Help Norma Pay for 24hour Home Care
$77,137 of $60k goal
Over the last 4 years Norma and I became best friends. I would help her cook meals, drive her to the doctors, banks, pharmacies and even just recently I got the amazing experience to accompany her to vote. We had such a blast these past few years filled with so much joy and laughter. She is now 89 years old and sadly within the last 6 months her health has began to decline at an increasing rate.
Being her friend I took it upon myself to become even more involved in her life by helping her out however I could even by installing a wireless doorbell for her to get a hold of me while I was in my apartment. She began to lose her ability to walk and every couple months she would fall and have to be rushed to the ER. There were moments when I was awoken in the middle of the night by the sound of the wireless doorbell to find her in bed suffering from an asthma attack, on the floor, or even stuck on the toilet.
Within the last 3 months she has been in and out of the hospital 3 separate occasions due to a fall or other health complications. She is currently being held at the Rehabilitation Center of Beverly Hills with only 10 more days before she will have to be forced to move to a county nursing facility that takes her Medicare and mediCal insurance. These county facilities are often times unclean and just operating at the minimum health code to stay in business.
Norma has no money saved of her own and only receives a monthly social security check from the government which barely just covers her rent. The last week and a half has been really hard on Norma since she now has been given direct orders from her doctor that she cannot live at home unless she has 24 hour care. She cries in terror about being sent to a county facility where she says she will just be left to die without any dignity. Her nurses have told me that she doesn't have very much longer to live. I was told by one of them that if she makes it through the holidays that it would be a miracle.
Norma's last wish is to be at home with her cat Hermes as she transitions into the next life. She has been there for me so much these last past years just as much as I have been there for her and I feel that it is my duty to be able to give her this gift to live her last moments at home with 24 hour professional care. She has 170 hours per month given to her by the government for home care but that simply is not enough with her current health. She needs to be fed, bathed, changed, helped to the bathroom and much more. Using a certified home care agency that charges 20+ an hour to the nurses would equate to roughly $500 a day and $3,500 a week. The more money that is raised the longer Norma will get to stay at home!
I am asking for anyone who has seen my postings on social media with Norma and has been touched by her love and her smile and yes, even her sassiness to help donate what they can. If you can't I understand and would just ask you to share this with as many people as you can because I think the world just needs a little love and kindness right now and that is certainly true for my dear friend Norma. Norma has made me a kinder, more compassionate human being and this is the least that I can do for her! Thank you all so much ❤️
UPDATE - 1/20/17
We are reaching the 2 month mark since Norma has come home from the hospital and I am so happy to share that she is continuing to prove the doctors and nurses wrong by continuing to THRIVE! To prolong the remaining funds to prevent her from having to be moved into a county facility, Norma and I have decided to move her into my apartment across the hall where she now has her own beautiful room and bathroom! She loves it! I do most of my work at home so I am here most of the time to care for her so it only made sense to the both of us. She is my adopted grandmother after all and I am her grandson she never had. :) We will still have caregivers coming in to care for her as well as her weekly hospice visits from the nurses and doctors so any excess funds raised will go towards caregivers as well as medical bills. Thank you all so much for continuing to give Norma the quality care she deserves!
My husband and I left our business, house and friends of 38 years in Alaska so we could return to California. My mother in law passed away in June 2016. We have been living with my mother who just passed away November 3, 2016. It was what we chose to do and it was very gratifying to know that my mom never had to go a "home" even at the age of 95! We need to love our parents, neighbors, friends like they all loved us when they were young. I wish I could give you a big hug, Chris. Your heart is broken because you are losing a dear friend-no matter the age difference. It would be lovely to see this happen in every apt. building!! Taking care of the elderly is so important to the elderly but it is really us that learn from them with all of their experience and wisdom. I will join you in raising a glass of champagne to Norma when she leaves this earth for a better place❤️
Thanks for doing this, Chris. If you're having an issue with in home care, let me know. I do a lot of advocacy work for elder care and domestic care workers - sometimes the agencies gauge the clients while paying the caregivers minimum or less than minimum wage. I work closely with the Pilipino Worker Center - so let me know if you'd like a contact there.
It's amazing that you are so authentic in your kindness and compassion. Thank you for using your voice to serve a noble purpose. Thank you for being you. I send my prayers to Norma and you. I've just made a donation through the link you indicated above. My contribution is apparently smaller than that of other people, but that's all I myself can afford to donate as a citizen of third-world country and a worker of its woefully underfunded public healthcare system. Throughout years of my practice in oncology, I watched many people in their last days, and this experience left me profoundly changed in ways I didn't know were possible. I firmly believe that any person, regardless of their age, gender, race, ethnicity, or social status, deserves to spend this conclusive period of their life on Earth in grace and dignity. So thank you again for giving us all a chance to make it reality for Norma. We made small acts of kindness because you as a leader made a huge one by encouraging us to do so. It really matters, especially in times like ours, when the world seems such a dark place. When instead of seeking for light from above we as human beings make a choice to become lights ourselves (small lights or big lights, whatever is possible for us) and to emit one bright act of grace every time those around are in need of it -- this is probably the only way that this world will eventually be illuminated. Much love and huge respect for you, Jorge ☀️❤️
I haven't read the comments previously posted, but another awesome resource for this would be the Home Instead Senior Care Foundation and/or their partnership with Seth Rogan (and his wife)'s nonprofit Hilarity for Charity http://hilarityforcharity.org/programs/ I wish Norma all the best and hope she is able to continue life at home with no interruption
Chris, it's so wonderful to see such kindness for someone elderly, sick and alone. So many don't have a Chris in their lives and are forced to spend their last days scared and alone. Praying for you both. No one knows; not even the doctors, when our time on this earth will be over, that's between their God and themselves. Much love and please give Norma a hug and tell her that I'm sending love to you both.
My friend knows that in existence there is always a ray of hope, a reason to hope ...! At the heart of despair a hope is making its way, waiting patiently for loving people to stretch out your hand! Thanks to you, Chris, but also to all those here who were sure to meet present. Love and kisses
Wish I could but don't have the money right now. If this is still up on the 1st I will. I did share though through Facebook when you posted it.
I'm so very sorry for your loss. You were truly amazing in caring for Norma. May God Bless You for everything you did for Norma. ❤️
If Norma is getting in home health care should Medicaid or Medicare pay for a Home Health Aide to take care of her? I doubt if Norma will actually get 24 hour care.
We all need to try to make changes to the system ! This is a major problem so many elderly people have no help and have nowhere to turn !
I was a cna 21 yrs God bless you I took care of my mom with other care givers prayers
Congratulations CHRIS!! You are awesome! What a soul!