UPDATE: As of April 3rd, 2017, it marks the one year date since we began our petition to adopt our boys. We are nearing the end of the discovery and disclosure period for our adoption trial. This process has been full of emotions, worries, and the determination to keep pressing forward no matter what. To date we have paid $30k + in legal fees in an effort to end the nightmare my wife and four resilliant sons endured for so long. On March 30th it was arranged for the man that abused my sons and wife to appear for a deposition as well as psychiatric testing to prove him mentally unstable, and having sexually abhorrent and violent tendencies, with the opportunity to take a polygraph to either confirm or deny the abuse committed. He did not appear for either appointment, Thus wasting thousands of dollars of prep work on the behalf of our lawyers, and the court recorder. We have many more expenses ahead of us, at times my wife feels like she is drowning, the weight of the challenges ahead of us, the worries, fears, and nightmares almost too much to handle. But we keep fighting, because it is all we can do. We cannot stop fighting, our boys lives, their safety, their well being, their futures are at stake. While financially we are in way over heads, we simply cannot put a price tag on the safety of our children. One would think that with the onging investigation by the OREM PD in regards to the sexual abuse of a minor as well as the physical abuse documented , testimony from therapists as well as DCFS workers and family members that witnessed the abuse, and the childrens own testimony that this battle would be an easier one, however it is not.
If there is any help you can give our family, any donation no matter how small, it would help our family greatly.
" Great things are done by a series of small things brought together." - Vincent Van Gogh
The boys have been thriving these past 28 months while there has been no contact with the man that abused them. They have been in therapy both with a private therapist as well as participating in group therapy through the Children's Justice Center. They are honorary members of BACA " Bikers against Child Abuse"
Caillou is now 10, he is active in scouting, he plays the ukelele, is excelling in art class at school and reaching so many goals, he no longer has night terrors and is gaining so much confidence.
Jasper is now 8, he once stuttered due to the lingering effects of years of abuse, he no longer stutters, and just 2 weeks ago he performed in his school's talent show SINGING a duet with his best friend. He is at the top of his class and a friendly helper to all his peers.
Ollie is 6 years old now, he struggles quite a bit still with fears and bad memories, but he is making great progress. He is a great reader, he loves yoga at school, and is a wonderful big brother to his baby sister Sunny.
Charlie is 4 and blessed to not remember too much of his life before. He is funny as can be and talks daily about becoming a daddy someday. He loves addition and is talking about numbers all day long.
Sunny Mae joined our family this past July and has truly been a ray of sunshine to our family.
Almost daily the boys ask " is court over?" They wish with all their hearts to be adopted and to never again have to worry about "him" coming back.
To read the beginning of our story and how this adoption petition came to be please read below......
Hi there, this is Adam, my friends and family already know my story.... but here goes for the rest of you! New Years Day January 2015 wasn't just the start of a new year for me, but the beginning of a whole new adventure in my life. On that day I met my future bride.... who also happened to be the mother of four boisterous , amazing, busy and wonderful boys. Very early on in our courtship I knew Heavenly Father wanted this girl to be my wife and that I was supposed to be the father of these wonderful boys, to provide, protect, and guide them. During our courtship my future bride Ashley was still in the midst of battling her violently abusive ex in court, doing all she could to protect the boys. She gained child protective orders, worked with DCFS and therapists, had the boys represented by a guardian ad litem, she utilized every resource she could to better protect the boys. During these tumultous battles fighting for the boys safety, wonderful moments were sprinkled in.... our first trip to California together where Ollie called me Daddy for the very first time while we played at the sports fields. Swimming at the rec center and Caillou excitedly saying "Dad" and repeating my new name as many times as he could with a smile from ear to ear. The boys asking me over and over again "when will you be my daddy?" as we waited for the legal battles to end so we could be married in the temple and become a family. We were married August 8th, 2015, the day was just as joyous for our boys as it was for me and my bride. Since that day I have been doing all within my power to protect and provide for my family. These boys are my sons, they chose me to be their father and I chose them to be my sons, we share a bond that goes far beyond DNA. My amazing sons have had zero contact for almost 2 years with the biolgical "father" that so severely abused them phsycially, mentally, and emotionally tormented them , they still live in constant fear of him coming back. I want with all my heart to adopt my sons, to take away their fears and to be their father in every way. Currently we are fighting with all our might to protect these boys and making them legally my sons. We are in the midst of an adoption battle within the Utah courts, petitioning for the termination of rights of their abuser and my ability to adopt my four wonderful sons. While the "father" has had zero contact with the boys and we have several grounds in which his rights could be terminated it is still a long and expensive process. We are working with a wonderful adoption lawyer and have the support and documentation from many, including DCFS and therapists. However the battle is costly and takes time. We have put our heart and soul and the entire contents of our piggy banks into this battle, and we will continue to work diligently to keep fighting the good fight. As you can imagine, supporting my four wonderful sons, my wife, and now my beautiful newborn daughter is already a big job, adding to that the continual growing legal fees involved with a contested adoption, it has been challenging. I have started this go fund me to humbly ask for your help, to help me to protect my sons, to help me to give my sons peace from their fears, to help me adopt my sons so they can legally and forever be free from the life they once lived, to help me make them my own so they can be sealed to us in the temple. Every donation made, no matter how big or small, will be forever appreciated. The funds from this fundraiser will be used entirely for the protection and adoption of my sons.
If there is any help you can give our family, any donation no matter how small, it would help our family greatly.
" Great things are done by a series of small things brought together." - Vincent Van Gogh
The boys have been thriving these past 28 months while there has been no contact with the man that abused them. They have been in therapy both with a private therapist as well as participating in group therapy through the Children's Justice Center. They are honorary members of BACA " Bikers against Child Abuse"
Caillou is now 10, he is active in scouting, he plays the ukelele, is excelling in art class at school and reaching so many goals, he no longer has night terrors and is gaining so much confidence.
Jasper is now 8, he once stuttered due to the lingering effects of years of abuse, he no longer stutters, and just 2 weeks ago he performed in his school's talent show SINGING a duet with his best friend. He is at the top of his class and a friendly helper to all his peers.
Ollie is 6 years old now, he struggles quite a bit still with fears and bad memories, but he is making great progress. He is a great reader, he loves yoga at school, and is a wonderful big brother to his baby sister Sunny.
Charlie is 4 and blessed to not remember too much of his life before. He is funny as can be and talks daily about becoming a daddy someday. He loves addition and is talking about numbers all day long.
Sunny Mae joined our family this past July and has truly been a ray of sunshine to our family.
Almost daily the boys ask " is court over?" They wish with all their hearts to be adopted and to never again have to worry about "him" coming back.
To read the beginning of our story and how this adoption petition came to be please read below......
Hi there, this is Adam, my friends and family already know my story.... but here goes for the rest of you! New Years Day January 2015 wasn't just the start of a new year for me, but the beginning of a whole new adventure in my life. On that day I met my future bride.... who also happened to be the mother of four boisterous , amazing, busy and wonderful boys. Very early on in our courtship I knew Heavenly Father wanted this girl to be my wife and that I was supposed to be the father of these wonderful boys, to provide, protect, and guide them. During our courtship my future bride Ashley was still in the midst of battling her violently abusive ex in court, doing all she could to protect the boys. She gained child protective orders, worked with DCFS and therapists, had the boys represented by a guardian ad litem, she utilized every resource she could to better protect the boys. During these tumultous battles fighting for the boys safety, wonderful moments were sprinkled in.... our first trip to California together where Ollie called me Daddy for the very first time while we played at the sports fields. Swimming at the rec center and Caillou excitedly saying "Dad" and repeating my new name as many times as he could with a smile from ear to ear. The boys asking me over and over again "when will you be my daddy?" as we waited for the legal battles to end so we could be married in the temple and become a family. We were married August 8th, 2015, the day was just as joyous for our boys as it was for me and my bride. Since that day I have been doing all within my power to protect and provide for my family. These boys are my sons, they chose me to be their father and I chose them to be my sons, we share a bond that goes far beyond DNA. My amazing sons have had zero contact for almost 2 years with the biolgical "father" that so severely abused them phsycially, mentally, and emotionally tormented them , they still live in constant fear of him coming back. I want with all my heart to adopt my sons, to take away their fears and to be their father in every way. Currently we are fighting with all our might to protect these boys and making them legally my sons. We are in the midst of an adoption battle within the Utah courts, petitioning for the termination of rights of their abuser and my ability to adopt my four wonderful sons. While the "father" has had zero contact with the boys and we have several grounds in which his rights could be terminated it is still a long and expensive process. We are working with a wonderful adoption lawyer and have the support and documentation from many, including DCFS and therapists. However the battle is costly and takes time. We have put our heart and soul and the entire contents of our piggy banks into this battle, and we will continue to work diligently to keep fighting the good fight. As you can imagine, supporting my four wonderful sons, my wife, and now my beautiful newborn daughter is already a big job, adding to that the continual growing legal fees involved with a contested adoption, it has been challenging. I have started this go fund me to humbly ask for your help, to help me to protect my sons, to help me to give my sons peace from their fears, to help me adopt my sons so they can legally and forever be free from the life they once lived, to help me make them my own so they can be sealed to us in the temple. Every donation made, no matter how big or small, will be forever appreciated. The funds from this fundraiser will be used entirely for the protection and adoption of my sons.