Over the past couple of weeks my God mother, Terry Ellis was devastated when she received the news of her stage 4 cancer diagnosis. This is especially profound considering she and her husband have two beautiful children ages 4 and 9.
Terry Ellis is a beautiful, kind, strong, and genuine woman, loved by all who are lucky enough to know her. We’re asking for funds to help Terry have time to heal, Tim have time to focus on kids, and money to help offset both alternative and standard treatments. Help us support her family in this time of need.
UPDATE: Unfortunately its still to early to give much of an update. Terry has stage 4 breast cancer, which means she has breast cancer that has spread to other organs (lungs and liver). Her oncologist is still waiting until next Wed(approximately) to hear what treatments the cancer will be available to (there is a culturing process that achieves that). We have been given no time or longevity estimates but the situation is dire.
This diagnosis arose because of a hospital event, Terry had a fluid filled lung that led to the discovery of tumors. Terry knew as soon as she received this diagnosis that she would seek alternative treatment. Given that it would take several weeks to learn the standard course of treatment Terry chose to dive in and is now receiving intensive treatments through Hope For Cancer (hope4cancer.com) She is already feeling stronger, its of course too soon to tell how those therapies will succeed.
We have been submerged in a Tsunami of generosity since Terry’s illness was first diagnosed. Family, friends, school, and the greater community have given in ways we could never have imagined. Recently a friend connected to the kids school sent me a large check brining me so close to paying off our medical credit card debt I feel its only ethical that I close this campaign at this time.
Sadly we have not been able to thank each one of you individually - there have just been too many of you. I know a number of you gave when you could not, for this we are especially thankful. Please know that Terry especially was aware of each donation, as I have mentioned before, often weeping over the outpouring of generosity. We have felt so loved by each one of you.
We’ve planned a memorial celebration for Terry this June 3rd at the Springfield Grange, not far from our home. That weekend, starting on the 2nd we’ll be engaging in one of Terry’s favorite activities, natural building using cob. We’ll be working on finishing an art studio Terry was building. People are bringing messages or other objects important to them to imbed into the wall of the studio. To learn more about cobbing you can find many videos on youtube on the subject like this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sTEPkEFy5Qk
If you’re interested in attending the memorial or cobbing you can signup via Facebook here:
cobbing weekend: https://www.facebook.com/events/1900747633292268/
memorial celebration: https://www.facebook.com/events/172334406930427/
Finally, speaking for me and the kids, I want you all to know that we feel more held by love now than we ever have in our lives. People have shown up in numbers and enthusiasm the likes of which I certainly have never seen. In a way its a testament to Terry, which its own gift for us. The ripples of this outpouring of love will nourish each one of us for the rest of our lives.
Much love and many thanks to you and yours,
Tim & Tadg & True
Terry worked on her healing until just a short time before her death. Because of that she did not reach out to many people for support or even casual communication over these many months. She poured every ounce of her energy into healing, or even just managing her symptoms enough so that she and the kids could have positive, warm moments together. Because of this she did not have the energy to thank all of the people who supported her personally. Please know that she watched this page with great interest and deep appreciation. Many is the time I would walk in to see her scanning the list of donors, crying because she was so touched by everything everyone gave her or something loving someone wrote to her. Some of you gave multiple times, some of you gave only a little - when she knew even giving a little was a real burden. Please know that none of your donations or kind words ever escaped her appreciative gaze. Every one dropped straight into her heart. Every one enabled her to live longer, more comfortably, spending more time with her children who were the center of her world.
We are so grateful for all you all have done.
Terry knew exactly how she wanted her body cared for, a natural burial where she would be returned to the earth with as little adornment or protection from the elements as possible. We’ve been able to make that happen for her, she will be returned to her beloved Mother Earth this week at Fernwood cemetery in Mill Valley, surrounded by family. Because Terry asked to be held at home as long as possible, with no embalming treatment, we’ve had to move fairly quickly with plans. We are now organizing a memorial to take place in early June. This will include a service away from our home as well as a weekend of cobbing, camping and celebration of her life on our land. I’m sure Terry would not like her passing to be heralded only with grief, we must also laugh and love to honor her extraordinary spirit.
Finally we are still raising money to cover credit card debt accrued paying for various treatments. Our goal is to raise 15k so the kids and I can move forward in finding our new path forward with as little financial burden as possible. Family have graciously stepped up to help cover her internment costs, so thankfully we’re in the set there.
As a husband and father I can only say that I have been deeply honored to stand by Terry through all of this. I can’t think of her passing as only a tragedy, because I am surrounded each moment by the glory of two of her most precious gifts to the world, our children. If I had every day of my life to pour love into our children’s lives, it would never equal the love she gave them. That love will carry us all forward, that and her spirit which I know will continue to guide each one of us.
Many thanks and blessings to your and yours during this time of great change.
Hello lovely ones. I hope you are enjoying the holiday season, eating holiday goodies, drinking egg nog and enjoying the company of loved ones. I am in Tijuana at the clinic for three weeks. Though I have had success in treating certain parts of my body, the lesions in the chest wall have not responded well so I am here for an intensive boost to my immune system. I am trying a couple of new protocols from Germany — one using beautifully colored lasers and the other involving mistletoe (yes, I have mistletoe circulating in my blood so kiss me if you see me!). I am feeling better after only one week of being here— more energy and greatly reduced pain in my rib cage and back (which is such a blessing). Climbing the stairs here about 20 times a day has helped me gain some muscle strength and the abundant food and protein shakes have helped me gain a couple of pounds. yay.
Tim is with me which helps a great deal emotionally— made possible by my sister Mary staying with the kids. This weekend she will be driving the kids down to San Diego for a visit with Tim and I so we don’t go mad from missing them so much. Thank you Mary for all of your help. Tadg really wanted to come into Mexico but we have not gotten the kids passports yet— so that will have to wait (sorry Tadg). But there will be fun to be had in San Diego for sure.
I am working hard to get this part of my body to move forward towards healing. It’s always difficult to ask you all for support— you’ve given so much already. But if you can, please know it is greatly appreciated. If you cannot, perhaps you know someone you can pass this link along to.
I will keep you informed as to my progress but meanwhile have a joyful holiday and holy day season. I love you all— and hope you get to experience much joy and laughter in the upcoming weeks.
Much love to you and yours,
Terry, Tim, Tadg, and True
It is fully Autumn here and I am loving the crisp sunny weather. I just returned from the clinic for my six month follow up. To keep you updated, last time I wrote, I was doing IPT chemo. I completed a series of treatments and had a CT scan to determine the effectiveness. The scan showed a little bit of progress in tumor reduction but not as much as the docs were hoping for, especially for this type of treatment. So I started right away on a new protocol while the docs consulted with each other on the next step. This week, after six weeks of being on this new protocol, the ultrasound showed no further metastasis since my last CT scan six months ago, the breast mass decreasing in volume by 12% and the lymph node decreasing in volume by 66%. Blood flow (cancer cells create their own blood system) was reduced in breast, lymph and liver by 10-20%. So that is great news!
I know that most of you understand and respect my health care decisions. Some of you may be having a hard time understanding why I don’t do full blown chemo but I don’t believe in my heart and spirit that it would benefit me. In the past year, I have had two friends who have had similar and less serious diagnoses than me, one of them facing a second round of cancer. Both of them went through regular chemo and both of them are now in hospice. I was so saddened to hear this as both of them have children at home. I don’t have any answers for anyone else and would never advise nor judge others for their healthcare decisions, but I know that I am doing what is right for me, which are non-toxic treatments that cleanse the body, build the immune system, weaken cancer cells, and stimulate my killer cells to disable cancer cells.
Unfortunately, because I am choosing a path less traveled (ha ha— is anyone surprised?) insurance does not cover any of this new protocol that is proving to be so effective. It really is a shame because a study by NIH found it to significantly help 80% of their study participants. Your contributions to this Go Fund Me account have made it possible for me to not only buy medical equipment, but continue on this healing protocol. All of your contributions have been spent very wisely. This current protocol costs $500 a week, so any help you can offer would be appreciated.
Much love and gratitude to all of you who have made my protocols possible, and to everyone else who is making our now well-oiled but still understandably squeaky machine run.
We hope you experience much joy during this beautiful season,
Terry, Tim, Tadg and True
I love you ❤️ Holdng you in God’s radiant healing light always ☀️
Terry, You blow me away with your love and attention to life.They come together in seeing your children ,your creative and wonderful husband Tim,and of course the never ending love of your sister,and family! The picture from last summer made me ache for the same love in my family.The picture blended you all together,and breathtaking. I wish you the best,and appreciate your giving heart.I only wish the best for you and your family. You Go Girl! You simply help me grow and love.Thanks again
Thanks for update, great that you are improving! Sending love and healing energy and holding you and your family in our hearts, Laural and Roy