying to conceive, but not having success is inexpressible. Your heart literally hurts. Each month that we did not have success a small part of us began to wither away. However, we have learned through the more than dozen years of trying, that you must remain strong. You must be optimistic, and try everything in your power to make your dream come true, and for us our dream is to complete our family.
During this time I went to college full time while also working full time. I earned my bachelors degree with honors. My education has caused us to be in debt of excess of $65,000. We cannot finance our fertility because of my student loans. My husband works his heart out to support us. Due to the extreme costs of all the methods we have tried to conceive and complete our family, we are out of funds.
I come from an amazing family full of love. Blessed with almost 50 cousins, the example of family love is endless. My husband is the oldest of 6 kids. He also enjoys a big family. We have never dreamed of a large family like those we grew up in; however, we know there is a little spirit waiting to be part of our family.
We have now been married for 12 ½ years. We are so grateful to have each other, but the missing part of our family is obvious and must be completed. We are currently seeing a wonderful fertility specialist who has given us a renewed hope of having a family of our own. With the odds above 60%, (which is wonderful in the fertility world), we will undergo in-vitro fertilization. We must pay the fee of $20,000 to fund the in-vitro fertility.
My husband and I have discussed in long lengths the idea of sharing such a huge private part of our lives with others. The journey we are on, and have been experiencing for over a dozen years, is part of our souls. Many pros and cons come with sharing our personal story. Many people in our lives, including most of our friends and family, will be shocked to hear that we have struggled with this for our entire marriage. There are no guarantees that this will work. Even with the wonderful odds that our doctor has given us, but there is hope. Hope and faith are what have carried us through these years.
Over the years, we have dodged questions about expanding our family by using the excuse of our careers and education. We are now prepared to open up a little even though it is very difficult for us. We CANNOT do this without your love, support, and help. After years of struggling with this on our own, we know the benefits of sharing with you outweigh the cons.
We hope that by sharing our story, those who read it will feel comfortable talking about this with us and give us their full support. By sharing our story we hope to inspire other couples who are facing the struggle of infertility. We hope our story gives them courage, hope, and the will to continue the fight. It is our deepest desire that by sharing our extremely intimate story we can achieve the most important goal in our lives; to complete our family. With your help of a donation of any amount, we may become pregnant and raise a wonderful child of our own. We look forward to sharing the photos of our first newborn baby boy or girl with you in the near future. God bless you and your families. Thank you for your love and support.
The Myers Family
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