Lane Marrs Memorial Fund

$44,571 of $15,000 goal

Raised by 754 people in 35 months
We are Jeff & Jan Marrs, and on September 16 our world was shattered.  After a long battle with PTSD, depression and anxiety, our beloved 18-year old daughter, Lane, took her own life.

We know from our experience with Lane that many teenagers suffer from this tragic and difficult-to-understand disorder. As we process her death and face life without her, one of the things that gives us comfort is the opportunity to help other teens who are struggling and may not have access to the treatment they need. We feel compelled to do everything we can to help other families give their teens a chance, and to never have to experience the tragedy and loss our family has felt.

In lieu of flowers, we will strive to bring meaning to our loss by using these donations to help other teens in their fight with depression. If you are so inclined and able, please consider a donation, however big or small, as a way to bless our sweet Lane and give other teens a chance to succeed in their battle against this disorder.
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As I head into what I am sure will be the worst few days of my life as we put my daughter to rest, I know that I will never fully understand this. However, thanks to all the amazing love and support from so many hundreds of wonderful and caring people, I know that something good already has occurred and will continue to do so.
Lane, I hope that as an angel you can see all the good you left behind whereas in life you only seemed to see what you had not accomplished. May God bless all of you the way that my family has been blessed since this tragedy.
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Hailey Hammon
35 months ago
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Words cannot express how deeply sorry I am to hear of your loss. Your daughter's story hits very close to home for me and weighs heavily on my heart and mind. I'm an AOII at NSU in Tahlequah, OK, and I've struggled with severe anxiety and depression for years. Mental illness is a relentless, sometimes seemingly invisible monster, and I believe your daughter fought hard against it. Her strength and bravery should not be overlooked during this tragic time. Forgive me for not having the correct words to say, but just know that your family is in my sincere thoughts. I am also very appreciative of you for creating this page to benefit others who are facing the same kind of battles. It is people like you who give many of us hope. I wish I could donate more at this time, but I've shared your page in hopes that some of my friends and family will donate. May you find comfort and peace during this difficult time. Alpha Love and Mine.❤️

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Libby Cantu
35 months ago
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I pray for peace and comfort for your family. I struggled with my brothers suicide for many years. One of the few comments I found comforting was -"while God did not call him home, he welcomed him home. How very kind to think of others in your own grief.

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Kim Larson
35 months ago
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Jan - It has been so long since we were neighbors in Birchwood, and occasionally played bunco together. I am so saddened to hear of your losing Lane, and I will have you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. May you find some peace in your beautiful memories!

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Mj Keller
35 months ago
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Sorry for your loss may you find strength in the lives you will touch. Some how this came across my Facebook . Not knowing you or you beautiful daughter it reached me. I too suffered from all those things as a teen its a incredibly difficult thing to deal with. May her legacy touch the lives of others. Maria in MN.

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Peggy Graves Hebert
35 months ago

I lost my husband Jan 16 2016 He took his own life. I still have panic attacks and hate to go into large group of people. I feel as if everyone judges me. Prayer for healing and such s wonderful thing you are doing.

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Molly Mason Stevens
31 months ago

I am so sorry for your loss. Our dear friend, Grant Halliburton, also took his own life at a young age. His family set up the Grant Halliburton Foundation in Dallas, TX. http://granthalliburton.org/ I wanted to share the link with you because they have done a lot to help try to prevent this from happening to other teens and young people and I thought you may want to take a look at their website. There is no way to describe the sense of loss you feel when a person like this is gone from our lives unexpectedly, but I will pray that you and your family find love and comfort with one another, and that Lane's memory will always be a blessing for you and all who knew her.

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Jeff Gilbert
35 months ago

My son in law took his life it's horrible and I'm sorry for your loss. I give great hugs and this one is for you, I love you and hope your heart heals

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Kristen Taylor Cox
35 months ago

You've got love coming from Memphis! Sorry for your tragic loss. Hopefully Lanes story will help other teens go through the same thing she went through. God bless.

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Dianne Dennis
35 months ago

I heard the tragic news on Monday and have prayed for your family, as our family has experienced the loss of a child and no matter the circumstance or age difference, it touches your heart in a different way. It's hurts to know someone else is feeling that intense pain. Only today did I learn that Lane is Lenly & Karen Hopkins' granddaughter and Jan (Hopkins) Marrs' daughter. Its been many years ago, but I grew up neighbors to Jan's Grandma. All of that to say my heart grieves with you, I will be praying for God to give the families that loved and cherished Lane, an overflow of comfort and peace. Dianne Shaffer Dennis

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Mary Hempfling
35 months ago

Jeff & Jan - So sorry to hear About Lane and am at a loss of what more to say other than know I will pray for you both and your family.

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Suzie Mears
35 months ago

Jan, I am heartbroken at the loss of your beloved Lane. Please know that through your love, you will be helping so many who are also burdened by depression, anxiety, and PTSD. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Alpha love and roses (AOII, Delta Pi, UCM).

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Melissa Tankersley Shelley
35 months ago

Jan we didn't know Lane but our daughter was in the same AOII pledge class! We have been praying since we found out she was missing! Our thoughts and prayers Are its you and your family!

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Valerie Lovato
35 months ago

I don't know your family, but I am very sorry for your loss. Your daughter was beautiful! I lost my mother to suicide years ago. It's one of the hardest losses. We have an organization in Colorado for teen suicide prevention. Maybe they can help you with ideas for the best way to utilize your daughter's memorial fund. It is called the Second Wind fund. They have a website you could check out. Also, when the time is right, please consider checking into the resources offered by the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. They have tools and counselors that may prove helpful for your family. Many of their volunteers have experienced suicide loss themselves and have been trained to help the survivors left behind. I found it helpful when I first lost my mother. I will pray for your family.

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Cathy Ott-Millon
35 months ago

So sorry for your terrible loss. What a beautiful young lady!!! Picture is deceiving. Curious what her PTSD is from?? Thoughts and prayers to your family!!

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Ann Olsson
35 months ago

Jan and Jeff, we are so sorry this happened to this beautiful girl. Maybe some good will come of this tragedy with this gofundme project. We'll be down on Friday. Again, our love and hugs to all of you.

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Jackie Miller
35 months ago

Though I don't know you personally, I just read your story. I'm incredibly sorry for your loss. By helping to get help for other teens who suffer depression and other forms of mental illness, I'm sure your daughter is smiling down on both of you with love and adoration. I am an adult who at 50 yrs old have struggled with depression for the majority of my life. If there had been doctors, centers and better understanding of depression and other forms of mental illness that was known back in 1970, maybe I wouldn't be struggling to survive now. God bless you both. I know your daughter will be at peace now

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Marcia Ragonetti
35 months ago

Bless you and your family for this deep empathy for others in your own time of tremendous, indescribable grief. May Beatuful Lane's memorial indeed make a difference in the understanding and treatment of adolescent angst.

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John Myers
35 months ago

I lost a someone he take is life a 1 year ago he hang is sledge I am so for u lost

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Lesa Pennington Ohnstad
35 months ago

Jan, my daughter is in Lane's pledge class. While she didn't know Lane, personally we will continually pray for your family during this awful, horrible time. We are so very sorry for your loss.

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Shoshana Allen
35 months ago

I didn't know ur daughter but my step sister committed suicide in 2011 she was 21 I just want to thank u for trying to help other ones with this problem my prayers go to yall

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Kim Davis Hoffman
33 months ago

So very sorry to have heard this news- and I know that does not begin to be enough. Heartfelt condolences and prayers to you and your family.

HZ
$100
Hank Zoller
33 months ago
MZ
$50
Maggie Zehren
34 months ago
NC
$100
National Art Honor Society BVWest Chapter
34 months ago

In honor of Lane's participation and membership in National Art Honor Society for three years at Blue Valley West. We are proud to honor her sweet memory in the spirit of our community service/art related activities.

CM
$150
Chris Mosby
34 months ago
MP
$25
Maribeth Price
34 months ago

I have fond memories of Lane when she was at Sunset Ridge, and my heart hurts for her family and friends. Blessings to you all. Sending a big hug to Carlie.

$25
Anonymous
34 months ago
PZ
$50
Phil & Bonnie Zimmer
34 months ago

We continue to keep your family in our thoughts and prayers

RS
$100
robin sterneck
34 months ago

You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

$100
Anonymous
34 months ago
Hailey Hammon
35 months ago
6
6

Words cannot express how deeply sorry I am to hear of your loss. Your daughter's story hits very close to home for me and weighs heavily on my heart and mind. I'm an AOII at NSU in Tahlequah, OK, and I've struggled with severe anxiety and depression for years. Mental illness is a relentless, sometimes seemingly invisible monster, and I believe your daughter fought hard against it. Her strength and bravery should not be overlooked during this tragic time. Forgive me for not having the correct words to say, but just know that your family is in my sincere thoughts. I am also very appreciative of you for creating this page to benefit others who are facing the same kind of battles. It is people like you who give many of us hope. I wish I could donate more at this time, but I've shared your page in hopes that some of my friends and family will donate. May you find comfort and peace during this difficult time. Alpha Love and Mine.❤️

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Libby Cantu
35 months ago
2
2

I pray for peace and comfort for your family. I struggled with my brothers suicide for many years. One of the few comments I found comforting was -"while God did not call him home, he welcomed him home. How very kind to think of others in your own grief.

+ Read More
Kim Larson
35 months ago
2
2

Jan - It has been so long since we were neighbors in Birchwood, and occasionally played bunco together. I am so saddened to hear of your losing Lane, and I will have you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. May you find some peace in your beautiful memories!

+ Read More
Mj Keller
35 months ago
1
1

Sorry for your loss may you find strength in the lives you will touch. Some how this came across my Facebook . Not knowing you or you beautiful daughter it reached me. I too suffered from all those things as a teen its a incredibly difficult thing to deal with. May her legacy touch the lives of others. Maria in MN.

+ Read More
Peggy Graves Hebert
35 months ago

I lost my husband Jan 16 2016 He took his own life. I still have panic attacks and hate to go into large group of people. I feel as if everyone judges me. Prayer for healing and such s wonderful thing you are doing.

+ Read More
Molly Mason Stevens
31 months ago

I am so sorry for your loss. Our dear friend, Grant Halliburton, also took his own life at a young age. His family set up the Grant Halliburton Foundation in Dallas, TX. http://granthalliburton.org/ I wanted to share the link with you because they have done a lot to help try to prevent this from happening to other teens and young people and I thought you may want to take a look at their website. There is no way to describe the sense of loss you feel when a person like this is gone from our lives unexpectedly, but I will pray that you and your family find love and comfort with one another, and that Lane's memory will always be a blessing for you and all who knew her.

+ Read More
Jeff Gilbert
35 months ago

My son in law took his life it's horrible and I'm sorry for your loss. I give great hugs and this one is for you, I love you and hope your heart heals

+ Read More
Kristen Taylor Cox
35 months ago

You've got love coming from Memphis! Sorry for your tragic loss. Hopefully Lanes story will help other teens go through the same thing she went through. God bless.

+ Read More
Dianne Dennis
35 months ago

I heard the tragic news on Monday and have prayed for your family, as our family has experienced the loss of a child and no matter the circumstance or age difference, it touches your heart in a different way. It's hurts to know someone else is feeling that intense pain. Only today did I learn that Lane is Lenly & Karen Hopkins' granddaughter and Jan (Hopkins) Marrs' daughter. Its been many years ago, but I grew up neighbors to Jan's Grandma. All of that to say my heart grieves with you, I will be praying for God to give the families that loved and cherished Lane, an overflow of comfort and peace. Dianne Shaffer Dennis

+ Read More
Mary Hempfling
35 months ago

Jeff & Jan - So sorry to hear About Lane and am at a loss of what more to say other than know I will pray for you both and your family.

+ Read More
Suzie Mears
35 months ago

Jan, I am heartbroken at the loss of your beloved Lane. Please know that through your love, you will be helping so many who are also burdened by depression, anxiety, and PTSD. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Alpha love and roses (AOII, Delta Pi, UCM).

+ Read More
Melissa Tankersley Shelley
35 months ago

Jan we didn't know Lane but our daughter was in the same AOII pledge class! We have been praying since we found out she was missing! Our thoughts and prayers Are its you and your family!

+ Read More
Valerie Lovato
35 months ago

I don't know your family, but I am very sorry for your loss. Your daughter was beautiful! I lost my mother to suicide years ago. It's one of the hardest losses. We have an organization in Colorado for teen suicide prevention. Maybe they can help you with ideas for the best way to utilize your daughter's memorial fund. It is called the Second Wind fund. They have a website you could check out. Also, when the time is right, please consider checking into the resources offered by the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. They have tools and counselors that may prove helpful for your family. Many of their volunteers have experienced suicide loss themselves and have been trained to help the survivors left behind. I found it helpful when I first lost my mother. I will pray for your family.

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Cathy Ott-Millon
35 months ago

So sorry for your terrible loss. What a beautiful young lady!!! Picture is deceiving. Curious what her PTSD is from?? Thoughts and prayers to your family!!

+ Read More
Ann Olsson
35 months ago

Jan and Jeff, we are so sorry this happened to this beautiful girl. Maybe some good will come of this tragedy with this gofundme project. We'll be down on Friday. Again, our love and hugs to all of you.

+ Read More
Jackie Miller
35 months ago

Though I don't know you personally, I just read your story. I'm incredibly sorry for your loss. By helping to get help for other teens who suffer depression and other forms of mental illness, I'm sure your daughter is smiling down on both of you with love and adoration. I am an adult who at 50 yrs old have struggled with depression for the majority of my life. If there had been doctors, centers and better understanding of depression and other forms of mental illness that was known back in 1970, maybe I wouldn't be struggling to survive now. God bless you both. I know your daughter will be at peace now

+ Read More
Marcia Ragonetti
35 months ago

Bless you and your family for this deep empathy for others in your own time of tremendous, indescribable grief. May Beatuful Lane's memorial indeed make a difference in the understanding and treatment of adolescent angst.

+ Read More
John Myers
35 months ago

I lost a someone he take is life a 1 year ago he hang is sledge I am so for u lost

+ Read More
Lesa Pennington Ohnstad
35 months ago

Jan, my daughter is in Lane's pledge class. While she didn't know Lane, personally we will continually pray for your family during this awful, horrible time. We are so very sorry for your loss.

+ Read More
Shoshana Allen
35 months ago

I didn't know ur daughter but my step sister committed suicide in 2011 she was 21 I just want to thank u for trying to help other ones with this problem my prayers go to yall

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