Repatriation of Steve Truglia
To many, the life of a stuntman is a glamorous job and indeed on many occasions it was; however it was also dangerous. Despite the glamour, Steve was very down to earth and not the least bit flashy. Indeed, he spent most of his earnings caring for his elderly mother who sadly has advanced alzheimers.
Consequently Steve was not a wealthy man, and due to the extreme nature of last week’s event, no insurance policy was in place for repatriation in the event of his death.
We, his close friends and colleagues, want to bring our friend home so that we can give him a proper send off, pay our respects and say goodbye. We need your help to do that, so if you are able to, please make a donation and help us achieve our goal.
PS. Our boy is coming home! We'll let you know when. Now we've raised the bar, for Steve's lovely mum. All further donations will go to making sure Rosa can remain in her own home.
Following the rapid and generous donations an amendment was added stating the following:- "Our boy is coming home! We'll let you know when. Now we've raised the bar, for Steve's lovely mum. All further donations will go to making sure Rosa can remain in her own home".
The fact is Rosa could not stay in her own home and it was out of our control (by 'our' I refer to those closest to Steve, who he knew and trusted) to make this happen. This was a complex situation and Rosa was placed into interim care which was far from ideal. As I have said on other platforms a very capable and formidable lady (who Steve entrusted as his official NOK) fought tooth and nail to sort Rosa's permanent care out. It took Ellen six months of fighting to do this in the main due to Steve's estranged family making things difficult, to put it mildly! Well done Ellen, you so deserve a medal for your efforts, best I can do here is give you a name check and a big kiss X :-)!
Rosa is now settled in a permanent home with specialist dementia care and it's about as good as it can possibly be. It's very sad that it took six months to sort and caused so much distress. Steve would never have allowed this to happen to his mum if he were here, but as we know that was not possible. But rest easy mate, Ellen, Mandy and a few others made it happen. sorry it took so long. :-(
So to the money raised, we got Steve home without touching the fund, I've elaborated on other platforms regarding the incredible offers of help that came in to bring Steve home so I won't rehearse that here. Additionally we wanted to make certain that Steve's estranged family would not or could not pocket or benefit the funds under any circumstances. After all one of the siblings, Steve's sister will have access to almost three quarters of million quid from the sale of the family home! The other sibling, Michael is an utterly shallow, show pony narcissist who Steve could not abide. He's now had his 15 minutes of fame, strutting around like a peacock following Steves' death and can fuck off back under the stone he crawled out of! Oh I forgot to mention, his own mother disinherited him. He is the one that prevented me from paying my last respects and saying goodbye to the best and closest friend I've ever known BTW.
Anyway, moving on. Steve did everything he could for his mum Rosa. Given the severity of her condition she really should not be here. The fact that she is, is down to Steve's incredible efforts to do everything he could to keep her alive and happy. He became a dementia expert, leaving no stone unturned. I can tell you personally I saw the toll it took on him. You'd have to look close and know him well though, as he tried to hide the turmoil he was going through....And he was a master at hiding his feelings!
So, where is this leading? Well in multiple emails over many many weeks with Go Fund Me and in order to keep everything above board. I requested a change of purpose for the fund. This had to be sanctioned by a specialist depart at Go Fund Me and it was escalated to that specialist dept. My request was this, Steve despite his formidable powers et al. was unable to 'cure' his mum..as there is NO CURE for dementia.
So my request was that the funds raised should go in some way to dementia research in order that, in Steve's name, someone in the future might possible be saved from going through what Rosa has and is going through. THAT is the main thrust of this update. It's still early days as I am researching the many organisations that are out there..it really is quite complex and I am very carefully considering how best to proceed.
I will say this and it was foremost in my mind when I requested a change of purpose with GFM. If anyone who contributed to this fund disagrees with the above proposal, you are welcome to a full refund. GFM suggested seven days to notify us of this, but I'm happy to allow 30 days. I want to make absolutely sure that we are doing the right thing here. So email, text and share this update and if you'd like a refund please let me or GFM know.
Final point, Steve's inaugural Memorial canoe race takes place on 14th May. (Google it) It is a hard and tough race with 100 + boats taking part. Your support at this event would be extremely welcome and we can all share our memories and remember a very remarkable man. RIP mate.... still can't believe you're gone. :-(
So 10th Dec last year I along with just a handful of Steve's closest friends went to Heathrow to 'welcome' Steve back onto UK soil and escort him back to East London....in fact to a mortuary literally a few hundred yards from both my and Steve's respective homes.
Then due to the estranged sibling(s) Steve's closest friends were cut out of the funeral arrangements. For those not familiar with the proceedings Steve's funeral was made (By his estranged brother who Steve hated and despised..unpalatable? tough! It's the truth!) a 'private' family only affair. Only eight people attended Steve's 'official' funeral!!! For a man who was adored, respected, looked up to and admired by many many hundreds, this was a disgrace and travesty!
I managed in almost total secrecy to have 150 people form a guard of honour and salute Steve's coffin as it went into the church. We then all re-convened at our local Ex servicemans club to give Steve a superb send off. And we truly did him proud as those who were present can and will testify.
So what next? ......part two to follow shortly...and hey feel free to email me personally for any details you would like.
......In loving memory of my best mate....I miss you buddy... And you ARE and always will be a complete dick for f****g up! No safety on the bottom of the rope WTF were you thinking? Wish you were here now, so I could give you a good kicking!
Now back to business, Steve IS coming home our next major concern is keeping Rosa Steve's lovely mum, in her own house. After discussing this with those involved we are going to increase our target amount, so that the essential 24/7 care for Rosa is maintained, more importantly we can keep her at home.
Hello Phil, Thanks for the detailed update. We haven't met for over 30 years but I think you are handling the matter impeccably. My own father died of Alzheimer's so spending the money donated to repatriate Steve's body on helping to put an end to the condition that caused his mother, and therefore Steve, so much grief is a very appropriate use of the money. I trust you implicitly to do the right thing. And dealing with awkward family members when you have no formal family relationship can be extremely difficult. You seem to have done very well in the face of a very tricky situation.
Thank you all again for helping to bring Steve home. A quick update for those who have asked - Steve's repatriation is currently underway. The Chinese authorities have treated Steve with respect and are working with his friends to bring him home. One of his friends is in China right now with a family member and will accompany Steve on his journey back to the UK.
Lovely to see how much support Steve has. He means so much to so many people all with a common interest Steve. RIP good buddy
We are nearly there! Steve you are coming home soon! xxx
Thank you all for coming together to help Steve. It has been so humbling and overwhelming to witness so much kindness over such a short timeframe. We did this ... for you Steve x
This just proves how loved Steve was, all this money raised so quickly. We hope to have you home soon Stevie T Sending love to everyone who is missing Steve xxx
This is truly awesome. Thank you so much for your generosity. It's truly humbling to know how much my dear friend Steve touched so many lives. Now let's get the boy home.
Wow, make that £12K!! We are without doubt going to smash our target - and Phil, I truly believe that Steve would be grinning and saying: "Thanks for making it happen, mate" :-)
This is a truly amazing effort and shows Steve just what he meant to us all. Hopefully you will be home soon xxx
The fact that over £10k has been donated already is testament to what people thought of Steve, and his amazing achievements. Thanks so much to everyone for contributing - I know Steve would appreciate all the love.
Thank you everyone for helping bring our man home, still a long way to go, but we can get there. Overwhelmed by the kindness and love that has been shared, thank you.
Thank you all so much for your kindness and generosity.
So grateful to have friends from Hong Kong and Taiwan supporting. Every little helps! Thank you!
Phil, if no funds are needed to keep Steve's mum looked after then the proposal looks good. With the T&Cs of the funding page, if she did need assistance down the road, it may need to be via the charity itself in which case a caveat with the charity against the donation may be possible. Whatever, a great job done for the right reasons.