Tragic accident please help family
Hi folks my name is Sonny Vincent. Some of you may know me from my music, tours and albums. . Most don't know my real name, it is Robert Ventura Jr. I need help. On Sunday January 2, 2016 our family was in a tragic accident. My son Rob, Sarah Ventura, and their son ( my grandson) Cayden Ventura (Age 9) were in a gas explosion that ignited into a blazing fire. Their injuries and the burns are extensive, The burns are 3rd degree and emcompas 50% of Robs body,50% of Caydens and the Mom suffers with 80%. They are each currently in the Burn Intensive Care Unit at Winston Salem Medical Center, and are on life support struggling for their lives. The explosion/fire destroyed everything they owned. There are several family members who are here supporting them. I despreartely need urgent assistance in taking care of them.
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It's still a tough road here. Cayden has had many appointments with many Doctors
We are checking the options and timeline for his next surgeries. That is so stressful and heartbreaking. My friends I must make a short update today because my schedule is always over booked with Cayden's appointments and taking care for everything he needs. Each month I barely make our bill's and we make it through because of you guys. Coming up are a couple of benefit albums but it will be many ,many months until that actualizes. My main concern right now is Cayden has grown out of all his clothes, everything is too small and I dont have money to buy him new stuff! He is really growing up, his voice is changing too!Also I have costs his Medicade does not pay, I must cover all those plus the monthly bills.
Please help us again. Every donation is appreciated. We live a very frugal lifestyle and only get by because of you. I'm working on a new deal with a record lable to re- release my catalogue but that also takes along time to actualize. Cayden is a happy boy and his surgeries will come soon. I want to make a lovely Christmas for this sweet angel. Can you help us get through another month? It's so needed and very appreciated. I cant wait till you guys meet Cayden when I take him on tour with me when this all stabilizes. He is still recovering and needs more reconstructive surgery. But we keep each other and aughing!
Have a great Christmas and Hannukah!! You are our hero's! Thank you!
Lots of Love from Sonny
P.S. - The photo is to show how far we have come. Never could have done this without you guys.
Update Friday November 16,2018
Cayden's card/letter to me, written a year ago ( see photo for original!). My sweet loving Grandson!
"Dear grandpa I feel bad that you had to stop your career but still pay bills for 'the cave'. But here's a gift, but all the gifts in the world couldn't fix this. This is only one of many and I love you with all my heart. There is not anything that can stop me giving you gifts even when you're dead I will lay flowers on your grave, I will cry when I do it. From Cayden your grandson.
Best Grandpa ever"
Cayden made this card for me last year. 'The Cave' is my studio in Holland where my guitar, my amps and all my belongings still are to this day. When the tragedy happened I ran to Cayden, Robbie and Sarah and I left everything in Holland except for the clothes on my back and $30.
Later when Cayden was discharged from the hospital and we were in our new rental home, Cayden wrote the card for me, unexpectedly and unprompted!!
He had heard me talking about my financial worries (which I try to keep away from him) and he wrote me this sweet note. He is so innocent and young. He didn't know the "when your dead" part is not really what one normally says. But that's him, very sweet as well as direct! I Love him so much!
My friends as you know Thanksgiving is coming up and I want to thank you all so very much for being beside us through this very tough time. We are again without money, resources, and I'm writing to you guys for help to get us through. I must pay the monthly bills. We only make it down the road because of you. Someday I will be able to tour and record again but Cayden still needs me everyday. It's a very tough road with many surgeries coming up for Cayden. Cayden only has two fingernails and it's tough for him to do normal things with his hands. Recently he said " Grandpa can they graft new fingernails onto my fingers?" I'm intensively looking into that.
We have a very important meeting with his surgeon the day before Thanksgiving to plan out the next surgeries because other than the fingernails there are still difficulties with his grafts contracting.
As you know Sarah is wheelchair bound but she has appointments and evaluations for prosthetic legs. We don't know if that's even possible.
I focus now on the fact that they all survived. It's a miracle and without you guys I wouldn't have been able to advocate so fiercely for them. It's been very hard on me emotionally , sometimes the stress and disappointments nearly broke me. But the help you, my friends, fans and Angels have given me gave me the support and strength to push forward, you guys made it so I could actually save them. I have no idea what would have happened to them if I wasn't there for them, and if you guys were not there for me. But you have been there for me. All of them nearly died many times. It was an intensive battle for me. Each day fighting through all the difficulties and setbacks. You were there each step of the way. Please stay with me, help me get through the upcoming challenges. Bless you all and thank you so very much.
I do my ultimate best to economize to make it through each month, but now I'm up against the bill's in a desperate way.
Please donate any amount. Please don't forget to share this update!
Thanksgiving will be a very special day this year for us. Cayden will be cuddling and snuggling with his Mom and Dad ! And I (Grandpa) will be smiling!
I can't express how special it will be.
Love from Sonny
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The reason for the infrequency of my updates is because of all going on.
Cayden needed more evaluations and Doctor appointments . It's clear now that although I have tried every resource and contact that Caydens hands are going to be very problematic. They are very knarled and messed up.
I'm totally out of money again. Just woke up in a panic. Please help.
Even within all this Cayden is a very happy boy. He was bugging me to let him do his hair blue! We discussed it- " Cayden you are already a target for staring etc, with a face graft" . He said " I don't care,I'd like it blue!" , then I said " Considering You're going to be going to a new school now maybe you should go there for a week or 2 to check out 'the lay of the land ' and to see how kids are gonna treat you, before you show up with a face graft and body grafts and blue hair!!" . Well he went to school for a couple of weeks and actually made a bunch of new friends and said he still wanted his hair blue. So here are pictures of him in, all his glory, with blue hair!!!
As you know my friends I'm doing my very best over here. It definitely has not been easy for me often. Been so long since I've been able to play, tour or make albums like I used to. I do get depressed about it. It's been over 2 years, I even mentioned to a friend on fb that I should just have a funeral for 'Sonny Vincent'.
Please don't be alarmed though I know I have to be a warrior/ advocate and I just have to do with this stuff.
Aside from all that something that just pushes me into depression is this feeling of uncertainty. I used to be so independent and never asked for anything. Now it's the end of the month and we have difficulty paying our bills. A lot was collected over time but it's all gone to expenses. As I said before I live very modestly. In the house we didn't even run the air conditioner , not even one time this summer because we wanted to save money.
You guys of always helped me out of a jam, Please send what you can every donation is very very helpful. Please use the real name on the card that you're using to donate because a lot of donations are turned back and refunded because the people using nick names on the form. I really hate to ask but you guys have been such angels to us, please help me out keep making this boy happy and help me getting him through this tragedy, He has surgeries coming up and I just spoke to all his teachers about how he's going to miss time in school. They're gonna give me all his work for during the time he misses school for surgeries.
Please continue to support us. One of these days I'll bring Cayden on tour with me and we will be able to thank you personally. It will be so wonderful to see you all! For now please have our backs and help me get through all this. Every donation helps and is so appreciated.
Thanks my friends! Sonny and Cayden !!!
But there are no comprehensive discussions about that. then again I can understand that there is no need for an avenue of discussion because the growth plates simply are closed. Recently I've been seeking out other advice and information. But it seems that all the advice leads to the same conclusion, we can only move forward from this point. it's very heartbreaking to look at Cayden's hands, but as I said we can only move forward from the point his hands are at now, There is no going back to a time when the healthcare system in general could have provided him with better services so his hands now would be in better condition. It's true that there was massive damage done by the fire but it's also true that the ball was dropped and things could have developed better. These days, they do not send burned children to the hospital they sent Cayden to ( for physical therapy ) because (like I said) they have no experience with kids who were severely burn. It's all so complicated and I'm always working so hard fighting the system, fighting so hard trying to get Cayden the best recovery. You guys have no idea how sad I am sometimes and how overworked I am sometimes from all this. I think I have developed PTSD from this experience. When I drive the hundred fifty miles to the hospital with Cayden and I see the name of the city, I already become nervous and in a different state of mind. When I enter the hospital and the nurses and doctors are all in a hustle passing by as Cayden and I navigate through the hallways , I am filled with anxiety, I dont show it, I must be Cayden's strong Grandpa.Its all so tough though. Because of this experience each unknown staff person,nurse and Doctor I see is automatically segregated in my mind as an enemy until they have proven to be an ally. This system is so ruled by money and incompetence it's mind-boggling. All that being said I truly truly do not want to slight or put in a bad light the dedicated Soulful people that have helped. But rather than being a harmonious collaboration between the Health Care system and my family, it's been a combative struggle, for me and them. I thank God they all survived this but this has been a massive struggle and sometimes my soul becomes very weary and threadbare from the constant battle. Cayden's Mom has still has so many problems, she is constantly being let down and the ball is constantly being dropped and her condition suffers from it all. Due to clerical errors her Medicare was stopped twice! As you guys know one of the times that her health insurance was discontinued they sent her away to a place to die.
I am doing my very best to navigate them through all this. It's very very heartbreaking at times but there definitely is a shining light on all of us. Cayden, Sarah and Rob have all survived this tragic accident. The surgeon and many of the staff are wonderful. And I am doing all I possibly can to help them get the best recovery.
Pretty soon Cayden starts school again! I definitely don't look forward to getting up at 6 in the morning each day, but seeing this little boy smile and seeing him so happy is such a great joy. I do have sleepless nights worrying about the future and our financial situation. Cayden needs a whole set of school clothes ans supplies. He gew out of everything!
Once again we are nearly broke and I really need to reach out to you my friends fans and Angels to help us. Please to continue to support us. There are so many costs not covered by Cayden's health insurance. So much of this journey includes costs that I must pay direct. Lately I have been utilizing many outside consultations. The fees are exorbitant when paying out of pocket. And still after all of that massive expense, I am left with the discovery that we can only move forward and do the best we can. We are blessed that his surgeries and his future surgeries are covered with his health insurance. I have confidence that the track we are on is still the best choice. And as I said earlier I have always had confidence in his surgeon. But aside from his ongoing surgeries there are many other costs involved in his recovery, plus all the bills piling up each month. I want to thank you all for helping me manage all this. We are going forward. If we had to depend on the system we be living under a bridge literally.
It's only through your donations and the kindness of all my friends that we are able to move forward. With you guys helping me I can help them reach the best recovery possible. Throughout all this Cayden has been a very joyful boy. He knows what you have all done for him. Thank you so much. Please continue to help us.
Bless you guys, please donate what you can. Lots of Love from Sonny.