Tragic accident please help family
Hi folks my name is Sonny Vincent. Some of you may know me from my music, tours and albums. . Most don't know my real name, it is Robert Ventura Jr. I need help. On Sunday January 2, 2016 our family was in a tragic accident. My son Rob, Sarah Ventura, and their son ( my grandson) Cayden Ventura (Age 9) were in a gas explosion that ignited into a blazing fire. Their injuries and the burns are extensive, The burns are 3rd degree and emcompas 50% of Robs body,50% of Caydens and the Mom suffers with 80%. They are each currently in the Burn Intensive Care Unit at Winston Salem Medical Center, and are on life support struggling for their lives. The explosion/fire destroyed everything they owned. There are several family members who are here supporting them. I despreartely need urgent assistance in taking care of them.
Please help and share this.
Hand reconstruction surgery is very intense and invasive. Cayden made it through. He was less anxious than he was in past surgeries, but none of it is easy on him. Here in the photo you can still see the marker lines the surgeon drew on Cayden's hand just before the surgery. Cayden has advanced so much that he helped with taking the bandages and the cast/splint off himself! We must stay here near the hospital for another couple of days to monitor his hand, in case something goes wrong. Rob comes to Sarah today and the three of them can spend some time together! I'll get a photo of the three of them together!
On Sunday Cayden and I will drive home because on Monday he has his first post surgery hand therapy. Even with the wounds and stitches still there on his hand we must do a lot of special agressive bending and stretching exercises to get maximum motion and function back to his hand. This whole thing over the past few weeks has really been tough. Lots of stress and meetings. Now I must keep his hand free of all infection and get this boy back to riding a bike again!! Thanks for standing beside us my friends. Please continue to support me in taking care of Cayden. As you can imagine the bills and costs are always so much. Someday I will get back to touring and recording but for now its my friends and Angels who protect us. Thank you all so very much. Lots of Love from Sonny
We went on a nature hike and then in the evening we went to a movie (Antman and The Wasp, *thanks Dianne and Mike R !!) . He was super happy to see a movie and he was singing and humming all the way home.Tuesday its another 150 miles drive there to the hospital and 150 miles back. Definitely Cayden will spend some time with his Mom while we are in Winston - Salem! Also Rob Cayden's Dad -my son, will be there together with Cayden and Sarah. Sarah and Rob are doing better and better. Its still a long road to recovery for them, as well, but there is great progress. I'll send photos of the three of them together!
After the hospital appointment and the visit with Sarah and Rob, Cayden and I drive home. Then I must keep Cayden's left hand totally free from any infection and I must begin the movement therapy as well, right away. I must utilize all what I learned throughout the last 2 years and in the Intensive Care Burn Ward. Like I said, I must keep Cayden's left hand free from infections, I have developed methods where I can achieve results at home, similar to the debriding and dressing changing they do at the hospital. Its very important to be focused and 'on point' with this. Any infection could cause him to lose fingers. Cayden and I have met Burn survivors who lost fingers because of infections. I asked one young woman who had also been in a tragic accident a question " what's the one thing that you most regret not doing for your recovery and treatment?" She replied " Not letting my Mom and Dad change my dressings often enough and not doing my hand exercises and Therapy sessions".
That was a huge ' heads up' for me!!
I'm very trained now and experienced in keeping Cayden's hands free from infection and I do his hand excercises all day as well as bringing him to his professional appointments where they do this 3 times per week. Cayden has to be a very strong boy and he is, he has stitches and deep wounds all throughout his hand, but the hand excercises must be done or his hand will freeze in a stiff fixed position. If that were to happen, this time, there would be no getting back to movement.
Please think of us and please help with any donation you can. Although he will have many more surgeries, this one was very major. I have attached a few photos that I took after we saw the movie yesterday! All through this journey Cayden has been a happy boy and a real joy to me. He sends lots of Love to you all!! He knows what you have all done for him through your Love and support.
Thanks for standing beside us throughout this my friends. Please share and please continue to donate.The gas bills for the car alone are a lot. Thanks for helping us get through each month. I know I've said it before but without you guys we would be lost. Look at this boy now!! Remember the early photos?
Thank you and lots of Love from Sonny
The surgery went well. They performed hand reconstruction surgery on his left hand. After a day of rest he was strong enough for me to drive us home. Now he is resting in bed watching science videos on YouTube, I bring him his meals on a tray and give him kisses and hugs! Next week I must drive him back to the hospital and they will take the bandages off. Then we go home and right away start on his hand therapy because if his hand is not constantly moved, exercised and stretched, it will freeze into a fixed position again, so we must do lots of hand therapy at home constantly, and I bring him three to four times a week to his hand therapist.
One fantastic thing about this time was Sarah his mom was there to see him when he came out of the surgery!! She lives near the hospital now because she needs to be near the services and her appointments. And although they amputated her legs above the knees, and at times it seems like her challenges are unsurmountable, she is making progress!! It was incredibly sweet to see them together and watch Sarah caress Cayden's hair.
My friends things are progressing I think at this point I can really say that they are in recovery mode. There is still a long road ahead of us , Cayden is going to have many surgeries throughout his life. At this time he needs me desperately and I'm here for him a hundred percent! Please continue to support us and please keep standing beside me. Every donation really really helps.
Lots of Love from Sonny
Cayden on the other hand is a happy-go-lucky very resilient kid and he just takes it all in stride laughing and joking, so that's good.
Please think of us over the next few days his surgery is on Tuesday July 3rd. I have barely enough gas money to get there and back so any support through donations is greatly greatly appreciated. You guys have helped us all through this, all that help went into a lot of expenses we had in the beginning. Now I need help with just the normal things like gas, food, bills like rent and electricity and all that. I have to pay for Cayden's drum lessons and all the stuff Cayden needs plus his therapist is not covered by Medicaid so I have to pay that too. I just had to buy a more dependable car which isn't so great, it's a 2002 Chevrolet Trailblazer, pretty old but I hope it lasts a while without breaking down too much !!!! My friends, you guys know I can't tour, I can't make albums at the moment because of the full-time dedication of taking care of Cayden. When I come here on these updates writing and asking for support it's really hard for me to do because I was always so independent and never asked anybody for anything. I was on my own since I was very very young and didn't have support from family or parents or any of that and I got really used to being very self-sufficient and independent. But this situation showed me that I'm not always alone, this situation showed me that I have a lot of friends that want to help me through this. Please continue to support us! One of these days I'll be back on tour and I'll be thanking you guys personally.
I'm going to include a video of Cayden taking his first ride on a 'huffy' bicycle! It's his first run after I took off the training wheels! Thankfully he's getting the nack of it, running beside him was good exercise for me but it's better now that he can keep rolling!! Unfortunately it'll be awhile now till he can do all the things he usually does because of this surgery and the recovery time. I will be serving as Grandpa, Doctor, Nurse, everything while his hand heals up. Please keep supporting us, it's appreciated so very much. Thank you, Lots of Love from Sonny
P. S. Tomorrow we're going to pick up Cayden's mom, load her wheelchair into this Trailblazer and take her out to dinner!!! Isn't that totally amazing?