Burberry Scarf Replacement
We are Brooke and Vanessa. We are friends of Heather (the wife). We are pissed off about how our friend Heather has been screwed over by her WASband, Joe.
Joe and Heather had been together for about 20 years and have 8 kids together, too many dogs to count and a few other random pets (a pig, fish, some cats - it's like a domesticated zoo. )
Heather spent those years at home raising her wild, wonderful herd of offspring while Joe was out sowing his wild oats with a neighborhood tart.
His departure from the family home was less than graceful as it was accompanied by the discovery of said tart being pregnant.
Fast forward about a year. Heather is moving on. Got a tattoo, got herself a great job, another kid has graduated high school and she might even be able to finally take a proper trip to Mexico next year to help celebrate Vanessa's 40th.
Here's the thing. Heather was the quintessential stay at home mom, complete with all the necessary sacrifices that go along with that. Raising 8 kids is expensive and Heather's a pretty low-key chick who doesn't fuss over all that fancy shit that some women do. Except for her one treasured designer item - a Burberry scarf. She shared that scarf with her daughters freely. They wore it because they took good care of it. Then it disappeared.
Turns out Joe - the WASband- gave it to his mistress.
Let's replace that for Heather. She'll never buy it for herself. Ok? Ok.
The scarf retails for about $400CAD. We'll have it shipped to us in Canada so we can add a few tidbits for Heather because we love her and this shit is fun. Then we'll ship it to her so she can rock that motherfuckin' scarf like the boss that she is.
Ready? Yeah, you are.
So here’s where things are at.
We’ve had one generous soul send us her own brand new Burberry scarf to give Heather. That was an unexpected and incredibly kind gesture. Clearly this story has resonated with many of you. I can’t say I’m surprised. But I am simultaneously delighted and grateful. We’ll post photos when the scarf arrives, which should be any day now. Part of the proof that we’re not scammers!
We had another woman ask if she could send us some comfy, stylish garments for Heather to wear after her surgery today. Love from all over the damned place!
Another donor offered post-divorce life coaching and another offered therapy services. Offers of helping with booking the trip, special pricing on condos, job opportunities (maybe spam but I believe folks are genuine so…) and more words of support and encouragement than $7000 could EVER buy.
Now, with as high-profile as this thing has become, I get the feeling that the trolls are having a field day with this story. I want to clarify a few things because all of those self-righteous wankers can’t be bothered to do their own research.
Brooke and I set this up to make Heather smile and take her mind off of being fucked over just a little. She had no idea we were going to do this. Smile, she did. Smile, and laugh and probably even cry a bit. And every time a troll beaks off, a cheating spouse gets crotch itch.
Heather is NOT some rich white bitch. She works fucking HARD, does ok, and is generally happy. She’s not materialistic or shallow. She works hard, loves her kids with every fibre of her being and is unbelievably kind, selfless and generous. She had one special designer thing because it was special. It made her feel special. Everyone deserves that. Quit shaming her for having one fancy thing FFS.
We know that both Joe and his new squeeze are culpable in the affair. But at the end of the day, HE broke vows. Whether the squeeze knew or not was beside the point. He violated the commitment he made to Heather. Making fun of the side piece by calling her a tart makes me feel better. I don’t mind if you don’t like it. Zero fucks given.
The money given FREELY to this GoFundMe is going to be used to take Heather to Mexico because that’s what the donors want us to use it for. We’re not scamming anyone. We’ve been 100% honest from day one. Whatever is left after spoiling Heather on this oh-so-very deserved vacation will be donated to the DBA Foundation. Of course, if this fundraiser makes you that upset and violates your holier-than-thou morals, feel free to donate to the DBA Foundation fundraiser that we established to address this very limitation :: https://funds.gofundme.com/dashboard/diamond-blackfan-anemia-fund/ . It currently has raised a mere $70. By all means, help out.
We never intended for this thing to go viral. However, since it has, we’re able to celebrate our amazing friend in a way that none of us expected to be possible. We’re pretty fucking thrilled that you all value friendships this much. We’re also thrilled that we got to chat with Jenny McCarthy over morning coffee about this whole wild ride!
FYI, Heather underwent surgery today to remove a huge portion of her colon. So, while she’s got a fairly thick skin, try not to be assholes (see what I did there?! Colon?! Asshole?! hahahaha) It’s so easy to judge, especially when you have little (if any) of the information.
Be nice. It’s not hard. This is us being nice. This is you helping us be nice. We’ll toast you all (even you trolls because we’ll be on a beach in Mexico and you won’t!).
Happy holidays. Spread love, not hate. Help who you want, how you want and don’t be too quick to judge. You never truly know the full story.
I love you!
Originally, we weren't sure if we'd reach our goal of $500 but we've passed that nearly 11 times! WHAT?!?!
I am so moved by everyone's stories of similar douchebaggery and twatwaffleism. We are a tribe of vigilante social justice seekers and I love every last one of you.
We even had a donor send us a scarf that she'd received from an ex (they're on good terms so it doesn't have any negative juju attached to it) so every last penny in this giant fundraiser will go to the Mexico trip. Don't worry, I promise we'll share photos.
See a hilarious video here :: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uka7senq9-A
And listen to a fantastic, funny video here ::
Stay awesome (and stay weird!)
love you all, you crazy, generous motherfuckers!!
Some of you have indicated that you've made contributions to the DBA foundation on Heather's behalf. We figured we'd make it easy for you and just set up another fundraiser so we can make one big fat donation in Heather's name.
Fink that fundraiser here : https://www.gofundme.com/diamond-blackfan-anemia-fund
Heather, I respectfully deny your request for the money to be donated. Please, for the love of all that is holy, take whatever money is raised. It's okay if you don't want a scarf. Take the money to cover you and your family while you recover, get a new dryer, repair a car - WHATEVER. You have to recover from surgery and have an ex that thinks that he doesn't have to pay for shit when it is broken. Let us cover you, please. Lord knows he won't. You have had a shitty year. Let us lift you up and remind you that you are loved, lovable, and worthy of good things.
These comments!!! Man! Donating to help Heather get her groove back doesn't take anything away from other causes! How do you know these people donating $5 for a scarf haven't just donated $500 for another cause!! It's like saying I can't love my dog because I already love my kids. Plus, lighten up everyone! If donating for a scarf bothers you, then think of it as donating for a single mom to raise her 8 kids after her freaking husband screwed her over!! Love and prayers Heather and friends!
FUCK THAT SHIT HEATHER!! GET THIS WOMAN THE FUCKING SCARF!! Get her the damn matching boots and stupid fucking beret, too. As a matter of fact, get all those kids a scarf, snap a pic of the entire herd wearing them, slap that pic on a Christmas card and send one to that bitch ass WASband of hers. The mistress will have likely moved on to a man that will regift her Gucci by then.
To my new favorite Bitch, Heather: Woman. Let all of us have this. Please. Let all of us who are bonding in solidarity over this sisterhood experience, let us have this. You're loosing part of your large colon (which FML-I get the colon prep!) and your babies had a life-altering moment. Let us do this. For you, for us. God is working in your life at the moment-don't turn her down. And fo' Fucks Sake don't apologize. Don't complain. Don't explain. And public opinion be damned. Let your bitches take you to Mexico. And for a week, bless us all with a facebook page that records every god damn sisterhood of the traveling pants, stella got her groove back, waiting to exhale, moment. And yes, your kids (esp. your daughters), might benefit from knowing that sometimes life sucks. And sometimes life sucks because the people we love do things we don't understand or agree with. (and that this doesn't diminish his role as their father, btw.) But sometimes blessings come out of that tragedy. Let the (mostly women) I see donating here have our surrogate moment in the sun with you. We've all been there. Yes, Heather, there is a Santa.
Heather please do something great for yourself! (Brooke/ Vanessa, please contact me lularoe. shannonkuester@ gmail.com, I am not in a position to donate cash right now, but I sell womens clothing and I would love to add some to your stash of goodies to go with Heather's new scarf!!!! Every women should feel loved and uplifted!! You are great friends!!!)
Heather go on the trip, buy your scarf and LOVE your besties! I love when women lift each other up in a time of need. Vanessa if you PM me a shipping address I would love to include some pampering items from our bath and beauty lines free of charge for Heather XoXo Stephanie PureRomance.com/StephanieBasye
Bianca et al, please understand that people loving and caring for a friend by using humor and creativity in no way takes away from others' needs for comfort and support. Please see past the scarf issue, read Heather's update and realize that this woman needs cheer just as much as anyone else. Be happy that there are people in this world who care for each other, a behavior that lifts us all up. Save your energy for your loved ones by refusing to be a GoFundMe troll. I have plenty of expenses right now that don't need listing but I feel like $5 is a thank you to Heather and her friends for making me smile and forget about all that is weighing me down right now. In a way, my donation is not just for Heather but for all women who have been in similar circumstances. I trust Heather's heart to know where to appropriate the monies. I mean, she's doing a fine job of raising 8 children, holding down a job and practicing self care by having a major surgery next week. I'm sure she's capable of not being selfish with the kindness of strangers. Heather, you ARE loved. We all are. And hopefully we can remember that whether or not ever happen to have a GFM created for us. God bless.
Heather, I understand where your heart is coming from and it's very magnanimous of you to want to donate money raised. However, we are all pulling for YOU and your friends. It's not about the scarf, which is a symbol. It's about you allowing us to help lift your tits (as you said)! Please let us do this for you. You don't have to be 100% selfless 100% of the time, I promise. Just say thank you
Wishing you luck with your surgery, Heather! I love that you have friends who care so much! Please, do something for yourself with the money raised. Perhaps your friends can start a new campaign to send Bianca a bag of glitter dicks, because gf is angry about something!
You are absolutely correct, Heather, it is not about "stuff". It's about love, community and empathy. You are one very lucky woman to have all of the very most important things in your life. That said, I urge you to lay on the beach, soak up the sun and re-charge. You deserve it. I should know - very same thing happened to me except he took my little bit of jewelry and then, surprise!, tried to come crawling back a year later. Screw the scarf, follow the sun!