Khoury's Top Surgery Recovery Expenses

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Raised by 41 people in 2 months
Khoury's FTM Top Surgery Recovery Expenses Needed By June 14th, 2019.

The long awaited time for top surgery is here! For those of you who do not know me, my name is Khoury and I moved up to a welcoming Rochester, NY from a small southwestern town in OK, all because I have small titties. (See below, lol!)

     Ha! Well, that’s part of the story! Back in my early 20’s (currently I’m in my 30’s), I would frequent the ONE gay bar near where I lived. Once during a drag show, I became confused when a normal looking guy walked out on stage and performed. “This space is for Queens!” I thought out loud, wondering where this dude’s makeup, wig, and dress was. It was that night that I learned Drag Kings exist, and that being transgender could go both ways (not only a male gender transitioning to female gender, but a female gender transitioning to male gender too!).

     Having grown up a very feminine looking straight girl, my mind was blown with the above knowledge. “You mean, I can actually look like a cute gay boy in THIS lifetime!?” I exclaimed this to my bewildered friends. Right then, I knew I would transition from a female gender, to a male gender.

     Since I can remember, I have always been a gay boy. From every dream I’ve ever had, to every video game character I played, to all the folks in the AOL chat rooms I role-played with (back when AOL was everyone's jam!)–I’ve always been a gay boy. I YouTube’d up a storm of information, and soon after, had my first testosterone injection (I’m making it sound way easier than it was, especially in OK T~T).

     In high-school, I hated having small titties! My mom and sis would tease me and say my chest looked like fried eggs with the yolks broke! I am thankful for my small chest now though. Painfully binding for years (flattening my chest to make it appear more masculine by use of a compression binder-ladies, it's like a mammogram that lasts 8-12 hours), thankfully my chest has shrunk from hormone replacement therapy. Even so, I still do not feel comfortable wearing some of the masculine clothing that I would prefer (or of course, being shirtless at the beach) all because of my breast size.

     I’ve always been an artist and caregiver at heart, and my job types have always been part time, making sure to have the ability to travel home on short notice to help care for my aging mother whenever needed. I also started a nonprofit that recovers food at a local public market–sorting thousands of pounds of fresh fruit and vegetable donations per day–to give to homeless shelters, soup kitchens, and the like. It’s a very laborious job (over four years old now) and I have had trouble figuring out how to take time off for this major life-changing surgery (I have no family up here to help).
     In short, I have NEVER had a job that afforded me sick time, vacation time, or qualified me for health insurance. I also found it difficult to find a surgeon to perform the type of surgery I’d like–since my chest is smaller, I'm candidate for a less invasive procedure that has minimal scaring. Top surgery just hasn’t been an option until now. After many consults across the states, I found one here in Rochester, NY who will perform my surgical preference! It’s already scheduled for the middle of June!

Having saved up what little I could, 100% of my operation costs are covered by my current insurance and savings; however, I have started this campaign to help raise money for additional costs pertaining to post procedure.

     I really don’t want to push this surgery back anymore–I want to be able to enjoy it THIS SUMMER! I’m in my 30’s and not getting any younger! I sure hope you can help me enjoy the warm sunshine on my chest this year.

     In the spirit of celebration and gratitude for the life my body has given me, I have chosen a boudoir photography shoot in efforts to raise money for my surgical recovery expenses. I wanted to highlight my features before chopping them off ;D Those who donate to this campaign ($20 or more) may receive a free print of their choice (4x6 or larger)! 

Links to come to the full album from this session! My friend Aaron with Along Photography did an amazing job–huge thanks to him! www.alongphoto.com 

Minimum 2 Weeks 
(Week 1 & Week 2) $1,255
$500 Lost Work Wages (no paid time off)
$455 Hotel Expenses ($65 per night for 1 week)
$100 Transportation Expenses (hopefully, I may be able to drive after 1 week)
$100 Pet Sitting Service (1 week)
$100 Miscellaneous (food, bribes, good books, etc.)

Doctor Recommended 4 Weeks
(Week 3 & Week 4) $600
$500 Lost Work Wages (I may return with restrictions depending)
$100 Miscellaneous (more food, more bribes, more good books, etc.)

INITIAL GOAL: Recovery Expenses Total: $1,855

SECOND ADDITIONAL GOAL: Revisions Savings $3,500-$5,000


Work: I have four jobs, which the first three are paying: Educational assistant working with adults with developmental disabilities; photographer in a family portrait studio (mostly newborns and toddlers); host of an open-mic night at a local café; and director of a food-recovery operation. All these jobs are laborious and expose me to strong hugs, sneezes, and other problematic items-the medical professionals suggest I take two to four weeks off from work to prevent postsurgical complications.

Hotel: I share a home with six other adults, four cats, and one dog. Need I say more?

Revision Savings: There’s a 50% chance that surgical revisions will be needed with my elected procedure. These will NOT be covered by insurance.

Thank you again for checking this out and please share!
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This will probably be the FINAL UPDATE: This Campaign Is Ending.

I want to thank truly everyone who has supported me through this super exciting time of my life. Today I am happily 3-weeks post-op from my FTM top-surgery keyhole procedure that was performed by Dr. Davenport in Rochester, NY.

With help from each one of you, I was able to take some lovely time to recovery at a beautiful Airbnb owned and managed by an awesome and supportive family. I had some setbacks my second week, accidentally pulling some internal stitches (while removing my shirt) that caused quite a bit of swelling. But, things are, as you can see, much better now!

I had planned to send out thank you cards during my downtime, but my recovery has been a challenge for me. It's difficult for me to slow things down and take it easy. Naps hit me hard randomly and I've struggled to finish projects. However, as promised, those who have donated $20 or more, please (if you'd like) send me your physical mailing address and I will send you a lil thank you card with a print from my boudoir photo session!

Please, don't be shy! I would truly love to send my thanks to all of you (regardless of how much you donated), so please just send me your mailing information (or, if local we can work out a way for you to pick it up from me) and let me know if you'd like a print with your card, or maybe a leftover penis magnet, nipple pizza magnet, or make a request! I have yet to upload the album online, but, if you'd like a digital album of it, I'm open to sharing it!

I love to be crafty and want to show my appreciation. Even if you DIDN'T DONATE, there were plenty of folks who helped me move around items (no lifting, pushing, or pulling for me), drive me around, and even bathe me–you all have been such lovelies! So if you're reading this and helped in any way (maybe shared this campaign or sent me some good vibes) let me know how I can send my thanks!

You can send your mailing information directly through whatever platform you are reading this on: GoFundMe, FB, Instagram, etc. or request my email address!

Thank you so much again everyone <3 I'm healing up nicely and am looking forward to roaming in the sunshine topless soon (I have to wear a compression binder for a few more weeks to prevent fluid retention).

PS: If you are local, there is an upcoming comedy show this Friday in regards to my operation! Message me for details or troll my social media.

<3 x10
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Although keyhole procedures are highly desired, there can be high revision rates. This means that, depending on how the candidate’s body responds to the operation, skin may need to be adjusted later or other areas touched up on like: nipple placement, nipple sizes, skin sagging, breast tissue/fat distribution, etc. Because of this, I have started a revision fund and am still accepting donations towards this campaign.

It is only thanks to the support of everyone involved in this with me, that has enabled me to move forward with this operation. My mobility is greatly reduced while in recovery and I am unable to perform my usual work duties. Because of you, I am able to take the required time off to ensure I heal up and regain my strength before returning to my very physically demanding jobs (food-recovery collections, portraits studio, support of adults with developmental disabilities, and emcee).

The more you share and donate, the more time I am able to take to heal before returning to work. This isn't just physical healing we are talking about, but mentally healing too.

I am still mostly at a loss of words when looking at my chest. I know I have already gotten the procedure done and I am in post-op care, but, even with tending to these wounds, I’m still not feeling the gravity yet of this experience.

One thing I am absolutely certain of though, is that I’m very excited to go deep v-neck shopping!

Thanks everyone. Thank you for giving me this opportunity to take a deep breath and let myself heal.
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On Monday, June 24th I had my female-to-male, gender-affirming, chest-reconstruction, keyhole incision, (whatever in the world you want to call it) top surgery–it’s been done!

Each of you reading this, I have to give so many thanks to. It has been such a challenging journey for myself to take hold of this opportunity. This is life changing for me. You are a part of this and I will forever remember your kind words, thoughts, prayers, and all other sorts of contributions no matter the scale.

The day of my operation, the staff was wonderful. I was taken care of, treated well, and all were in lovely humor. New and close friends cared for me. The anesthesiologist was amazing–I remember each individual and had no adverse side-effects when waking (minus you-know-what). The doctor too worked wonders.

As you can see, the procedure took only a couple of hours and produced instant results. So far, I only have a few areas where there is bruising. Thankfully, with combination of having been many years on hormone-replacement-therapy, my healthy diet, and natural figure, I was able to have one of the most sought after ftm top surgery procedures: keyhole. But, this comes with risks.

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My pre-op is all clear and my operation is tomorrow morning! (That's Monday the 24th of June.) I am so excited and anxious at the same time. In the many years past, I would have thought this operation would have been influenced strongly by a loving partner; but no, I am going into this operation divorced (for years now, thankfully so) and without any family members here to support me (due to medical reasons, my mother was unable to fly here).

Honestly, I am thankful for the place in my life I am at now. I am doing this for myself and am touched so dearly to have as many Rochester friends, acquaintances, and even strangers offer so much support. I have many change of hands helping me out with rides, bedside support, visits, and stay overs for the next week or two. So thank you everyone–you are closer to me than my family.

Please continue to send your love, supportive words, and encouragement, because I strongly need them right now. This operation is more of a transition in itself (with taking off work, the place right now the NFP I founded is at with our first hiring of staff, and personal projects) than these past nine years have been living my life being seen as a gay man while still batting my eyelashes at all the straight men! LOL.

Although the local fundraisers I orchestrated added much stress to my already full plate, in conjunction with this online campaign, I have successfully reached my first goal of $1,885. This is a huge relief! I encourage you each to read my campaign's information and see that, even though I have reached my first minimal goal, I can still use added support to help with any complications and other items you can find listed in this campaign's description.

Once in recovery, I'll continue to update as things progress. As promised, I'll be reaching out to each donor again soon to start putting together thank you cards and sending some pics over to those who want of my boudoir session.

Thank you all dearly again and please continue to share this campaign alongside some kind words <3
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