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Pete, Lindsey & Baby Kolpack

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Family is a gift.  As many of you know, Lindsey and I have desired to have a family of our own for the past four years that we have been married. The physical and emotional setbacks we have been faced with have left us navigating the limited options of creating a family of our own.  Through the struggles of Lindsey’s childhood Leukemia, thyroid cancer, miscarriages, and complications from the pre-eclampsia that resulted in the loss of our son Will who was born at 22 weeks, we are unable to carry additional children of our own without incurring significant risk to Lindsey’s kidneys and overall wellbeing.  We spent months looking at a variety of options ranging from surrogacy to public, foreign and domestic adoption.  We had many heart-to-heart conversations discerning both if we were ready and what we thought we wanted.  It wasn’t until we met with an experienced surrogate seeking to help another couple that we seriously considered moving forward.  She was a connection through the grief group Lindsey has been of part of since we lost Will.

We have known for some time that having a family would not be an easy road financially.  After looking into anticipated costs, we were hesitant to pursue this route.  Though we’ve actively been saving money for this purpose - since even before we lost Will, the final estimate is still more than we’re able to take on alone.  Lindsey was given a gift from a classmate’s grandpa when she was sick with Leukemia and that has accrued some value, and we are also looking at using our home equity.  A few of the significant expenses for this include: purchasing donor eggs (Lindsey’s are not a viable option), surrogate personal/medical expenses and lawyer fees.  The idea of asking for help, especially financial help, was not something that came easily to us – not until one of our family members said it this way:

“You don’t know what it’s like for all of us to watch you both struggle. You don’t know how  helpless we are left feeling.  This (GoFundMe) gives us the opportunity to be able to DO something.”

Hearing our situation put that way allowed us to look past our issues and to see it more for its intention – to foster kindness.  Whether it is prayers, kind words, or financial gifts, we want you to know how grateful we are and humbled we feel as we seek your assistance to take this next step in our journey to create our family.

With much love,

Pete and Lindsey

 

If you would care to know more about our journey over past several years, below are several of Lindsey’s Facebook posts.  They’ve documented many of the challenges that we’ve faced together.      

https://www.facebook.com/lindsey.ellenbecker/posts/10102763657367478   It’s March Again

https://www.facebook.com/lindsey.ellenbecker/posts/10102765064223128   20th Anniversary Cancer

https://www.facebook.com/lindsey.ellenbecker/posts/10102769675626838  Pregnancy

https://www.facebook.com/lindsey.ellenbecker/posts/10102495918463388  Will’s due date
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Please celebrate the blessing of Hattie Dorothy Kolpack - born on Monday, June 10th at 7:06am in Rice Lake. (one day after her dad’s birthday)

8lbs 5oz
20 inches
Lots of brown hair
Perfect nose
Full dark rose colored lips
Ten long fingers and ten little toes

We pray that we might teach her to be a kind, compassionate and thoughtful person, who is willing to see and do for others around you. For without those virtues, she might not be here for us to love so impossibly.

Johanna was amazing and is doing well after some incredible labor to position our little ‘Dot’ for her big introduction to our world.

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Thank you for everything you’ve all offered us throughout our journey. We are grateful, blessed, ever-humbled and forever changed by your kindness.

https://www.facebook.com/219700019/posts/10103701217215028?s=219700019&sfns=xmwa
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We had our 20 week appointment today. We appear to have a very active little one. I’m overwhelmed with emotion, as I’ve been throughout most of this journey. We continue to be humbled and to appreciate all of the blessings we’ve received. Thank you all for the ongoing support. 4 months to go and here’s to a healthy baby Kolpack ❤️
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Smile and feel the joy we feel in being able to share with you some good news as we had a second blood test confirm a growing pregnancy. Today would mark Johanna at a wee 4 weeks and 3 days. <3

This means we are VERY early, but Pete and I agree that this time it’s not just ‘us’ on the journey. So far, we only know there’s a healthy pregnancy!

That said, my life requires balance and with this amazing news came the fearful memories of where we’ve been and those we've kept close. I'm/we're working on it, but only those of you who know us or pregnancy loss well will understand how difficult it is to feel that kind of sheer golden happiness (pictured) you'd all expect from news like this.

Today is the start of October – Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month.

So…to the women and men who ‘know’:

I haven’t forgotten the hope.
I haven’t forgotten the struggle.
I haven’t forgotten the loss.
I haven’t forgotten the ‘maybe this time will work’.
I haven’t forgotten the ‘let’s take a break from trying’.
I’m still carrying weight of ‘my body just can’t do it’.
I hope I never forget, because that means I’ll always have that daunting love that fueled it all.

Wherever you are on your journey, you are seen, you are understood, and you are not forgotten.
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** THE BABY K UPDATE ***
Our surrogate Johanna is prepped and all ready to go

We are at the point in the journey where we will be transferring 2 embryos on either September 17th or September 19th!

If the embryos take, we’ll have a very wonderful, lovely and blessed update to share.

If not, well… that'll be a different kind of update and we'll let you know ❤️

The funds from this page have allowed Pete and I to breathe and to venture further into this journey feeling more peaceful, more thankful and more blessed than we ever knew. Thank you all, yet again for your support. God-willing Baby K or Babies K could be real within 2 weeks!
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