Help me Help my Sister Ebony-Hope

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My name is Joy Caesar, I am born and raised in East London.  I am 32 years old with 2 adorable kids. All the kids and I want, is to be able to play and share pain free memorable moments with my one and only sister and their only Aunty Ebby.

Ebony Hope is my only sibling. Ebony went to school in the East End of London and was a popular, fit and healthy teenager. When Ebony turned 14 years old she experienced a drastic change in her health. Ebony was unable to complete her education as her new classroom became various Doctor’s appointments and hospital wards as medical professionals were unable to identify the sudden deterioration in Ebony's life. Ebony was unable to enjoy a "normal" teenage social life and being a member of a big extended family was also unable to enjoy many family events and had to look on and see family, friends, peers and cousins hit certain milestones, achievement and fulfil dreams and ambitions that she is unable to do.  Ebony's suffering began with excruciating abdominal pain resulting in many A&E visits in which doctors were unable to identify the source. Despite her first of many operations to follow for an ovarian cyst, the pain continued which baffled doctors so much so that they believed that Ebony was lying. 

In 2009, Ebony was eventually diagnosed with type 3 EDS (Ehlers Danlos Syndrome) a rare genetic connective tissue disorder. Despite the diagnosis, we were told there was no cure.  This news was devastating to the family but not more so Ebony who was at a pinnacle of her life where she should be making the life plans normal teenagers and young adults do.  However, it was said with a glimmer of hope for us as a Family that her symptoms could be managed to give her a better living of life. To date, we have not seen this improvement in living. Ebony is now 25 years old and over the last 11 years, my sister has gone through some unimaginable experiences which are briefly listed below. (The list is endless so I will try and summarise as best I can). 

Abdominal pain
Ovarian Cyst operation x2
Hernia x2 
Atonic bladder
Intermittent catherisation
Super pubic catherisation
Atonic bowel
Faints & Seizures
Low immune system
Illiostomy (Stoma bag)
Collapsed veins
POTS- Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome-symptoms (yet to be officially diagnosed)
Chiari Malformation symptoms 
(Yet to be officially diagnosed)
Chronic Pain
Chronic wounds
CSF leak Cerebro Spinal fluid leak which causes Persistent Migraines and contributes to the seizures
Nerve damage due to extensive use of entenox used for pain control (lifetime effects of nerve damage)
Blood poisioning 
Hyper sensitive skin
Loss of teeth
Pseudo obstruction  (problems to eat and digest solid foods)
Drug absorption difficulties (has to have triple dosage of medications)
Periods of Loss of speech
Periods of loss of eye sight
Periods of loss of hearing 
Paralysation of face
Numbness of limbs
Wheelchair user

Ebony has NO quality of life. Understandably Ebony sees no pain free life ahead for her and with the list above would you? However, I have to take time to commend her daily efforts to put a smile on her face and face each painful day, and try to be the best daughter, sister and aunty she can. If anything we sometimes draw strength from her courageousness to fight on.

All I want is for my sister to be able to have a pain managed life where she is able to at least fulfil some of the basic things in life, which we all sometimes take for granted. She just wants to be able to use her brain without experiencing pain. More upsetting than this, is that visually at times, Ebony looks and appears to be well but this is far from the case as on the inside her body is deteriorating at a rapid pace. Ebony's life is confined to her bedroom as the pain & seizures do not allow for her to mobilise the majority of the time.

At present Ebony needs round the clock care which is provided by my Angel of a Mum, June, whose life stopped the day her daughter got ill. My mum is Ebony's full time carer, nurse, confidant and at times only friend.

My wish is for both to be able to live a life with myself and my kids as a family and create memories not based in a hospital or bedside watching her in pain wishing her life away, if she has to live life in this pain for much longer.

It has taken a lot for me to write this and ask for your help in the on-going search for a pain free life for Ebony, my baby sister.

Despite the fact we know there is no cure we know that there is a better quality of life out there for her but the barrier we face is that it comes at a cost. 
I want to raise money and to be totally honest I am not sure how much...but the starting point is here!

I need your help to cover the costs for:

Trips to annual EDS conference (USA) which provides a support network of people who understand EDS
Medical Insurance (USA)
Private Consultations (USA)
Private Scans (USA)
Second medical opinions (USA)
Appropriate testing for more specific treatments for each symptom caused by EDS
Pain Management
Living costs

My first aim is to get Ebony to the next annual EDS conference in the USA which is in July this year (2016). 

Fact: A new centre for EDS research was just created in Baltimore, MD. They offer clinical care, education for Physicians and research. It is led by the beloved EDS Superstar Dr. Claire Francomano.

My sister has lost all will & hope and by you giving whatever you can spare, no matter how big or small, could make all the difference to her seeing a positive outcome to on-going fight for life.

"The smallest act of kindness is worth more than the grandest intentions" Oscar Wilde.

How grateful would I be if you donate? Well I cannot put a price on my Sister's life so any donation to us is a blessing. 



Raising awareness for all of the EDS sufferers out there.

Thanks for taking the time to acknowledge Ebony's cause.

Joy x

For more info on the condition EDS please click on link:

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Hi Guys, Once again thanking you all so far for your support and generosity we are truly greatful. As it is all for a great cause to get our Ebony the treatment she needs for a pain free and better quality of life. In preparation for our next event we are asking once again for Item donations
~Sealed Items for the Tombola (alcohol/softdrinks/tinned foods/biscuits/chocolates/toiletries/unwanted gifts)
~Hands on help
(Anyone willing to run a stall for the day. Hook a duck, Tombola, bowling lane, refreshments,bouncy castle....)
~ Rent a Stall ( for anyone who would like to showcase their business for a small fee you can come along and set up and sell your product your takings are your own)
~ Prizes for the Raffle (We have kicked off with 5 hrs Free Driving lessons!!!)
If you can help with any of these things or know someone who can please contact us or message on our FB page - help me, help my sister ebony-hope xxx
Caribbean Family Funday Sunday 15th May
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****4 DAYS TO GO****
Looking forward to our up and coming event! A great night of fundraising and raising awareness for all suffering with EDS
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*****Hi Guys, a push before the HOPE FOR EBONY Fundraising Event on the 2nd April 2016***** We are asking if anyone is in the position to donate ANY PRIZES to add to the raffle to be held on the night please inbox me. We have got off to a good start with
~ A Cambersands Caravan Park Weekend (of choice) for 6 people. ~A Weekend stay for 2 at a Luxury Liverpool Street Apartment
~ A Bannatyne Spa Day with 2 treatments
~ A Mac Make up Masterclass with complimentary goodie bag
~ Bottle of Glitter Champagne with Glitter Glasses
With this said we would like to make this event as successful as possible so anything more e.g Tickets to up and coming festivals/events/shows, dining experiences, hampers, gym passes..... No matter how big or small please if you are in the position or work somewhere where they would be willing to contribute please message me.
***Finally DJ's confirmed for the night are bound to have the event rocking all night you won't be disappointed.*** Thank you all again for support so far much appreciation from us all xxxx
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Justine Gibbs
39 months ago

Fantastic start guys but a long way to go....please please keep sharing x

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Raised by 142 people in 40 months
Created March 2, 2016
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This is from me and Aydin. XXXX. we love you loads. Please every one keep sharing and showing your support X.

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34 months ago

I wish you all the luck in raising this money and wish you better X X

Tabitha Jorgè
35 months ago

This is from me and Aydin xxxx.

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Fantastic start guys but a long way to go....please please keep sharing x

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