Tragic accident please help family
Hi folks my name is Sonny Vincent. Some of you may know me from my music, tours and albums. . Most don't know my real name, it is Robert Ventura Jr. I need help. On Sunday January 2, 2016 our family was in a tragic accident. My son Rob, Sarah Ventura, and their son ( my grandson) Cayden Ventura (Age 9) were in a gas explosion that ignited into a blazing fire. Their injuries and the burns are extensive, The burns are 3rd degree and emcompas 50% of Robs body,50% of Caydens and the Mom suffers with 80%. They are each currently in the Burn Intensive Care Unit at Winston Salem Medical Center, and are on life support struggling for their lives. The explosion/fire destroyed everything they owned. There are several family members who are here supporting them. I despreartely need urgent assistance in taking care of them.
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Hi Friends- Again I must write a quick update. The days are long with lots of appointments for Cayden and tons of driving!
I'm bringing Cayden to his hand/ body therapy sessions 3 days a week. He gets out of school and we drive to Arden, NC . The drive takes 30-40 minutes each way. Cayden has his therapies and we drive home, arriving home between 6:30 and 7:00. Then I make dinner and while I do that Cayden does his homework. After that he showers, does a bit of online games and then I tuck him in bed. Next morning it's up at 6 am to get him ready for school. Monday nights is his Boyscout meeting and I'm there with him. Starting this Friday he will playing soccer after school in a team I signed him up for.
It's always a busy week!
Something I want to share is that last weekend was Cayden's first weekend at a Boyscout camp out! Before the camping we had to drive 150 miles in the opposite direction of the camp site to go the hospital in Winston-Salem where Cayden had an assessment. We spoke to the surgeon about the upcoming surgeries that Cayden needs. Then we drove home and he went to school for a day ( it's important he doesn't miss school days).The next day on Friday we drove 4 hours to Santee South Carolina, following the Troop in a convoy to the camp area! Although Cayden still has difficulties with his hands, arms and legs, the camping was really, really great for him. He was in heaven! The kids had no interference from us adults other than the fact that we could usually see them from our vantage point (The kids tents were around 30-50 yards from me and the Troop Leaders). The boys had to make fires, prepare their own food and basically be independent and survive the wild! The kids were two per tent and the adults slept in single tents alone ( thanks Steve, Jenn and friends for the camping gear!). Cayden learned a lot and I did as well. I was able to 'let go' a bit. Ever since the days of being with him in the Intensive Care Ward I have been watching him closely and keeping him safe from harm. The nurses taught me how to watch the values on his monitor, blood pressure, heart rate, oxygen. They said when the oxygen gets too low for a person to live a red light will flash and a loud alarm will sound. That happened. It happened one night at 3am as I slept next to him. I jumped up and quickly leaned over him and yelled " Breathe Cayden!!! Breathe!!!". He woke up and his eyes widened. Suddenly he tried to breathe. I kept yelling " Breathe hard Cayden!!" And finally his oxygen level got sufficient. It was so hard my friends. I can still cry about those moments. Later he was discharged and we found a home. Robbie and Sarah we're still in the hospital. At this point Cayden's hands were frozen solid in a fixed non functioning position, that also was so very scary and then all the stress of the multipul surgeries, which can be fatal, I think you all will understand that after all the things we have been through that I have been protecting him and guarding him. But now for Cayden's own good, Grandpa has to be smart and I have been ' letting go' a bit so Cayden can achieve as much independence in his motion and the way he connects to the world as possible. I want Cayden live life to it's fullest. Oh yeah, back to camping! So although camping is not this punkrocker's cup of tea, and sleeping in a tent is not my favorite thing, there I was for the full weekend. Cayden actually said " that was the best sleep I've had in my whole life!!!" So I guess he is the outdoorsman in the family!!!
He was trained in building a small fire, using an axe and knife, tieing knots and received advancement for his efforts.
So although he has physical limitations, he pushes through! It was so wonderful to see him in the distance filled with joy, having a blast with his friends. Later after his upcoming surgeries he will not be able to do too much because there is a long recovery time and we have to start the process all over in terms of stretching and getting his hands and body to regain range of motion. His body grows but the grafts do not, so it's a constant battle of surgeries under anesthesia, regrafting, taking skin from other parts of his body, etc
So now we keep the action going! We arrived home late Sunday!
Day after tomorrow is his first soccer practice! He will not play as well as he could have before because his body is all grafted, but I know Cayden, he will have a blast and I'll be there on the sidelines! Some other good news is that finally, a while ago, Medicade provided some of the equipment Cayden needs to keep his body moving and keep range of motion.
I still need to buy medical supplies but nothing major anymore.
But that being said I still have lots of stress worrying about paying rent and our monthly bills. I wish I could still do tours but that's not possible at the moment. Could you guys help us? Each time my back is against the wall you guys come to our rescue. I know it's going on and on but it's my reality. I spent my life independent, doing my music and art, totally self reliant never a burden on other folks but this situation brings a good man to his knees sometimes. We definitely have our joys but it's not easy!
Please continue to help us and support us. Every donation helps. Help me keep doing my best. One of these days I'll meet you guys on one of my tours and that will be so great to see you my friends, to meet the Angels who got us through this hard time. Thanks so very much.
P.S. Sarah is in an apartment near the hospital, finally out of the hospital after 2 years ( more on that in my next update!) And an update on Robbie is coming soon as well! Rob and Sarah have been through so much too.
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A video of Cayden is coming up soon!!
Below is the latest update info. Merry Christmas my friends!! Please share, thanks!
I am gearing up to give Cayden a great Christmas ! He will have surgeries coming up in the near future and now I have time to do my best to make him a very happy boy. Thank you so much for your support, please remember us, any donations will help.
Sarah is facing the surgeries I reported.
Since I've been her Health Care Guardian I have deleted all the mind drugs and drugs she was negatively reacting to from her daily meds list. She is now very sharp mentally. That's a blessing. She needs all her strength to face this next surgery.
She has asked me to no longer post photos of her body and I will be respecting that. Please remember her in your prayers. Rob my son ( her husband) will be helping her in the rehab hospital after the surgery and her Mom and Dad will be there for some days as well as her friend Sarah ( same name).
For now I am focused on Cayden, I signed him up for Boyscouts and I am still bringing him to his hand therapy appointments throughout the week. He is going to have surgeries during his entire childhood but he is doing better than ever and he is very happy. If you can please donate a small amount I'll buy him a gift on your behalf! Thanks and please share. This is a long road I'm on here, I can't tour or record anymore, all your help is so very much appreciated and needed. Have a great Christmas my friends! Someday I want to meet each one of you and thank you!- Sonny