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Help Amber reunite with her daughter

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My name is Amber and I am a mother who is hurting in a way I never thought possible.

Just over a month ago, our world was turned upside down. After 9 years of being a stay-at-home mom—raising my children, caring for our home, building a life—my husband suddenly left. He took everything: our daughter, the furniture, the appliances, the sense of security and life we worked so hard to build. And worst of all, he took her away not just from me, but from her siblings… and from a family who loves her beyond words.

Since that day, I have not been allowed to hold my daughter. Her brothers and sisters haven’t seen her smile, heard her laugh, or been able to hug her goodnight. None of us have. She has been cut off from the only family she has ever known—her home, her roots, her safe place.

My husband filed a protective order against me, claiming things that were completely untrue. It was dismissed because it was ALL false allegations. But still, that accusation has cast a shadow over everything, and I’m being forced to prove the truth I’ve always lived: I am a good mother. I have always been a good mother.

I now have to pay $100 for every supervised visit, just for a chance to see her. I also owe $3,750 more to my attorney so I can keep fighting for custody. At the same time, been left with every bill and no belongings. I’m starting a job next week, but the babies and I are starting from nothing—no furniture, no basic appliances, just the clothes i own and the strength I have left.

To make things even harder, I lost my grandmother just 253 days ago. She was my rock. I’ve carried that grief quietly, but it never broke me. I never stopped showing up for my kids. I never stopped loving them with every part of me.

I am emotionally stable. I am grounded. I am exhausted—but I’m not giving up.

I’m asking for help because I can’t do this alone. I need support to pay my attorney, to afford visitations, and to start rebuilding a home for my children. I want my daughter to come back to a place where she is surrounded by love, not court orders and silence.

I believe with all my heart that with God, family, and people who care—even strangers—I will get through this. If you can donate, thank you. If all you can do is share this, I am equally grateful.

From a mother who just wants her daughter back, and get her babies back into a routine thank you from the bottom of our hearts for taking your time to read our story. Ava’s siblings miss her, and are ready to start their new life with her and allow God to start restoring what’s been taken from them.

if you would like you can send donations to other places instead of go fund me, you can send it to my cousin, she will make sure I get it!! I’ve lost all of my cards during this whole thing. God bless you all, and if you can’t donate please keep us in your prayers, we truly appreciate them so much!!

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