Fighting For Sole Custody Of My Two Boys

Hello everyone is Brittney. I have no idea where to even begin to explain the situation this is embarrassing that I'm having to ask people to donate  so that I can try to come up with a lawyer  to get sole custody of my children. and also help me support them I have raised them with the help of my family on my own since day one their biological father has not supported them in anyway and I'm struggling hard as well as trying to get my mental diagnosis under control

Thank you anybody who even just read this if you're not able to donate I appreciate you taking the time this is just a situation that I really need to get out of he just continues to hold on a control my life and I want to move on with my life I'm almost 30 and have nothing to show for it I don't even have my own place I live with my grandparents because of the mental and physical and emotional abuse I went through for 7 years and to this day he is still mentally and emotionally abusive.

I guess I'll start at the very beginning 7 years ago. 

Garrett and I started dating July 31st 2013 and you at the time I  thought it was going fantastic he played all the cards right said everything that he knew I wanted to hear a true narcissist. Things were going great at 1st (don't they always) we found out I was pregnant a month-and-a-half after being together and at 5 weeks I miscarried. Than Nov 2013 I found out that I was pregnant with our oldest son Cayden and it seemed the further I got along in my pregnancy the more things change in our relationship. I was three and a half months pregnant the first time he beat the crap out of me and drug me down the stairs and when he got me on the kitchen floor proceeded to repeatedly punch me. I kept telling myself over and over and over that you know it would happen again and he was sorry and I was wrong from that point on it escalated and he became more and more physically abusive. 

I lost several jobs due to him accusing me of sleeping with my coworkers he would go up to my place of employment and cause a scene or harass whoever he thought I was sleeping with and I will lose my job which that led to me losing several different houses along with a vehicle. My oldest son Cayden has so many behavioral issues due to witness seeing his father for his whole life be physically emotionally mentally and verbally abusive towards me. Cayden also witnessed Garrett cover me head to toe and gasoline while physically assaulting me he tried over and over to light the matches someone was definitely watching over me that day because the matches would not like and they were completely dry. That was one of the most horrific situations I've ever been in I honestly thought I was going to die right in front of my son at the hands of someone who was supposed to be my husband he was supposed to protect me and my son but instead he tried to kill me. I do have a video of the assault apparently while I was fleeing for my life I ended up recording a very small segment of what I went through for 5 hours

I have included the video so you can see 1st hand how immediate danger he is to myself and my two kids I will warn you it is very graphic viewer discretion is advised please do not watch this around any children it is Horrific



I can stay here and go on and on and on and on about the abuse I went through for years the abuse my children went through but I would be here forever 

In October of 2019 I decided to take a stand I did enough was enough I was not going to sit there and be his punching bag anymore my children were not going to grow up thinking it was okay to put their hands on women or to put their hands on anybody. 

I had him served while he was in jail for assaulting his younger brother because I knew that was the only way I was going to have him served with my divorce papers and from that point on and has been nothing but a game to him. He wants to still have that control and that hold over me. The judge has requested several times that he complies and he refuses and I know it's just a matter of time before I end up getting full custody but I don't want to take that chance of him just fighting the he's going to show up the court finally and you know being the master manipulator that he is he will end up getting joint custody. And that I absolutely refuse to allow like I said before he is a immediate danger to myself and my children 

Garrett was arrested in September of 2018 for absconding and going on the run from his probation officer and was sentenced to the Missouri Department of Corrections for a hundred and twenty days and that is when I saw the once-in-a-lifetime chance to save my life and to save my boys  lives and I left him completely

On Aug 8th 2020 my fiance and grandfather went to drop my children off with Garrett because at the time I did not know since there is no custody agreement I legally did not have to play and have them but he had convinced me that by law I had to because his name is on birth certificate

And the reason I had my fiance Dylan and my grandfather take the boys is because Garrett had been very verbally abusive mentally abusive and he was coming closer and closer each time I would see him to actually physically assaulting me the threats that he made towards me you had me fearing for my life all over again 

When they got there to drop off the boys Garrett became very belligerent and very violence towards my grandfather and fiance and make made threats to assault them with a crowbar as well as kill them and acted as if he had a gun he than grabbed both boys while four other people were attempting to assault my fiance. He then took the boys inside his house and lock the door and nobody could get access to my kids he then called me and started taunting me that if I wanted my children back I would have to accept his girlfriend who is their mommy also and his girlfriend may I add is currently awaiting trial for multiple counts of child endangerment and child abuse resulting in death. So absolutely not I will never accept her nor will she be allowed around my children. 

It took one of my very good friends talking to him and letting hime think I was the one in the and I deserved to know what it felt like to not be allowed to see voice like he has not been allowed to see the boys at times and due to his addiction to K2 and his criminal lifestyle. By the time I was able to hug my children I had not spoke to them and over 18 hours that was the longest 18 hours of my life

mommy and Cayden as we are speed out of the drive way 

carter literally 5 minutes after my friend got them from their father

Words will never express how thankful I was to be able to wrap my arms around my kids again

The hell he has put me and my kids through the list goes on and on Carter my youngest stopped breathing when he was first born due to him not being able to breathe on his own because he was used to his Airways being constricted back and forth back and forth from Garrett putting his hands around my throat while I was pregnant and choking me till I pass out or come close to passing out my son almost died because of him he was in the nicu for over a month 

Back in 2015 he was arrested and charged with abuse on the elderly for assaulting my now 75 year old grandfather

In 2018 I had to sell my 2001 Chevy Impala that I had spent over two years paying for over $10,000 to a towing company that had a salvage yard because Garrett cut my Cadillac converter off blew my motor stole my battery and busted every window out of my car. I busted my ass to buy that car and I was so proud of it just to have it destroyed by a worthless coward 

But like I said before I can keep going on and on about how he completely made my life and my children's life a living hell for the past 7 years but instead that I'm going to ask everybody for a little bit of help and please help me be able to get a lawyer I've applied for legal aid but that's a joke they keep denying me

If anyone can help even if it's a dollar that is a dollar closer to me having sole custody of my children and making sure he can never harm any of us again

Also my goal a little more then what the lawyer cost but anything left over will go directly to helping me support my children and helping us get back on our feet my fiance Dylan is working as a security guard and he is taking every shift  can cover and we are still not even coming close to making ends meet  I've applied for child support for the boys but he doesn't have a job so what good is that going to do. I wish I could go back to work but the PTSD that I have from the things Garrett did to me I have panic attacks in front of customers. My doctor had to prescribe me sleeping medication because they have panic attacks I was having in my sleep or so bad that Dylan thought I was having seizures the mental effect that it has had on me words will never describe how much he's changed my life for the worst.


Thank you again to anyone who has read this or even donated the boys and I appreciate it more than words will ever be able to explain you are giving us another chance at a better life


Thank you and God Bless

Brittney,Cayden and Carter


Bellow is our family Christmas picture 2019 
Mommy Carter Dylan and Cayden