Bringing home a baby

When go fund me tells you to write your story, it says to be honest and heartfelt.  Well here is brutal honesty, this is one of the hardest things we have ever had to write.  We are very proud people and are usually the ones donating to people, not the one asking for donations.  But here we are asking for support.  Really quickly I am Andi (Brandi) and my beautiful amazing wife is Dana.  We are your typical married couple that lives in a suburb of Minneapolis.  We love each other more than anything, work hard, and what is important to us is family and friends.  Our story is a long one so I will try and keep it short.  Almost 8 years ago when we started dating the subject of children came up, and we knew we wanted to be parents.  Shortly after we started fertility treatments and lots of them.  We were so excited when we found out twin girls were in our future.  Unfortunately they were born sleeping.  Our hearts were crushed and broken.  It took us almost 5 years to try again.  We saved up all of our money and put everything we had into IVF.  This was it, we put close to $25,000 when it was all said and done into bringing home just one healthy baby.  Suprise, we were pregnant again and with another set of twins.  At 6 weeks I started bleeding and when we went in there was only 1 heart beat.  They told us we weren't out of the woods yet and to see our OB come Monday morning.  We sat in silence all weekend just hoping Baby A was going to make it.  Baby A did make it and he became Noah.  The pregnancy was rough in the beginning and we had to make the decision that my job was to much for my body to handle while pregnant, so I quit and moved back to Minnesota.  Dana stayed behind in New Mexico for a month before she got a transfer to move home too.  Things became easy with the pregnancy after that, he was looking amazing and moving like a soccer player.  On Novemeber 20th, 2015 our world took a turn.  At 29 weeks I went to the hospital with contractions.  They told me that I had a bladder infection and to go home with some antibiotics and the contractions should stop.  They didn't and remained random through out the night.  That morning Dana went to work and I was at home alone.  Contractions continued and the next thing I knew, his feet were in my hands.  He was breech, coming out, and I was home alone. I called 911 and they were to me within 6 mins and he was half way out.  Unfortuantely by the time I got to the hospital his cord had clamped for to long and they couldn't bring him back.  We went home empty handed that night.  As time healed my physical body, we decided that we were ready to go back and redo the whole thing over again.  They pulled the eggs out in March and in May we were back putting 2 more embryos in.  On May 19th (my birthday) we found out we were pregnant again, sadly on June 8th an ultrasound showed that there was nothing left in my uterus.  They were gone.  About 3 weeks later I ended up in the emergency room with pain in my abdomen, then came the horrible news.   One of the embryos had traveled up into my tube and ruptured it.  According to the doctor this happens so rarely he had only seen it one other time.  I was in emergency surgery a few hours later to remove both of my tubes.  We have one more embryo left and couldn't risk her doing the same thing so we decided to remove both.  So here is where we are at today....one embryo left.  Our plan is to go back to have her transferred in October.  Between the cost of having the embryo transfered, medication, acupunture, ultrasounds to get ready, flights and hotels (because this all happens in Colorado Springs) we are tapped out of money and not sure how we are going to make it work.  So if you can help, I can't tell you what it means to us because words just aren't enough.  All the money will be used to pay all the expenses we accrue.  To be honest, we know it will be more than $10,000, but I don't know the exact amount. We do have some funds, just not all of it.  If you have questions please ask.  We have started a blog so that you can track our journey and all the raw emotions and things that come with it.   you can visit our blog and get the full story at http://thefightforababy.sitey.me 


Thank you, even if you didn't donate, for reading our story.