Pam's Breast Cancer Fund

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Raised by 63 people in 8 months
Wow-I'm so far out of my comfort zone here, so please bear with me.

I consider myself a fairly strong person, but after going through several years of struggling-with the loss of Ray's job in Connecticut, moving our family back to Georgia in hopes of finding employment, watching Ray suffer through a heart attack and three subsequent surgeries, I have to say that I was thrown for a loop when I heard the words, "You are positive for breast cancer." I mean....C'mon, things were finally looking up for us. Ray was working again, Alex was doing well in college and Conor was a sophomore in high school. Yes, Ray had sold band equipment, and we had gone through any and all savings and retirement money to survive, but we felt very blessed to have our family together and Ray healthy again. And now, seriously-BREAST CANCER??!

On October 3, 2016, I received the official diagnosis: Invasive Ductal Carcinoma-a pretty aggressive form of cancer. Grade 3, Stage 111C, Estrogen-Positive.

Once my Oncologist explained my planned treatment protocol, I prepared myself mentally for the 16 rounds of chemo, a modified radical mastectomy (complete removal of the right breast as well as 11 lymph nodes), and 33 radiation treatments. What I was NOT prepared for were the financial difficulties that would arise along the way.

With a lot of love and help from my family (especially Ray who did everything from feeding me-to changing bandages and drainage tubes) I made it through chemo, surgery, and radiation, but I am still in need of additional medical care. I need CT scans and tests along with treatments for some cancer-related issues. I also am still in need of reconstruction surgery. And NOW, we are without insurance. YES, our insurance was recently canceled! I'll spare you the details because many of you are probably already aware of all the ways our healthcare system fails so many of us who have serious and expensive treatment needs.

Our family has been affected by my cancer in so many ways. In addition to the worries about me and my health, the kids have been affected so much financially. With all of the medical costs involved-it's difficult to even pay our monthly bills, much less have anything left over to help Alex with money for college, or to take Conor to visit colleges that he is interested in attending. I could go on-but I'm sure you get the idea.

Some of our friends have suggested several times over the past few months that I create a GoFundMe account and I dismissed that as just being humorous-even joking about possible names for the campaign-"Bucks for Boobs" or perhaps "Tips for TaTa's"........?????, but the more times I heard, "Sorry, you will need to pay now in order to have these tests done," and the more depressed I became about our situation, the more the GoFundMe idea started to not just be a funny idea.

It took quite awhile for Ray and me to swallow our pride and ask for help. Those of you who know me, know my asking for help is extremely hard. But I have a dear friend who reminded me that Ray and I have spent a lot of our lives giving to others-from friends or neighbors in need to camps for sick children-and while we much prefer to be on the giving end, I guess we must now learn to be on the receiving end.

Please know that any amount you can give will help and will be such a blessing to our family. I have fought hard to get to this point in kicking cancer's butt, and I would like to make sure I can continue with the treatments needed, even if it means turning to my friends for help. Although my prognosis is good and I can now consider myself to be a "Survivor"-due to the size of the masses and the number of cancerous lymph nodes that were removed, there is a risk for recurrence of this disease, and I will need to be monitored closely for some time.

All funds received from this campaign will be used to help pay my medical expenses for my cancer treatments and to alleviate some of the financial stresses on our family.

Your support and love mean so much to my family and me and even if you cannot help monetarily, I want you to know how much your continued prayers mean to us.

With love and appreciation-
Pam, Ray and the kids.

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Dear Friends-I was asked to share this again, but every time I do, I feel sick to my stomach....UGH....I HATE asking my friends for help.

The donations that we have already received have been such a blessing! Having insurance now has put us on the right track, but we still have a long way to go to reach our deductible, and it's putting an additional financial strain on our family.

Yesterday alone, the bill for my Lymphedema compression garments and some other cancer related medical necessities were almost $700. I also had to go to physical therapy 3 times this week. Once we reach our deductible, our insurance will pay 100%, but the money we put toward that deductible is money that we just don't have to spare.

As thankful as I am to simply be here today.....this financial burden is just unbelievable. I know we all have our struggles and again-I HATE asking, but any and all donations will help so-much-as will your prayers.

Also, again-I can't put into words how thankful we are for all of the prayers, love, and donations we have already been blessed with.

Love you all.


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Hi, Friends-

Again-I wanted to thank all of you who have donated, sent messages, prayers and good thoughts our way.

Many of you have asked me to keep you updated on our situation, so here it is-

We now have insurance! It is still quite a struggle trying to pay down the vast amount of hospital bills, while also coming up with money for the new insurance premiums, deductibles, co-pays, etc......but again-we are so happy to HAVE insurance again! I had two scans just over a week ago, and they were over $9,000, but we are only responsible for $2,000, so without the insurance, that would have been much worse for us financially!

It's still quite overwhelming and stressful, but hopefully, things are starting to look up for us a bit! Thankfully, the recent scans did not show any cancer or blood clots!

Today I will see a Lymphedema Specialist and hopefully start physical therapy!

Love and prayers to all-Y'all are such a blessing to our family!

Love, Pam
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For those who have asked for a health and insurance update--

As for my health-I am feeling pretty good these days! I’m dealing with a lot of issues from the lymph node removal as well as some other annoying, but not life-threatening issues. It could be so much worse, and I am THANKFUL!

As for the insurance-We will be covered by insurance later this month! The good news is that our deductible and monthly premiums won’t be nearly as much as they would have been through the Marketplace/Affordable Care! However-the deductible, along with the monthly premiums are still an overwhelming amount-especially when you factor in the number of medical bills we are already dealing with.

The money that our friends have donated has been a huge blessing and has allowed us to pay some of the medical bills and just keep our heads above water. As much as I hate to keep this account active-we still have an overwhelming amount of outstanding medical bills which prevent further needed treatments.

Again-I wish to extend a HUGE thank you for all of the financial support, love, cards, and prayers.
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Robbins family update-

We are so overwhelmed by the love and generosity of our friends during this difficult time. The Robbins family cannot thank you all enough for your donations and your prayers.

For those who have asked for an update-I am feeling pretty good these days! I am still dealing with some side effects from the chemo and radiation, as well as the anti-estrogen meds, but hopefully, some of these side-effects will lessen in time-if not-STILL BLESSED!

I am so very thankful that this year I was able to spend time with my family on Thanksgiving Day and even EAT with them, unlike last year when I was undergoing chemo!

I'm looking forward to Christmas, but I'm afraid I won't be able to "pig out" as much as I would like because I am participating in a weight loss study for cancer patients and I have to be good!

I hope that all of you have a wonderful holiday! Please eat a big slice of pie for me!! LOL!

As for the financial situation-we are still dealing with some significant medical bills, and I am scheduled for some additional scans over the next couple of months. Please know that all donations are so greatly appreciated-no amount is too small.

Pam and the gang.

Merry Christmas! Notice the hair??!!
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