Help me fight for Custody
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I am a currently serving member of the Minnesota Army National Guard.
I got married in 2012 and deployed to Egypt shortly after. After returning home from that deployment it was clear that my wife and were in need of marital counseling to reconnect after being apart for nearly a year. In 2014, our relationship grew strong enough to give birth to a beautiful girl.
In late 2014, a year later, I deployed once again, however this time to Kuwait. This deployment took all the work we had done the previous year and forced us to grow apart. Again when I returned almost a year later we sought counseling. This time there were more struggles and unresolved issues.
In 2017 I was selected for an 8 month military school that would benefit the MN Army National Guard. Though I was in the United States for this training we were unable to move our family and the distance and unresolved issues grew stronger. Knowing that we needed assistance we talked about seeking counseling again when I returned in early 2018.
In early 2018, we ran into the biggest challenge of all that no parent should have to go through. Instead of her and I working together to get through it as partners in a marriage, we handled the situation completely separate from one another and was ultimately the last nail in the coffin.
Late in 2019 I was served divorce papers versus taking an agreement to resolve and restore our marriage. With pain in my heart I have been attempting to move on.
In 2020, like many others, COVID made life difficult. In my case it took a divorce that may have been over in a handful of months and extended it out. I am now currently at the tail end of a two year long divorce. All I want is 50/50 custody of our joint child. This has seemingly been an uphill battle for me as every turn I take I am told that I cannot have 50/50 custody, even with the claim that there is nothing stopping me from caring for my child.
I lay awake day in and day out fighting through the idea if I don’t fight until the end, then my child must not mean enough to me. I have done everything I can to come up with this money. I work a full time job as well as continue to serve in the MN National Guard.
Currently, at the time that I am writing this, I am a month and a half from the end trial date. The misery of it is that the debts have piled up so much that I am at great risk of losing my attorney going into the home stretch. I am a prideful person, and have the never give up attitude that has brought me this far, but in the end it may not be enough.
I ask you, the reader, if you have it in you to put a dollar into this fund, and tell your friends to do the same it would mean the world to me and truly change my life.
I got married in 2012 and deployed to Egypt shortly after. After returning home from that deployment it was clear that my wife and were in need of marital counseling to reconnect after being apart for nearly a year. In 2014, our relationship grew strong enough to give birth to a beautiful girl.
In late 2014, a year later, I deployed once again, however this time to Kuwait. This deployment took all the work we had done the previous year and forced us to grow apart. Again when I returned almost a year later we sought counseling. This time there were more struggles and unresolved issues.
In 2017 I was selected for an 8 month military school that would benefit the MN Army National Guard. Though I was in the United States for this training we were unable to move our family and the distance and unresolved issues grew stronger. Knowing that we needed assistance we talked about seeking counseling again when I returned in early 2018.
In early 2018, we ran into the biggest challenge of all that no parent should have to go through. Instead of her and I working together to get through it as partners in a marriage, we handled the situation completely separate from one another and was ultimately the last nail in the coffin.
Late in 2019 I was served divorce papers versus taking an agreement to resolve and restore our marriage. With pain in my heart I have been attempting to move on.
In 2020, like many others, COVID made life difficult. In my case it took a divorce that may have been over in a handful of months and extended it out. I am now currently at the tail end of a two year long divorce. All I want is 50/50 custody of our joint child. This has seemingly been an uphill battle for me as every turn I take I am told that I cannot have 50/50 custody, even with the claim that there is nothing stopping me from caring for my child.
I lay awake day in and day out fighting through the idea if I don’t fight until the end, then my child must not mean enough to me. I have done everything I can to come up with this money. I work a full time job as well as continue to serve in the MN National Guard.
Currently, at the time that I am writing this, I am a month and a half from the end trial date. The misery of it is that the debts have piled up so much that I am at great risk of losing my attorney going into the home stretch. I am a prideful person, and have the never give up attitude that has brought me this far, but in the end it may not be enough.
I ask you, the reader, if you have it in you to put a dollar into this fund, and tell your friends to do the same it would mean the world to me and truly change my life.
Organizer
Benjamin Benjamin Francisco
Organizer
Saint Paul, MN