Justice For Airdre's Rape

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Raised by 558 people in 12 months
Airdre Mattner  Bridgewater, SA

"Till it happens to you" - Lady Gaga

My name is Airdre Mattner. I am from Adelaide, South Australia. I am a primary school teacher and am currently completing a contract teaching English in Japan.

It is with a heavy heart that I feel compelled to share my story in the hope that it will bring about much needed  awareness, and ultimately justice. Justice for myself and for others who are not able to take a stand against this.

On the 25th of September while on holiday in Seoul, South Korea, I was drugged, abducted and raped. I had been holidaying with my boyfriend and friend and had decided to stay on there for an extra few days on my own. I thought nothing of it - I have travelled overseas solo many times before. 

I decided to go on a pub crawl that night. I thought it would be a good opportunity to meet some new people and experience some of Seoul's nightlife in a safe environment. That night I was drugged, abducted, and taken in a taxi to a hotel in the middle of nowhere by the man who later raped me.

I recall pleading with the taxi driver to take me to my hostel. He ignored me and continued driving under the instruction of the man next to me.

The next thing I recall is being on a bed in a hotel room. The man was on top of me. I struggled and tried to push him away but was again too heavily drugged to manage anything.

I woke up the next morning completely naked. All my money was gone. My clothes and belongings were torn and strewn across the room.

When I managed to get to a police station, I reported the crime with the help of the hostel manager where I was staying, and a friend.  For the next 10 or so hours I was sent back and forth between the hospital and police sections of the building.

 I was subjected to numerous invasive treatments and tests, including having two women examine and take evidence from my body while my legs were in stirrups and a curtain was in front of me to block my view. I was still in shock and feeling the effects of whatever I had been drugged with.  

I later found out to my horror that the staff did not follow proper Rape Precedures and no DNA evidence was collected from my body.

I then spent hours giving a statement and recounting what had happened. I gave a detailed description of the man. I made it clear that I had never seen or met him before. I was questioned in an often very insulting manner. I insisted that I had not simply passed out from being drunk, that I had been drugged. I gave them details about the pub crawl, bars and hotel I had been taken to.

They concluded with telling me that they would pass on my medical results as soon as they were released, and they would update me on every step of the investigation via email, as I was due to return to Japan the next day.

The next morning, I received a friend request on Facebook. I knew immediately that it was the man who had drugged and raped me. His face will now be burnt into my brain for the rest of my life.  I immediately  took screen shots of his photos and name and emailed them to the police. They acknowledged this email but did not respond to any of my questions about my results or the case.

For the next month I received no communication from the police in Seoul. No medical results. Nothing. I began to fear that I had some kind of deadly STD and this was why they had not gotten back to me. Eventually, after involving numerous Australian consulates (in Japan and Seoul), they were able to obtain my medical results.  

I was told that the police had decided the man who I sent them screenshots of wasn't a suspect because their records "showed" that he wasn't in the country at the time. After getting the report I found it had been falsified. Staff had written on official documents that I had presented saying I had been too drunk and became unconscious and didn't remember anything that had happened. 

For the next few months, I locked myself in my room back at my apartment in Japan and used all my sick leave. Eventually I went back to work.  I have survived on a cocktail of anti depressants, anxiety medication, sleeping tablets and thankfully, the love and support of those around me.

It has now been nearly 6 months. I am still on medication and still have trouble sleeping, with ongoing nightmares and panic attacks. The police, to this day, have done no investigations except for collecting CCTV footage from the hotel where the crime happened, however they have since done nothing with this footage.

We have since found out that the man who raped me is living in London and working for the Metropolitan Police. 

After losing all faith in the police and justice system in Korea, my family and I have decided to pursue justice in London. In May 2016 we will return to Korea to collect the CCTV footage and other evidence and information for this pursuit. We will also meet with a witness who was harassed by the same man two days prior to the incident, and who wants to provide evidence that he was definitely in the country at the time, and had messaged her of his intentions to go to a party in Hongdae on Thursday, the day after I was attacked in the same area on Friday.

My mother and I will then need to fly to London to meet with lawyers there and begin the long and expensive process of taking legal action.

The prevalence of incidents like this, especially involving foreign tourists in Seoul, is sickening. It is horrifying how easy it is to fall victim to men like this who specialise in preying on women in such a calculated and targeted manner. 

According to the Korea Herald:

"For any person, becoming a victim of sexual violence is the worst fear come true. But for foreigners living in Korea, it can have an added level of fear. Language barriers, a lack of information on available services, and the less than stellar reputation of the police all complicate an already terrifying ordeal."

 

"In 2011, 22,034 rapes were reported, according to the Supreme Prosecutors’ Office. Of those, 18,591 cases resulted in arrests with a total of 18,880 offenders being convicted. However, only 12 percent of those found guilty, or 2,289, were sentenced to jail time. "

 

"It is impossible to know the true number of victims in Korea, let alone the number of foreign victims, as many who are attacked ― Korean or foreign ― do not report the crime. Based on a 2010 survey by the Ministry of Gender Equality and Family, it is believed that the sexual crime reporting rate in Korea is about 10 percent... Reasons vary from victim to victim, but some foreign victims say they didn’t report their case because they didn’t believe the police would do anything to help them, while others refrained out of shame or guilt."
http://www.koreaherald.com/view.php?ud=20130423001036 - used with permission from Emma Kalka, journalist.

 

It would mean the world to me if you could help me by sharing this campaign to help spread awareness and donating if it is within your capability. Every dollar counts.  It is going to be an expensive, invasive and time-consuming journey, but it is one that I want to take so that I can finally move on with my life knowing that this man cannot assault any other women.   

Your donations will go towards funding trips to both Korea and London for myself, the witness and my Mother, ongoing medication and treatment and counselling, and legal representation and related fees in London. I do not expect the target to be reached - Gofundme does not require this for donations to be used. Every dollar will go towards this cause.

 I can only hope that this will set an example for women everywhere who find themselves in similar situations daily. I want to fight. For myself, my loved ones who have already come forward as survivors but were not able to pursue, report or take action on the crime they experienced, and those all over the world who fall victim to this heinous crime every day. Let's stand up, make a noise, and show that these monsters can be made accountable, and this horrifying cycle can be stopped.






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A postscript from my mother to all other mothers –
My heart constantly bleeds for the pain and trauma suffered by my daughter – it is unimaginable that your darling loved daughter could have this happen to them. To every other mother reading this know that all the love in the world cannot stop the evil of what some have done, but all the love in the world can make us stronger and together we must bring an end to the appalling sexual violence that is rape.

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Update 8
Posted by Airdre Mattner
1 month ago
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ONE DOWN.
Today is a good day.
After 16 months, this morning I finally received the news that the perpetrator who was arrested and sentenced will be required to serve his FULL sentence of 30 months and following that, be deported to Nigeria.
During the perpetrator's appeal hearing (last week), the court determined that due to the severity of his crime and my resulting PTSD, the sentence could not be reduced whatsoever.
The perpetrator then had one last avenue of appeal - to the Supreme Court. The time frame he had to make this appeal has now officially passed, as of today, and he has submitted no further appeal.
I honestly don't know what to feel. It doesn't quite feel real yet. It has been so hard fought, and I am so used to getting bad news that I feel as if any moment I'll get a call and be told they made a mistake.
Regardless, it is done. Justice has finally, officially, been served.
There is absolutely no way that this result would have been achieved without the unending support and INCREDIBLE generosity of my family, friends, and strangers from all over the world. I cannot thank you enough, or really put into words, what this means to me.
This is not the end however. It's only the beginning. The beginning, I hope, of change.
I am currently in the process of suing the police for their professional negligence and misconduct, as well as the immense secondary damage which they caused me. I am hopeful that this will send a very clear message that this kind of appalling treatment of women, and the contempt and apathy shown to their cases, will not be tolerated.
Though the chances are slim, I do still also have hope of bringing the other main perpetrator to justice (whether it be civil or criminal), and will not rest until I have exhausted every avenue available to do so.
For now, though there are still cases ongoing, I'm looking towards the future. Though I still struggle with PTSD on a daily basis, I have learnt to manage it, and have come a long way since September 2015.
What happened to me, and the way it was dealt with, has reignited my passion for law and justice. Though I have loved teaching, and it may be a career that I return to one day, it is my goal now to move to London in January 2018 to attend law school and become a barrister. I hope I can use my experiences and channel the passion I have to help others in need, and really make a difference (as cliche as that sounds).
Dream............ then do.

https://justiceforairdre.wordpress.com
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Update 7
Posted by Airdre Mattner
4 months ago
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This morning at 10am, one of the men involved in raping me was sentenced.

Statistics say that only 9 percent of all rapists get prosecuted. Only 5 percent of cases lead to a criminal conviction. Only 3 percent of rapists will spend a day in prison. The other 97 percent walk free.

The usual sentence in a case like this in Korea is around 1 year. The prosecutor requested 1 and a half years. Today, my attacker was sentenced to 2 and a half years jail in South Korea, which will include rehabilitation, and be followed by deportation and registry on the public list of sex offenders in Korea.

Though this doesn't sound like much, it is huge. Unbelievable. A huge, much needed step in the right direction in Korea.

To go from my case being marked as closed, and essentially being told to forget about it, to this... is not something I can even really process yet.

There were obvious aggravating factors such as the fact that it was a sexually motivated crime on a victim that was in a vulnerable situation (ie. drugged), the fact that the accused continuously changed his plea and story and appeared to not show any remorse, and the fact that there were a string of other offences that he was up for (including illegal immigration)... but I firmly believe that the amount of media attention we managed to generate, and the amount of pressure that we put on authorities has had a profound effect.

This has set a precedent for the way that sexual crimes are handled and sentenced in Korea, which was my biggest goal.

It sends a very clear message: WE WILL NOT BE SILENCED. We will stand TOGETHER. We will fight and we will WIN.

This win, today, is for every other survivor. For every woman that came forward to me and told me their own stories, some of whom I now consider my closest friends. For every woman who reported their assault and was made to feel like they were a liar; every woman who was blamed, who was silenced, who was bullied or ridiculed or ignored. This is for you. For every woman who chose not to report, because they were scared of these things. Because having to constantly re-live these horrifying crimes was more than they could bear. Because their attacker was a partner or a friend. Because they were ashamed or embarrassed.

To these women: your feelings are completely valid. It is your choice not to report and it is nobody's right to make you feel guilty or convince you otherwise.
I went through most of the above. I was blocked at almost every turn. The system, the authorities, people I initially trusted...until now, had actively worked against me. I understand better than most, why the statistics for reporting are so low.

This is not the end. Although it is unlikely (given the circumstances surrounding the sentencing and the comments made by the judge) to have much, if any, effect, the accused can appeal. I still have multiple other cases ongoing, including the case against the Korean police. The other rapist, and any other men involved, still currently walk free.

But this is a win. A huge win. Something I would never have been able to achieve without the unending support of my friends and family, and the unbelievable generosity and encouragement of complete strangers all over the world.

Thank you. I love you.
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Update 6
Posted by Airdre Mattner
6 months ago
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Update 5
Posted by Airdre Mattner
9 months ago
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Summary of timeline in Korean:

2015-09-25
나는 에어드리 매트너입니다. 나는 한국에서 약물납치강간을 당했습니다.
2015년 9월 25일 서울에서 휴가를 보내다가, 약물 납치 강간을 당했습니다.
그날 저는 pub crawl(펍크롤) 파티에 가기로 했습니다. 새로운 사람들과 좋은 경험을 하기에 좋은 기회라고 생각했고, 서울이 안전한 곳이라고 생각했습니다. 그날 밤 저는 약물 납치 강간을 당했습니다.
그 날, 택시기사에게 내 호텔로 데려다 달라고 애원했던 기억이 납니다. 그는 내 부탁을 무시했고, 내 옆에 앉아있던 남자가 시키는 곳으로 우리를 데려갔어요. 그 다음 기억나는 것은 호텔방 안입니다. 그 남자가 내 위에 있었습니다. 나는 그를 밀어내려고 노력했지만, 약에 너무 취해 저항할 힘이 없었어요.

다음날 아침 나는 완전히 알몸의 상태로 깨어났습니다. 내 옷은 찢겨진 채로 방 구석에 던져져 있었습니다.

2015-09-26
오전 11시쯤 깨어나자마자 나는 내 호텔로 향했고, 호텔에서 성폭력센터로 갔습니다. 성폭력 사건을 접수하고 12시간 가량 저는 그 건물의 병원과 경찰 구역으로 이리저리 옮겨졌습니다.
나는 몇 시간 동안 내 성폭력 경험에 기억해내고 진술해내야 했습니다. 조사 도중에 나는 아주 성차별적인 질문을 받아야 했습니다. 내가 단순히 취한 게 아니라 약물에 취했다고 주장했는데도 불구하고, 주량이 얼마나 되냐는 질문을 들었습니다. 옷은 어떻게 입었냐는 질문도 들었으며, 심지어 기억이 잘 나지 않는다고 하면서 “왜 성폭행을 당했다고 생각하느냐”라는 질문까지 들어야 했습니다.
나는 내가 갔던 펍크롤의 자세한 정보와 내가 갔던 바, 내가 깨어난 호텔 들에 대해서 기억나는 대로 상세히 설명했습니다. 펍크롤 주최측에 조사를 해달라고 펍크롤 주최자의 연락처도 주었습니다. 나를 성폭행한 남자에 대해서도 기억이 닿는대로 모두 진술했습니다.
조사가 끝나고 나를 조사한 경찰관과 이메일 연락처를 주고 받으며, 나에게 직접 사건에 대한 업데이트를 해주기로 약속했습니다. 또한 병원 측에서 2주 안으로 내 의료기록을 보내줄 것이라고 했습니다.

2015-09-27
한 남자로부터 페이스북 친구 신청을 받았습니다. 이 남자의 얼굴이 내가 성폭행 당했을 당시 기억하던 그 얼굴이랑 똑같았기 때문에, 경찰에 이 남자의 페이스북 정보와 사진들을 보냈습니다.


2015-09-27
일본으로 돌아왔습니다.


2015-09-29
아직 경찰로부터 별다른 답변을 듣지 못한 상태였지만, 호주 대사관에 연락을 취했습니다.

2015-09-30
내가 경찰관에게 보낸 페이스북 남성의 사진들에 대해서 나를 조사한 경찰관이 답장을 보내주었습니다. 나는 바로 내 사건에 대한 조사가 어떻게 되어가고 있는지 물었고, 병원 진단서 등 더 필요한 서류가 있다면 내가 준비할 수 있도록 알려달라고 물었습니다. 그러나 나는 이 이후로 경찰관으로부터 어떠한 답변도 받지 못했습니다.

2015-10-06
거의 2주가 지나고서야 대사관을 통해서 내 경찰 진술서를 받을 수 있었습니다.
나는 나를 조사했던 경찰관에게 답장을 달라고 다시 한번 이메일을 보냈지만, 역시 답변을 받을 수 없었습니다.


2015-10-21
대사관에서 연락이 왔습니다.
경찰서 수사를 지속하고 있고, 내가 지목했던 페이스북 남성은 사건과 아무 관련이 없다는 답변만을 들을 수 있었습니다.
3주가 지났음에도 불구하고, 경찰이 아직도 성폭력센터로부터 내 의료기록을 받지 못했다고 확인하였습니다. 대사관측으로부터 센터가 아직도 “기록을 준비하고 있다”라는 답변을 했다고 전달받았습니다.

2015-10-23
드디어 나의 의료기록을 받을 수 있었습니다.
그러나 충격적이게도 나의 의료기록에는 내가 “술에 취해 혼자 홍대를 돌아다니다가 강간을 당했다”고 적혀있었고, 내가 ‘약물강간’을 당했다는 내용은 어디에도 없었습니다.
그리고 시행해야만 하는 검사들이 적힌 체크리스트는 모두 비어있는 채였습니다. 뿐만 아니라, 나에게 했어야 하는 질문들, “샤워를 했는지”, “소변을 보았는지”, “옷을 갈아입었는지”, “구토를 했는지”, “입을 헹구었는지’ 등의 체크리스트는 나에게 물어보지도 않았으면서, 모두 <해당사항없음>으로 표시되어 있었습니다.
게다가 내가 분명 항문에 통증이 있다고 진술했는데도 불구하고, ‘항문생식기 주변 상해’란에 <없음>으로 체크되어 있었습니다.
이런 모든 검사와 치료들이 당시에 통역가가 동반했음에도 불구하고, 제대로 설명되지 않고 시행되었습니다.

2015-11-04
경찰서에서 대사관 측에 페이스북 남성의 입국 기록 상, 강간이 일어난 날짜와 일치하지 않았다고 확인했습니다. 그러나 나중에 경찰은 언론보도를 통해 해당 날짜에 그 남성이 한국에 있었다고 번복하였습니다.



2016-01-18
대사관으로부터 이메일이 왔습니다. 이메일의 내용은 다음과 같았습니다.
진행상황 [종결]
피해자 상대 수사, 페이스북 대상자 수사, 현장 CCTV 수사, 정보원 상대 수사, 현장 잠복 수사 등 계속하여 수사하였으나 피의자들의 인적사항 특정할만한 단서 발견할 수 없고, 사건의 장기화로 일단 미제 편철하고, 향후 피의자들을 특정할 단서 확보 시 사건 제기하여 수사하고자 합니다.
이때까지도 나는 나의 알코올, 약물 검사가 음성 반응이 나왔고, 나의 가슴에서 남성의 DNA가 검출되었는지조차 모르고 있었습니다. 경찰이 나와 대사관에 단 한번도 알려주지 않았기 때문입니다.
이때부터 나는 내 사건에 대한 경찰 수사에 문제가 있다고 느끼게 되었습니다. 그래서 직접 펍 크롤 주최자에게 연락도 해보고, 제가 마지막으로 있던 바에도 연락을 해보았습니다. 둘 다 경찰로부터 어떠한 연락도 받은 적이 없다고 하더군요.


2016-02-04
호주 대사관 측에서 한국 경찰이 내가 마지막으로 있던 바의 CCTV를 확보하지 않았다는 사실을 확인 받게 되었습니다. 내가 마지막으로 있던 바는 내부와 외부 모두에 CCTV를 가지고 있었고, 강간 신고 직후에 바로 CCTV를 요구했더라면 충분히 중요한 단서들을 찾을 수 있었을 것입니다. 또한 경찰은 이제는 시간이 너무 지나서 해당 바의 CCTV 영상을 확보할 수 없다고 했습니다.
경찰은 CCTV 영상을 확보하지 않은 것에 대해서, 내 경찰 진술에 해당 바에 대한 내용이 없었다고 변명하였으나 이는 사실이 아닙니다. 내가 마지막으로 갔던 바의 이름은 내가 이메일로 보낸 펍크롤 스케줄에 나와있었고, 나는 펍크롤 주최자의 연락처까지 보내주었습니다. 경찰이 단 한번이라도 확인할 생각을 했다면, 이런 중요한 단서를 잃지 않을 수 있었을 것입니다.

2016-03-15
더 이상 나는 한국 경찰의 수사를 믿을 수 없었기 때문에, 직접 행동을 취해야겠다고 생각했습니다. 나는 나 말고도 한국에서 성폭력을 경험하고 이러한 경찰의 2차 가해와 무관심에 극심한 고통을 겪고 있을 성폭력 피해자들을 위해서 목소리를 내기로 결심했습니다.
그래서 나는 고펀드미 링크에 나의 경험을 모두 폭로하고, 한국 성폭력 수사 과정에 정의를 되찾기 위한 모금운동을 시작했습니다.


2016-03-31
오전 9시에 경찰은 뉴스1 채널을 통해 나에 대한 기사를 내보냈습니다. 기사는

1) 경찰이 내 가슴에서 남성의 DNA를 채취했다고 말했습니다. 나는 사건 6개월이 지난 이때에야 DNA 증거가 채취되었다는 것을 한국의 언론 보도를 통해 알게 되었습니다.
2) 경찰은 약물에 대한 내 소변과 혈액 검사가 음성이었다고 말했습니다. 나는 사건 6개월이 지난 이때에야 이러한 검사가 이루어졌다는 것과, 결과가 나왔다는 사실을 한국의 언론 보도를 통해 알게 되었습니다. 게다가 경찰이 약물 검사 음성이 실제로 약물강간이 아님을 증명하지는 못한다는 설명 없이 이렇게만 보도했기 때문에, 사람들로부터 내가 거짓말을 하고 있다는 수많은 비난과 추측에 시달려야 했습니다.
3) 내가 지목한 페이스북의 남성이 사실 나이지리아 출신 사업가이며, 사건 당시 부산의 컨퍼런스에 참여하기 위해 입국해 있었으며, 나의 사건과 관련이 없는 사람이라고 발표하였습니다. 나는 사건 6개월이 지난 이때에야 이러한 정보를 한국의 언론 보도를 통해 알게 되었습니다. 나는 이후에 계속 왜 경찰이 해당 남성이 내 사건과 관련이 없다고 단정지었는지 물었으나, 경찰이 확보한 모텔 CCTV 영상에 그 남자가 없다는 것 외에는 어떤 증거도 제시하지 못했습니다.
뿐만 아니라, 나는 사건 당시에 이 남성이 한국에 없었다고 한 한국 경찰의 거짓통보에 대해서도 의문을 가지게 되었습니다. 지금까지도 나는 이 남성이 왜 경찰의 수사망에서 제외된 것인지 제대로 알지 못합니다.
4) 내가 여러 모욕적인 질문을 받았다는 부분에 대해서, 조사할 때 신뢰관계인인 통역인이 참여하였기 때문에 모욕적인 질문이 없었다는 주장을 펼쳤습니다.
5) 또한 경찰은 번역 상의 문제로 나에게 직접 연락을 하지 않고, 대사관 측에 5회 이상 수사진행 사항을 통지하였다고 했는데, DNA 검사결과나 약물 반응, 알코올 수치 검사, 페이스북 남성에 대한 정보 등과 같은 중요한 정보들은 모두 빼놓고 대체 무엇을 통지하였다고 하는 것인지 모르겠습니다.


2016-04-01
한국 경찰은 뉴스1 채널에 나조차도 몰랐던 나의 수사진행상황을 밝히는 것에서 멈추지 않고, 경찰 공식 페이스북 계정에도 나를 향한 편지를 게시하였습니다. 경찰은 이 편지를 To. Airdre 라고 시작하였으면서, 나에게 직접 보내지 않고 자기들의 페이스북에 전체공개로 게시했습니다.
다음은 경찰이 페이스북에 게시하였던 나에 대한 편지 내용입니다.



그리고 경찰이 나의 고펀드미페이지에 와서 댓글로 경찰서 페이스북에 가서 해당 글을 확인해보라는 댓글을 남기기까지 하였습니다.




2016-04-03
내가 아무 대답을 하지 않자, 경찰은 다시 나의 고펀드미 페이지에 해당 게시글을 확인하라고 댓글을 남겼습니다.


2016-04-04
나는 경찰과 병원에, 수사 과정 중 내가 가지게 된 여러 의문점들에 대한 질문지를 보냈습니다.

2016-04-06
펍크롤 주최자가 나에게 이제야 수사협조 요청을 받았다고 알려주었습니다.

2016-04-07
페이스북에 경찰이 올린 편지에 화가 난 사람들의 댓글이 많이 달리자 경찰은 해당 편지 게시글을 지우고 “사과문”을 올렸습니다. 그러나 사과의 대상은 상처를 입은 내가 아니었으며, “본의 아니게 논란이 야기되어 유감스럽게 생각”한다고만 하였습니다.

2016-04-15
경찰이 질문지에 대한 답변을 보내왔습니다. 그러나, 그들은 내가 궁금한 부분에 대해서 어떤 새로운, 납득할 만한 답변도 주지 못했습니다.
그들은 심지어 펍크롤 바나, 주최자에게 연락을 하지 않았던 게 내가 기억을 잘 하지 못해서 그런 것이라고 나를 비난하기까지 했습니다.
또한 페이스북에 나에 대한 편지를 올린 것 또한, 나에게 사과하거나 상황에 대해서 설명을 해주기 위함이 아니라, 자신들에 대한 부정적인 여론을 최소화(minimize negative publicity)하기 위해서였다고 말했습니다. 경찰에 대한 부정적인 여론을 해소하기 위해서 왜 피해자인 제가 이용되어야만 합니까?

2016-04-20
경찰이 아무런 사전 경고도 없이 나의 메일로 CCTV 영상 스크린샷을 보냈습니다. 사진 속에는 두 남자가 나를 모텔로 데리고 들어가는 장면이 찍혀 있었습니다. 2015년 9월 이후로 경찰이 처음으로 나에게 직접 연락을 해온 것입니다. 나는 직장에서 아무런 마음의 준비도 없이 열었다가, 너무 충격을 받아 그 날 일을 하지 못하고 조퇴해야만 했습니다.
그 이메일에서 경찰은 두 명의 용의자를 잡았다고 말했습니다. “We arrested two suspects.”라고 쓰여있었습니다. 그러나 나중에 확인해보니, 한 명의 용의자만 체포되었다고 합니다. 경찰은 나에게 번역의 오류라고 해명하였으나 나는 이 사소한 실수 때문에 다시 한번 크나큰 좌절감을 겪어야만 했습니다.


2016-05-09
나는 한국에 입국하여 경찰 관계자들과 7시간 정도 미팅을 가졌습니다.
경찰은 미팅 내내 하품을 하거나, 휴대폰을 만지거나, 심지어 이야기 도중 다른 사람과 전화통화를 하는 등 나를 무시하는 태도를 보였습니다. 거기에서 그치지 않고, 나를 비난하거나 비웃기도 했습니다. 내 질문들에 대해서는 명확하게 대답을 하지 않고, 번역가가 잘못 번역을 하였거나, 대사관이 전달을 잘 못했거나, 병원이 잘못 했다고 하는 등 계속 다른 사람들에게 책임을 돌렸습니다.
나는 한국 경찰이 나에게 준 상처들에 대해 사과를 하기를 바랬습니다. 몇 시간 동안 이야기를 나눈 뒤로 나는 경찰에게 사과하겠느냐고 물었습니다. 하지만 경찰은 끝까지 내 요구를 거부하였습니다. 오히려 나에게 내가 먼저 고펀드미를 통해 경찰을 비난한 책임이 있지 않느냐고 반문하기까지 했습니다. 그들은 나에게 정확하게 “Why don’t you admit that you were wrong?” 라고 말했습니다. 심지어 나에게 영어로 직접 이 이야기를 하였습니다.




지금의 상황은,
CCTV 영상에 있던 가해자 중 1명만 체포가 되어 재판을 진행하고 있는데, 법정에서는 증거가 부족하여 (증거가 부족한 게 제 잘못입니까? 왜 내가 한국경찰이 증거수집을 잘 못한 거에 대해서 고통을 당해야 하는지 모르겠습니다.), 강간으로 고소하기조차 어렵다고 합니다. 그는 지금 준강제추행죄로 기소되었습니다. 약물 사용이나 다른 남성과 협동하여 나를 모텔로 납치해 간 부분에 대해서도 인정되지 않았습니다. 다음 재판일은 6월 29일입니다.
영상의 다른 남자는 아직 체포되지도 않았고, 경찰이 수사를 계속 진행하고 있는지도 모르겠습니다.
마지막으로 내가 페이스북에서 지목했던 남성에 대한 수사도 경찰에게 진행해달라고 여러 번 요청하였으나, 경찰은 사건과 관련이 없다는 말만 계속할 뿐 명확한 설명도 없이 나의 요청을 방관하였습니다.


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Cee Jay
12 months ago
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I admire you for being strong and seeking the justice that you know you deserve. I hope the donation helps.

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Heesun Kim
9 months ago
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Diane Kim, do you even live in south Korea? Are you a woman? And could you pls clarify where you got your statistics? In Korea, women do NOT get to talk freely about their sexual violence/harassment experience. Gender equality in Korea is poor even on the global level. We can see it clearly in how the public and the media treated the recent Park Yu Chun case and the Gangnam karaoke hate crime. I hope nobody is fooled by her comments. What Airdre had to go through is terrible and I feel deeply sorry as a South Korean.

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Mishi Tseung
12 months ago
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https://www.facebook.com/smpays/posts/1016654165083878 Please don't lie, the truth will come out and hit you when you least expect it. If the rape had occurred, please do not blame the Korean police for their lack of investigation when they claim to have and also have evidence on this situation. Please be careful about what you put in your description as it has already been seen by the South Korean Police.

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Pounamu Natasha Joyce
9 months ago
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Diane Kim clearly knows nothing about Korea. Basically she is saying sexual assault has increased because of foreigners, and that Koreans don't commit dangerous crimes. Airdre and everyone who has been a victim of Korean police's indifference to crimes against you, people like Diane Kim are a HUGE part of the problem and should be ignored.

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Patrick Shore
3 months ago

I've noticed that people that keep regular updates -one lady 28 updates, even to say 'hello, I'm doing........- get a constant response, people tend to forget easily.

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Emma Roberts
4 months ago

This is excellent news, Airdre. Reading that justice has been served for one of the offenders who put you through that awful experience while no doubt giving you some sense of closure makes me very happy. Very proud of you for what you've chosen to do, and even more so for taking a public stance against sexual assault in a region where not many people are brave enough to do so. Power to you, woman!

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Carlos Duarte Do Nascimento
4 months ago

Your words are mine - it doesn't sound huge (heck, it isn't huge), but it is a great advancement for all the victims, and I hope it brings you (much needed and deserved) peace. My sincere appreciation for coming out and going through this - in addition to the hope that you bring to those oppressed by gender oppression systems, you also brought joy to those who are on the better side of the privilege of the system, yet wish that it was the only one. But this is not about us, it is about you. All the best!

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Clare Mills
4 months ago

Fantastic news. I'm so happy that at least some justice has been served. Good on you for not giving up. You deserve the best and I hope good things continue to happen for you from now on.

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Sidge Rushton
6 months ago

I'm so sorry for everything you've been through. You're so much stronger than any of scum you've had to deal with. You can do it. X

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Dawn Huber
7 months ago

I'm going to share this what a brave lady you are, i would do the same if it were me and the fat e now works for the metropolitan police in London is knocking me heartsick as I am from the UK....Goodluck I will keep coming back to see your journey, God Bless x

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Diane Kim
9 months ago

and before judging me, judging Australia's media. for the first time , reporters said criminal were white person. but later it found out they weren't white ppl. they were 2 black men, from Nigeria. and reporter said in Korean culture is blaming victim and Korean men look down on Korean women. it's ALL FAKE. http://english.seoul.go.kr/policy-information/education-women-children/women/1-women/ you can really see that it's ALL Fake. if she want people like me support her , she should have told only the true fact and Australia's media, as well. according to Australia's media, for women, S.Korea is very dangerous. I'm a women. but I didn't fear dangerous compared to other countries. and I just read article about Australia men raped 3 Korean girls lately. before he raped, he let them took drug on the quiet. and addition Austrailan men commited murder Korean couple before. and did many crimes to Korean girls. How did Australia's media say S.Korea can be dangerous country for women? look at yourself on the mirror first. S.Korea is super safe country. compare to Australia.

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Diane Kim
9 months ago

Pounamu Natasha Joyce . She insist Based on a 2010 survey. You know better than I do about Korea? I lived in S.Korea for almost 28years. everything changes very fast . Now Korean women report sexual crime almost 100 percent. victim don't need to be shame because victim did nothing wrong. and S.Korea police officers arrest criminals over 85 percent. and even though National Forensic Service, S Korea police officers have tried best, she all denied. she doesn't think it's because of language barrier? so she misunderstood? all Koreans affort for her. she just ignored it . why she criticize Korea with fake information, and think what she wants to believe. and S.Korea we don't think westerner women are whore. I think it's much bigger that westerner think Asian girl as whore than that. I felt really sorry to her. but the way about criticize it's wrong , criticize about Korea culture with fake information. and it should be first. blaming two foreign people who rape her, and S.Korea police officer arrested criminal as sexually assaulted, not attempt sexually assaulted.

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Emma Kalka
9 months ago

I will always stand by Airdre! As another survivor (who was attacked in by a South Korean man in my own home while I slept) I know how hard it is to come forward with your story. I understand the frustration of having to work with the Korean justice system. But I admire your strength and offer all the love and support I can give!

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Diane Kim
9 months ago

http://english.seoul.go.kr/policy-information/education-women-children/women/1-women/ Australia's sexual assault 6.8 times bigger than S.Korea. For any person, becoming a victim of sexual violence is the worst fear come true. But for foreigners living in Korea, it can have an added level of fear. Are you joking? S.Korean government already captured 2 Nigerian Criminals . but you let people give you money . money is the reason you lied

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Diane Kim
9 months ago

and look at Seoul's policy about women welfare. in Korea . men never look down on women. actually some Koreans exaggerate bad side of view about their country. even though S.Korea is the most safest country in the world, some Korean people say it's dangerous. so you don't know the face after you interviewed only few people, and foreigners crime sexual assault rate increase, since 2008 , because Foreigners have increased. and if woman is sexually assaulted, they don't hesitate to report to police officers. and police officers captures criminals over 85 percent,

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Diane Kim
9 months ago

According to the Korean police officers , Doctor used emergency kit to collect criminal's DNA in a hurry, and sent that to National Forensic Service. they found criminal's DNA on your breast. but there was no sample DNA, National Forensic Service have. Because of that criminals weren't Koreans. They were Nigerian. and police officer said when she came to the police office, she didn't remember the date and place, when and where she raped, only talked about criminals were black men. and the result about her doping test and blood test , negative reaction came out about drug. and Korean police officer when she went to hospital for examination, let only one person she could trust came in , It couldn't be high handed atmosphere. Korean police officer didn't talk any bad words to her. even though they sent her mail, and because of language barrier, informed embassy about that for more than 5 times. and Korean police officers already captured 2 Nigerian criminals. and it's not Korea culture blaming victim, not criminal, we learned and know it's only criminal's fault. even if woman is naked, all criminal's fault, and Koreans never think female westerners are whore. I think westerner think Asian girls are eary is much bigger.

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Kari Brown
9 months ago

I was held captive,raped and beat repeatedly for 4 long days, It's a terrible thing to have to go through and my prayers are with you!I was raped in April 2012 and still to this day nothing has been done, the system is corrupt, nothing gets done and we victims mostly get looked at and thought about bad as if we are the criminal... It's such a shame and My prayers are with you!! Also I am sending you an email in hopes that you could possibly help spread the word my 8yr old son and I are in urgent need of help from eviction. If you could pass on the page or share it with every person you could we greatly appreciate it! Kari Brown Fort Wayne, IN

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Tracy Scott
9 months ago

post his facebook

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Jin Jui
10 months ago

Rape standard of Korea is different from other countries. In Korea, watching pornography, Target youth sexual commodities, Sexual Harassment, sexual molestation, It is included in the rape.

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Christofer Tang
10 months ago

post the attackers Facebook Shame him in public

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Thank you for fighting so hard for all women. I hope this new year brings lovely things for you.

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amazing ! woman of steel, with kind eyes !

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You are so strong. Love love love to you. Thank you for speaking on behalf of women who experience rape and sexual abuse. You're wonderful and beautiful. Xo

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Cee Jay
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I admire you for being strong and seeking the justice that you know you deserve. I hope the donation helps.

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Heesun Kim
9 months ago
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Diane Kim, do you even live in south Korea? Are you a woman? And could you pls clarify where you got your statistics? In Korea, women do NOT get to talk freely about their sexual violence/harassment experience. Gender equality in Korea is poor even on the global level. We can see it clearly in how the public and the media treated the recent Park Yu Chun case and the Gangnam karaoke hate crime. I hope nobody is fooled by her comments. What Airdre had to go through is terrible and I feel deeply sorry as a South Korean.

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Mishi Tseung
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https://www.facebook.com/smpays/posts/1016654165083878 Please don't lie, the truth will come out and hit you when you least expect it. If the rape had occurred, please do not blame the Korean police for their lack of investigation when they claim to have and also have evidence on this situation. Please be careful about what you put in your description as it has already been seen by the South Korean Police.

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Diane Kim clearly knows nothing about Korea. Basically she is saying sexual assault has increased because of foreigners, and that Koreans don't commit dangerous crimes. Airdre and everyone who has been a victim of Korean police's indifference to crimes against you, people like Diane Kim are a HUGE part of the problem and should be ignored.

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Patrick Shore
3 months ago

I've noticed that people that keep regular updates -one lady 28 updates, even to say 'hello, I'm doing........- get a constant response, people tend to forget easily.

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Emma Roberts
4 months ago

This is excellent news, Airdre. Reading that justice has been served for one of the offenders who put you through that awful experience while no doubt giving you some sense of closure makes me very happy. Very proud of you for what you've chosen to do, and even more so for taking a public stance against sexual assault in a region where not many people are brave enough to do so. Power to you, woman!

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Carlos Duarte Do Nascimento
4 months ago

Your words are mine - it doesn't sound huge (heck, it isn't huge), but it is a great advancement for all the victims, and I hope it brings you (much needed and deserved) peace. My sincere appreciation for coming out and going through this - in addition to the hope that you bring to those oppressed by gender oppression systems, you also brought joy to those who are on the better side of the privilege of the system, yet wish that it was the only one. But this is not about us, it is about you. All the best!

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Clare Mills
4 months ago

Fantastic news. I'm so happy that at least some justice has been served. Good on you for not giving up. You deserve the best and I hope good things continue to happen for you from now on.

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Sidge Rushton
6 months ago

I'm so sorry for everything you've been through. You're so much stronger than any of scum you've had to deal with. You can do it. X

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Dawn Huber
7 months ago

I'm going to share this what a brave lady you are, i would do the same if it were me and the fat e now works for the metropolitan police in London is knocking me heartsick as I am from the UK....Goodluck I will keep coming back to see your journey, God Bless x

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Diane Kim
9 months ago

and before judging me, judging Australia's media. for the first time , reporters said criminal were white person. but later it found out they weren't white ppl. they were 2 black men, from Nigeria. and reporter said in Korean culture is blaming victim and Korean men look down on Korean women. it's ALL FAKE. http://english.seoul.go.kr/policy-information/education-women-children/women/1-women/ you can really see that it's ALL Fake. if she want people like me support her , she should have told only the true fact and Australia's media, as well. according to Australia's media, for women, S.Korea is very dangerous. I'm a women. but I didn't fear dangerous compared to other countries. and I just read article about Australia men raped 3 Korean girls lately. before he raped, he let them took drug on the quiet. and addition Austrailan men commited murder Korean couple before. and did many crimes to Korean girls. How did Australia's media say S.Korea can be dangerous country for women? look at yourself on the mirror first. S.Korea is super safe country. compare to Australia.

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Diane Kim
9 months ago

Pounamu Natasha Joyce . She insist Based on a 2010 survey. You know better than I do about Korea? I lived in S.Korea for almost 28years. everything changes very fast . Now Korean women report sexual crime almost 100 percent. victim don't need to be shame because victim did nothing wrong. and S.Korea police officers arrest criminals over 85 percent. and even though National Forensic Service, S Korea police officers have tried best, she all denied. she doesn't think it's because of language barrier? so she misunderstood? all Koreans affort for her. she just ignored it . why she criticize Korea with fake information, and think what she wants to believe. and S.Korea we don't think westerner women are whore. I think it's much bigger that westerner think Asian girl as whore than that. I felt really sorry to her. but the way about criticize it's wrong , criticize about Korea culture with fake information. and it should be first. blaming two foreign people who rape her, and S.Korea police officer arrested criminal as sexually assaulted, not attempt sexually assaulted.

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Emma Kalka
9 months ago

I will always stand by Airdre! As another survivor (who was attacked in by a South Korean man in my own home while I slept) I know how hard it is to come forward with your story. I understand the frustration of having to work with the Korean justice system. But I admire your strength and offer all the love and support I can give!

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Diane Kim
9 months ago

http://english.seoul.go.kr/policy-information/education-women-children/women/1-women/ Australia's sexual assault 6.8 times bigger than S.Korea. For any person, becoming a victim of sexual violence is the worst fear come true. But for foreigners living in Korea, it can have an added level of fear. Are you joking? S.Korean government already captured 2 Nigerian Criminals . but you let people give you money . money is the reason you lied

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Diane Kim
9 months ago

and look at Seoul's policy about women welfare. in Korea . men never look down on women. actually some Koreans exaggerate bad side of view about their country. even though S.Korea is the most safest country in the world, some Korean people say it's dangerous. so you don't know the face after you interviewed only few people, and foreigners crime sexual assault rate increase, since 2008 , because Foreigners have increased. and if woman is sexually assaulted, they don't hesitate to report to police officers. and police officers captures criminals over 85 percent,

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Diane Kim
9 months ago

According to the Korean police officers , Doctor used emergency kit to collect criminal's DNA in a hurry, and sent that to National Forensic Service. they found criminal's DNA on your breast. but there was no sample DNA, National Forensic Service have. Because of that criminals weren't Koreans. They were Nigerian. and police officer said when she came to the police office, she didn't remember the date and place, when and where she raped, only talked about criminals were black men. and the result about her doping test and blood test , negative reaction came out about drug. and Korean police officer when she went to hospital for examination, let only one person she could trust came in , It couldn't be high handed atmosphere. Korean police officer didn't talk any bad words to her. even though they sent her mail, and because of language barrier, informed embassy about that for more than 5 times. and Korean police officers already captured 2 Nigerian criminals. and it's not Korea culture blaming victim, not criminal, we learned and know it's only criminal's fault. even if woman is naked, all criminal's fault, and Koreans never think female westerners are whore. I think westerner think Asian girls are eary is much bigger.

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Kari Brown
9 months ago

I was held captive,raped and beat repeatedly for 4 long days, It's a terrible thing to have to go through and my prayers are with you!I was raped in April 2012 and still to this day nothing has been done, the system is corrupt, nothing gets done and we victims mostly get looked at and thought about bad as if we are the criminal... It's such a shame and My prayers are with you!! Also I am sending you an email in hopes that you could possibly help spread the word my 8yr old son and I are in urgent need of help from eviction. If you could pass on the page or share it with every person you could we greatly appreciate it! Kari Brown Fort Wayne, IN

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Tracy Scott
9 months ago

post his facebook

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Jin Jui
10 months ago

Rape standard of Korea is different from other countries. In Korea, watching pornography, Target youth sexual commodities, Sexual Harassment, sexual molestation, It is included in the rape.

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Christofer Tang
10 months ago

post the attackers Facebook Shame him in public

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