The Nakad Adoption Fund
Donation protected
After three and a half years of marriage, and two pregnancies resulting in miscarriage, we have decided to grow our family through a domestic infant adoption.
Many of you asked what you could do to help with the process, and here’s what you can do: As you may or may not know, adoption is expensive; the total cost of our adoption will be $24,900. There are applications, licensing requirements, home studies and classes. There are fees to be matched, birth parent expenses, medical bills, and legal fees to finalize the adoption. The expenses are due as services are provided by our adoption agency.
We are asking you to help us find our missing puzzle piece, our baby, and to bring her/him home. This GoFundMe account is set up specifically for monetary donations. For every $25 donated, we will put your name on a blank puzzle piece. When our baby comes home, that puzzle will be complete and we will hang it in her/his room. Our child will always know that so many people were part of bringing her/him home to us.
We are asking for your help in any way that you feel comfortable contributing. Some of you may not be comfortable with monetary donations, and that is OKAY!! If you want to donate monetarily but don’t want to do it through this site, or want to do it anonymously, that’s okay, too! We will happily talk to you in private to make arrangements. We are also asking for prayers and good vibes for our little one’s safe delivery into the world and into our arms.
Please feel free to forward our GoFundMe page, or copy and paste our story and contact info to share with others. We know that sometimes miracles happen when we least expect it – it’s possible that there’s someone out there, several people removed from our immediate network, looking to put their child up for adoption. This sort of designated adoption is a possibility to which our hearts remain open as well.
Thanks so much to all of you for all your support and for being part of our lives.
Our Story:
We met in the spring of 2013, when Oliver was stationed at Fort Carson, Colorado with the US Army. Beth was a social worker for the county, and our paths crossed through our work. Our love grew quickly, and we married later that same year with our immediate families present. Our three and a half years of marriage have been exciting: we have moved twice, bought a house in Firestone, Colorado, and have both gone through career/job changes.
In summer 2014, we decided we wanted to start trying to create a family of our own. We were soon excited to find ourselves pregnant with our little baby, Nugget, who was due in April 2015. Beth presented Oliver with a onesie that she had ordered in anticipation of this moment: “Newest Washington Nationals Baseball Fan.”
For our one year anniversary, we had planned a celebration with our family and friends who had not been able to attend our wedding the year before. We knew we were about seven weeks pregnant and did not want to tell anyone yet, until the first trimester had passed. At the party, we secretly smiled and Beth drank sparkling juice. Two days later, Beth felt pains in her lower back and miscarried our baby alone in our apartment. Oliver rushed home, and we lay on the bed and cried together.
A few months later, we decided it was time to start trying again because we both longed to be parents. This time, it took us several months, and in April 2015, we found out we were pregnant with our second baby, Bean, due around Christmas that year. We followed up with the doctors regularly, holding our breath each time until they would tell us our baby was growing just as expected. In May 2015, during a regular ultrasound, our baby’s heartbeat was weaker than expected. The following week, around nine weeks’ gestation, the heartbeat was gone. This time, Beth underwent a D&C procedure due to the miscarriage not occurring naturally.
We began trying again a few months after that but have not been successful in getting pregnant. We consulted with doctors and completed medical testing. By early 2016, all tests results showed that we should be able to conceive and carry a healthy baby to term. The results of the tests would have been a relief to some couples, but it left a nagging feeling for us – if we are healthy, why are we having trouble getting and staying pregnant? Our doctors had no answers but provided us with a phone number of a specialist who might advise us to undergo hormone or IVF treatments. We tried naturally for a few more months with no success.
In May 2016, we sat down to have a conversation about our options. Beth told Oliver she was thinking that there was a reason we couldn’t make the call to the specialist – maybe it wasn’t the right plan for us. Does biology really matter? Oliver surprised Beth by quickly agreeing that families are made by love, not by blood. From that moment on, the decision was easy – we would adopt. Immediately we felt at peace, and we have not looked back since.
We decided to work with Lutheran Family Services (LFS) through their domestic infant program. LFS stresses the importance of treating biological parents fairly, knowing that they make their decisions to put their children up for adoption out of love. This message resonated with us; we want our children to know they come from a place of love, not coercion. We shared our decision to adopt with our families and friends through an email announcement, and we have received an overwhelming amount of supportive words from friends and family.
We have already completed the initial background checks and are beginning our home study in November 2016. We will be updating this page as we move forward during the process. We are excited for the journey that lies ahead, and we appreciate all your support!
Many of you asked what you could do to help with the process, and here’s what you can do: As you may or may not know, adoption is expensive; the total cost of our adoption will be $24,900. There are applications, licensing requirements, home studies and classes. There are fees to be matched, birth parent expenses, medical bills, and legal fees to finalize the adoption. The expenses are due as services are provided by our adoption agency.
We are asking you to help us find our missing puzzle piece, our baby, and to bring her/him home. This GoFundMe account is set up specifically for monetary donations. For every $25 donated, we will put your name on a blank puzzle piece. When our baby comes home, that puzzle will be complete and we will hang it in her/his room. Our child will always know that so many people were part of bringing her/him home to us.
We are asking for your help in any way that you feel comfortable contributing. Some of you may not be comfortable with monetary donations, and that is OKAY!! If you want to donate monetarily but don’t want to do it through this site, or want to do it anonymously, that’s okay, too! We will happily talk to you in private to make arrangements. We are also asking for prayers and good vibes for our little one’s safe delivery into the world and into our arms.
Please feel free to forward our GoFundMe page, or copy and paste our story and contact info to share with others. We know that sometimes miracles happen when we least expect it – it’s possible that there’s someone out there, several people removed from our immediate network, looking to put their child up for adoption. This sort of designated adoption is a possibility to which our hearts remain open as well.
Thanks so much to all of you for all your support and for being part of our lives.
Our Story:
We met in the spring of 2013, when Oliver was stationed at Fort Carson, Colorado with the US Army. Beth was a social worker for the county, and our paths crossed through our work. Our love grew quickly, and we married later that same year with our immediate families present. Our three and a half years of marriage have been exciting: we have moved twice, bought a house in Firestone, Colorado, and have both gone through career/job changes.
In summer 2014, we decided we wanted to start trying to create a family of our own. We were soon excited to find ourselves pregnant with our little baby, Nugget, who was due in April 2015. Beth presented Oliver with a onesie that she had ordered in anticipation of this moment: “Newest Washington Nationals Baseball Fan.”
For our one year anniversary, we had planned a celebration with our family and friends who had not been able to attend our wedding the year before. We knew we were about seven weeks pregnant and did not want to tell anyone yet, until the first trimester had passed. At the party, we secretly smiled and Beth drank sparkling juice. Two days later, Beth felt pains in her lower back and miscarried our baby alone in our apartment. Oliver rushed home, and we lay on the bed and cried together.
A few months later, we decided it was time to start trying again because we both longed to be parents. This time, it took us several months, and in April 2015, we found out we were pregnant with our second baby, Bean, due around Christmas that year. We followed up with the doctors regularly, holding our breath each time until they would tell us our baby was growing just as expected. In May 2015, during a regular ultrasound, our baby’s heartbeat was weaker than expected. The following week, around nine weeks’ gestation, the heartbeat was gone. This time, Beth underwent a D&C procedure due to the miscarriage not occurring naturally.
We began trying again a few months after that but have not been successful in getting pregnant. We consulted with doctors and completed medical testing. By early 2016, all tests results showed that we should be able to conceive and carry a healthy baby to term. The results of the tests would have been a relief to some couples, but it left a nagging feeling for us – if we are healthy, why are we having trouble getting and staying pregnant? Our doctors had no answers but provided us with a phone number of a specialist who might advise us to undergo hormone or IVF treatments. We tried naturally for a few more months with no success.
In May 2016, we sat down to have a conversation about our options. Beth told Oliver she was thinking that there was a reason we couldn’t make the call to the specialist – maybe it wasn’t the right plan for us. Does biology really matter? Oliver surprised Beth by quickly agreeing that families are made by love, not by blood. From that moment on, the decision was easy – we would adopt. Immediately we felt at peace, and we have not looked back since.
We decided to work with Lutheran Family Services (LFS) through their domestic infant program. LFS stresses the importance of treating biological parents fairly, knowing that they make their decisions to put their children up for adoption out of love. This message resonated with us; we want our children to know they come from a place of love, not coercion. We shared our decision to adopt with our families and friends through an email announcement, and we have received an overwhelming amount of supportive words from friends and family.
We have already completed the initial background checks and are beginning our home study in November 2016. We will be updating this page as we move forward during the process. We are excited for the journey that lies ahead, and we appreciate all your support!
Organizer
Elizabeth Nakad
Organizer
Longmont, CO