Kelly's Cervical Cancer Battle
Kelly Fitzgerald – amazing mother of 3, loving wife & has stage 4b cervical cancer
Kelly has always been a fighter.
At just six weeks old she was made a ward of the state. Later, she became a single mother. Kelly fought to clean her life up, inspired to be a strong role model for her son, and then Kelly met Aaaron.
The love of her life, Aaron became a father to her son and the dedicated, loving partner she truly deserved.
After battling through several miscarriages to create another two beautiful children- and despite struggling to stay afloat after Aaron was made redundant- Kelly felt like she'd finally reached her own happily-ever-after, describing their life together as "perfection".
Then, in late September, Kelly found a lump in her pelvis.
By mid-October, Kelly and Aaron were advised it's cancerous.
And by the end of October, they'd discovered that Kelly not only has incurable stage 4b cervical cancer but that it has spread, via her bloodstream, to her left lung and her pelvic bone.
As mothers, we have each stroked the faces of our sleeping children and dreamed of the lives they have ahead. We imagine ourselves waving them off on their first dates, wishing them luck on their first days of Uni, dancing with them on their wedding days. We ask ourselves "what will my child be when they grow up?" but we never dare imagine we may not live to find out.
This is the reality Kelly, and the hundreds of women dying of cervical cancer each year, must face every single day.
Cancer Australia estimates that 903 women will receive a cervical cancer diagnosis in 2016 alone. That's 903 beloved daughters, sisters, mothers and wives who will face PET scans and oncologists, who will undergo stress and anxiety, who will hear the words "you have cancer".
Of those 903 women, an estimated 250 won't make it to see 2017.
It isn't just the women who're affected, it's their partners and their families.
Aaron has taken a leave of absence to care full-time for Kelly and their children. The medication Kelly takes to minimise the pain keeps her drowsy, struggling to drive or to help with chores, so he handles those without complaint. He shoulders the immense burden of knowing that someday soon he will be the sole carer for their three children, the youngest just 16 months old.
Money isn't just tight for full-time carers, it's virtually non-existent. With Kelly undergoing palliative radiation treatment to ease her symptoms so she can enjoy the remaining time she has with her family, she simply doesn't have the energy left to battle Centrelink's overloaded system to receive a carers allowance for Aaron, so they've left it in the hands of a local member of parliament while Kelly does what Kelly has always done: Fight.
Fight to keep her family afloat.
Fight to stay positive for her kids.
Fight to wring every last drop of love and joy from these, her final days, as she can.
Kelly is 32 years old. Kelly has incurable stage 4b cervical cancer. Kelly is a devoted wife, a loving mother, a survivor and a fighter. Kelly is a Queen.
To help cover the cost of her funeral, creating memory boxes for her children, and to deal with the onslaught of day-to-day expenses, Kelly has set up a GoFundMe page. Any donation, no matter how small, will help ease the burden on Kelly's loving family. It is a testament to her love and strength that even with so much to deal with herself, Kellys efforts are all for them.
I hope you all had a wonderful magical chriatmas and were surrounded by those who love you!!!
We had a very quiet but wonderful day with happy spoilt children and alot of that goes out to you amazing people who have donated to us.. thank you is such a small word but uou changed our christmas and are assisting us with back to school costs the 2 thing I was terrified about pulling together!
I have worked my butt off selling tupperware trying squirrel enough away to take my kids on a mini holiday... i didnt raise enough so now im looking for cheaper options.. if i didnt habe to finish back to school we would be ok!!! But unfortunately necessities MUST come be st..! Drives me nuts when i just wanna spoilt the. Ans see them smile as much as I can!!
Your all amazing.. and thank you again for you continued support!
Have a happy & safe new years!!
They have found a new lesion on my spine whixh explains the pain in my back increasing so now I have to fo for another none scan
My hair is nearly all gone, Im really looking really odd, I hate it and im never going to adjust to it.. I have alot of things that cover my head! That helps a bit.. especially the wild bright & pretty ones!!!
Chemo so far seems to be shrinking all lymphnodes which is a positive smaller thw cancer the more time.I have!!! Well that's how I view it anyways!!! I rey to atay as positive as possible ❤
Not much else to update atm except im about to have 2 lovely days where I feel human & Monday ill crash like a plan in the sky with no engines for approx a week. after that I sit about halfway between awesome and the days I feel like hell! Somedays are ok and some days are juat plain awful and almost unbareble!!
Thank you for your on going support
Here is the link to my personal blog page if you would like more frequent updates!!!
I have lots of valium to help with the anxiety and the nurses at the hospital are truly amazing.
Its also alot quicker than my last treatment.. another bonus..
Hoping with all our might and we will do our very best tomorrow to manage with no break downs..! I dont have the best track record with chemo turning out well for me so i tend to freak out .! But hopefully not tomorrow. Wish us luck.
Thank you again for your ongoing support, kindness and genourosity.. we are very grateful and every single dollar will assist my family and make our lives a little easier during this rough ride we are currently on.. thank you once again
Im sorry im slack at updating this as I now do all my updates on my blog in Facebook, I prefer it that way. I can interact with people and its a great way to help me emotionaly cope.
I started chemo however im allergic to the taxoil or however its spelt so we are currently awaiting a call from my oncologist for another chemo option. Hopefully this week we find out.. booked in next friday for round 3 and he is pretty sure he will find something before then. All my fingers are crossed!
Im pretty much wheelchair bound im unable to walk much further than a few metres due to pain. I spend most my days in bed which is depressing and really difficult for someone who is generally very active.! I hate it. The pain is cause by cancer infected lymphnodes on my spine that are swollen and pushing against nerves! Hence the walking and mobility issues.
Thats the link to my blog please follow if your wanting more regular and in depth updates.
We appreciate your continued support and thank you for all donations and every share thats made!
We are currentlyseeking fundraising ideas to help us raise some money to get a 2nd opinion from oncologists down south so if you have some ideas please feel free to email me!
My goal atm is to get back onto chemo as the 1.5 doses I have had were working.. its just a shame that my body rejected it!!!
We are asking for help again in raising these funds as my husband is now no longer able to work at all due to having to care for me. We are struggling. Some weeks its a choice between food or paying utilities.. and feeding my children will ALWAYS come 1st. With each medical issue our expenses go up but the incone remains the same.. some weeks a simple $5 makes the difference for us.. it get milk and bread.. ita crazy living under this level of pressure.
Medically its hard enough with all the chemo side effects but finacially the pressure is eating away at us!
There is only so much 1 family can handle & we are slowly reaching our breaking point..! Too many tears are shed and the tension causes silly arguments.. atm life is really hard.
We are praying for a breakthrough for something new for me to try in chemo & hoping that something gives financially soon before we atart having items repossessed!
Please share this go fund me and my blog! The more people involved.. the more who can help and the more awareness I can raise about cervical cancer & how important it is for ladies to have their smears done!!
Thank you again for your ongoing support and kind words we appreciate them very much
I heard that she was having cannabis oil too, which is wonderful, hope your healing and getting better