Save My Son - Save Me, Protect US from Abusive Father

I am the mother of 2-year-old Ja, is fighting a difficult legal battle to win custody of my son and remove him as much as possible from the home of an abusive and highly litigious father.

This campaign is to provide me with the legal support to hire a lawyer for the trial in January, 2026, fight the unfair justice and help my son.

I am an immigrant from Thailand. Ja' father is 70-years-old and lives alone. He has a controlling and abusive personality. Unfortunately, he views children as subjects to command and is seeking full custody of Ja.

I was an innocent woman who just wanted to get married, built a family and had a baby. I gave up every thing I built my whole life to build a family. I was not careful that marrying a man and moving to live in another country could turn my life upside down. I trusted him from what he presented and from his educational background and how he showed how much he loved me and wanted to have a family together. I wanted to give him the opportunity to build a family and fixed what he did wrong in the past.

He lied to me and my parents to marry me. After I married him, he did not apply greencard for me. I could not work for 2 years. I had been under his surveillance 24/7. He monitored me every movement. He did not let me have friends, and did not even want me talk to my mother. He said I should spend those times on cleaning the house and preparing meals for him.

After I got work permit, I told him I wanted to work in a hospital. He said if I did, I would not be able to make dinners for him in time. Then, I did not do.

In the beginning, I told myself if these were what a good wife did, I would do. Being brainwashed and controlled by an educated abuser can happen to any educated person. Later, I felt it was not normal relationship. It was really toxic. I was turned from a happy woman to be a desperate housewife with fear and anxiety. I helped him with anything from house works to work related presentations, and healthcare. I saved his eye. I took care of his physical pain from my knowledge and skills.

I have been abused for over 5 years; physically once, and mentally, emotionally and financially. The litigation abuse is drastically. I had 5 miscarriages with 2 D&C procedures. After I got pregnant with an IVF with my limited personal saving. He treated me badly during pregnancy, but I could not go anywhere. I experienced verbal and emotional abuse. I had concerns that it could affect the baby and tried not to be too much stressful.

After I gave birth, I tried to do everything the same; cooking, cleaning, taking care of him, but taking care of the 1st child without help was extremely difficult and overwhelmed. When I could not cook, he got mad at me and went to eat out without buying anything for me. I made my dinner at almost midnight many times. He blamed me in everything and said I was a bad wife, and should not be a mother and asked me if I tried to kill the baby. He never watched the baby when I took a shower. He grilled steak and it was burnt, then he blamed me. He gave me the charcoal steak and told me I deserved it.

He accused me that I was going to kidnap the baby to my country, but I did not do and never thought of it. I have evidence to prove my innocence. I just wanted to take my son to meet my parents. He filed a divorce to have a restraining order against me not to leave the country with the baby. I found out he chatted with Japanese women when the baby was less than 3-month old, pretended he had no little baby, planned and met them in Japan. He asked me to give him $2,000 deposit to live in that house. I escaped to stay in a shelter with my son. He filed a motion to order me to return the baby. I borrowed money to retain a lawyer to fight because my son was only 9-month old. I won the case. After that, he convinced me to withdraw the lawyer to settle. He offered to pay for my lawyer fees. After the withdrawal notice filed, he flipped and refused to pay the lawyer fees.

There are false accusations that I cannot defend myself without a lawyer. He has shredded my character, reputation and integrity into pieces, and sabotaged everything I have established. He wants me not to be able to live in this country and leave the son. He threatened me to deport me even I did not do anything illegal.

I was able to be certified Pharmacy Technician, granted WA Pharmacy Technician license, enrolled in a Sonography school, passed the 1st Sonography license exam, jurisprudence exam of Physical Therapy, WA DOH, and prepared to apply to Physician Assistant (PA) schools.

Regretably, I had to take a student loan and used credit card to hire a lawyer to assist me in March, 2025, however, with the tremendous legal battles, I had to drop 2 major courses of my sonography program. My education from Thailand and Japan has been devalued. The relationship between mother and child has been depreciated. I have been discriminated in this unfair justice. I wish my voice would help protect other innocent women and children.

Recently, I am not eligible to get a loan and still having $40,000 debt due to the court issues; including $26,200 he asked the court ordered me to pay his lawyer fees even though during that time, I was in the transition of moving to a transitional housing, a full-time student and worked only 2-3 days per month. There are 4 court orders for lawyer fees. Each order has a 12% annual interest rate. Now, I need at least $10,000 to hire a lawyer for the trial in January, 2026 and fight the unfair justice, and take my son back. I have filed motions and fought by myself, but I cannot modify the parenting plan without a lawyer. I cannot establish my life and live normally without their interferences.

I was accused that I ignored my son and could not visit him during my visitation that they set, because I attended essential evening classes and worked. I asked to move or combine visitation when I could not do, but he refused every time. Later, they used it against me that I chose work and school instead of my son which is not true. I have lost job opportunities and cannot maintain my life.

The abuse through litigation process has been dragged for over 2 years. I could not afford to retain a lawyer. So, I filed motions and represented myself. I had 9 court hearings in 8 months. I have all strong evidence and declarations, but without the knowledge of law and court rules and procedures, I lost all. I cannot fight to defend myself and protect my son without a lawyer. He used my disadvantages to take Ja from me. I really need financial support to fight the on-going miserable battles and remove the most excruciating part of my life for the child's better life or other positive I am working towards.

Ja’ father has two children from a previous failed marriage. The mother divorced him. The two children cut ties with him years ago because he brought nothing but toxic behavior and negativity to their lives. They moved on, but Ja’ father remains bitter and angry toward them and their mother even now.

He has used sweets to control Ja. Ja has had brunch in stead of breakfast and lunch, and nap around 4:30-5:00 pm. I caught once when he nap that he had a bad dream. He was crying and screaming and calling mommy, mommy, mommy. He has been separated from me for 1 year since when he was 18-month old. He was forced to stop breastfeeding. Ja developed severe distressed because of the separation. We have been so suffered and depressed. I have tried to fight to get him back, but the chance is very slim without a lawyer.

 

Please help Ja escape from this bizarre and terrible situation and have love and care from mother as he deserves, and help me from abuse and nightmare. Thank you for your kindness and support.

I am realized that marrying a wrong man and moving to live in another country are very dangerous. Fighting alone in the country using not your mother language is extremely difficult. I regained my spirit after the miserableness and can survive until now because of GOD.

I have encountered a significant financial obstacle. Additional unexpected costs associated with legal proceedings - from filing fees to consultations, and various other legal aspects have accumulated rapidly and will continue to do so.

With a humble heart, I am reaching out to each and every one of you for help during this trying time. My fight for justice had stalled as we’ve now been silenced!! Your generosity and support can make a tangible difference.

Please consider contributing whatever you can to assist us in covering these ongoing expenses. Every donation, no matter how small, can help me and Ja. Thank you for your support during this challenging journey.

GOD BLESS YOU.

With heartfelt gratitude,

Wani,

Seattle, WA