Help Norma Pay for 24hour Home Care

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Chris Salvatore  LOS ANGELES, CA
Hello everyone, my name is Chris Salvatore and 4 years ago I moved in across the hall from a friendly but sassy full of life 85 year old woman named Norma. After a couple weeks of saying hello through her kitchen window that looked out onto our apartment complex courtyard I decided to knock on her door and enter Norma's world. Mostly because I could not here her very well through the window as she does not have he strongest voice anymore but I was also curious to hear her story. I soon learned that she had no family of her own living here in California, was suffering from a long list of health complications, including leukemia and just that week she had to give up her car because she lost her ability to drive. The day I entered her apartment and spoke with her face to face was the day my life was changed forever.

Over the last 4 years Norma and I became best friends. I would help her cook meals, drive her to the doctors, banks, pharmacies and even just recently I got the amazing experience to accompany her to vote. We had such a blast these past few years filled with so much joy and laughter. She is now 89 years old and sadly within the last 6 months her health has began to decline at an increasing rate.

Being her friend I took it upon myself to become even more involved in her life by helping her out however I could even by installing a wireless doorbell for her to get a hold of me while I was in my apartment. She began to lose her ability to walk and every couple months she would fall and have to be rushed to the ER. There were moments when I was awoken in the middle of the night by the sound of the wireless doorbell to find her in bed suffering from an asthma attack, on the floor, or even stuck on the toilet.

Within the last 3 months she has been in and out of the hospital 3 separate occasions due to a fall or other health complications. She is currently being held at the Rehabilitation Center of Beverly Hills with only 10 more days before she will have to be forced to move to a county nursing facility that takes her Medicare and mediCal insurance. These county facilities are often times unclean and just operating at the minimum health code to stay in business.

Norma has no money saved of her own and only receives a monthly social security check from the government which barely just covers her rent. The last week and a half has been really hard on Norma since she now has been given direct orders from her doctor that she cannot live at home unless she has 24 hour care. She cries in terror about being sent to a county facility where she says she will just be left to die without any dignity. Her nurses have told me that she doesn't have very much longer to live. I was told by one of them that if she makes it through the holidays that it would be a miracle.

Norma's last wish is to be at home with her cat Hermes as she transitions into the next life. She has been there for me so much these last past years just as much as I have been there for her and I feel that it is my duty to be able to give her this gift to live her last moments at home with 24 hour professional care. She has 170 hours per month given to her by the government for home care but that simply is not enough with her current health. She needs to be fed, bathed, changed, helped to the bathroom and much more. Using a certified home care agency that charges 20+ an hour to the nurses would equate to roughly $500 a day and $3,500 a week. The more money that is raised the longer Norma will get to stay at home!

I am asking for anyone who has seen my postings on social media with Norma and has been touched by her love and her smile and yes, even her sassiness to help donate what they can. If you can't I understand and would just ask you to share this with as many people as you can because I think the world just needs a little love and kindness right now and that is certainly true for my dear friend Norma. Norma has made me a kinder, more compassionate human being and this is the least that I can do for her! Thank you all so much ❤️

UPDATE - 1/20/17
We are reaching the 2 month mark since Norma has come home from the hospital and I am so happy to share that she is continuing to prove the doctors and nurses wrong by continuing to THRIVE! To prolong the remaining funds to prevent her from having to be moved into a county facility, Norma and I have decided to move her into my apartment across the hall where she now has her own beautiful room and bathroom! She loves it! I do most of my work at home so I am here most of the time to care for her so it only made sense to the both of us. She is my adopted grandmother after all and I am her grandson she never had. :) We will still have caregivers coming in to care for her as well as her weekly hospice visits from the nurses and doctors so any excess funds raised will go towards caregivers as well as medical bills. Thank you all so much for continuing to give Norma the quality care she deserves!
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Update 7
Posted by Chris Salvatore
2 months ago
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It's with a heavy heart that I share the news that earlier this week the world lost a truly inspiring, beautiful woman. Norma is now resting peacefully in the eternal and while she may no longer physically be with us, her spirit will continue to fill the hearts of so many people. Perhaps Norma's lasting legacy is that her story helped the world to see the true meaning of love. Norma reminded me that we all are created to love and all desire to be loved. This year Norma has reminded us what Valentine's Day is all about. To love another is not about living struggle free or never experiencing hurt or loss, but to fully and deeply open our hearts to one another without fear. Each of us is lovable even with all of our differences. Love has no boundaries. May you rest in peace my sweet sweet lady, Norma. Thank you all for making this amazing woman's last couple months of life beyond magnificent!
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Update 6
Posted by Chris Salvatore
3 months ago
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We are reaching the 2 month mark since Norma has come home from the hospital and I am so happy to share that she is continuing to prove the doctors and nurses wrong by continuing to THRIVE! To prolong the remaining funds Norma and I have decided to move her into my apartment across the hall where she now has her own beautiful room and bathroom! She loves it! I do most of my work at home so I am here most of the time to care for her so it only made sense to the both of us. She is my adopted grandmother after all and I am her grandson she never had. :) We will still have caregivers coming in to care for her as well as her weekly hospice visits from the nurses and doctors so any excess funds raised will go towards caregivers as well as medical bills. Thank you all so much for continuing to give Norma the quality care she deserves!
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Update 5
Posted by Chris Salvatore
4 months ago
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Norma has finally adjusted and settled into 24 hour home care! It took a few different agencies and caregivers to figure it out but I have now hired two fantastic sisters named Dara and Marvalene who switch off every 48 hours and Norma and I could not be happier with how great these two ladies are. So attentive and caring with a lot of experience in elderly care and medication management. Norma is enjoying herself so well that she has said she is hoping to stick around for a little longer to see what 2017 is all about. Norma is so grateful for all of you who have helped her stay at home with her sweet baby, Hermes. We are still continuing to raise funds for Norma's home care now that she has a new positive outlook on life thanks to all of you! Norma's slogan this holiday season is "Christmas Hugs" and her and I are her sending you all lots! Thank you!!
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Update 4
Posted by Chris Salvatore
4 months ago
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Norma is home with 24 hour care thanks to all of you!!! We had a homecoming party for her last night. Here is our version of the Mannequin Challenge! Enjoy! AND Thank you for all of those who made this possible including GOFUNDME!
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Marthe Shallies
4 months ago

My husband and I left our business, house and friends of 38 years in Alaska so we could return to California. My mother in law passed away in June 2016. We have been living with my mother who just passed away November 3, 2016. It was what we chose to do and it was very gratifying to know that my mom never had to go a "home" even at the age of 95! We need to love our parents, neighbors, friends like they all loved us when they were young. I wish I could give you a big hug, Chris. Your heart is broken because you are losing a dear friend-no matter the age difference. It would be lovely to see this happen in every apt. building!! Taking care of the elderly is so important to the elderly but it is really us that learn from them with all of their experience and wisdom. I will join you in raising a glass of champagne to Norma when she leaves this earth for a better place❤️

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Matthew Lawson
3 months ago

You are so special Chris and this speaks volumes about your beautiful soul and character. Hug Norma for me, im glad she is doing well and she has you!

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Julia Wackenheim
4 months ago

Thanks for doing this, Chris. If you're having an issue with in home care, let me know. I do a lot of advocacy work for elder care and domestic care workers - sometimes the agencies gauge the clients while paying the caregivers minimum or less than minimum wage. I work closely with the Pilipino Worker Center - so let me know if you'd like a contact there.

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Christine Stabler Mullin
5 months ago
8
8

Thank you for loving Norma. I have followed your friendship on facebook for some time and she is lucky to have you. ❤️

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Cary Williams
4 months ago
5
5

You are truly an angel Chris.. I think you should still get the Corvette and take her for a long joy ride up the PCH and enjoy the view. You have done an absolute good.. Bless you.

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Jorge Oros
5 months ago
5
5

It's amazing that you are so authentic in your kindness and compassion. Thank you for using your voice to serve a noble purpose. Thank you for being you. I send my prayers to Norma and you. I've just made a donation through the link you indicated above. My contribution is apparently smaller than that of other people, but that's all I myself can afford to donate as a citizen of third-world country and a worker of its woefully underfunded public healthcare system. Throughout years of my practice in oncology, I watched many people in their last days, and this experience left me profoundly changed in ways I didn't know were possible. I firmly believe that any person, regardless of their age, gender, race, ethnicity, or social status, deserves to spend this conclusive period of their life on Earth in grace and dignity. So thank you again for giving us all a chance to make it reality for Norma. We made small acts of kindness because you as a leader made a huge one by encouraging us to do so. It really matters, especially in times like ours, when the world seems such a dark place. When instead of seeking for light from above we as human beings make a choice to become lights ourselves (small lights or big lights, whatever is possible for us) and to emit one bright act of grace every time those around are in need of it -- this is probably the only way that this world will eventually be illuminated. Much love and huge respect for you, Jorge ☀️❤️

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Lyndsie Gudgeon
4 months ago
4
4

I haven't read the comments previously posted, but another awesome resource for this would be the Home Instead Senior Care Foundation and/or their partnership with Seth Rogan (and his wife)'s nonprofit Hilarity for Charity http://hilarityforcharity.org/programs/ I wish Norma all the best and hope she is able to continue life at home with no interruption

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Oriel Espinosa Pombo
5 months ago
4
4

You made it!!! God bless you Chris! The world needs more peopld likd you and Norma

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Joseph West
5 months ago
4
4

Chris , That's awesome & unbelievable . Good work

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Grace Martinez Castro
2 months ago
3
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Chris, it's so wonderful to see such kindness for someone elderly, sick and alone. So many don't have a Chris in their lives and are forced to spend their last days scared and alone. Praying for you both. No one knows; not even the doctors, when our time on this earth will be over, that's between their God and themselves. Much love and please give Norma a hug and tell her that I'm sending love to you both.

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Billy McGrath
5 months ago
2
2

I'm so happy you've been able to raise this for Norma! You are an amazing man and Norma an amazing woman. If ever I'm looking to change my mood and smile.. The two of you do it. Happy Thanksgiving to you both!

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Nicolas Vega
5 months ago
2
2

Se puede con el amor de la gente y la compasión humana. Ojalá siempre fuera así.

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Lolo Spirit
5 months ago

My friend knows that in existence there is always a ray of hope, a reason to hope ...! At the heart of despair a hope is making its way, waiting patiently for loving people to stretch out your hand! Thanks to you, Chris, but also to all those here who were sure to meet present. Love and kisses

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Rebecca Gallagher
5 months ago

Wish I could but don't have the money right now. If this is still up on the 1st I will. I did share though through Facebook when you posted it.

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Sethulakshmi S Nair
15 days ago

Good post..Zellmeonline

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Michelle Juhn Nagy
2 months ago

I'm so very sorry for your loss. You were truly amazing in caring for Norma. May God Bless You for everything you did for Norma. ❤️

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Stephanie Lipford
2 months ago

If Norma is getting in home health care should Medicaid or Medicare pay for a Home Health Aide to take care of her? I doubt if Norma will actually get 24 hour care.

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Gina Patterson-Scott
2 months ago

We all need to try to make changes to the system ! This is a major problem so many elderly people have no help and have nowhere to turn !

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Dolly Gable
2 months ago

I was a cna 21 yrs God bless you I took care of my mom with other care givers prayers

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Mota Aircraft Surfboards Chile
2 months ago

Congratulations CHRIS!! You are awesome! What a soul!

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$77,137 of $60k goal

Raised by 1,179 people in 5 months
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Created November 22, 2016
Chris Salvatore  
JG
$1,000
John Gaudet
2 months ago

Thank you for reminding everyone the importance of the lesson to "Love thy neighbor as thyself". Your devotion to each other is an inspiration.

$1,000
GoFundMe Team
4 months ago
9
9

On Giving Tuesday, we’re excited to celebrate those who #GoBeyondGiving. Your campaign touched us here at GoFundMe, and we’d like to say thanks.

FS
$1,000
Frank Salvatore
5 months ago
6
6

God Bless you Norma!

LP
$2,000
LP Perrett
5 months ago
5
5

Love.

$100
John Anthony
2 months ago
4
4

I am so touched by your selflessness and compassion. You are one of the heroes that walks among us. Norma is blessed.

MS
$500
Michael Sias
3 months ago
4
4

You are an angel Chris & Norma is an inspiration to me and my belief !! It is my belief that we don't just meet people by chance, but rather God puts us where and when he wants us to be to bless and help one another !!! I pray God blesses you both and provides for all of Norma's needs !!! - Michael D Sias

GJ
$500
Gary Janetti
2 months ago
3
3

Hi, Norma! Sending love! Xo Gary

SG
$25
Susan Gibson
2 months ago
3
3

Someone give Hermes an ear scratch for me. Such a lovely story and example.

DC
$500
Don Chappelle
5 months ago
3
3

Good luck Norma!

$25
StarAndmarc Palma
2 months ago
2
2

Chris, you are an angel! We don't know you, but thoroughly enjoy following your story with Norma! Best of luck for the absolute best outcome for Norma!

Marthe Shallies
4 months ago

My husband and I left our business, house and friends of 38 years in Alaska so we could return to California. My mother in law passed away in June 2016. We have been living with my mother who just passed away November 3, 2016. It was what we chose to do and it was very gratifying to know that my mom never had to go a "home" even at the age of 95! We need to love our parents, neighbors, friends like they all loved us when they were young. I wish I could give you a big hug, Chris. Your heart is broken because you are losing a dear friend-no matter the age difference. It would be lovely to see this happen in every apt. building!! Taking care of the elderly is so important to the elderly but it is really us that learn from them with all of their experience and wisdom. I will join you in raising a glass of champagne to Norma when she leaves this earth for a better place❤️

+ Read More
Matthew Lawson
3 months ago

You are so special Chris and this speaks volumes about your beautiful soul and character. Hug Norma for me, im glad she is doing well and she has you!

+ Read More
Julia Wackenheim
4 months ago

Thanks for doing this, Chris. If you're having an issue with in home care, let me know. I do a lot of advocacy work for elder care and domestic care workers - sometimes the agencies gauge the clients while paying the caregivers minimum or less than minimum wage. I work closely with the Pilipino Worker Center - so let me know if you'd like a contact there.

+ Read More
Christine Stabler Mullin
5 months ago
8
8

Thank you for loving Norma. I have followed your friendship on facebook for some time and she is lucky to have you. ❤️

+ Read More
Cary Williams
4 months ago
5
5

You are truly an angel Chris.. I think you should still get the Corvette and take her for a long joy ride up the PCH and enjoy the view. You have done an absolute good.. Bless you.

+ Read More
Jorge Oros
5 months ago
5
5

It's amazing that you are so authentic in your kindness and compassion. Thank you for using your voice to serve a noble purpose. Thank you for being you. I send my prayers to Norma and you. I've just made a donation through the link you indicated above. My contribution is apparently smaller than that of other people, but that's all I myself can afford to donate as a citizen of third-world country and a worker of its woefully underfunded public healthcare system. Throughout years of my practice in oncology, I watched many people in their last days, and this experience left me profoundly changed in ways I didn't know were possible. I firmly believe that any person, regardless of their age, gender, race, ethnicity, or social status, deserves to spend this conclusive period of their life on Earth in grace and dignity. So thank you again for giving us all a chance to make it reality for Norma. We made small acts of kindness because you as a leader made a huge one by encouraging us to do so. It really matters, especially in times like ours, when the world seems such a dark place. When instead of seeking for light from above we as human beings make a choice to become lights ourselves (small lights or big lights, whatever is possible for us) and to emit one bright act of grace every time those around are in need of it -- this is probably the only way that this world will eventually be illuminated. Much love and huge respect for you, Jorge ☀️❤️

+ Read More
Lyndsie Gudgeon
4 months ago
4
4

I haven't read the comments previously posted, but another awesome resource for this would be the Home Instead Senior Care Foundation and/or their partnership with Seth Rogan (and his wife)'s nonprofit Hilarity for Charity http://hilarityforcharity.org/programs/ I wish Norma all the best and hope she is able to continue life at home with no interruption

+ Read More
Oriel Espinosa Pombo
5 months ago
4
4

You made it!!! God bless you Chris! The world needs more peopld likd you and Norma

+ Read More
Joseph West
5 months ago
4
4

Chris , That's awesome & unbelievable . Good work

+ Read More
Grace Martinez Castro
2 months ago
3
3

Chris, it's so wonderful to see such kindness for someone elderly, sick and alone. So many don't have a Chris in their lives and are forced to spend their last days scared and alone. Praying for you both. No one knows; not even the doctors, when our time on this earth will be over, that's between their God and themselves. Much love and please give Norma a hug and tell her that I'm sending love to you both.

+ Read More
Billy McGrath
5 months ago
2
2

I'm so happy you've been able to raise this for Norma! You are an amazing man and Norma an amazing woman. If ever I'm looking to change my mood and smile.. The two of you do it. Happy Thanksgiving to you both!

+ Read More
Nicolas Vega
5 months ago
2
2

Se puede con el amor de la gente y la compasión humana. Ojalá siempre fuera así.

+ Read More
Lolo Spirit
5 months ago

My friend knows that in existence there is always a ray of hope, a reason to hope ...! At the heart of despair a hope is making its way, waiting patiently for loving people to stretch out your hand! Thanks to you, Chris, but also to all those here who were sure to meet present. Love and kisses

+ Read More
Rebecca Gallagher
5 months ago

Wish I could but don't have the money right now. If this is still up on the 1st I will. I did share though through Facebook when you posted it.

+ Read More
Sethulakshmi S Nair
15 days ago

Good post..Zellmeonline

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Michelle Juhn Nagy
2 months ago

I'm so very sorry for your loss. You were truly amazing in caring for Norma. May God Bless You for everything you did for Norma. ❤️

+ Read More
Stephanie Lipford
2 months ago

If Norma is getting in home health care should Medicaid or Medicare pay for a Home Health Aide to take care of her? I doubt if Norma will actually get 24 hour care.

+ Read More
Gina Patterson-Scott
2 months ago

We all need to try to make changes to the system ! This is a major problem so many elderly people have no help and have nowhere to turn !

+ Read More
Dolly Gable
2 months ago

I was a cna 21 yrs God bless you I took care of my mom with other care givers prayers

+ Read More
Mota Aircraft Surfboards Chile
2 months ago

Congratulations CHRIS!! You are awesome! What a soul!

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