Tragic accident please help family

$65,390 of $100k goal

Raised by 1,178 people in 14 months
Sonny Vincent
on behalf of Michelle Ventura
 WEAVERVILLE, NC

     Hi folks my name is Sonny Vincent. Some of you may know me from my music, tours and albums. . Most don't know my real name, it is Robert Ventura. My son and his family need help. On Sunday January 2, 2016 our family was in a tragic accident. My son Robert Ventura, Sarah Ventura, and their son. ( my grandson) Cayden Ventura (Age 9) were in a gas explosion that ignited into a blazing fire.Their injuries and the burns are extensive, The burns are 3rd degree and emcompas 50% of Roberts body,50% of Caydens and the Mom suffers with 80%. They are  each currently in the Burn Intensive Care Unit at Winston Salem Medical Center, and are on life support struggling for their lives. This fund is set up to help them get on their feet after their lengthy recovery and to help them through their rehabilitation. The explosion/fire destroyed everything they owned.  There are several family members who are here supporting them. We despreartely need urgent assistance in taking care of them. Our immediate needs  only include food, transportation, and shelter. The rest of this fund will be given to Robert, Sarah and Cayden.  

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Update 42
Posted by Robert Ventura
28 days ago
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Sorry it's always so long between updates.The reason is that I have less and less time for anything. Taking care of my family after this terrible accident is a 24/7 dedication. Everyday hard work,  navigating an unresponsive healthcare system, sadness, stress,  concentration and tough times. Each step worrying about money to pay for therapy and costs Medicade refused to cover.At this moment we are broke and I must go to food banks and for Caydens school clothes we go to the thrift shops. We do have joy together but lately we are very focused on the battles we must fight to get them (my family) the best recovery possible. Cayden will need surgeries and rigorous therapy constantly throughout his childhood until he is an adult and then more throughout his adult life. Rob still undergoes surgeries and therapy. In Robs case Medicade will no longer pay for his physical therapy even though the surgeons insist that physical therapy will prevent surgeries. So we pay it out of pocket. It's like a cold maze,  fueled by money and the pharmaceutical companies greed. It's tough,  So much money is gone due to Medical bills and therapy that Medicade will not pay. I worry about the immediate situation and the future.   I have finally received the courts permission to be directly involved in helping make Sarah's healthcare decisions. I can't say too much because I don't want to get in trouble with the powers that be in the health care system but over the recent months Sarah was basically not being properly cared for and there was nothing I or my family could do about it. She was being constantly transferred to a place that was not equipped to handle her condition and each week she was being sent by ambulance back to the hospital with infections, seizures (9 seizures), and one time we actually had to call 911 because they left her for many hours in a mess that was sure to infect her extensive skin grafts. We hired a Lawyer and now we have a court order stating we can take a hand in her care,  she is in the hospital after again being rushed away from the nursing home they constantly put her in. Now at the hospital she is in good hands and she has either Dominic,  Nick,  Michelle,  Rob or Cayden and I by her side  24 hours a day. It's tough because the hospital is 150 miles away from us. I am working hard each day to find a good place to get her transferred to that is closer to us. It's tough because the good places don't take Medicade. Sarah's body is frozen in place,  stiff with the contractions from the skin grafts,  her legs are twisted together and she has had a catheter in her for a year. She can't move very much and she can't sit up and definitely can't stand or walk. Last week she could not speak properly and form logical sentences. I reviewed her medication list (something I could not do until I got that court order) and discovered the extent and massive quantity of mind drugs they had her on. I adjusted the meds list and she is now talking clearly again. This poor girl has been through a lot.Cayden weeps at her bedside. And he himself is struggling for recovery. He gets to hold his Mom but his hand has wounds and is all stitched up from his own recent surgery. I am waiting to hear back from the 15 facilities I petitioned for Sarah, facilities that would be near us. Dear friends and fans of my music I must tell you that we are still in desperate need of support. We have no support from the system at all. Without you we are lost. I can't tell you how blessed I feel with you by our side. Please,  please send anything you can. Help us make it through another day. - Sonny
Cayden and Sarah
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Update 41
Posted by Robert Ventura
2 months ago
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Shockingly yesterday they put Sarah again back to the hell hole Palliative/Hospice nursing facility. She was there all day yesterday, last night and today. WITHOUT medications and materials to do dressing changes.We could not believe the hospital administration would release anyone with such acute injuries. She has massive open wounds, her legs are twisted together and she cannot sit up anymore.She is in very bad shape and they kick her out because of money. We could not bear it. We just went through this a few weeks ago. Once again with full commitment risking arrest we got her out of there.We organized the ambulance to take her to the hospital.During this ordeal Sarah was screaming, and having extreme pain. Finally , again we got her out. The emergency room staff is appalled that the administrators are constantly kicking her out. The Doctors and the nurses at the hospital do not agree with the hospital discharging her. Finally she is back in the hospital. This poor girl is being bounced back and forth and always gets a fever in the ambulance. This is all due to the administrators of the hospital tenaciously constantly discharging her to a facility that is not equipped to attend to her intensive medical needs.Luckily some of the staff at the Palliative/Hospice spoke out and agree she does not belong there. It has been another very, very hard day. Please help if you can. Sorry if the writing is jagged and chaotic. It's so much stress, we are all in some kind of primal emergency mode. It's too much folks. We also need immediate financial help. Mostly everything has gone to Medical expenses. We are snowed in in North Carolina. Please send anything you can. I'm an honorable man, it all goes to helping them recover. Please help, any small amount. Someday I hope to play music again and I'll have a lot of people to thank and hug. -Sonny
Sarah today in the Emergency room
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Update 40
Posted by Robert Ventura
2 months ago
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Hi my friends-
Updated by Robert Ventura ( Sonny Vincent)
It has been a long time since I made an update. The reason is because this situation is so very hard and stressful that everyday I am drained and exhausted beyond where it's manageable. The daily struggles and challenges are complicated by sleepless nights. Nights filled with worry and sadness. But I always dig deep to be strong and do my best to take care of my family. I wish it was only caring for them, house work, taking care for their recovery, treatments and surgeries but the added stress of a bureaucracy and heartless system wears me down. I must engage in endless negotiations and actions to get them cared for medically. I'm sure many of you know what I mean, going through similar struggles. I don't know where to start. There is a limitation in terms of how much text fits here. I will make a short update so my fans, friends, and Angels who have supported us can be informed.
Sarah was on the critical list many times since my last update. She has been in the hospital system now for over a year. She was deemed ' incompetent'by the Hospital. That meant a court appointed guardian. When the Medicare insurance stopped elements of the hospital system absolutely wanted her out. Pressure was applied on the guardian and the guardian put Sarah in a welfare nursing home to die. A place on an internet list of the worst hell holes in the USA. I went there with Cayden and it was disgusting and horrible. Sarah had already given up. We walked in and saw the light was gone from her eyes. Cayden cried and heaved uncontrollably. We were not prepared for this. Sarah was dieing.The place was filled with the stench of urine, feces, and death. Cayden had to literally brush the cockroaches off of his Mom and her bed. I told Sarah" hold on", I told her she must be strong that we would somehow get her out. We begged her to be strong. She was lying in bed with huge open non healing wounds in a place covered in feces and cockroaches. I never expected it as bad as it was. A welfare Pallitive/Hospice. I had to act,even though it put my own freedom at risk. The ' Guardian' had already hung the phone up on me earlier that day. The ambulance driver who brought Sarah to that he'll whole almost did not drop her there, he saw it was no place for someone in her condition. but he would have lost his job over. He did file a report. It's a long story but myself and my daughter Michelle risked jail time in sneaking Sarah out. Through determination we literally got her out of there on a weekend when the staff was not full of Nazi's and got her to an emergency room. The shift had changed at the hell hole and Michelle got a sympathetic staffer to order an ambulance. Sarah had been there for a week. We did it, we got her out. It was a miracle. It had always been my ' Plan B'for Sarah as I watched her lose touch with her rights and slip through the hands of the people at the hospital who care. I knew getting her to any emergency room would start a process over. Once she arrived at the emergency room the Doctors assessment was she needed more intensive care and they put Sarah back in the hospital where she belonged. It was a shame because previous to all that, the previous weeks Rob was in the hospital sleeping in a chair taking care of Sarah and she gained weight and was recovering.But the guardian blocked Rob from going to this Palliative/Welfare Hospice place. A was a place to die in filth. Now as I said she is back in the hospital. I talk to her everyday now. Her surgeon did not know she was discharged to such a place. She is back in good hands but we don't know for how long. There are many, many people at the hospital that care for Sarah but somehow she got caught in a shuffle that's all about money. She is getting a little bit better but more confused with memory and cognitive skill losses. We hired a Lawyer to put forth a motion for Sarah to regain her own rights. Very expensive. We don't know how long before they want to discharge her again. Places that are clean don't take Medicare patients and now all our money collected here is gone on Medical bills, payments out for what's not covered by Medicade physical therapy for Robert, machines for Cayden's hands, an endless list. Add to that our rent, water, electric. I am in big trouble. Tomorrow I must go to the food bank and start thinking of a new place to live with lower rent. Cayden is happy but we were never told properly that his skin grafts do not grow. They will contract always and because he is a child he will need surgies his whole life, till he is full grown and beyond. His hands grow but the graft skin does not. Now his hands are regressing. His sweet hands are twisted, knarled and bent. I need help, the money is gone, I'm still in the clothes I arrived in.I am an honorable man, I spend nothing on myself, it all goes for their recovery. . We are falling through the cracks my friends. Please help. We all know that all this could be allocated by one very wealthy person donating. I could put Sarah in a proper place with a top nursing staff for $250 per day. But we know the folks that could help often don't. What I have and depend on are my music fans, friends and angels. Please help me keep them on a road to recovery. Thanks so very much. Every donation helps. - Sonny-
Sorry about the typos and auto-correct
The ambulance man came to the 'Pallitive/Hospice', bringing Sarah back to the hospital
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Update 39
Posted by Robert Ventura
5 months ago
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Hi everyone- Please share.
This morning Cayden had another procedure.This time I asked if they could do it in the clinic rather then the operating room. In the operating room they always have him on anaesthesia and intubate him ( breathing tube) and they administer lots of strong medicines that take many hours to metabolize. A very long time, around 4-6 hours till he can come back to his usual energy level. Its really too much for his 10 year old body and its all day in the operating room. Luckily the staff agreed that this time Cayden could go through the procedure of removing the cast, bolsters and stitches in the clinic without the whole operating room action. He was a real trooper. I was allowed to remove the cast and to do a lot of the major dressing change, it all worked out for the best. Afterwards he was fit and happy again, jumping and laughing. 5 minutes after the procedure ( that took only 1 hour) he was his normal self! Since he wasn't sedated we could visit his Mom Sarah. She is still in trouble, her legs are twisted and not functional. She also just had more graft surgery. It will be a long road to recovery but today there was light and joy in her eyes. We stayed and I fed her the midday meal ( her hands are not functional).Then Cayden and I left for a couple of hours because Sarah had OT and PT. Later we came back to Sarah again. Cayden helped me feed her dinner this time if I wrap a few napkins around the handle of a spoon Cayden can kind of hold it), we talked and I helped the nurse change Sarah's dressings. I also showed Sarah the photos I have been taking from the start. It was all cathartic for us. The visit was a very lovely time and it was so beautiful to see Sarah and Cayden embracing. It has been one of my life's goals to see them embrace and bond. They adore each other. At some points during the visit we were all in tears. She was so sad to see her little boy all burned and scarred. I was so sad to see her cry, often throughout this I also have looked at Cayden and burst out crying. I look at Cayden and get overwhelmed. When Robert saw Caydens hands he cried and heaved. It has been very emotional for all of us. Sarahs recovery will be a long road but she knows we are there for her. Cayden can use his left hand a little bit, he still can't make a fist but he can pinch between his thumb and index finger. The right hand has pins in it. I just now paid for and ordered a machine the surgeon said Cayden desperately needs. Its called a CPM and it is electric/ mechanical, it moves his hand. If I stop working on his hand even for an hour it goes back to being stiff and unmovable, with thr machine we can keep it going between the other therapies.The tragic news about the machine is that Medicade refuses to pay for the rental of the machine. The system is awful and really doesnt care. Its shocking. The machinge is expensive to rent, $ 120 dollars per day. I pre- paid for a month, but he will need it more. They wouldn't let us have it till I did a deposit and pre- pay. He will also have to have it on at night. Please continue to donate and support sweet Cayden. It arrives this coming week. Today we can drive home but In 3 weeks we go back to the hospital. I have to keep working on his hande. Between everything I'm in the process of catching him up with his classes. He misses a lot of school because of his surgeries. Yay! We go home tomorrow! Thank you for being there my friends - Sonny
Cayden and his Mom Sarah
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Danna Grimes
14 months ago

We are always thinking of the Ventura family and sending healing thoughts everyday. Cayden's friends want him to know that they miss him and are behind him 1000% in his recovery. He is our most special Ivy Hawk! The Barnardsville Community is ready to support you all when you come home. We love you! (Danna Knight, Principal of Barnardsville Elementary School)

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Fur Dixon
13 months ago
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Caiden looks just great, Sonny. So hard, but so much hope! Maybe you can make an Amazon Wish list and make it public so we can purchase and have supplies sent, as needed. I've seen a couple of shelters do this! Hang in papa!

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Susan Katyayani Lucey
14 months ago
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Robbie, Sarah and Cayden, we are praying for you continuously. We are surrounding you in prayer and love. Everyone - Beam your heart energy to the entire family, Michelle, Sonny and Dominic, hang in there. Sonny and Michelle, we understand how exhausting it is to be with loved ones who are fighting for their lives. We send you strength and peace as you go through this. Call me if you need anything. How do we donate to you Michelle, for your transportation costs and food? FYI, Maura is fighting for her life as well. Much Love, Susan and Christina

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Laura Ives
14 months ago
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Sending all my love, prayers, and blessings to Robbie, Sarah, and Cayden. And all my love to you, Sonny.

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Carole-anne Stuber
14 months ago
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My best wishes to recover soon as possible to Robert, Sarah and their young son Cayden. Be strong Sonny. Lots of kisses and positive thoughts.

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Pablo Salazar Diaz-Oyuelos
14 months ago
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Come on, you can do it better day a day. Be strong, Amigo.

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Debbie Schluensen
14 months ago
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I am filled with sorrow. Please know how much you are all loved!

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Lori Marshall
14 months ago
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Sending enormous LOVE to Robbie, Sarah and Cayden and the entire family!

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Cynthia Ross
13 months ago
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Love and healing thoughts to you all. Cayden really looks like he's coming along great!! All of us are standing beside you. Look after yourself. Stay strong Sonny!!

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Ali Bell
14 months ago
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My love and prayers are with you and your family. I am constantly posting this and keeping your family in my thoughts. You can do this. You have a lot of support Robert, try to rest and do what your heart tells you. ♡

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Fur Dixon
14 months ago
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I'm with you all, sending you love and prayers. Hang in, hang in! ❤️

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Keith Lubow
14 months ago
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Jeez, Sonny. I am so sorry this happened. I am spreading the word, and will donate myself as soon as I get my next paycheck. Also, I sent you a message to your Facebook page. Hang in there, and send my love to the family.

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Susan Katyayani Lucey
14 months ago
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We are sending our love and prayers for Robbie, Sara and Cayden. With you Robbie ♥ Much love to all involved. I pray Cayden did endure the procedure with great courage. God bless!

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Liana Le
14 months ago
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Sonny, thinking of you and your family's tragedy. Stay strong...We love you - Liana and Matt Gabs

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13 months ago
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My heart breaks for you all. Wish I had a magic wand.

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Jennifer Abcug
13 months ago
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Sonny there are no words to express how heart wrenching this is to read - we feel such complete and utter sadness for you all and hold onto hope that things will take a positive turn. I'm always hesitant to "like" your posts because there is nothing to like about what you are all going through. Sending love ❤️

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Danna Grimes
13 months ago
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We are thinking of Cayden everyday! This month we are holding a clothing drive for him through AMPed Up Kids Consignment & Boutique in Weaverville. You can learn more about this here: https://www.facebook.com/events/1674486186141768/. Continue to let us know how we can help from Barnardsville Elementary School. We love you Cayden!

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Jennifer Abcug
13 months ago
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Sonny I'm so sorry to read the latest post about Sarah. Sending loving thoughts.

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Sandy Kunert
13 months ago
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Thoughts and prayers for Sarah as she undergoes surgery today. This is such a sad ordeal for all of the family. May you continue to find the strength to carry you through. God Bless You All! Sandy and family

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Jennifer Abcug
14 months ago
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Hey sonny - sounds like last night was unbearable. Hang in there - thoughts are streaming your way. Love and hugs ❤️

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$65,390 of $100k goal

Raised by 1,178 people in 14 months
Created January 13, 2016
Sonny Vincent  
on behalf of Michelle Ventura
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Debra Jones
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Sending love and support.

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Luke Stevens
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by your side

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Dave Munoz
14 days ago
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Hi Im Dave i put together a benefit last january and had The Lonely Tear drops,Dead Aim The UnaBombers Freedom Hawk And the CandySnatchers.I asked the bands to help me start an ongoing thing and i call it "The Rock and Roll SafetyNet".And with it i ask the bands to pick people to give the some of the proceeds to several families and now we want to give to Y'all.So on behalf of Larry May Sergio Ponce Willy Johns Doug Duncan and Johnny Yeager i hope this will help. Here's a piece of our show..... https://youtu.be/QhBzAJiqpGA

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Danna Grimes
14 months ago

We are always thinking of the Ventura family and sending healing thoughts everyday. Cayden's friends want him to know that they miss him and are behind him 1000% in his recovery. He is our most special Ivy Hawk! The Barnardsville Community is ready to support you all when you come home. We love you! (Danna Knight, Principal of Barnardsville Elementary School)

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Fur Dixon
13 months ago
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Caiden looks just great, Sonny. So hard, but so much hope! Maybe you can make an Amazon Wish list and make it public so we can purchase and have supplies sent, as needed. I've seen a couple of shelters do this! Hang in papa!

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Susan Katyayani Lucey
14 months ago
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Robbie, Sarah and Cayden, we are praying for you continuously. We are surrounding you in prayer and love. Everyone - Beam your heart energy to the entire family, Michelle, Sonny and Dominic, hang in there. Sonny and Michelle, we understand how exhausting it is to be with loved ones who are fighting for their lives. We send you strength and peace as you go through this. Call me if you need anything. How do we donate to you Michelle, for your transportation costs and food? FYI, Maura is fighting for her life as well. Much Love, Susan and Christina

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Laura Ives
14 months ago
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Sending all my love, prayers, and blessings to Robbie, Sarah, and Cayden. And all my love to you, Sonny.

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Carole-anne Stuber
14 months ago
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My best wishes to recover soon as possible to Robert, Sarah and their young son Cayden. Be strong Sonny. Lots of kisses and positive thoughts.

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Pablo Salazar Diaz-Oyuelos
14 months ago
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Come on, you can do it better day a day. Be strong, Amigo.

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Debbie Schluensen
14 months ago
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I am filled with sorrow. Please know how much you are all loved!

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Lori Marshall
14 months ago
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Sending enormous LOVE to Robbie, Sarah and Cayden and the entire family!

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Cynthia Ross
13 months ago
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Love and healing thoughts to you all. Cayden really looks like he's coming along great!! All of us are standing beside you. Look after yourself. Stay strong Sonny!!

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Ali Bell
14 months ago
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My love and prayers are with you and your family. I am constantly posting this and keeping your family in my thoughts. You can do this. You have a lot of support Robert, try to rest and do what your heart tells you. ♡

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Fur Dixon
14 months ago
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I'm with you all, sending you love and prayers. Hang in, hang in! ❤️

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Keith Lubow
14 months ago
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Jeez, Sonny. I am so sorry this happened. I am spreading the word, and will donate myself as soon as I get my next paycheck. Also, I sent you a message to your Facebook page. Hang in there, and send my love to the family.

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Susan Katyayani Lucey
14 months ago
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We are sending our love and prayers for Robbie, Sara and Cayden. With you Robbie ♥ Much love to all involved. I pray Cayden did endure the procedure with great courage. God bless!

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Liana Le
14 months ago
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Sonny, thinking of you and your family's tragedy. Stay strong...We love you - Liana and Matt Gabs

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13 months ago
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My heart breaks for you all. Wish I had a magic wand.

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Jennifer Abcug
13 months ago
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Sonny there are no words to express how heart wrenching this is to read - we feel such complete and utter sadness for you all and hold onto hope that things will take a positive turn. I'm always hesitant to "like" your posts because there is nothing to like about what you are all going through. Sending love ❤️

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Danna Grimes
13 months ago
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We are thinking of Cayden everyday! This month we are holding a clothing drive for him through AMPed Up Kids Consignment & Boutique in Weaverville. You can learn more about this here: https://www.facebook.com/events/1674486186141768/. Continue to let us know how we can help from Barnardsville Elementary School. We love you Cayden!

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Jennifer Abcug
13 months ago
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Sonny I'm so sorry to read the latest post about Sarah. Sending loving thoughts.

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Sandy Kunert
13 months ago
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Thoughts and prayers for Sarah as she undergoes surgery today. This is such a sad ordeal for all of the family. May you continue to find the strength to carry you through. God Bless You All! Sandy and family

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Jennifer Abcug
14 months ago
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Hey sonny - sounds like last night was unbearable. Hang in there - thoughts are streaming your way. Love and hugs ❤️

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