Hope and Help for Judy
Your response to what you read here may have life-changing impact on the woman and family about whom I write. Your decision to make that impact may change your life, too.
I write to you about Judy Malinowski, a beautiful, vibrant young woman and mother of two daughters. Judy overcame significant challenges in recent years, including opiate addiction and ovarian cancer, and appeared headed for a life of renewed possibility thru faith and family.
Judy’s path to that new life was destroyed a year ago due to unthinkable horror. A man whom Judy had dated confronted her at a gas station, a struggle ensued, and the man doused Judy with gasoline and set her ablaze at the throat, watching as the flames engulfed her.
Judy sustained 3rd and 4th degree burns over 90% of her body, and remains in the intensive care unit at Ohio State University Hospital, where she was transported after the attack. Judy endures severe pain in a fierce determination to survive, to defy daunting odds so that her daughters (ages 9 and 12) don’t have to grow up without their mom. Judy breathes via ventilator, cannot walk, cannot speak audibly, has no outward ears (they melted in the fire), and has massive raw wounds on her shoulders and back which cannot be skin-grafted because she is unable to lie on her stomach due to breathing difficulty.
Judy has undergone more than 50 surgeries since the attack. Her doctors indicate that Judy’s survival thus far of such serious burns is rare, and express puzzlement over how to care for her in any way that may promote healing.
Beneath Judy’s now-brutal cosmetic exterior is a smart, kind woman with an incredible spirit and soul. Below her charred surface is a fighter beyond belief, a determined mother and daughter, an overcomer of obstacles who hoped to utilize lessons learned from her experiences in an effort to help others.
Bonnie Bowes is Judy’s mother. Bonnie spoke with Judy by phone shortly before the attack. Thirty minutes later, Bonnie received word from police that Judy had been transported to a hospital and was near death.
Bonnie has waged an incredible fight on multiple fronts for her daughter’s life, from rescuing Judy from the clutches of addiction thru Judy's cancer-recovery to her daily hospital visits. No matter how tired she gets or the pressures she faces at work, Bonnie visits Judy each day. Bonnie was vice president of a bank, but has been assigned a lesser role. Her retirement savings have been decimated by the cost of Judy’s medical care.
Bonnie has stepped into a crucial parental role for Judy’s daughters, who live with Bonnie. She provides emotional support for the girls and has attempted to establish for them some sense of ‘normalcy’ as they wonder when, or if, their mom may come home from the hospital.
Judy, Bonnie and the girls believe in the power of God, and their strength of faith and trust in His Will affords them the tenacity they need to endure.
Trial of the case in Franklin County Municipal Court was set to begin on December 12, and Judy planned to testify from her hospital bed, via Skype, able only to nod her head. Judy's attacker entered a no-contest plea prior to trial, and was found guilty on charges of felonious assault, aggravated arson and possession of criminal tools. He received a maximum sentence of eleven years.
Despite the pain and odds and uncertainty, Judy continues to fight, with her daughters and Bonnie at her side.
Please know that your donation toward Judy's medical expenses and care for her daughters is received by Judy and her family with prayers and gratitude!
The decision ensures that Judy's voice will be heard, that the extreme lengths to which she went in preparation for, during and following the testimony were not in vain. Judy fought a battle beyond belief to face her attacker and cross-examination via satellite during the deposition, and her words will speak for themselves.
The trial is scheduled to begin in July.
Her death a day prior to Ohio Senate approval of "Judy's Law" is no happenstance, but another of the many God-Aligned 'Judy Moments' (as her mom, Bonnie, and the many doctors and nurses who cared for Judy would attest) during her journey.
Judy's extraordinary strength and grace thru brutal pain in the name of helping others to understand the devastating scope of domestic violence and in seeking justice where sentencing of her attacker, Michael Slager, is concerned was something to witness. She will live in the hearts of all who have followed her story, and the many yet to discover it.
Please keep Judy's family, including her beautiful young daughters Kaylyn and Madison, in your thoughts and prayers, for as the intense light of media cameras fades in coming days, their significant and challenging life adjustments are only beginning, and they'll need all of the support we can provide.
There is at God's disposal a beautiful, brilliant, witty and feisty new angel...don't be surprised to hear that unique voice in your ear and heart.
On behalf of Judy's family, God bless all of you for your incredible support and generosity.
Thank you for everything, Judy. We love you.
Judy is enduring indescribable pain, multiple antibiotics have proved unsuccessful in battling the bacteria, and she is facing the prospect of yet another surgery (#58) and the grueling physical/emotional aftermath with no real hope that it will yield a positive result.
Please keep Judy and her family in your thoughts and prayers, perhaps now more than ever. God's peace and grace are with her.
Thank you for your prayers and generosity!
You are the Ultimate Mom. I will help with your daughter's if you need help and/or be willing to adopt them. My charity I'd Complete Coaching. Buying a house this week and if you wanna be there you can come to be at peace with your kids. Beautiful family and keep keepin on girlfriend. Sincerely, Jenny
I've asked another person to write y'all too - who himself has been in a fight & burned in a flipped race car @ a race track in Hershey, NE, (I think?) Tony Linner was #1 person in micro midgets across all of USA he had already done 2 of 3 tryouts before they picked his team in NASCAR. It was June 2010 when I saw his family asking for help on FB. I thought of a way to make Tony laugh, I helped get him thru ugliness of staph infection, & I organised a blood donation program in his name raising $50,000 over 1 week by asking all my fave racers to detour if possible thru Lincoln to donate. Dragsters were headed to PA & NASCAR was headed to CA... Tony's wife, Joyce, called me crying and I thought he had passed away? No! Thank God! She couldn't believe how many post cards were going to them, & she couldn't believe whose names were ON the post cards! She asked who did I call? So I told her... And the FB friends list went from 500 to 5,000 over 3 days on "Pray for Tony" page & they had friends all over the world! Japan, Germany, Canada, Mexico, France, etc. Tony has now survived 125 surgeries, I told him about a girl I know from 1980s who was burned like this in a DWI wreck, in Austin Texas, and how she did skin (face) transplants after primary injuries healed. You can see Google search her recorded on Opera Show. Jacqueline looks like a normal person now! She's finished her degree, got married & moved back home to her country @ Venezuela. I've tried to get Tony to keep a journal thru all this to be able to write a book afterwards? But instead he's made video documentaries with the soldier guy whose tank blew up in Afghanistan, I've tried to get Tony to get on Dancing with the Stars but he says he's got 2 left feet. He can't dance! Lol! I knew I was sick @ that time too so I'm finally treated & trying to get organised to go meet them... (They've said they'll renew their vows if I ever make it to NE. I've sent YouTube videos of what I wanted to do, as joking suggestions?) I'll just say, "Don't give up & Don't let yourself get so mad at this idiot that you ruin what's left of your life?!" You've got little ones watching what's going on too. Please just think of this as an issue to get over... I've come to understand that criminal type people only attack bc we allow it. Please study www.kravmaga.com when you're healed? I will say it took 1 phone call to set up the blood program, less than 15 minutes bc I had their hospital location, phone #'s and made Joyce their contact. It was her choice not to continue the blood program more than that 1 week. But they had alot of other people doing fundraisers. I'll let you know not all hospitals do this - I know Scott & White won't do it here in Texas, but I think most hospitals will allow nontaxable $$ blood credits to your hospital bills. 2. File for SSI Disability? And/Or Medicaid if you don't have health benefits. I've got copies if you need the paperwork? Call me if you need me. (512) 461-3158 cell/text & I have unlimited calls & texts. I can fax these copies if you need them, just let me know? Blessings! This can make you stronger...
Can we get a mailing address for the hospital so we can send cards and words of support to her. She needs to know just how many of us know about the heinous, sadistic, evil crime that was committed against her. There's so many of us who want to add to her remarkable strength and courage.
Still in thoughts and prayers here everyone. Just thought I would share small news making the net of some sort of fish skin transplant treatment for burn victims as of a few weeks ago - look it up through your search engine; it seems to be popular. It appears to be new, but I thought I would at least share it.
I was also abused by a narcissist who lives in Columbus, Ohio. I'd like to bring forth a narcissist legislative bill similar to the one that was passed in the U.K. to finally recognize this type of prevalent abuse. Please contact me. I live in California. I am so sorry for you trauma prior and now. Sending you strong healing thoughts.
Judy I'm praying for you and have you on our prayer list at church. You are so remarkably strong to endure and overcome all you have. I also admire your courage for sharing your story. Keep up the fight and God bless you! And know that no matter how much time has passed, your NA friends are all rooting for you!
Prayers that her will stays strong and she starts healing. Can she benefit from the innovative treatments of artificial skin? I was reading about her injuries, and she is so strong willed, so brave, that I want her to have all the technical advantages available today..... She's made it this far.... she's a fighter, with two beautiful girls to get home to. https://www.technologyreview.com/s/416149/spraying-on-skin-cells-to-heal-burns/ or here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JcEvOXIPF28&ab_channel=QuaziZarzisMahmud