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Jamie's Recovery Fund

$24,840 of $11,000 goal

Raised by 310 people in 27 days
Created November 15, 2018
As I am in Canada, this campaign has been created in Canadian dollars, although Jamie is in the USA.  $1 USD = $1.32 CDN

Our good friend, Jamie, has recently suffered a stroke.  While she is currently in stable condition, the road to recovery is long.  She will need weeks in hospital before speech and physical therapy can begin.  Her right side is not working well.  She cannot speak, write, or feel her leg.  Moving about on her own is out of the question.  

With three high-needs children and a husband whose job is out-of-state, Jamie's family needs all the help they can get.  Any funds you donate will help with costs associated with medical expenses, Jamie's inability to work, therapies, childcare, housekeeping, and travel.

If you are in the area, Jamie's husband, Chris, can use help with children and housecleaning.  Once they decide on a longer term treatment plan, other needs may arise.

Many thanks to those who are reaching out to provide support!
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Hello Everyone,

Things are better for Jamie but worse elsewhere.

First the positive. After a week of intubation and dozing anesthesia, Jamie rapidly recovered from her infections, and they're planning to transfer her out of the ICU and into a therapy facility today (12/1). Honestly, this took me by surprise. One morning she woke up, and the next they were planning to boot her out.

The echocardiagram found a small hole in her heart, though it wasn't clear when they spoke to me about it whether that was the cause of her stroke, or a result of it. A doctor was supposed to call me to discuss it, but never did. (I've yet to speak to any of her doctors - just the nurses taking direct care of her.)

Since re-awakening she's recovered some sensation in her right arm, but when I've seen her she's barely even tried to talk. She still has no control over her right arm or leg, and that side of her face seems to have lost more ability to hold expression. At the place she's going, she'll undergo intensive physical and speech therapy three to five hours a day for the next couple of weeks.

What happens after that is the current obstacle for me. While I was away at work, Jamie was also working full time, plus taking care of our three boys (one of whom requires *constant* supervision). The neighbors have said "she was always moving," always coming and going on some chore. While dealing with this work load, the house maintenance went to slack.

Our home isn't presently livable, and a large portion of the furniture, including all the beds, needs to be replaced. The boys and I been crashing with one of Jamie's coworkers for the last three weeks. For that entire period, I've been trying - and failing - to get a professional crew in to clean up the house.

There are only three companies locally who can handle the issues that must be addressed before we can return. All three are booked solid, and it required a half-dozen badgering phone calls to each to even get them to talk to me. One came to look at the place 11/19, but will only get me a cost estimate later today (12/1), after two time extensions. The second said they could look at the house on 12/3 if I paid them $175, but wouldn't be able to start work before 12/10. The last place can't even look at the house until 12/12.

Meanwhile, when I got to the house to do cleaning this week, I found an inch of standing water in the basement, because the sump pump had stopped working.

Also, the boys' pet rat died. I had to walk around the neighborhood knocking on doors to borrow a shovel so I could bury her in the yard.

After three weeks of burning my candle at both ends trying to handle Jamie, the boys, and the house all at the same time, I've fallen ill. This means I won't be able to visit Jamie anytime soon, due to re-infection risk.

It's been tempting to draw on your donations to help with these problems, but I've resisted the urge. I know we have huge medical bills incoming, and I don't know how long I'll need to be out of work.

- Chris
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Hello everyone,

I don't have enough free time to thank everyone individually, but I wanted to issue a blanket thank-you for your generosity.

For those who are not personal friends with either of us, Jamie's condition has fluctuated over the last two weeks. Through sheer determination she was able to speak a few words last week (she hasn't had any speech therapy yet), but her recovery has been hampered by her also having pneumonia AND bronchitis infections dating from before the stroke. Struggling to breathe and coughing fits were sapping all her energy, so the doctors intubated her, and she's spent most the last week in a drowsy state of anesthesia. But she's still not recovering from the infections, and intubation often leads to MORE infections, so they now plan to perform a tracheotomy for breathing and install a feeding tube.

As I type, I'm waiting for a call back from the hospital for a "transesophageal echocardiagram" which will check her heart for issues. Obviously it's not normal for a 39 year-old to have a stroke, hopefully this will help them figure it out and prevent any further problems.

I've explained to our 13 year-old the extent of her injuries, and how things are likely to change going forward. The younger boys would find it difficult to understand, so I've only told them that mom is sick. At the moment, all of them are also sick in varying degrees, so they can't visit her in the ICU.

For those who know me by my work, you know Jamie and the kids more than you know. In Mass Effect 2, Thane's story about his son "dancing crazy" to get his attention while he answers important emails is something that happened between myself and our oldest son. In Dawngate, Jamie (a trained doula) essentially cowrote the birth section of Marah's intro story, and Ajaru (in Faris' story) is loosely based on our middle boy. In MtG Kaladesh, I made no secret of basing my portrayal of Chandra Nalaar on Jamie's personality at age 21, when we met.

I'll try to update more in the future, but 95% of the time, I only have a smartphone to type on, so long missives like this will be rare.

- Chris
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Raised by 310 people in 27 days
Created November 15, 2018
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