Adopting Adam

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Emilie Larter  Leigh, ENG
To hear any updates with our story, you can like and follow my public facebook page:  https://www.facebook.com/emilieandadam/

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Update: 
I am continually overwhelmed by the support and kind words I have been receiving. Thank you all so much!

I wanted to let you know what exactly the money is paying for:

£4500 covers transport for the social worker and lawyer, lawyer fees, court fees, home study fee, child report fee, long birth and death certificates and social worker facilitation.

It does not cover UK immigration lawyer fees, visas, flights, UK home study, UK adoption lawyer nor UK court fees. I am still in the process of getting quotes from these lawyers, but the UK adoption cost is likely to be in the region of £20,000+.

These were things I was hoping to pay for myself, prior to losing my job, but any donations towards these costs I will be eternally grateful for! All donations will go towards the legal costs of adoption. My family are supporting my current living costs, until I am able to find work.

Adoption is an expensive process which I always intended to fund myself. I am beyond grateful to all of you are helping me on my journey to become Adam's mum!



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On the 15th September 2014, a 5 day old baby boy was placed into my arms. From that moment I knew my life had changed forever.


I had arrived in Uganda in August for a two-month volunteering stint for a children's charity. I had just finished university and I had many other worldly adventures planned. However, life had a different plan for me.

It was just another morning at the children's home; changing nappies, playing with children, organising the staff.. when we received a phone call. Several people had been trying to contact us. They told us a newborn baby was in desperate need. We got ready quickly and were on our way to Butagaya.

When we arrived, we realised there was a burial going on. A lady had died, leaving behind 7 children. The youngest was a baby boy; he was just 5 days old. His mother had died due to excessive bleeding after birth. He had not received any breast milk or formula and there was no one able to care for him. His mum left this world before even giving him a name.




We took him in and I became the little one's sole carer. The sleepless nights were down to me, but they were no bother. I felt privileged to do it.

I extended my stay. I stayed with him for almost two months.  We named him Adam. I didn't do much but never a day went by where I was bored. I could sit and watch him for hours.




The time came for me to go home for a month for my graduation. It was not easy to leave. But when I returned - how he had grown! I spent a further 4.5 months in Uganda with him. 




Come April 2015, I was to return home to be bridesmaid at a close friend's wedding. I had also run out of money. I began some casual work back home and booked a flight back for a  visit in June. I then landed a full-time teaching job in London, but flew out at Christmas and Easter. I would leave the country the minute the school holidays began. 




These short visits were not enough. I soon began the process to foster Adam. In Uganda, you must foster before you adopt.  To adopt, you must reside with the child in Uganda for at least one year.

There are very few international teaching positions in Jinja, Uganda. I was incredibly lucky to be offered a job in the only large international school in the area. In August 2016, I moved to Uganda for the foreseeable future.

Adam now lives with me. The joy he brings me every day is incredible. 




Not only does he make me smile every day, but I have heard nothing but good reports on how he has been doing at nursery school. Since I have been back, he is happy, cries less and has grown a lot.

I cannot imagine a future without him in it. I was planning to reside here and save up to adopt him before being able to return to the UK.

Then, just before Christmas, I lost my job.

There are very limited positions for expats out here and despite searching, I have not yet found any options.

My incredibly supportive parents hope to help me to remain out here until I am able to return with Adam. 

But first, I need the money to finish the adoption process. Lawyer fees, court fees.. it all adds up. I no longer have an income to be able to pay for this as I had originally intended.

I am asking for your help to bring Adam home. I am asking for your help to ensure we are not separated again. In the New Year, I hope so desperately to legally become Adam's mum.

Any small amount you can spare is so gratefully received. Any money raised will be going towards the legal process of adoption. You can help us to become a family once and for all!




Happy New Year!
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Update 3
Posted by Emilie Larter
20 days ago
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Hey everyone!
Thank you all once again for all this incredible support.
I've been asked where people can read updates about mine and Adam's story, so have created a public page on Facebook where I'll post any news :)
https://www.facebook.com/emilieandadam/
Feeling blessed!
Emilie
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Update 2
Posted by Emilie Larter
21 days ago
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I am continually overwhelmed by the support and kind words I have been receiving. Thank you all so much!

I wanted to let you know what exactly the money is paying for.

£4500 covers transport for the social worker and lawyer, lawyer fees, court fees, home study fee, child report fee, long birth and death certificates and social worker facilitation.

It does not cover UK immigration lawyer fees, visas, flights, UK home study, UK adoption lawyer nor UK court fees.

These were things I was hoping to somehow find the money for myself, but any donations towards I would be eternally grateful.

Adoption is an expensive process which I always intended to fund myself. I am beyond grateful to all of you are helping me on my journey to become Adam's mum!
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Update 1
Posted by Emilie Larter
28 days ago
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I'm so over the moon I have made my target, I did not expect the amount of support I received and it means so much to me. I have a phone appointment made with a UK lawyer, and have met with a couple of Ugandan lawyers but want to see some more before deciding who to go through. Unfortunately, more costs have been creeping up. Transportation, facilitation and probation officer's paperwork fees are among some of the costs that were not outlaid to me previously. For this reason I have raised my target to £4500. Thank you all so much for your support and I hope to update you with news on the adoption very soon!
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Henz Page
21 days ago

Take no notice of the negative comments here. I suspect many of these people cannot even fathom why you are doing what you are doing. I have five children and two of them were 'borrowed' ;-) One, my eldest and now adopted son is a doctor in the North of England, a lovely man and a credit to those who helped him on his way. The other is a little girl to whom I became daddy when my ex-partner's new boyfriend turned out to be useless at being dad. I love my daughter and, in fact, I couldn't have made a nicer one myself! You only live once and one day, when you are old and grey (like me now) your Adam will still be there loving you. People could never understand why I took the decisions I took and those who who don't understand you are the sad ones! There is nothing more precious, rewarding or selfless than raising a child that has lost its parents and the fact that you have reared him from such an early age will mean the bond can never be broken. Bless you for what you are doing ... and you will be blessed, believe me.

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Alesia Greene-Young
20 days ago

If some of you would read, instead of jumping to your own opinions or negativity, you would know she lost her job due to cutbacks, and when they (the people who made the phone call after his birth mom died) called the home where she was volunteering and told them to come out, it was for Adam only. They had nowhere to place a newborn and when this sweet young lady showed up, they dropped him and only him in her arms. Therefore, this angel, had nothing to do with breaking up siblings or a family. Also, she said nothing about not having this baby forget where he is from. If you're going to give, give. If you're here to plaster your negativity on this young lady's post, please make sure you research her story before you amuse everyone with your stupidity. She's not asking for a lot, just the Uganda adoption fees (she tells everyone what the money she is raising is for). It's pretty obvious, that once she gets home back home to the U.K, she will likely find her a job to support them both. Wowwww.... I can't believe someone asked her, why is she going to another country to adopt a baby, when there are kids for adoption in the U.K. So I'll explain, the reason she wants to adopt Adam, is because she has raised him since he was 5 days old. She is the only mother he has known and she can't live without him. She wants to be able to take him home to the U.K, where he has more family (her mom, dad, and extended family) that's ready to meet him and shower him with love. If that's not obvious, I don't know what is. It's people killing babies, and this sweet heart is getting backlash because she wants to adopt "her baby", that's she's raised.

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Samira Omar
21 days ago

You are a good person , but please don't forget that Adam has other siblings .

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Vanessa Irving
21 days ago

I think I have never read anything so inspiring in my life. I am speechless and in floods of tears. You make the world a better place. What a blessing you and Adam found each other!! I wish you strength and lots of happiness, cake, and laughter

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Emma Robinson
21 days ago

What an inspirational woman you are. Your parents should be so proud of you for being such a caring and thoughtful young lady. I wish you both the best of luck and hope you become his official mother one day soon enough. Hed be blessed beyond words having you love and cherish him. Xx

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Abbigail Corcoran
20 days ago
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My God, I've just read down these comments and as much as there are some beautiful ones I've just read one from a woman named Pat. She said England isn't his home and it's unfair to take him away from his culture! Pat I hope you read this - home is where you are loved. You belong where you are loved. Yes this boy will be taken from his culture. But he will also be safe from all the negatives that overweight his culture. He is away from living on the streets, he is away from being an orphan. This world belongs to all of us. Every corner of the world belongs to us all. This boys mother is English, this boys only grandparents he will ever know are English that makes his home England. If he is left there he will be left with an uncertain future. I find your comment very cold hearted

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Mary Elisabeth
20 days ago
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Hi Emily! I am a teacher working in Kampala at the moment. I currently work at Galaxy International in Lubowa... We may have positions available starting after the summer as myself and another teacher are taking a year out - it's well worth looking in to but get in touch with the school rather than looking on our website. Good luck! :)

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Tamasina Wilson
21 days ago
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If I could give you all the money in the world I would. Your doing such an amazing thing for such a little precious boy. At a young age you give this little boy a life and such a wonderful life . I hope one day you get to become his official mother. You have made such an impact on this little boys life. Such a wonderful thing your doing. Prayer are being made for you that you get the money to become his mother. Good job x

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Jenna Marie Sherwin
21 days ago
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Good on you and your clearly beautiful heart and mind. As a side note I really wish all these negative comments would've been kept in the clearly ugly minded folk! What you're doing is amazing xx

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Pat Smith
21 days ago
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It seems unfair to take this little boy away from his culture and siblings. You might be coming home but England is not home for Adam. There are children in this country who need homes. Why spend all this money on bringing a little boy over here? It is a very emotional story but a really wrong thing to do.

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Lorna Rainey
21 days ago
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You go girli, left you a fiver today. Now go get your son !!!! :-)

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Julie Gay
21 days ago
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I want to donate but am overdrawn. So instead please know... one mum to another.. you are amazing.

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Carole Newbery
21 days ago
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Wonderful story, presumably once Adam is adopted and you return to England, you will have more chance in getting a job to bring him up? You go girl, lots of wishes and luck ...and thankyou for having such a kind heart xx

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Elise Lim Tran
20 days ago
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You are amazing. Some of the best things in life are unplanned and it's crazy how it all works out. Adam is so adorable! Get your little boy!

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Rachel Johnson
21 days ago
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Uganda is really close to my heart - I have been there twice on volunteer projects and I dream of returning in the future. Good luck to you and Adam, sending you much love and hopes for your future together xx

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Hannah Slack
21 days ago
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So much raised today. I read your story and fell in love. Sending so much love and support over.

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Maud Amarh
21 days ago
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Really support the idea of adoption. Good on you.

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Bev Thurner
3 months ago
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That's nice, but will you be able to support this child on your own, or will you continually rely on others, for financial back up? Just curious.

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Olga Śmiełowska
7 days ago
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Matt North: this baby will not feel the loss of his mom because he was five days old when she died. there is not attachment. Bev Thurner: she's young, she has time. it's not easy to find job right after graduation and in a country like Uganda. so your comments is uncalled for and rude.

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John Anderson
19 days ago
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Good to know that there are actually people in this world with a heart, few suburban western girls would do what you have done.

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£23,200 of £4,500 goal

Raised by 1,627 people in 4 months
Created December 30, 2016
JH
£5
julia hammerl
1 hour ago
£20
Anonymous
5 hours ago
£10
Anonymous
3 days ago
AP
£30
anh pham
7 days ago
AP
£5
Anne Pringle
7 days ago

love and prayers what a wonderful woman you are, and what a wonderful supportive family you have,good luck to you all,god bless the child xx

UB
£10
Uyen Bui
7 days ago

I wish you two all the best in the near future and years ahead. With love from Viet Nam

NG
£50
Nripen Gopidas
8 days ago
SS
£20
Susan Smith
9 days ago

Hope it all goes well and you get to adopt Adam.

EB
£50
Ernest Adotei Brown
10 days ago
AF
£20
Andrew Furr
10 days ago

Good luck, Emilie, an inspiring story.

Henz Page
21 days ago

Take no notice of the negative comments here. I suspect many of these people cannot even fathom why you are doing what you are doing. I have five children and two of them were 'borrowed' ;-) One, my eldest and now adopted son is a doctor in the North of England, a lovely man and a credit to those who helped him on his way. The other is a little girl to whom I became daddy when my ex-partner's new boyfriend turned out to be useless at being dad. I love my daughter and, in fact, I couldn't have made a nicer one myself! You only live once and one day, when you are old and grey (like me now) your Adam will still be there loving you. People could never understand why I took the decisions I took and those who who don't understand you are the sad ones! There is nothing more precious, rewarding or selfless than raising a child that has lost its parents and the fact that you have reared him from such an early age will mean the bond can never be broken. Bless you for what you are doing ... and you will be blessed, believe me.

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Alesia Greene-Young
20 days ago

If some of you would read, instead of jumping to your own opinions or negativity, you would know she lost her job due to cutbacks, and when they (the people who made the phone call after his birth mom died) called the home where she was volunteering and told them to come out, it was for Adam only. They had nowhere to place a newborn and when this sweet young lady showed up, they dropped him and only him in her arms. Therefore, this angel, had nothing to do with breaking up siblings or a family. Also, she said nothing about not having this baby forget where he is from. If you're going to give, give. If you're here to plaster your negativity on this young lady's post, please make sure you research her story before you amuse everyone with your stupidity. She's not asking for a lot, just the Uganda adoption fees (she tells everyone what the money she is raising is for). It's pretty obvious, that once she gets home back home to the U.K, she will likely find her a job to support them both. Wowwww.... I can't believe someone asked her, why is she going to another country to adopt a baby, when there are kids for adoption in the U.K. So I'll explain, the reason she wants to adopt Adam, is because she has raised him since he was 5 days old. She is the only mother he has known and she can't live without him. She wants to be able to take him home to the U.K, where he has more family (her mom, dad, and extended family) that's ready to meet him and shower him with love. If that's not obvious, I don't know what is. It's people killing babies, and this sweet heart is getting backlash because she wants to adopt "her baby", that's she's raised.

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Samira Omar
21 days ago

You are a good person , but please don't forget that Adam has other siblings .

+ Read More
Vanessa Irving
21 days ago

I think I have never read anything so inspiring in my life. I am speechless and in floods of tears. You make the world a better place. What a blessing you and Adam found each other!! I wish you strength and lots of happiness, cake, and laughter

+ Read More
Emma Robinson
21 days ago

What an inspirational woman you are. Your parents should be so proud of you for being such a caring and thoughtful young lady. I wish you both the best of luck and hope you become his official mother one day soon enough. Hed be blessed beyond words having you love and cherish him. Xx

+ Read More
Abbigail Corcoran
20 days ago
8
8

My God, I've just read down these comments and as much as there are some beautiful ones I've just read one from a woman named Pat. She said England isn't his home and it's unfair to take him away from his culture! Pat I hope you read this - home is where you are loved. You belong where you are loved. Yes this boy will be taken from his culture. But he will also be safe from all the negatives that overweight his culture. He is away from living on the streets, he is away from being an orphan. This world belongs to all of us. Every corner of the world belongs to us all. This boys mother is English, this boys only grandparents he will ever know are English that makes his home England. If he is left there he will be left with an uncertain future. I find your comment very cold hearted

+ Read More
Mary Elisabeth
20 days ago
8
8

Hi Emily! I am a teacher working in Kampala at the moment. I currently work at Galaxy International in Lubowa... We may have positions available starting after the summer as myself and another teacher are taking a year out - it's well worth looking in to but get in touch with the school rather than looking on our website. Good luck! :)

+ Read More
Tamasina Wilson
21 days ago
8
8

If I could give you all the money in the world I would. Your doing such an amazing thing for such a little precious boy. At a young age you give this little boy a life and such a wonderful life . I hope one day you get to become his official mother. You have made such an impact on this little boys life. Such a wonderful thing your doing. Prayer are being made for you that you get the money to become his mother. Good job x

+ Read More
Jenna Marie Sherwin
21 days ago
4
4

Good on you and your clearly beautiful heart and mind. As a side note I really wish all these negative comments would've been kept in the clearly ugly minded folk! What you're doing is amazing xx

+ Read More
Pat Smith
21 days ago
3
3

It seems unfair to take this little boy away from his culture and siblings. You might be coming home but England is not home for Adam. There are children in this country who need homes. Why spend all this money on bringing a little boy over here? It is a very emotional story but a really wrong thing to do.

+ Read More
Lorna Rainey
21 days ago
3
3

You go girli, left you a fiver today. Now go get your son !!!! :-)

+ Read More
Julie Gay
21 days ago
3
3

I want to donate but am overdrawn. So instead please know... one mum to another.. you are amazing.

+ Read More
Carole Newbery
21 days ago
3
3

Wonderful story, presumably once Adam is adopted and you return to England, you will have more chance in getting a job to bring him up? You go girl, lots of wishes and luck ...and thankyou for having such a kind heart xx

+ Read More
Elise Lim Tran
20 days ago
2
2

You are amazing. Some of the best things in life are unplanned and it's crazy how it all works out. Adam is so adorable! Get your little boy!

+ Read More
Rachel Johnson
21 days ago
2
2

Uganda is really close to my heart - I have been there twice on volunteer projects and I dream of returning in the future. Good luck to you and Adam, sending you much love and hopes for your future together xx

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Hannah Slack
21 days ago
2
2

So much raised today. I read your story and fell in love. Sending so much love and support over.

+ Read More
Maud Amarh
21 days ago
2
2

Really support the idea of adoption. Good on you.

+ Read More
Bev Thurner
3 months ago
2
2

That's nice, but will you be able to support this child on your own, or will you continually rely on others, for financial back up? Just curious.

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Olga Śmiełowska
7 days ago
1
1

Matt North: this baby will not feel the loss of his mom because he was five days old when she died. there is not attachment. Bev Thurner: she's young, she has time. it's not easy to find job right after graduation and in a country like Uganda. so your comments is uncalled for and rude.

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John Anderson
19 days ago
1
1

Good to know that there are actually people in this world with a heart, few suburban western girls would do what you have done.

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