Help Jamie take one last trip
Thank you everyone that helped make the end of Jamie’s life special. And thank you to those who have been following up with me or our families, including those of you who I have never met or haven't spoken to in years.
I apologize I could not follow up with everyone individually, but I am grateful for everyone's support.
The last thing Jamie asked me to do was to share the pictures from the trip, and to communicate to everyone how grateful she was (to the point of tears) for allowing her to spend the last moments of her life living. And I have had a number of people ask about pictures. It has taken me a while to get these up, but they are here: https://www.flickr.com/photos/135292392@N03/albums
Not much more needs to be said about the first 99.9% of Jamie's life. Her fight is aptly described on this site and here: http://www.theepochtimes.com/n3/1394725-how-this-girl-survived-advanced-cancer-for-almost-a-decade/.
But here is the last chapter:
Before leaving, we had a plan was to do a ceremony in Split, Croatia, an eastern Mediterranean cruise before-wedding “honeymoon” including Greece, and then come home and legally tie the knot. We spent three days in Croatia, and then a cruise to Turkey, the Greek isles, and Venice and had a fantastic time. But not much went as planned.
We did not get to do the ceremony in Split. Jamie's passport-set to expire July 2015-was no good and that she could not travel with it. Fortunately, our airline (Singapore Airlines) rebooked us for the same flight the next day, at no cost, and we only lost a day.
Some of Jamie’s symptoms did not respond as well to treatment as hoped. Jamie had radiation to shrink the tumor in her spine, but the treatment did not take quickly enough and for the first few days Jamie had trouble walking. Fortunately, a hotel owner let us borrow a wheelchair and so we were able to see Old Town. And instead of a Game of Thrones walking tour, we decided to do a Game of Thrones driving tour.
While we ordered a scooter for the cruise, it did not arrive until halfway through the trip. After I went to customer service to complain, I asked if they could block off a section of the ship so we could do a small private ceremony. After explaining our situation, the head of customer service said he could do better and put together—at no charge—a beautiful ceremony at the bridge of the ship, with photographer, a chaplain, and some champagne for us (much better than what we planned).
Of all the unplanned events, the most distressing was that Jamie’s health deteriorated faster than anyone had predicted. Jamie’s health drastically turned at very end of the trip and it was evident that she was dying. It was a miracle that we were able to escape Venice (which has no ground transportation), make it to the airport, and then board not one, but two international flights back to New York. Moreover, after boarding the first flight, British Airways mysteriously upgraded our second flight to business class, without any solicitation, free of charge.
From there, Jamie hung on just long enough to do the one last thing we wanted most. The morning after we returned, we made one detour on the way to Sloan Kettering Hospital: the Queens City Clerk. You have to physically show in person to get a marriage license and then wait 24-hours to legally marry. So we got an office chair to wheel Jamie up the ramp into the clerk’s office and at the hospital, I contacted a partner at my firm who contacted another partner who contacted a judge who contacted another judge. The two judges put together all of the paperwork at 9PM we officially married in front of our families and close friends.
Just over 24 hours later, Jamie passed.
So many people have told me how inspired they are by Jamie's fight and how strong she was. In her final days, with no small thanks to family and friends, the universe gave back some of what Jamie had done for everyone else over the years.
Jamie: we may not be take care of each other anymore—I know you would if you could—but I’ll always take care of your memory.
Thank you for giving me the best gift a person can receive: happiness and hope.
Also, I don't have any addresses for people to send the scrubs! There was supposed to be a box when you donate to add your address which I was told was not actually up and working so now I need to get addresses please! If you can email your address at email@example.com then I can send you the gift when we get back!
Hey everyone, I have received great news for those who want to donate. Work Train Fight, a boxing gym in Soho, is holding a donation class in support of my dream vacation. For anyone who wants to participate, they will be holding four individual thirty minute intense boxing/cardio bootcamp classes on June 14 including fun fitness based raffles with values ranging around $300.00. To Sign up or inquire more about it, you can email firstname.lastname@example.org. I am really grateful for all the support from everyone!
I posted this site last night right before I went to sleep and when I woke up today and saw just how generous everyone is all I could do was cry. I am so so grateful for everyone who donated, and anything we receive above our goal will go to making a stop in a second place on our way out to Croatia. Also, because I did not expect so many people to donate that quickly those who donated over $30 just give me a little bit of time to make the scrubs to send to everyone!