Queen's Castle by Constance
$200,000 of $75,000 goal
Is the most important post I have ever written and is what Queenhood is all about. Meet the girls at Rafiki Mwema.
Rafiki Mwema is a charity that has created a safe house for young girls in Kenya who have been sexually abused and are in need of love, support and tenderness.
Some of these young survivors have been sexually abused to the point of needing surgery, some prostituted from the age of 2 (yep, you read that correctly 2 years old) some aren't able to communicate to anybody without covering their faces due to the shame they believe they have brought on themselves.
I was contacted by the inspiring Sarah, a mum who lives near Byron Bay and works 40 hour weeks for nothing but the hope that she is bringing some peace to these little girls, little girls who have been betrayed by their own families and who before Rafiki came along believed that they world didn't hear their cries.
At Rafiki, though love, therapy and support these girls are learning their own self worth, kept safe, educated and patiently taught to trust again.
Sarah believes that one day these girls will rule Kenya, I do not doubt it.
The problem lies here, Rafiki is a house on a farm a house that funds were raised to pay for, full of young girls and when they become teenagers there isn't anywhere for them to go that funds are able to cover, the room in the house is so desperately needed for other young girls to move into and out of harms way, leaving the teenage girls to often return home to their communities where many of them are sexually abused again and considered "tainted" which invites in further abuse.
These teenage girls are so loving and compassionate despite what they have gone through that they have often been the key in reaching the new traumatised little girls when they arrive. The teenagers have been known to put aside their own therapeutic needs in order to care for and support the new babies of the "family"
Only to be returned to harm and an unsafe environment much before they're ready to stand on their own feet.
Rafiki Mwema contacted me and explained that they have the land on the farm, ready to build the teenagers new home on, a forever home that they can feel safe in and continue their therapy, they just don't have the funds to build it.
They need 75 thousand dollars to create this home for these beautiful Queens.
Now like all of us I don't have 75 thousand dollars, but I have found myself in the pretty surprising position of having a platform which I can reach a hell of a lot of the most supportive and loving Queens that I have ever been in contact with, you guys.
Rafiki Mwema has suggested that if together we can raise these funds and build this home they would dedicate it to us all by naming it the "Queens Castle" now I'm pretty sure our teenage queens in Kenya won't mind that one little bit
We don't need to imagine that it was our little girl being prostituted and beaten daily by more then 5 men.
We don't need to imagine that it is our little girls eyes that we have to look into and send home to that place with the "hope" that it doesn't return.
Because they are our little girls, all Queens in this world are connected, being a Queen is about supporting and looking after each other. Let's build this Castle, built by Queens for Queens, let's be part of something bigger and keep these teenagers safe.
Please Queenies, if I have ever done anything that has helped you or made you laugh or made you feel not alone, or reminded you that you are a motherfucking Queen Legend. Please do this for us, this is our cause, follow the link in the first comment and build this Queens castle with me, these Girls need us desperately.
Love you guys
Have you ever stood in the middle of a dream, not knowing if it was real or not? Have you ever wanted something so much it just HAD to happen? Have you ever thought about the impact of you donating to the Queen’s Castle – I mean REALLY thought about it?
November the 11th 2016 – a day that is imprinted in our minds for a life time. A day that we knew dreams can become a reality. A day we saw our older girls move into a castle built with love, by a loving community, for a loving family to experience safety and family.
Let’s rewind just a little – let’s go back 10 months to a day we sat and fretted about our older girls. Many of the girls that had gone home as teenagers were simply not safe in their communities and so we arranged for them to attend a local boarding school, where Rafiki Mwema could monitor and support them. Where they could be free of the pressures and stigma, that only a child who has been raped and abused in this part of the world, can understand. We can only use the words and imagine the terror of being sold off to an older man in the village as ‘used goods’ because you have been raped as a child. We can only imagine the fear that every time you leave your home the other kids and adults shout at you, throw stones and chase you. We can only imagine the horror when your own mother makes you sleep outside and calls you a dog. Our girls lived that.
We needed a safe future for them where they could stay part of a family that needed even more support and understanding, but also stay safe from attack and abuse. And we needed to ensure we could continue to offer the safety of Rafiki Mwema to other small girls who were sent to us for safety straight from the courts. We couldn’t ‘block’ our system with older needing girls and leave the smaller girls in the rough and non-caring children’s prisons that they were sent to following their rapes.
We were a bit stuck – until Queen Constance brought you into our lives. Until we met an army of Kings and Queens who saw the need to build a safe permanent home for our older, longterm girls where living at home was simply not an option. So you gave us what was needed to build a Castle of love and safety on our own farm – a Castle fit for a Queen – Queens Castle!
Read the rest over on our website about the QUEENS CASTLE GRAND OPENING!!!
I have lots of news to give you on the Queens Castle and photos of the girls but I just need to catch my breath from the trip and journey home and I need to hug my daughter.
When our wonderful supporter Jess (from Penny n Co) contacted Constance we really did not know what we were in for.. but look at this army of strong, supportive & passionate people! You are incredible and this has changed everything.
We have so many ideas in our head about the future of Rafiki. The dreams that Anne Marie has had for years now seem like they can become a reality.
If you have signed up to sponsor or you are waiting on a reply from me, please be patient. I am working so hard to export everything from my brain so it makes some kind of sense and there are many of us in the background working on things. I will get back to each and every one of you.
To remain in contact with you all after I shut down this go fund me page ( I just can't do it until we reach $200K !! Blame my OCD) I am going to add your email to the Rafiki Mailing list. Please just unsubscribe if you are not keen to join... it's no problem at all! It just easier to subscribe you all than ask separately. I will make sure i add a very clear UNSUBSCRIBE link to the first email.
Have I told you lately that I love you? and I know that we all love Constance.
Asante Sana Sana Sana
Just a heads up you can find us on facebook here> https://www.facebook.com/RafikiMwemaNakuru/
and instagram here > https://www.instagram.com/rafikicastle/
We can build a safe house for the girls. We can build our stepping stone house for our very vulnerable needy baby girls when they arrive in our family. We can wipe the tears with our love and begin their safe journey.
We can start to bring our project together. The dream of the Rafiki village has been there for a long long time. Now it's on the edge of reality.
Picture a safe safe place where damaged children can go to learn to love themselves again. Picture the girls houses on our farm - safe, free and healing. Picture them as young strong women who have learnt to love themselves again. You are making all that happen.
Dreams really do come true…
My darlings, now you have your castle to share, its walls will keep you safe. You're free of hurt and pain, and while it may take time, you will learn to heal again. So rule with confidence in this castle my loves, for this is the castle that love built. The castle that compassion built. The castle that freedom built. The castle that Constance Fucking Hall built! (Mind my french!) Know that you do have a purpose, and its not to be some toy, some object of desire. Your purpose now is to show the world that you are a queen in every right of the word. You have a say and you have rights to your body. Not anyone else. One day you will leave this castle, and go on to rule your own. You may even in time, have your own king and princess who will treat you right. My dear, the day will come while on your throne, that you will hand down justice. Justice to the man (men) that delivered you into that hell, and as he looks in your eyes, he himself will feel the flames you once felt. For Queens aren't just in fairytales my darlings, they walk among us every day. But today we take our crowns off, and hand them to you. We give them to you for safe keeping, and to wear with pride. I tip my crown to every queen out there who has helped this dream come true. And to Constance Hall, there are no words, but I fucking Love You.
Please let these girls be saved in time. Some of the queens who are contributing are the survivors of such. I hope against hope that this will ease pain and suffering for some girls out there. God knows there is enough in this world for them to face without this. Let them all be crowned young queens.
Synchronicity is beautiful - I have longed for this; to be involved or support, in some small way, a facility to support young women who have lived in trauma, to help provide a sanctuary for them. These queens living close by to the younger princesses will be able to offer so much support to them as they heal each other. Happy to help. Love your work Queen Constance xx
I cannot even begin to understand the pain in which these girls have suffered. I hope the money can be raised so they aren't forced to go back to where it all began and to have to relive it all. My heart goes out to everyone that is experiencing this and I hope and pray that you can all feel safe and secure in a home built from the love and kindness of strangers xx