Loving the Hendriks

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Kristen Coughran
on behalf of Brandon Hednriks
 SAN CLEMENTE, CA
On June 4th, the Hendriks family experienced a tragic loss.  There is nothing we can do to bring back our beloved Xander, and we celebrate that he is spending eternity with Jesus!  In addition Melissa suffered injuries requiring advanced medical care and extended observation for head trauma.  We know many of you around the world want to support them in this trying time.  We ask that you pray without ceasing.  As this accident occurred in Mexico, they will be facing international medical, transport, and funeral expenses.  We have set up this fund for those who have inquired about giving towards the financial needs they will be facing in the coming days and weeks.  Thank you for your continued prayers and support during this heartbreaking time.
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Update 11
Posted by Kristen Coughran
10 months ago
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I don't think we will ever be able to put into words how thankful the family is for the outpouring of love and support. It's encouraging to know that all of the people in our lives are so committed to help us through this long journey. We cling to the promises in Matthew 5:4, "Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted". Brandon and Melissa are so thankful for your love, prayers, visits, and continued communication with them.

The financial support generated through the gofundme platform is extremely appreciated. If you didn't get a chance to donate before this account closed we encourage you to give to your local church, compassion international, or anywhere where the love and saving power of Jesus is proclaimed.
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Update 10
Posted by Kristen Coughran
10 months ago
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Friends & Family- please join us today online at noon as we celebrate the life of Xander Hendriks, and glorify the name of our Heavenly Father. We are confident this day will be one that is used to bring many closer to our Savior. The service will be broadcasted over a live stream at 12:00pm at http://www.pacificcoastchurch.org/GrowInChrist/live.php
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Update 9
Posted by Kristen Coughran
10 months ago
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On Thursday morning, with family surrounding him with love, Xander's younger brother, Uzziah, graduated from Kindergarten. When we asked his teacher if family could join for the celebration, I don't think she knew quite what was coming her way. With a small army standing by with their love and support, Uzziah transitioned from a kindergartner to a 1st grader. We are so proud of this young man, way to go Uzziah!

In the afternoon, Brandon and Melissa chose to accept 2 of the many offers to speak with television reporters about their special son, Xander. Though they knew it would be a very difficult conversation, it was concluded that it had to be done. This was a chance to tell of who our sweet-loving boy Xander was, and his heart for Jesus and others. It was also an opportunity for others to see the mighty power of Christ in us, and the hope of glory that we cling to. Brandon and Melissa went on air and shared of who Xander was, and that we have assurance of seeing Xander again one day. The message of love and forgiveness was broadcasted, and the name of our Heavenly Father, we pray, was glorified.

Yesterday was very hard for us. In the late afternoon was the viewing of our beloved Xander. The room was filled with large photos of Xander's smiling face, photo albums, and the things he loved to play on like his surfboard and bmx bike. One by one friends and family said their farewells to this extraordinary boy. Clinging to our hope in Jesus was the only thing that we had during that time, and it was enough. Jesus is, and will continue to carry us though. Imagining Xander with our Savior brings a smile to our face, he is with the one he loves, and his desire was to have all of us love Jesus the same way.
Xander embracing and loving Uzziah.
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Update 8
Posted by Kristen Coughran
10 months ago
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We have been so overwhelmed by the generosity and love from so many friends, family members, and individuals who have reached out to support the Hendriks' family as they journey though this horrific tragedy. Though we will continue to accept donations, as so many people have sought ways to continue to support, we also want to let everyone know that the funeral and medical expenses have been graciously taken care of by an outside source who will remain anonymous. Any current or future donations will help cover of upcoming needs such as grief counseling, physical therapy, the loss of Melissa's income, and simply helping the Hendriks recover from this tragic loss. Thank you all so much.
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Andrea Contreras Brannam
10 months ago

My favorite Xander moment was finding out he was ditching his after school tutoring on Wednesdays to come to the Good News Club. Learning about the Bible and worshiping Jesus was clearly more important. His joy, his smile, his enthusiasm, and sense of humor will be greatly missed. There is a definite void left at Las Palmas. But know that many are smiling through the tears remembering your sweet boy. I am sure Xander would be thrilled to know that many more will hear about Jesus because of him! Never has there been so much prayer and unity at our school. May God carry you during this time and fill you with a peace that surpasses understanding! You are loved! Huge hugs, Sra. Brannam

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Ruben Rosas
10 months ago

Brandon and Melissa visit us in Mexico every year, and about 3 years ago when Brandon was done teaching the word of God Xander couldn't wait to grab the mic and start preaching himself! I had the privilege to translate for two Hendricks' that night! he spoke to us about God giving Moses the 10 comamndments... I nevered had more fun translating for someone!!!!!My family and I love the Hendricks as all of you guys! I am sure that all of us shouting out to God for them will help! Ps. Xander also put my son in a jiu jitsu grip 4 months ago, he felt so bad when my kiddo started crying (they were hugging 2 minutes later).......God bless the Hendricks and give them the streanght they need for Uziah and Titus!

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Jasmine Nelson-Ebargaray
10 months ago

When I think about Xander, I think of the word Joy!! He always had a big smile on his face and made my kids feel special and loved. So much so, that on more than one occasion my Ella has said that she was going to marry Xander. And Kelman has referred to Xander as his best friend many times!! Xander could light up the room with just his presence and his energy!! I smile when I think of him and his recent desire to wear a "man bun"!! Please know we are here for you through this and are willing and wanting to help out in any way!! We look forward to play dates with Uzziah and Tytus, any and all the time!!

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Nancy Wills
10 months ago

I'll never forgot when Xander prayed at see you at the pole in front of our school. It was so spiritually mature--I could not believe it was a 7 year old child praying. I went home that morning and told my husband about it because I was so moved. He clearly had a close relationship with God and an understanding of his faith at a young age! We are heartbroken with Melissa and Brandon and at the same time rejoicing that he is with Jesus today

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Samy GH
10 months ago
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8

turned me up pretty much that the one who suffered the tradegy at Baja Racing last weekend had to be you ma. An amazing, energetic, carismatic happy kid like you who had long way to fullfill, ended in a tragic moment like this. But Only you and God are the ones who know the why, and wherever you are now, u‘ ll always be in my thoughts to infinity and beyond straight up lil homs. And may God watch over you for your family. Peace

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Heather Guier Borsuk
10 months ago
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Xander...Full of life, full of love, full of laughs, jokes and pranks! But more than anything this young man had the love of Jesus and his smile will be remembered forever. When I was picking Xander up from Drama Club he would always see me before I saw him and somehow end up behind me and surprise me! We would both laugh and I loved getting to know him one on one in that short time. We are all grieving with you and your family. We love you!

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Jennifer Shockey Parrott
10 months ago
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5

Melissa and Brandon. We are mourning with you. We are to privileged and blessed to have known your beautiful Xander. Caden loved the few times he got to see his lego sets and draw pac man with chalk with him. Haley loved the time she played cards with him last month. We will be here or there in a moments notice for whatever you and the boys need or want. We are so sorry. We will not stop praying for your comfort and peace.

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Tristan Goldhammer
10 months ago
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i got to spend the week with xander this last spring break when we all went to mexico for our mission trip. he was the craziest, funniest, most resilient kid there!!! the fact that he was fluent absolutely amazed me (and made me slightly jealous because i wish I was bilingual), and his heart for God was so easy to see. i will never forget when we were cleaning up for mexico. xander was underneath an easy up, and when someone put down one of the legs, water that had collected from the rain the night before poured off and completely drenched him. the best part was that he just started laughing about it! it only took him a week to make such a huge impact on me, and i know that so many others feel the same way.

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Tiffany OBrien
10 months ago
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I got to know Xander during rehearsals for Peter Pan. He was in the pirate group with my daughter Ally; the pirates lived up to their name and were quite a handful sometimes! One day the kids were running amok and I was having a tough time keeping control of the pirates. After some swashbuckling with a pal Xander tumbled to my feet and I said: Xander! What are you doing?!? He looked up at me with an ear to ear grin and just shrugged. His face said it all: Just being a kid! I couldn't help but laugh and melt at his sweet, innocent smile. He reminded me in that moment to lighten up and have some fun. Xander, you're a sweet, goofy kid and your time was cut too short. Rest in peace.

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Mark Bogertman
10 months ago
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Dear Hendriks and Family, Anna and I have been grieving with you. Our hearts are so heavy with sadness for all that you are going through right now. I never got to meet Xander, but I thought that this poem speaks of him because of what you've shared about him. I hope it may be a blessing to you and a companion in your grief. All Our Love, Mark and Anna Bogertman On The Death Of The Beloved — John O’Donohue Though we need to weep your loss, You dwell in that safe place in our hearts, Where no storm or night or pain can reach you. Your love was like the dawn Brightening over our lives Awakening beneath the dark A further adventure of colour. The sound of your voice Found for us A new music That brightened everything. Whatever you enfolded in your gaze Quickened in the joy of its being; You placed smiles like flowers On the altar of the heart. Your mind always sparkled With wonder at things. Though your days here were brief, Your spirit was live, awake, complete. We look towards each other no longer From the old distance of our names; Now you dwell inside the rhythm of breath, As close to us as we are to ourselves. Though we cannot see you with outward eyes, We know our soul’s gaze is upon your face, Smiling back at us from within everything To which we bring our best refinement. Let us not look for you only in memory, Where we would grow lonely without you. You would want us to find you in presence, Beside us when beauty brightens, When kindness glows And music echoes eternal tones. When orchids brighten the earth, Darkest winter has turned to spring; May this dark grief flower with hope In every heart that loves you. May you continue to inspire us: To enter each day with a generous heart. To serve the call of courage and love Until we see your beautiful face again In that land where there is no more separation, Where all tears will be wiped from our mind, And where we will never lose you again.

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Dinah Vaughn
10 months ago
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1

One time Phil was talking with a group of leaders at your Redding house. Xander was just a month or so old and sitting on someone's lap next to him. He just kept starting at Phil and smiling so big and almost laughing! It was such a fun moment for us and so advanced for such a young baby. Loved his love for life . So much spirit packed into that little body.

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Kim Robertson
10 months ago
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1

I specifically remember being shocked to see that this big maturing kid was so eager to get down to Archer's level and pinch and coo at him just to get a laugh. He wanted to play with all the kids no matter their ages. Branigan liked how Xander hand picked him to soak his back with a water balloon at Tytus' birthday celebration... He was so playful and just wanted everyone to have a good time. I won't forget those starry eyes peaking out from those long surfer-boy locks and of course that megawatt smile. We love you guys and are grieving with you and praying for you. May God lift you up and hold you tight. ♥

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Heather Guier Borsuk
10 months ago
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Jake wanted to share his favorite memory was spending the afternoon at your house and him and Xander playing with lightsabers.

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Breanna Hackney
10 months ago
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When I think of xander I think of the 2013 Mexico trip when he told us the resurrection story and I just saw how much this little boy had so much love for Jesus my prays are with brandon and Melissa's family and friend who life was touched by xander

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Heather Vaughn
10 months ago
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1

One of our favorite memories of sweet Xander was during one of our game nights at your house. He sat at the table so excited to stay up past bedtime, to understand the board game and chime in with questions. That brain of his had better strategy and game moves than mind ;) It was amazing how he channeled both his intelligent and maturity yet was still a total kid at heart (jumping non stop on the trampoline with Kyle). I can't help but be in complete tears as I write this and there are truly no words but man did he leave an impression on so many hearts. This has changed us forever.

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Luke Corsaut
10 months ago
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1

Words can't describe how grateful I am to have known Xander and his beautiful heart for Christ. Although I hadn't seen him in almost two years, I still remember vividly all the warm hugs he gave me on Sunday mornings and all of our hilarious conversations. He always knew how to put a smile on my face. My prayers and love go out to all of you in this time of distress.

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Jason Davis
10 months ago

So sorry the family lost their precious Xander. Praying for God to bless the family with love and strength to get through this horrific time.

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Shari Grace
10 months ago

Logan played soccer with Xander on team Silver Strikers. Logan told me that Xander was his "second best friend in soccer". He said, "Mom, as soon as he saw me he came up and said hi to me." This was huge for Logan as soccer was a way for him to meet new friends. Xander's simple act of kindness made an impression on my son that will last a lifetime. I hope Logan will always remember that and treat others the way that Xander welcomed him. What a truly wonderful soul. He will be missed and our hearts go out you. God bless you all. You are in our prayers.

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Jennifer Odom
10 months ago

I can't comprehend that this tragic incident happened to you guys. I do know you guys are strong and have the backbone of God. We lift you guys up in prayer! Xander was the light in the crowd. He made everyone happy! He was an amazing kid. Love you guys!

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Cheryl Mayers Johnson
10 months ago

Melissa and Brandon... Not sure if you remember me from Simpson but I was RD while you were students. I have been without words when I heard the news. Just know that my prayers are with you both and for your family. Sounds like Xander was a very special angel. Praying for you. ❤️

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Created June 5, 2016
Kristen Coughran  
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Frances K. Lawson
10 months ago

I read your story via our "SWAT Team Prayer Group" and prayers are ascending for your family and all envolved. Xander's faith has touched my heart. God Bless.

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10 months ago

Praying for your family in your loss...

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Andrea Contreras Brannam
10 months ago

My favorite Xander moment was finding out he was ditching his after school tutoring on Wednesdays to come to the Good News Club. Learning about the Bible and worshiping Jesus was clearly more important. His joy, his smile, his enthusiasm, and sense of humor will be greatly missed. There is a definite void left at Las Palmas. But know that many are smiling through the tears remembering your sweet boy. I am sure Xander would be thrilled to know that many more will hear about Jesus because of him! Never has there been so much prayer and unity at our school. May God carry you during this time and fill you with a peace that surpasses understanding! You are loved! Huge hugs, Sra. Brannam

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Ruben Rosas
10 months ago

Brandon and Melissa visit us in Mexico every year, and about 3 years ago when Brandon was done teaching the word of God Xander couldn't wait to grab the mic and start preaching himself! I had the privilege to translate for two Hendricks' that night! he spoke to us about God giving Moses the 10 comamndments... I nevered had more fun translating for someone!!!!!My family and I love the Hendricks as all of you guys! I am sure that all of us shouting out to God for them will help! Ps. Xander also put my son in a jiu jitsu grip 4 months ago, he felt so bad when my kiddo started crying (they were hugging 2 minutes later).......God bless the Hendricks and give them the streanght they need for Uziah and Titus!

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Jasmine Nelson-Ebargaray
10 months ago

When I think about Xander, I think of the word Joy!! He always had a big smile on his face and made my kids feel special and loved. So much so, that on more than one occasion my Ella has said that she was going to marry Xander. And Kelman has referred to Xander as his best friend many times!! Xander could light up the room with just his presence and his energy!! I smile when I think of him and his recent desire to wear a "man bun"!! Please know we are here for you through this and are willing and wanting to help out in any way!! We look forward to play dates with Uzziah and Tytus, any and all the time!!

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Nancy Wills
10 months ago

I'll never forgot when Xander prayed at see you at the pole in front of our school. It was so spiritually mature--I could not believe it was a 7 year old child praying. I went home that morning and told my husband about it because I was so moved. He clearly had a close relationship with God and an understanding of his faith at a young age! We are heartbroken with Melissa and Brandon and at the same time rejoicing that he is with Jesus today

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Samy GH
10 months ago
8
8

turned me up pretty much that the one who suffered the tradegy at Baja Racing last weekend had to be you ma. An amazing, energetic, carismatic happy kid like you who had long way to fullfill, ended in a tragic moment like this. But Only you and God are the ones who know the why, and wherever you are now, u‘ ll always be in my thoughts to infinity and beyond straight up lil homs. And may God watch over you for your family. Peace

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Heather Guier Borsuk
10 months ago
7
7

Xander...Full of life, full of love, full of laughs, jokes and pranks! But more than anything this young man had the love of Jesus and his smile will be remembered forever. When I was picking Xander up from Drama Club he would always see me before I saw him and somehow end up behind me and surprise me! We would both laugh and I loved getting to know him one on one in that short time. We are all grieving with you and your family. We love you!

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Jennifer Shockey Parrott
10 months ago
5
5

Melissa and Brandon. We are mourning with you. We are to privileged and blessed to have known your beautiful Xander. Caden loved the few times he got to see his lego sets and draw pac man with chalk with him. Haley loved the time she played cards with him last month. We will be here or there in a moments notice for whatever you and the boys need or want. We are so sorry. We will not stop praying for your comfort and peace.

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Tristan Goldhammer
10 months ago
4
4

i got to spend the week with xander this last spring break when we all went to mexico for our mission trip. he was the craziest, funniest, most resilient kid there!!! the fact that he was fluent absolutely amazed me (and made me slightly jealous because i wish I was bilingual), and his heart for God was so easy to see. i will never forget when we were cleaning up for mexico. xander was underneath an easy up, and when someone put down one of the legs, water that had collected from the rain the night before poured off and completely drenched him. the best part was that he just started laughing about it! it only took him a week to make such a huge impact on me, and i know that so many others feel the same way.

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Tiffany OBrien
10 months ago
3
3

I got to know Xander during rehearsals for Peter Pan. He was in the pirate group with my daughter Ally; the pirates lived up to their name and were quite a handful sometimes! One day the kids were running amok and I was having a tough time keeping control of the pirates. After some swashbuckling with a pal Xander tumbled to my feet and I said: Xander! What are you doing?!? He looked up at me with an ear to ear grin and just shrugged. His face said it all: Just being a kid! I couldn't help but laugh and melt at his sweet, innocent smile. He reminded me in that moment to lighten up and have some fun. Xander, you're a sweet, goofy kid and your time was cut too short. Rest in peace.

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Mark Bogertman
10 months ago
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2

Dear Hendriks and Family, Anna and I have been grieving with you. Our hearts are so heavy with sadness for all that you are going through right now. I never got to meet Xander, but I thought that this poem speaks of him because of what you've shared about him. I hope it may be a blessing to you and a companion in your grief. All Our Love, Mark and Anna Bogertman On The Death Of The Beloved — John O’Donohue Though we need to weep your loss, You dwell in that safe place in our hearts, Where no storm or night or pain can reach you. Your love was like the dawn Brightening over our lives Awakening beneath the dark A further adventure of colour. The sound of your voice Found for us A new music That brightened everything. Whatever you enfolded in your gaze Quickened in the joy of its being; You placed smiles like flowers On the altar of the heart. Your mind always sparkled With wonder at things. Though your days here were brief, Your spirit was live, awake, complete. We look towards each other no longer From the old distance of our names; Now you dwell inside the rhythm of breath, As close to us as we are to ourselves. Though we cannot see you with outward eyes, We know our soul’s gaze is upon your face, Smiling back at us from within everything To which we bring our best refinement. Let us not look for you only in memory, Where we would grow lonely without you. You would want us to find you in presence, Beside us when beauty brightens, When kindness glows And music echoes eternal tones. When orchids brighten the earth, Darkest winter has turned to spring; May this dark grief flower with hope In every heart that loves you. May you continue to inspire us: To enter each day with a generous heart. To serve the call of courage and love Until we see your beautiful face again In that land where there is no more separation, Where all tears will be wiped from our mind, And where we will never lose you again.

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Dinah Vaughn
10 months ago
1
1

One time Phil was talking with a group of leaders at your Redding house. Xander was just a month or so old and sitting on someone's lap next to him. He just kept starting at Phil and smiling so big and almost laughing! It was such a fun moment for us and so advanced for such a young baby. Loved his love for life . So much spirit packed into that little body.

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Kim Robertson
10 months ago
1
1

I specifically remember being shocked to see that this big maturing kid was so eager to get down to Archer's level and pinch and coo at him just to get a laugh. He wanted to play with all the kids no matter their ages. Branigan liked how Xander hand picked him to soak his back with a water balloon at Tytus' birthday celebration... He was so playful and just wanted everyone to have a good time. I won't forget those starry eyes peaking out from those long surfer-boy locks and of course that megawatt smile. We love you guys and are grieving with you and praying for you. May God lift you up and hold you tight. ♥

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Heather Guier Borsuk
10 months ago
1
1

Jake wanted to share his favorite memory was spending the afternoon at your house and him and Xander playing with lightsabers.

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Breanna Hackney
10 months ago
1
1

When I think of xander I think of the 2013 Mexico trip when he told us the resurrection story and I just saw how much this little boy had so much love for Jesus my prays are with brandon and Melissa's family and friend who life was touched by xander

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Heather Vaughn
10 months ago
1
1

One of our favorite memories of sweet Xander was during one of our game nights at your house. He sat at the table so excited to stay up past bedtime, to understand the board game and chime in with questions. That brain of his had better strategy and game moves than mind ;) It was amazing how he channeled both his intelligent and maturity yet was still a total kid at heart (jumping non stop on the trampoline with Kyle). I can't help but be in complete tears as I write this and there are truly no words but man did he leave an impression on so many hearts. This has changed us forever.

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Luke Corsaut
10 months ago
1
1

Words can't describe how grateful I am to have known Xander and his beautiful heart for Christ. Although I hadn't seen him in almost two years, I still remember vividly all the warm hugs he gave me on Sunday mornings and all of our hilarious conversations. He always knew how to put a smile on my face. My prayers and love go out to all of you in this time of distress.

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Jason Davis
10 months ago

So sorry the family lost their precious Xander. Praying for God to bless the family with love and strength to get through this horrific time.

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Shari Grace
10 months ago

Logan played soccer with Xander on team Silver Strikers. Logan told me that Xander was his "second best friend in soccer". He said, "Mom, as soon as he saw me he came up and said hi to me." This was huge for Logan as soccer was a way for him to meet new friends. Xander's simple act of kindness made an impression on my son that will last a lifetime. I hope Logan will always remember that and treat others the way that Xander welcomed him. What a truly wonderful soul. He will be missed and our hearts go out you. God bless you all. You are in our prayers.

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Jennifer Odom
10 months ago

I can't comprehend that this tragic incident happened to you guys. I do know you guys are strong and have the backbone of God. We lift you guys up in prayer! Xander was the light in the crowd. He made everyone happy! He was an amazing kid. Love you guys!

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Cheryl Mayers Johnson
10 months ago

Melissa and Brandon... Not sure if you remember me from Simpson but I was RD while you were students. I have been without words when I heard the news. Just know that my prayers are with you both and for your family. Sounds like Xander was a very special angel. Praying for you. ❤️

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