Please help The Wise's
(Please read my updates because so so so much has changed, unfortunately. I appreciate your prayers, we all
do. Thank you.)
Wes, my husband, has had to really step up to the plate and become Mr. Mom. Because I cannot lift our son or anything really over 20 pounds. I also get tired alot and the meds really can mess with my judgement and ability to function. I am so thankful for him. But, I can tell he is worried and he is doing such a good job of trying not to make me worry, but he handles all of our finances and I can see the fear in his eyes, and it breaks my heart.
I have tried everything you can think of to avoid surgery for three reasons: it's expensive, I want to be able to work, and I want to be with my babies. I went to two chiropractors, had two MRI's, two X-Rays, three epidural spinal injections, I see a pain counselor, I've been working out, took two doses of prescription steriods, tried pain meds, muscle relaxers, I live on nerve meds, anti inflammatory meds, and the list goes on and on. I have seen over four doctors/surgeons and have finally found one that will operate on me.
February 19th, I go to Barnes Jewish Hospital for a pretty invasive double disc cervical neck fusion. I will have a large scar on the front of my neck and a good six weeks of healing. The first few weeks are very important that I don't get bumped, and so I will be staying at my parent's house in Bethany while Wes watches the kids.
Wes is a great dad, but that is a lot of work for one person. I will also be an hour away from my babies and not getting to see them very much the first few weeks is something I am dealing with, and will have to just get over it if I want the surgery to be successful.
This was our last resort. Unfortunately, we have to use it because of the constant pain I am in, and I also want to get off all of the meds. I'm sure you can imagine all of the doctor's bills, prescription bills, and now the surgery bills that will be coming up.
I have been trying to find ways to save money and I know God has a plan for us and that we will be okay, but since January 5, I have been on short-term disability. That means, I don't receive a check for at least a month, and then when I do I have to turn around and give it right back to my school where I work just so we can keep our insurance. So, right now and for the next few months we will be living on one paycheck.
I have a peace about the surgery, and I am learning to let go of things I cannot control. I also am learning to let go of my pride and have started asking for help. Whether it's a simple prayer, or kind thought, or a donation, or a dinner, or help with the kids while Wes has them, it would be greatly appreciated. My husband is very prideful and so am I and this was extremely hard for us to do, but I am scared financially especially right now, and I am asking and praying that somehow this will all work out.
I appreciate you taking the time to read this and if you can just think of us in the future, we would be forever grateful. Any little thing will help. I know times are tough for everyone and everyone has their own struggles, and it doesn't do us any good to try to figure out why this is happening. I have learned to accept that. But now, I am reaching out and I am asking that you think of us please in the next few months. If you are not into prayer, than I just ask for good thoughts, but if you pray I ask that you give us wisdom, grace, patience, fast healing, faith, and humilty. Thank you again for your time and anything that you can help with. God Bless.
Hi Barb, this is Karen Allen, Christina's mom and it's always nice to meet others that have been through similar situations. I'm so sorry to learn you too have Lyme Disease. I'm thankful you noticed a bullseye rash and were able to seek immediate treatment, and that your insurance was able to pick up the costs, you were very fortunate! As you probably already know, if Chronic Lyme Disease is not identified early it begins to attack every aspect of a person's body, mimicking so many other illnesses and reeking havoc that it's sometimes hard to diagnose. This has been such a debilitating disease for Christina and so many others. Our government and our healthcare system is drastically flawed and needs to recognize the reality that Lyme Disease is severely under diagnosed, that testing is inaccurate, that some doctors are close minded, and that thousands of individuals are suffering due to lack of education, awareness, proper testing and funding. So many individuals with Chronic Lyme Disease have literally lost everything, their health, their jobs, their families, their insurance and the list goes on and on! It's a vicious cycle and it sounds like although you have endured suffering, you were one if the lucky ones to get it under control quickly. I appreciate your support and pray that your next doctors appointment goes well. We need constant prayers as this Chronic Disease is slowly killing my daughter from the inside out and this is our last chance to help her as drastic and expensive as it is. God bless you and your family!
Hi Christina, I doubt you know me. I met your folks at the Cumberland church in Bethany and have known the Wise's for years, Curtis went to school with our daughter, Kim and Stacy was in Katies' class. Connie is a dear friend I just think the world of.I am sure your kids are in good grandparent care. LOL! I have been through the cervical spinal fusion in 1998 with Dr Oliver Dold of Decatur. I think he was an absolute great doctor, Heaven sent. I had a cervical injury involving 2-7, so my surgery was long and intense. I had wonderful care. The drs. performing my 12.5 hour surgery were wonderful, and it was able to be done at DMH with new equipment. First my hip bone was removed and made into the missing vertebra . Then my spinal cord had to be cleaned up, it was a long surgery. My nurse was from right here in Bethany and my roommate was a dear Bethany lady I just loved. I got wonderful care, I credit my life to, at DMH. You can get good care here locally, I am sorry you have had to go so far away and bare such tremendous expense. That was not an option for me. We had United Healthcare Insurance and had to use our 'network" care providers. Fortunately they were the best I could have found anyway. And now I have another "in common" factor with you. I got Lymes Disease last October. I was out on the eastern shore of Virginia at Katies' . I was bitten on a Thursday and woke up with fever, blisters, and the "bulls eye" a week later. The following Saturday I went to the doc in the box and he looked at it and took some blood and faxed my dr in Illinois and put me on a steroid he said would get me back to Illinois to my Dr. They helped enough to get me home (Idrove myself) on a Monday AM. I went to my dr Dr. Miriam Qereshi and she examined me and sent me straight to the Dr of Infectious Diseases of Macon County. There are two of these Drs in Macon County. Mine was Dr Minnaganti. He was great. Immediately I hade 8 or 9 different blood test and each week I had 3 -6 blood tests and weekly work ups. My "bulls eye" was big and visible so being diagnosed was never a questionable problem. I was given two meds right away and told if I didn't have good results a port would be put in to have these meds through IV. I had good oral response but I did have to follow up with another round of the meds. b These were about 3200.00 and 2600.00 respectively but our insurance picked up all but 100.00 of each. Insurance picked up the blood tests as well. I stayed in my network and I tried to do everything I was told and fortunately got really good results. I get tired but not bad, not so bad I wouldn't go to work if I worked. I get sore around joints but I was told I would so I expected the worst and found it wasn't that bad! I know your circumstances are different, Christina, and I pray you can find relief for your discomfort and pain. I went the local rout and did get good care and success. Insurance covered most all except the DRs visits and 100.00 of the meds. I finished my first round of treatment in December and will go back to the DR. for follow up check in June. If I understand correctly the DR will follow up check in December and June for several years. Keep your faith strong and keep praying. I will remember you in my prayers as well. I prayed hard when I got this and prayed hard to THANK HIM when I got better!
I myself have had the cervical spine surgery Dane at Barnes in St Louis I had Dr Rue he is a great Dr. I had three fusions c4-5-6 it was rough the first week but after that it wasn't bad. I had it done in 2007 I was 55 you are young and you will heal ! I also had L 5-7 and sciatica done in 1995! I worked up until November of 2007! At GE in Mattoon I worked 38 years ! Good luck to you I believe you will do great! I will be praying for you. The scar in you neck really doesn't show they put it where it shows the least!
Prayers for you and your family!! Praying for a successful surgery and painless days for you
Although I never had Mr. Wise as a teacher I am glad to know him. I will keep you guys in my prayers and thoughts. I hope you guys get through this alright. I hope things get a little easier for you all.
Mr wise was one of my teachers that i loved dearly i.moved here.not knowing anyone and hes one of the teachers that helped me feel welcome i would love to help u guys ik times can be tough im really sorry this is happenin to u and if u guya wouldnt mind and need a babysitter i would love to help i have a 3month old and i love kids i dont expect anythin in return just doin a kind deed and tryin to help i wil keep u all in my prayers
I am so overwhelmed by the generosity of all of you guys. Your kind words and support have left me speechless. Thank you so much for helping us. God bless.