Tragic accident please help family
Hi folks my name is Sonny Vincent. Some of you may know me from my music, tours and albums. . Most don't know my real name, it is Robert Ventura Jr. I need help. On Sunday January 2, 2016 our family was in a tragic accident. My son Rob, Sarah Ventura, and their son ( my grandson) Cayden Ventura (Age 9) were in a gas explosion that ignited into a blazing fire. Their injuries and the burns are extensive, The burns are 3rd degree and emcompas 50% of Robs body,50% of Caydens and the Mom suffers with 80%. They are each currently in the Burn Intensive Care Unit at Winston Salem Medical Center, and are on life support struggling for their lives. The explosion/fire destroyed everything they owned. There are several family members who are here supporting them. I despreartely need urgent assistance in taking care of them.
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So I have gone from being a wild rocker that tours the world to being a guy that is at the trampoline park, horse riding, hiking, Boy Scouts, you name it! Everything to keep his body moving and stretched so he can have less surgeries.
He definitely will need surgeries throughout his whole childhood but keeping him moving and bringing him to his PT/OT therapy sessions lowers the amounts of graft release surgeries he must have.
I don't know if you can see it but in one of the photos he's holding his A/B honor roll award he got from school! This is a major accomplishment since he misses so much school because of Medical appointments he and must do a lot of homework to keep caught up! It's not easy but he does it!!
Rob just went in for another surgery and Sarah has a new wheel chair. Sarah must stay near the hospital because of her many appointments and Rob is up there for his recent surgery and follow up appointments.
I try to keep my appeals for help to a minimum , I really know how to conserve and be quite frugal but I need to ask for help to make it through. You guys have been so wonderful keeping us floating while I help Cayden through his recovery. I'm having difficulty paying our monthly bills this time and hope you can continue to donate and support us through this tough time. I had to go to the Vets Hospital for counseling because this whole experience has left me with PTSD. No worries, I'm fine, I just worry a lot and have difficulty sleeping. The therapy is helpful showing me breathing techniques etc.
It's good that I went in because I must be in top shape taking care of this energetic 12 year old! As you can see from the photos we are very active and busy doing all the things I can do to help Cayden in his recovery and I have him involved in many activities kids Love. I'm a long way from the Rocknroll stage and lifestyle I had before. But what I do now is so important to my Grandson and I do it with Love and show him my excitement to be close in his life.
I know the picture of his hand looks pretty gruesome but that's just the reality I'm faced with. His whole body is grafted and I must keep it moving so that he retains range of motion.
It's been a long tough road, I have been brought to my knees in tears so many times throughout this journey. But they all survived and the help from you guys has humbled me in a very profound way. Please continue to donate. Specially now because we need to pay many bills.
I know I've said it before but without you guys we would have lost this fight. If I had not shown up and received all the support you guys have given me this story would be completely different now. Please share my joy in helping Cayden. One of these days I'll take him on tour with me and he can thank you himself! Sonny
Cayden has had many appointments and I'm still always under stress advocating and making sure he achieves the best recovery possible. Lots of driving to Doctors appointments, therapies, and keeping a very tough schedule. While at the same time offering Cayden the best harmonic life experience I can !
How did I go from a wild rocker to a guy perfecting the perfect 'Fluffernutter' sandwich with all the goob brought to the exact edge of the bread as per Cayden's request?
Sarah and Rob are doing better but still have their challenges. Rob is going in for a surgery soon. But they are doing better each day.
I'm often sad inside these days because it's all taken a toll on me. But I always internalize my sadness and provide Cayden with a progressive, positive, fun, home atmosphere. I already reached out to the veterans center for some counseling, I just hope I dont wind up in a Yoga group! Keeping myself fit is important because
Cayden deserves the best quality of life possible, after all he has been through and I'm dedicated to help him through all his changes and challenges.
And the good news is that he IS a very happy resilient boy.
Wait till you meet this kid!!
Last weekend him and I rode horses on a trail! The trail boss said the horse really seemed to like Cayden! It was a beautiful sunny day!! It gets pretty cold and grey here in North Carolina but this was like a glorious spring day!
Cayden also got on the honor roll at school! Lots of extra homework goes into that since he misses school for his medical appointments! So proud of him!!
And the biggest most recent event was this morning he got braces on his teeth!
Unfortunately his Medicaid insurance would not pay for that. Blue hair, blue braces ! This kids has got it going on!!
We are still currently struggling to make ends meet. There has been some talk about getting all my albums re released which would really help, but for now that's not actualizing. Soon my friend Hugo and I will release a tribute/ benefit album. Some distributors will take it on and I will offer it here as well. 76 very cool bands contributed songs. Hopefully some copies of that will sell. But it's all in process, artwork is underway, songs are mastered. Please help us get through another couple of months. Any donation helps. Thanks so much!
Thanks for caring about us. Please look at Cayden and share my joy and appreciation that without you guys we really would have never made it this far! - Sonny
I want to thank all of you for helping me make a beautiful Christmas for him. We had to have a belated Christmas but when he opened his presents he was really a happy boy! He is back in school now and doing well and he is striving for the A/B honor roll. He misses school because of his time for surgeries and treatments, so he must work extra hard to keep caught up!
He is an amazing resilient boy who doesn't let his injuries define him. His hands are functioning but he is facing amputations of his pinky fingers since they are not functioning in terms of range of motion. That's so very sad but like I said he is a tough boy full of Love and I'm totally devoted to help him through every development as he grows. It is very sad that he will be having reconstructive surgery for all his childhood but I must tell everyone that we have so many jokes and fun times that he takes it all in stride.
For Christmas he wanted me to order him a very colorful hoodie. I said " Cayden, you already have the blue hair, won't this be a bit over the top for school?" He said " Nope, I really want it!" Well, I got it and he wants to wear it all the time! Cayden definately is expressing his individuality and is choosing his own style now.Thank you friends for the other hoodies you sent for Christmas because at least I can take a moment to toss the colorful one in the wash!
Cayden, Rob and Sarah are all in the recovery mode now. I truly could never have made it through all this without your Love, kindness and donations. Cayden really is happy and has everything he needs and wants. I have been restoring vintage amps and reselling them in music shops but it only helps a bit. Also I was offered some shows but I can't do that right now. Taking care of Cayden, providing him a nurturing home environment, keeping him focused on his school work and his injury related appointments takes all my time right now.
We have really come so far. Three years. Without you all we would have been lost, I would have broken under the weight of it all. You truly took care of us. Angels, I can't thank you all enough.
It's been such a very hard road but the miracles happened and we have been blessed with lots of Love from you guys.
We still have struggles to pay our monthly bill's but with your help we still make it through. Lots of Love from Sonny and Cayden