I-15 plane tragedy (Toni service)
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She was life. She was so hungry for life every single day and she was not afraid to chase after it. Roller derby truly saved her soul and gave her the reboot, the second wind to really find herself and chase every tiny fragment of a dream that must have ever entered her mind. She was our friend and SO many can say that. She had such a huge world of people that called her friend, that called her family. She was such a force to be reckoned with that only a fucking airplane could take her out. Let that sink in for a minute. She loves that by the way, she keeps saying it to me, she keeps saying, “Betch, I got hit by a fuckin plane!” What a way to go. Its a fucking tragedy, and I still don’t believe it. I still don’t think that its real. But this is about her. And she’s mad..and she is so sad because we are all so sad. and Because she still had more to do. But she lived every single day so fully, and with so much drive, and with SOOOOOO many activities, that someone somewhere said, well Stonez, you done drank up all the life that I can spare. You saw all the things, you tasted all the things, hell you cooked and baked all the fucking things and you even managed to subtract all the refined sugars. You did it. You lived it. You lived more in the past few years of your life than most people do in a lifetime. You were grateful for every second of every day. Toni showed up for people. Toni showed up for everyone. If you had a thing, a birthday, a show, a sale, a baby thing, she was there. If she wasn’t there, I promise she was somewhere else, showing up for someone else who needed it more. A true friend shows up, and a true friend tells you like it is, and that was Stoni. She was one of the best friends I have ever had. She forever changed me, and she changes me even more with this sudden random, tragic passing. We can all learn from her, in so many ways. Seize every fucking day. Take that fucking road trip. Think there isn’t enough time in a day to get outside, cook some food, work at 3 jobs, practice roller derby, study for a test and get to a metal show? Bullshit, she has shown us that. She was fucking exhausting, but what an inspiration. She sucked up all that life had to offer, and never strayed from who she was for a second. I always knew who she was. She was so fucking real. With all the drama in the scene, with all the bullshit of who likes who, who’s not speaking, Toni never even dabbled in that shit. She maintained her position with every person, all the time. She was so real. She always told it like it was. No holds barred, zero fucks given, just give it to you straight. We had so many hours in kitchens with ovens and frosting and music and she was with me through so many ups and downs in my life. She always remained. She was always there for me. Last time I saw her was at my birthday visit to San Diego. After dinner we went to Rosie O’ Gradys to sing karaoke and she was going to sing Alice in Chains. She was so nervous, we all know that bitch can’t sing! She kept asking if she should, I told her fuck it, yes! Do it! So she turned in the paper to the guy and she kept coming over and practicing and singing it to me at the table. She was fucking tone def and I love her so much for it, but I was so happy she was going to do it anyway because that is what life is about. She ended up getting super drunk and the karaoke guy never got to her song. It was so funny and she ended up just talking at the bar forever, we basically had to drag her out of there. I was going to stay with her this summer when I came back to SD. I cannot believe she won’t be there. She was close to so many. She was family to hundreds. I am so grateful for her friendship, which never wavered for a second. I am so grateful for her Stoni laugh, I can still hear it so clearly. Her voice which I have been hearing for the past day. Her emotion and her heart. We cried together many times and that is just another piece of her realness. Her drive was unparalleled. Through the toughest of times, through the gauntlet of financial obstacles that life would throw at her she never slowed down. She swerved a bit from time to time, but she always found her way back. She will forever be a part of me, and I know that I am not alone in that. We love you Stoni girl. Always.
I am so saddened and in disbelief at what i saw on my way to work Saturday. I prayed for the familys who i knew wouls be getting the most unbearable phone call of their life. I didnt know you but i was near you as you left this earth. Im sorry , and still so affected by your loss. Janie shaw.
I am a total stranger and I was driving on the I-15 southbound when this happened. I was in shock and I want to express my condolences to her family and friends. It's heartbreaking to read what an incredible person she must have been to meet this fate. I will donate and share your GoFundMe campaign.
Toni ! You will Be Missed so. Much! I'm glad that we got a chance to know each other. You were a wonderful Friend to all of us. And we will miss your Baking too. Thanks for all the walls we did . Will never forget it either . Why did this have to. happened to her ??
We are terribly saddened to learn about Toni's passing. She was in our Girl Scout troop for many years. Toni always had a smile on her face and was a joy to be with. We are sorry to say we lost contact. But, she was a person who could have stepped back into our lives without missing a beat. We are proud of all Toni has accomplished during the time we have lost contact. We wish we could have told her. We are happy that Toni pursued her dreams and that she found people who love and cared for her.
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VERY SAD!.. So sorry for San Diego Roller Derby girls.. and of coarse her family and friends.... Damn plane on a the 15! RIP!
My heart is so full of love for our worldwide derby family. The outpouring of love makes me so proud. I'm so terribly sad to lose one of our own.