Mom's nursing home & other expenses

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Raised by 7 people in 17 months
In Feb. 2015, in the middle of the night, I discovered Mom had fallen in her bedroom. After spending close to two weeks in the hospital, she was discharged to a nursing home, where she has remained for the past three years.

After draining our bank accounts to almost nothing, we are still in debt to them and still have to turn over her monthly "income." I've explained I can't let our bank accounts go negative because that will open up a whole other set of problems and I pay what I can, when I can. But I still need money to pay other bills.

For her to receive assistance, bank accounts have a maximum limit set by the state, which doesn't allow me to hold anything back.

No other family or friends are willing or able to help. I've been the only one taking care of Mom for the past three years. My sister & her family have abandoned us. They don't call or visit and have lied on multiple occasions to both of us. In short, we're not on speaking terms. No one besides me visits and calls from other family & friends are few & far-between.

I'm struggling to keep up with taking care of Mom but I am falling apart and so is our house/property which are in need of repair & major cleaning.

Any help is greatly appreciated. Donations will be used to pay off the debt to the nursing home, followed by other bills I need to get caught up on, and then house cleaning/repair.

$10,000 - $15,000 estimated needed by end of April 2018.

Thanks for your consideration.
*photo used is from Google search...not allowed to use camera/phone inside nursing home due to privacy reasons*
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Attempted to take photos. This is what's owed, in the order it needs to be paid.

$57,157.83 PA Dept. of Human Services (medical "assistance"...which I was not informed was more like a loan than a grant)
$5530.37 to the county
$14,872.31 to the nursing home
$10,000 to the lawyer
$500 estimated additional administration expenses
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Met with lawyer last month. Estimated $85,000 owed just to pay back/pay off debt after Mom passed away.

$57,000+ of that is "medical assistance" which needs to be repaid to the state. From my recollection, I wasn't informed by the nursing home (or the state) that this was more like a LOAN than a grant. Still looking into legal action against the nursing home for MANY reasons but don't know if anyone will take the case or not.

About $8000-$10,000 to pay off estate taxes.

Close to $15,000 owed to the nursing home.

When I met with our lawyer, he told me my brother-in-law called him out of the blue to make a lowball offer to buy (or STEAL in my words) the house for me to leave. He's a contractor & flips houses with his cousin. Didn't have the guts to call me directly. And it's funny that he has money now but when my sister & him offered to take Mom in a few years ago, they couldn't help pay for her care if she moved in there from the nursing home. Not only did my sister & her family not contribute any money for the nursing home which basically bankrupted Mom & I, but they didn't call or visit...only a few times in 3+ years.

So I'm really in crisis mode now. Not sure how much longer I'll last or even if I want to, aside from keeping my sister & brother-in-law from getting the house or any profit from it. Bad blood is an understatement.

I need miracle(s) ASAP.
Thanks again for donating & sharing. I appreciate it.
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Spoke with lawyer this afternoon. He received a letter from the state that they may claim over $57,000 to recover from medical expenses that I wasn't aware they could claim. Still owe almost $15,000 to nursing home. Not to mention lawyer and other bills. I have no idea how I'm going to get out from under this. Need a lot of money quickly.
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