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As most of you are aware of the details as to what Bri and the kids are facing I won't go into that here (If you're unaware, feel free to reach out privately). But I wanted to share a little bit of my heart behind why I've started this fundraiser for them...
Right after Ryan and I lost Sage, Bri showed up for me in a way that not many were capable of. In the first days, she was there with us, and she gave heart and soul to tend to my needs. In recovery from my c-section and distraught from grief, she stepped in. Every night she would sit on my bed and brush my hair, calmly stroking my back. She would sit in the bathroom and shave my legs when I couldn’t bend over. She would help walk me to and from the bathroom when it was hard to sit and stand. And when she left California she wrote me a letter…not to say how sorry she was, but to say what an honor it was that she had to privilege to serve me that week.
I wanted to share this with you so that you could get a glimpse into who Brianna is at her core and the way she loves so selflessly for the people she loves most. This isn’t a piece of her that everyone gets the privilege of seeing. The way she has loved me as her little sister is just a portion of what she pours out over her babies.
It breaks my heart seeing her in the face of such an unknown future. Wanting to protect both Jaiden and Jasmine from so much pain and also promise them a beautiful life here, which for her I know seems next to impossible.
I never knew the complexities of domestic abuse like this. How deeply it affects so many people and how difficult it is to navigate your way out of these situations. How many expenses come within the long legal process and how much is not guaranteed to the survivors.
At the moment, Brianna, Jaiden, and Jasmine are all living together in our parent's basement. They have 1 bedroom and 1 bathroom to share. My hope for them is to be able to find their space. A place for the 3 of them to live, filled with peace. For so long their home hasn’t been that and it breaks my heart to know… but I have hope for their future together where Bri can cultivate the home she knows her and the kids deserve. One that is free from fear and control, one that allows them to play, be themselves and feel comforted every moment they open the door.
Bri is never one to ask for help, she is tirelessly self-sufficient and has grown a strong backbone because of it. But watching this season unfold I have watched her become crushed under so many layers of pain. So here I am… asking instead because I know in a time like this that there are so many people who love her and those kids, and would put their hand up to help in any way. And there are many areas in which finances would be an incredible help for them in starting a new life.
And my goal with this is to…
1. Surround her with love. Having to face this not only as a woman but as a mother, can bring about a lot of exhaustion in pouring everything out in order to take care and cover your kids. I want her to feel that she is not alone in this scary uncharted territory. That she has the strength of others to help lift some weight when it feels too heavy to carry it all.
2. Establish some peace in the midst of the chaos. We can all attest to the fact that finances simply on their own can bring about a lot of stress in life… but when you are faced with heartache and pain, it becomes stress that can try to take you out. I don’t want her focus to be on surviving. I want her to attend to her kids and their trauma, as well as her own as much as she needs to right now.
Some realities she is currently facing financially:
-Finding & keeping a job when being a stay at home mom is all she’s known
-Finding an affordable rental & furnishing it (they left home with only clothing and some kitchen supplies)
-Needing a reliable car since finding out last week the car she has is literally “unsafe for the road” and beyond repair
I also wanted to note that I’m using this Go Fund Me platform because it comes with the option to be anonymous in your giving. I never want any of you to feel pressured to give financially, as I understand there are many seasons in life where it becomes hard to give under certain circumstances. So thank you in advance, whether you give or are unable to, for taking the time to read this in love for our family. Please keep Brianna, Jaiden, and Jasmine on your mind with what they’re facing. And if you would like to send a note of encouragement or love to any of them please feel free to email that to me so I can pass it on when I gift all of this to them in the coming months.
All my love,
Bridget
Right after Ryan and I lost Sage, Bri showed up for me in a way that not many were capable of. In the first days, she was there with us, and she gave heart and soul to tend to my needs. In recovery from my c-section and distraught from grief, she stepped in. Every night she would sit on my bed and brush my hair, calmly stroking my back. She would sit in the bathroom and shave my legs when I couldn’t bend over. She would help walk me to and from the bathroom when it was hard to sit and stand. And when she left California she wrote me a letter…not to say how sorry she was, but to say what an honor it was that she had to privilege to serve me that week.
I wanted to share this with you so that you could get a glimpse into who Brianna is at her core and the way she loves so selflessly for the people she loves most. This isn’t a piece of her that everyone gets the privilege of seeing. The way she has loved me as her little sister is just a portion of what she pours out over her babies.
It breaks my heart seeing her in the face of such an unknown future. Wanting to protect both Jaiden and Jasmine from so much pain and also promise them a beautiful life here, which for her I know seems next to impossible.
I never knew the complexities of domestic abuse like this. How deeply it affects so many people and how difficult it is to navigate your way out of these situations. How many expenses come within the long legal process and how much is not guaranteed to the survivors.
At the moment, Brianna, Jaiden, and Jasmine are all living together in our parent's basement. They have 1 bedroom and 1 bathroom to share. My hope for them is to be able to find their space. A place for the 3 of them to live, filled with peace. For so long their home hasn’t been that and it breaks my heart to know… but I have hope for their future together where Bri can cultivate the home she knows her and the kids deserve. One that is free from fear and control, one that allows them to play, be themselves and feel comforted every moment they open the door.
Bri is never one to ask for help, she is tirelessly self-sufficient and has grown a strong backbone because of it. But watching this season unfold I have watched her become crushed under so many layers of pain. So here I am… asking instead because I know in a time like this that there are so many people who love her and those kids, and would put their hand up to help in any way. And there are many areas in which finances would be an incredible help for them in starting a new life.
And my goal with this is to…
1. Surround her with love. Having to face this not only as a woman but as a mother, can bring about a lot of exhaustion in pouring everything out in order to take care and cover your kids. I want her to feel that she is not alone in this scary uncharted territory. That she has the strength of others to help lift some weight when it feels too heavy to carry it all.
2. Establish some peace in the midst of the chaos. We can all attest to the fact that finances simply on their own can bring about a lot of stress in life… but when you are faced with heartache and pain, it becomes stress that can try to take you out. I don’t want her focus to be on surviving. I want her to attend to her kids and their trauma, as well as her own as much as she needs to right now.
Some realities she is currently facing financially:
-Finding & keeping a job when being a stay at home mom is all she’s known
-Finding an affordable rental & furnishing it (they left home with only clothing and some kitchen supplies)
-Needing a reliable car since finding out last week the car she has is literally “unsafe for the road” and beyond repair
I also wanted to note that I’m using this Go Fund Me platform because it comes with the option to be anonymous in your giving. I never want any of you to feel pressured to give financially, as I understand there are many seasons in life where it becomes hard to give under certain circumstances. So thank you in advance, whether you give or are unable to, for taking the time to read this in love for our family. Please keep Brianna, Jaiden, and Jasmine on your mind with what they’re facing. And if you would like to send a note of encouragement or love to any of them please feel free to email that to me so I can pass it on when I gift all of this to them in the coming months.
All my love,
Bridget