Nick Alexander memorial fund
My role: I am in Los Angeles, CA. I started this because, after 24 hours, I noticed that no one else had, and I wanted to do something that felt productive and positive. I have already spoken with an entertainment attorney who many of you know, and we have already spoken to tax counsel about the best way to set up this fund. It’s a weekend, so we will get more info on this as the week progresses.
If this isn’t the right time for you to make a donation – please know we hear you, we understand.
Today or tonight raise a glass to the memory of Nick Alexander a guy doing a simple job of touring with a band and selling t-shirts going new places and making new friends. Last night, he ended his journey in a small theater in Paris along with many others who's lives were cut short by hate, by misguided religion, by ignorance.
Here is to you my friend may you and the others from this tragic event find peace...
Dear Miguel, and everyone who has donated so far,
Wow. We, Nick's family, are truly overwhelmed by the unbelievable support we have been shown from across the world. We knew Nick had a lot of friends and had touched a lot of lives but we had no idea quite how many. To see donations from people who never met Nick but have been touched by his story alongside those from friends and colleagues in the music world is unbelievably touching and we cannot thank you enough for your kindness and support.
Miguel Benavides started this fund out of the goodness of his heart, from one touring brother to another. We have spoken to Miguel several times and I can assure you that all matters relating to the monies raised here are being handled by the correct legal and financial authorities, both here and in the US.
We are setting up a charitable trust in Nick’s name into which the monies will be transferred as soon as this is legally established. These things take time (days not weeks) and whilst this process has already begun, we hope you can appreciate that none of us expected to be doing this and our immediate priority has been to lay Nick to rest.
In the meantime, we have paused taking any further donations on the site until the UK Trust Fund has been established.
Tragically Nick died a young man and like many his age, gave little thought to the need to make provisions for his funeral, more than likely assuming that he still had plenty of time. This fund will be used to cover his funeral and memorial costs with the remainder to be held in the charitable trust.
Thank you all again for your support and a special thank you to Miguel without whom none of this would have happened.
Peace and light.
Zoe (Nick's sister).
Thank you all
We are overwhelmed with your lovely words. I have read this to my parents and they are so so happy with the statement so please do put it up on line.
Nick would be so happy with this and the money will be so helpful in organising what is going to be no ordinary funeral or memorial.
We are so grateful to you and everyone who is supporting you and we will be in contact soon.
Thank you again,
I would like to take the opportunity to express my deepest condolences to the friends, family, and loved ones of Nick and every single person who lost their lives or were injured in the recent attacks in Paris.
Also I wish to make clear my very simple desire in starting a fund for Nick was and is only to help.
For people that don’t know me, I spent years working with and touring with bands, and have been lucky enough to travel many parts of the world doing so. Many of these people are life-long friends. This is a tight-knit community that believes in taking care of their own, and anybody who has ever spent time on tour knows that the simple act of doing one’s job draws people together as a unit that deeply relies on one another. This is something many other professions have in common, and I imagine many people can relate to the desire to help when compatriots are in need.
During the hours after the attacks and as the news unfolded about Paris several close friends and I began to pursue any information we could get regarding the status of our friends we knew to be at the Bataclan that night, namely the members of the band(s), crew and related technicians. Eventually through a network of friends there was reliable confirmation that the worst case scenario had happened with Nick. I wish to state that my intent here was not to gather all of the details of the attack, but only to discover the safe status of friends.
I can say I was an acquaintance of Nick’s, and had a friendship that many of us have with those we meet at shows they, or we, are working on. I knew him to be an extremely good-natured, reliable, and nice person with whom I have crossed paths many times. We exchanged a lot of friendly conversation, and spent time together but I did not know him on the level that I knew many particular intimate details about his life and family outside of work.
Regardless, I do know how it is to suddenly lose people in life – and I know that when it comes to the horrible nuts and bolts of dealing with situations like this, one helpful thing that people can do is try to help cushion this one blow (it is certainly not the biggest), and it is in this spirit that I began the GoFundMe page early the morning after the attacks. I am amazed and so so thankful for the overwhelming response. It is obvious that the hearts of many others are in this as well.
I also wish to make it clear that I defer any further type of statement regarding Nick and the events that occurred to his family and loved ones. Also, the entirety of funds raised online are intended for the purpose of assisting in expenses related to the incredibly sad circumstances of Nick’s passing, and all decisions regarding use of these funds will be at the family’s discretion. Simply put - the money goes to the family, and they decide how it will be spent.
At this time, the family has kindly asked me to continue to stay involved until the fund has been transferred to them. Generously, Eagles of Death Metal management and several attorneys have donated time and legal help in assuring the transfer of funds goes correctly, and without placing any further and undue burden on the family at this difficult time. I wish to make absolutely clear that I, as an individual, will retain no lasting interest in how these moneys will be disbursed.
A number of people have expressed interest in being able to contribute over the next few weeks, so all parties are in agreement to keep the donation page active at this time.
Lastly, I would like to express my deepest gratitude to the people who have graciously taken the time to assist me with making this all possible.
With friendship, solidarity, and respect,
Being in the industry I can attest his job was not "simple". Touring bands, their crew, everyone involved in production not only spend hours upon hours away from family and friends but sacrifice so much more. Touring, being a musician, being in the industry as a professional is not for the weak at heart. This senseless violence, the needless murder and breath taking destruction of our colleagues and friends must stop. Tonight I raise my glass to a hero. To Nick, and thank him for his countless years dedicated to the industry. To being part of a crew to be a part of a bigger cause. My heart truly breaks for him and his cause. If there is anything more that someone such as myself can do; I openly invite those to reach out. Until then, remember, not all of something are bad. Pass no judgement on others and be the kind of person you'd want to meet. Xo
To anyone that might brought to this site via me...and all others...please know that I personally know Miguel and this 100% legit. This effort started as explained in the details of this page the Miguel created. Know that this is a fund that is made from the hearts of very good, honest, and true gentlemen trying to do a standup deed. Please feel free to reach out to me via FB should you have any questions. Sincerely, John LeDoux
I'm sobbing. I was still in shock over the Charlie Hebdo attacks, and this made me physically ill when I heard about it, yesterday. I met Nick once at a show he was working, he was so kind, and just listened to me ramble on and on about the band, he held the conversation with me, which isn't very common for me, people usually find my obsession with my favourite bands annoying, but he was just as enthusiastic. It was obvious that he was just such an amazing person, like an instant friend, even though I only met him that once, if that makes sense. I wish that I could donate, but I literally only have $0.56 to my name, am disabled and am broke until the 3rd., but I shared this on all of my social media pages, it's the least that I could do, I hope it helps. And his family and everyone else whose lives he touched, along with the families and friends of all of the other victims, are in my thoughts and prayers.
I have known Miguel for 22 years and I am not surprised that he jumped to action to begin this memorial fund. He has worked in production for many artists over the years & knows what it's like to be a part of that family of people behind the scenes that make the magic happen. While I did not know Nick Alexander personally, I know many who do. Thank you for doing this. There are so many in the music world who want to help & don't know how. RIP, Nick Alexander.
Being in the industry for only year, I've learnt that this job is life changing. Thank you for expressing that Christine! Mr Miguel Benavides, you have a heart of gold and thank you for setting this up! Whilst, I haven't spoken to you before. One thing can be identified straight away! Your one incredible person! ♥ My thoughts, prayers and love will continue to be with Nick's family and friends but also the people of Paris - #PrayForParis I wanted to make you are that I've posted the GoFundMe page on my website - https://www.musicology-online.co.uk/article/gofundme-page-set-up-for-eagles-of-death-metal-merchandise-manager-nick-alexander-who-died-in-paris-terrorist-attacks
So, does anyone on this page really, actually, with 100& certainty know Nick Alexander and his family? Its great everyone knows the guy who set it up, but even he says he didn't really know Nick, so before I would donate anything I would like to hear more, and NOT about the guy who set up the page. I don't believe this a disrespectful request and is not meant to undermine any truthful and honest actions, but it seems no one that knew Nick has posted on this site.
Whether or not this fund is a fraud, the goal of $25K has been reached - which will more than cover even the most exorbitant funeral expenses - so this fund should be closed from further donations. The deceased - may he rest in peace - wasn't much more than a roadie, and had no dependents, so any fund raising beyond "normal" funeral expenses is a clear cut case of fraud.
On 11-18-15 I reported this fund as being in violation of gofundme's terms of service, in particular in using factually incorrect information in the fund's description and its many references to Nick Alexander's "family." Nick Alexander is single and therefore has no family, whereas the fund is purportedly intended to "help his family." In the context of the fund’s description, “family” refers to Nick Alexander’s circle of friends, none of whom are financially dependent on him as would occur in the conventional sense of “family” being a parent and his/her children where there is a legitimate financial dependence. Use of the word “family” in this particular fund’s description is therefore misleading and intended only to enrich the fundraiser, who in this case is Miguel Benavides, who purports to be a long time friend of the deceased.
But this guy is single and doesn't support a family. It showed his girlfriend on TV but he has no financial obligations to her and his funeral will not cost the $87,000 so far raised. No one is financially dependent on him. This account should be closed so the donations of generous people can be directed elsewhere rather than to support a band that is fully intact and will continue to enjoy their touring. I therefore consider this particular fund to be somewhat of a fraud designed to capitalize on others sympathy.
With all due respect... is there any information you can post to assure donating parties that this money is going to go directly to Nick's family? This is not the first time that the Entertainment Industry has seen someone start a campaign, and then selfishly pocket the cash. Otherwise, I'm afraid the validity of this is called into question, and that is counter-productive for Nick's family.
What's gone on in the last 24 hours is a terrible thing. What our friend Miguel is doing is an absolutely beautiful thing. I vouch for Miguel and the validity of this account, for there aren't many humans I trust more than Mr. Benavides. I'm dj'n an event this evening and will be passing around a donation bucket. Whatever is raised, me and my wife Alicia will match knowing wholeheartedly that every penny will be put towards a beautiful well intended fund to help lessen the blow and ease the burden for the family of a fallen brother. Thank for allowing us the opportunity to help Miguel.
I CANNOT get over the comments people have left stating because this young man had no children, there's no need to raise a penny over the amount needed to pay for his funeral. In 2007 my fiancé and I were mugged and he was beaten to death by three men with baseball bats in front of me. I am far more familiar with senseless violence than I wish I were and let me tell you, the expenses don't stop when the funeral ends. The misery doesn't stop once the world moves on to its next news story. Yes there will be funeral costs, there will also be lost wages when his FAMILY are too distraught to work. Family being his parents, siblings, girlfriend and friends. There will be legal fees and so so many fees those not familiar with violent death don't know of. After my fiancés murder I had to sell my car. I couldn't stand to drive it without him beside me. I wanted to burn our bed but settled with buying a new one. Nicks loved ones may not react the same way that I did, but let me assure you there will he small expenses that add up quickly. That's not even touching the years of therapy the family may likely need. Seven years later and I still need therapy for PTSD and survivors guilt. I'm disgusted and ashamed of those calling this page fraudulent. No one is being forced, coherced or tricked into donating. People are donating because they chose to. Truly, those of you with only negative things to say, instead of flooding this page with negativity why don't you sit back, hold your loved ones and count your blessings that you are so ignorant to the hell yet to come for Nicks family. Be grateful in your ignorance. Be quiet.
I would like to say I have left every comment up on this page to show the transparency of this entire endeavor. If you don't want to donate please don't but I personally feel this is a gesture of caring and showing that we as individuals can make both a statement of caring and courage to show the world. To those who doubt the spirit and generosity of the music world and the people who support it , i say search inside yourself for what it is that makes you want to hate, or doubt And I hope you realize we are all here together on this world and need to care for each other, bridge the gaps of race and religion, country's of origin and find it in your heart to appreciate the people who have given to this symbol of unity Thank you one and all
This is a time for love and trust. I have met Miguel, and many in this lovely camp of people. They are very on the up and up. If you chose to trust and open your door with with a kind word, thought or a few dollars - the worst outcome is that you help a stranger in a dark time. If you aren't in a place to open your trust - then don't -- no judgement. But please try to really think about the weight of negative accusation on a kind soul trying to help. You aren't saving anybody with what I am hoping are your well intentioned concerns. Let's be good to each other.