Tragic accident please help family
Hi folks my name is Sonny Vincent. Some of you may know me from my music, tours and albums. . Most don't know my real name, it is Robert Ventura Jr. I need help. On Sunday January 2, 2016 our family was in a tragic accident. My son Rob, Sarah Ventura, and their son ( my grandson) Cayden Ventura (Age 9) were in a gas explosion that ignited into a blazing fire. Their injuries and the burns are extensive, The burns are 3rd degree and emcompas 50% of Robs body,50% of Caydens and the Mom suffers with 80%. They are each currently in the Burn Intensive Care Unit at Winston Salem Medical Center, and are on life support struggling for their lives. The explosion/fire destroyed everything they owned. There are several family members who are here supporting them. I despreartely need urgent assistance in taking care of them.
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P.S.- one of these days I'm going to do a tour again and I'll run into all you guys and I'll be passing out major hugs! We feel blessed you guys stuck by us. Lots of Love from Sonny and Cayden
We are so blessed that we have all the equipment we need. After a surgery it is so important, thank you friends. Now I mainly have to buy the dressings, and supplies that Medicade doesn't cover. It's a lot of stuff because it must be constantly changed. At this time I am also worrying about our bills.Please keep supporting us, everything helps. I have no other means of support, only you guys.
Other news and updates-
Sarah is living in an apartment near the hospital (150 miles from us) . Finally, fina.lly, finally she is out of the hospital. Her Mom is there with her in the apartment and she is taking care of Sarah. Its best she is near the hospital. Rob also goes there to be with Sarah from time to time. I'm very proud of Rob , he has gone through so much and he is also going every day for the best recovery.
I will bring Cayden to visit his Mom for a weekend before his surgery.
Please continue to help me take care of this sweet boy.
The road is still hard for me, I'm still taking care of Cayden 24/7 and I haven't had time to even strum a guitar in over two years! But this path, this dedication is what I do. With Love.
Cayden recently received a trophy for soccer, he really applied himself. Certainly he would be able to play soccer better if he didn't have these injuries that have twisted his body, but he doesn't get set back by his situation, he is a cheerful happy kid. I bring him to Boyscouts every Monday evening, he Loves the structure and interaction with the other Scouts. He is advancing in rank!! Along with helping Cayden achieve the best physical recovery possible, I work hard to teach him values and to guide him. Something I have worked on with Cayden is an ability to not let his injuries define him. He is a handful and as a 12 year old kid he naturally challenges all borders I set for him! But he does see the value of things like getting proper sleep, going into nature and doing chores. But don't get me wrong, this kid is a real joy ! We have our jokes and I Love to crack him up!!
Taking care of him, I have really had to come to terms with losing my own life as I knew it before. I can't tour and make albums anymore, all the advocating, appointments, school, cooking , laundry etc and basic helping is very intensive. I've lost the way I connected to the world. But I know that for now I am on a new path. Im happy to be there for this wonderful child. Another thing I wanted to mention is that I found a great counselor for Cayden. She has extensive experience with kids who were badly burned. Cayden was burned with 3rd degree deep tissue burns over 51 percent of his body.
At some point he might develope issues, the councilor can help prepare him, unfortunately she doesn't take Medicade so that must be paid out of pocket by me.
I researched and found her after months searching. I had to avoid the pill pushers, those are the ones Medicade will pay for. I feel Cayden will benefit from this kind of counselor who is experienced for years with young kids who were in tragic accidents, many with face grafts like Cayden..He is very happy now and busy with many activities but a counselor who is experienced in what he will go through later, as he gets older , can offer invaluable help to Cayden and provide him with ' tools for his toolbox' in dealing with his life as he develops.
My friends, thank you all so very much for helping us during these hard times.. I constantly embrace Cayden and we speak of and think of how blessed we are that you all have helped us.
I can't explain how beautiful it is to tuck this sweet boy into bed each night. Sometimes I look at Cayden and say " We made it!" He knows what I mean. Its been a long way since he was on life support in the Intensive Care ward. And I have to be honest , we made it through all this in a great part due to your Love and support. So many times all three of them ( Rob, Sarah and Cayden) were teetering on the edge of a cliff with little chance of survival.
My friends I haven't done an update in a while because it's not easy for a person with my background to ask for help, also because our days are filled with driving to appointments, driving Cayden to his activities, getting him to the bus stop for school and so much more that goes into his recovery. At this time we are blessed that we have all the splints and machines. I need to keep Cayden progressing, specially after the surgeries. Unfortunately I lost my way of making money. I basically toured my whole life and made albums. Its so strange to me now, but I was on tour most of my life!Maybe someday when Cayden is older I could play again. But for now this is my path. At the moment we are quite desperate. As I said, I'm not used to asking for help, I've always been very self sufficient. But I really do need your help. I have to get Cayden past this next surgery and back to his normal earth shaking pre teener actions!! Please help me keep paying the rent, travel expenses to his therapies, clinic appointments ( 150 miles away) monthly bills etc. I will also have to start paying for the counselor as well. I live very modestly, all your help has greatly contributed to getting Cayden to where he is today. Please continue your support, every donation helps us. Without you guys we really would have been lost. Sincerely, with lots of Love- Sonny
Hi everybody ! Tomorrow is Cayden's birthday!! 12 years old ! Thank you all so very much for helping us through this very tough time. Never could have come this far without you all by our side. The Love and support has humbled me and has shown me real beauty. Thank you.
Cayden has a surgery coming up so I am going to make him a nice birthday before that happens. Right now he doesn't have to deal with dressings, bandages, stitches and recovery, so it's a chance to make it fun and special for him.
Cayden's birthday means so much to me. This sweet boy made it through a lot. Thanks my friends for being there for us!! Lots of Love,
I want to let all of you sweethearts know that this Thursday April 19th is little Cayden's Birthday. I am honored to tell you that. You have all been there for us so closely and this story would have been very, very different without your Love and supoort.
Coming up next month in May we have to go to the hospital and we will set another appointment for a very serious reconstruction surgery for Cayden's left hand and more surgery on his face. Each time he goes into surgery it's terrifying for me. There are so many risks and I must advocate and make sure that he will be safe. I have had many meetings with his Surgeon and the Anesthesia department Now at this upcoming meeting to we will establish the exact date of the surgery.
After the surgery there will be a week or two recovery time. During that time I will be busy changing his dressings, doing everything I have learned to fight against infection ( there is a great danger he could lose fingers if an infection takes hold inside). Then as his hand heals it will contract so it's very important that I (and his therapist) keep doing the daily intensive range of motion excercizes. It's so important that it must be done even during the time his hands have wounds and stiches. Also I must keep him caught up in his school work, since he misses so much classroom time.
It's so much, before he showers I wrap his hand in plastic wrap,plastic bags and tons of tape so that no water gets into his dressings/bandages. I then spary his wounds with disinfectant solution and redress everything. Cayden's surgeries and post surgery protocols are very tough and I dedicate myself night and day to insure a good recovery.
You guys have always been there for us and again I ask if you our loyal Angels reading this could contribute any amount that you can to help us to pay our bills that are coming up. Please help me provide the best recovery for little Cayden. Rob and Sarah are also on a tough road, they are progressing slowly but in a positive direction.
As you all know my whole life and career has come to a complete halt. No way for me to tour or record albums for now. My entire source of income stopped and I am on a new path for now as a caregiver and five star Grandpa!
Even though Cayden has many physical issues he is still doing his best in soccer ( his team won yesterday!) and he was recently decorated with advancement in the Boy Scouts, he is certified as ' Scout' and is now working on ' Tenderfoot!!'.
Two of his friends from school will have a weekend sleep over this coming weekend! Yours truley will be bringing them to a trampoline/ climbing extravaganza place for Cayden's birthday!
Could I ask you to share this post and please donate anything you can to keep us safe? I worry each night about how to keep going, how to pay all these bills with no source of income. But with your Love and kindness we are making it through. Cayden's upcoming surgeries are going to impact our lives profoundly. I really want to make him a happy boy on this birthday this Thursday and give thanks/ celebrate how far he has come!
One of these days I'll tour again and Cayden and I can thank you in person! That will be so wonderful! For now please keep helping us ! Thanks so much for standing beside us! Sonny
P.S - I made a short video clip of Cayden for this update!