Tragic accident please help family
Hi folks my name is Sonny Vincent. Some of you may know me from my music, tours and albums. . Most don't know my real name, it is Robert Ventura. My son and his family need help. On Sunday January 2, 2016 our family was in a tragic accident. My son Robert Ventura, Sarah Ventura, and their son. ( my grandson) Cayden Ventura (Age 9) were in a gas explosion that ignited into a blazing fire.Their injuries and the burns are extensive, The burns are 3rd degree and emcompas 50% of Roberts body,50% of Caydens and the Mom suffers with 80%. They are each currently in the Burn Intensive Care Unit at Winston Salem Medical Center, and are on life support struggling for their lives. This fund is set up to help them get on their feet after their lengthy recovery and to help them through their rehabilitation. The explosion/fire destroyed everything they owned. There are several family members who are here supporting them. We despreartely need urgent assistance in taking care of them. Our immediate needs only include food, transportation, and shelter. The rest of this fund will be given to Robert, Sarah and Cayden.
A special note is that Roberts father is the Musician Sonny Vincent,
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Hi my friends-
Updated by Robert Ventura ( Sonny Vincent)
It has been a long time since I made an update. The reason is because this situation is so very hard and stressful that everyday I am drained and exhausted beyond where it's manageable. The daily struggles and challenges are complicated by sleepless nights. Nights filled with worry and sadness. But I always dig deep to be strong and do my best to take care of my family. I wish it was only caring for them, house work, taking care for their recovery, treatments and surgeries but the added stress of a bureaucracy and heartless system wears me down. I must engage in endless negotiations and actions to get them cared for medically. I'm sure many of you know what I mean, going through similar struggles. I don't know where to start. There is a limitation in terms of how much text fits here. I will make a short update so my fans, friends, and Angels who have supported us can be informed.
Sarah was on the critical list many times since my last update. She has been in the hospital system now for over a year. She was deemed ' incompetent'by the Hospital. That meant a court appointed guardian. When the Medicare insurance stopped elements of the hospital system absolutely wanted her out. Pressure was applied on the guardian and the guardian put Sarah in a welfare nursing home to die. A place on an internet list of the worst hell holes in the USA. I went there with Cayden and it was disgusting and horrible. Sarah had already given up. We walked in and saw the light was gone from her eyes. Cayden cried and heaved uncontrollably. We were not prepared for this. Sarah was dieing.The place was filled with the stench of urine, feces, and death. Cayden had to literally brush the cockroaches off of his Mom and her bed. I told Sarah" hold on", I told her she must be strong that we would somehow get her out. We begged her to be strong. She was lying in bed with huge open non healing wounds in a place covered in feces and cockroaches. I never expected it as bad as it was. A welfare Pallitive/Hospice. I had to act,even though it put my own freedom at risk. The ' Guardian' had already hung the phone up on me earlier that day. The ambulance driver who brought Sarah to that he'll whole almost did not drop her there, he saw it was no place for someone in her condition. but he would have lost his job over. He did file a report. It's a long story but myself and my daughter Michelle risked jail time in sneaking Sarah out. Through determination we literally got her out of there on a weekend when the staff was not full of Nazi's and got her to an emergency room. The shift had changed at the hell hole and Michelle got a sympathetic staffer to order an ambulance. Sarah had been there for a week. We did it, we got her out. It was a miracle. It had always been my ' Plan B'for Sarah as I watched her lose touch with her rights and slip through the hands of the people at the hospital who care. I knew getting her to any emergency room would start a process over. Once she arrived at the emergency room the Doctors assessment was she needed more intensive care and they put Sarah back in the hospital where she belonged. It was a shame because previous to all that, the previous weeks Rob was in the hospital sleeping in a chair taking care of Sarah and she gained weight and was recovering.But the guardian blocked Rob from going to this Palliative/Welfare Hospice place. A was a place to die in filth. Now as I said she is back in the hospital. I talk to her everyday now. Her surgeon did not know she was discharged to such a place. She is back in good hands but we don't know for how long. There are many, many people at the hospital that care for Sarah but somehow she got caught in a shuffle that's all about money. She is getting a little bit better but more confused with memory and cognitive skill losses. We hired a Lawyer to put forth a motion for Sarah to regain her own rights. Very expensive. We don't know how long before they want to discharge her again. Places that are clean don't take Medicare patients and now all our money collected here is gone on Medical bills, payments out for what's not covered by Medicade physical therapy for Robert, machines for Cayden's hands, an endless list. Add to that our rent, water, electric. I am in big trouble. Tomorrow I must go to the food bank and start thinking of a new place to live with lower rent. Cayden is happy but we were never told properly that his skin grafts do not grow. They will contract always and because he is a child he will need surgies his whole life, till he is full grown and beyond. His hands grow but the graft skin does not. Now his hands are regressing. His sweet hands are twisted, knarled and bent. I need help, the money is gone, I'm still in the clothes I arrived in.I am an honorable man, I spend nothing on myself, it all goes for their recovery. . We are falling through the cracks my friends. Please help. We all know that all this could be allocated by one very wealthy person donating. I could put Sarah in a proper place with a top nursing staff for $250 per day. But we know the folks that could help often don't. What I have and depend on are my music fans, friends and angels. Please help me keep them on a road to recovery. Thanks so very much. Every donation helps. - Sonny-
Sorry about the typos and auto-correct
This morning Cayden had another procedure.This time I asked if they could do it in the clinic rather then the operating room. In the operating room they always have him on anaesthesia and intubate him ( breathing tube) and they administer lots of strong medicines that take many hours to metabolize. A very long time, around 4-6 hours till he can come back to his usual energy level. Its really too much for his 10 year old body and its all day in the operating room. Luckily the staff agreed that this time Cayden could go through the procedure of removing the cast, bolsters and stitches in the clinic without the whole operating room action. He was a real trooper. I was allowed to remove the cast and to do a lot of the major dressing change, it all worked out for the best. Afterwards he was fit and happy again, jumping and laughing. 5 minutes after the procedure ( that took only 1 hour) he was his normal self! Since he wasn't sedated we could visit his Mom Sarah. She is still in trouble, her legs are twisted and not functional. She also just had more graft surgery. It will be a long road to recovery but today there was light and joy in her eyes. We stayed and I fed her the midday meal ( her hands are not functional).Then Cayden and I left for a couple of hours because Sarah had OT and PT. Later we came back to Sarah again. Cayden helped me feed her dinner this time if I wrap a few napkins around the handle of a spoon Cayden can kind of hold it), we talked and I helped the nurse change Sarah's dressings. I also showed Sarah the photos I have been taking from the start. It was all cathartic for us. The visit was a very lovely time and it was so beautiful to see Sarah and Cayden embracing. It has been one of my life's goals to see them embrace and bond. They adore each other. At some points during the visit we were all in tears. She was so sad to see her little boy all burned and scarred. I was so sad to see her cry, often throughout this I also have looked at Cayden and burst out crying. I look at Cayden and get overwhelmed. When Robert saw Caydens hands he cried and heaved. It has been very emotional for all of us. Sarahs recovery will be a long road but she knows we are there for her. Cayden can use his left hand a little bit, he still can't make a fist but he can pinch between his thumb and index finger. The right hand has pins in it. I just now paid for and ordered a machine the surgeon said Cayden desperately needs. Its called a CPM and it is electric/ mechanical, it moves his hand. If I stop working on his hand even for an hour it goes back to being stiff and unmovable, with thr machine we can keep it going between the other therapies.The tragic news about the machine is that Medicade refuses to pay for the rental of the machine. The system is awful and really doesnt care. Its shocking. The machinge is expensive to rent, $ 120 dollars per day. I pre- paid for a month, but he will need it more. They wouldn't let us have it till I did a deposit and pre- pay. He will also have to have it on at night. Please continue to donate and support sweet Cayden. It arrives this coming week. Today we can drive home but In 3 weeks we go back to the hospital. I have to keep working on his hande. Between everything I'm in the process of catching him up with his classes. He misses a lot of school because of his surgeries. Yay! We go home tomorrow! Thank you for being there my friends - Sonny
We are always thinking of the Ventura family and sending healing thoughts everyday. Cayden's friends want him to know that they miss him and are behind him 1000% in his recovery. He is our most special Ivy Hawk! The Barnardsville Community is ready to support you all when you come home. We love you! (Danna Knight, Principal of Barnardsville Elementary School)
Robbie, Sarah and Cayden, we are praying for you continuously. We are surrounding you in prayer and love. Everyone - Beam your heart energy to the entire family, Michelle, Sonny and Dominic, hang in there. Sonny and Michelle, we understand how exhausting it is to be with loved ones who are fighting for their lives. We send you strength and peace as you go through this. Call me if you need anything. How do we donate to you Michelle, for your transportation costs and food? FYI, Maura is fighting for her life as well. Much Love, Susan and Christina
Sonny there are no words to express how heart wrenching this is to read - we feel such complete and utter sadness for you all and hold onto hope that things will take a positive turn. I'm always hesitant to "like" your posts because there is nothing to like about what you are all going through. Sending love ❤️
We are thinking of Cayden everyday! This month we are holding a clothing drive for him through AMPed Up Kids Consignment & Boutique in Weaverville. You can learn more about this here: https://www.facebook.com/events/1674486186141768/. Continue to let us know how we can help from Barnardsville Elementary School. We love you Cayden!