Help save Wendy Taylor's home
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My name is Danielle, my mom (Wendy Taylor) has been dealing with the aftermath of a psychotic abusive ex-husband for nearly a decade. We are from Vancouver, Canada. In 2009 he and a friend of his ran her down with a vehicle. Since then, her business went bankrupt and she is in huge amounts of debt from the government. She has nerve damage in her head so bad that she will be getting shots in her skull for the rest of her life to control the pain and cramping. Due to this, she was unable to keep up with the paperwork necessary to keep the business afloat and pay the government taxes. She has applied for tax-payers relief, but with no luck. A shady lawyer ruined her chances of getting a good settlement from ICBC, and the police decided that the charges (attempted murder, assault with a deadly weapon, assault causing bodily harm) were to sever to push through since this was a first offense. So the man that did this to her is not in jail. Her ex-husband, on probation for the first time he severely beat her, has fled to the other side of the country. The government has now come after her home, and we are desperately trying to save it. We do not know how she will survive if she loses this house to the government. Below is the letter she’s written to the government begging them to show leniency.
"The reason for this letter is to explain the circumstances which have led to the financial burden of my company.
Here is some brief background of the situation:
Back in 2009 I was run-down (as a pedestrian) by a vehicle [refer to attachment A] driven by my estranged husband’s friend with my husband as a passenger.
At this point I still suffer from the physical damage to my lower back, hips, neck and shoulders; I was also diagnosed with Trigeminal neuralgia/nerve (TBI) damage and occipital neuralgia. [See attachment B] I have included some information regarding the effects that Trigeminal Neuralgia, TBI and occipital neuralgia has on its victims. [Attachment C] The nerve problems left me in a state where I have been unable to sleep as I had constant tingling (like when your foot or hand fall asleep) in my head and face. This left me unable to lay any pressure at all on my head or face or it would increase the sensation to a point of intolerable or trigger a full blown attack. [See attached pictures and DVD]
For approximately 5 years I propped myself up with pillows trying to get any sleep at all and just the sheer exhaustion from that alone was leaving me desperate. Even the simplest of tasks such as brushing my teeth, putting on makeup or doing my hair triggered full out attacks leaving me unable to go to job sites or attend meetings. I also was afraid to drive myself and with my company being construction and mobile driving from site to site is imperative. So when I was able to get myself out I usually have a paid employee to drive me around.
To date I have tried numerous drugs to control the trigeminal/occipital neuralgia/TBI. Gabapentin, Lyrica, Rilivia to name a few. Each one of these I would stay on anywhere from 1-3 months depending on the severity of the side effects hoping that my body would get use to them and I would finally get some relief. Unfortunately these drugs were all unsuccessful and the side effects that I suffered by the drugs left me in a state even worse as not only did they not help control the issues at hand, most of them leaving me unable to function at all. [Attachment D &E]
A few of the side effects I suffered were anxiety, crying, depression, restlessness, paranoia, concentration problems, loss of memory, loss of appetite (140lb to 105 lb), nausea, change of vision, dizziness and fainting (many times smashing my head, face, body on nearby furniture or counters) increased sensitivity and pain, vomiting, loss of strength. So, all of this, on top of the physical pain I am suffering has left me unable to manage my company as I had successfully in the years prior.
All of these issues also made it virtually impossible to keep up on my paperwork as well. Not only did the physical condition keep me from being able to spend time in my office the extreme exhaustion, concentration issues and loss of memory made me unable to do the simplest of tasks. I was able to show my daughter how to do payroll but everything basically fell apart. I lost clients from not getting quotations done, not invoicing in a timely manner, if at all, accounts receivable were not entered so to do collections was impossible. This led to a shortage of funds and on some occasions not even cash flow to cover payroll. In time I started to lose employees even though we did always mange to pay them it was not always on time. I had family members helped me out with loans and I depleted my own person savings to nothing and also resorted to using credit cards.
An occupational evaluation was done [see attachment G]. In desperation I also sought out numerous types of treatments, some that are still ongoing….. Physiotherapy, chiropractic, kinesiology, cranial sacral therapy, osteopath, trauma counseling, psychologist, physiatrist, massage, Rolfing/biomechanical therapy, acupuncture, exercise programs, inferred saunas. To date I am on daily prescribed medications to control at least the physical pain to a degree. All of these therapies also ate up so much of my time as I went 3-5 days per week in desperation to get better.
My family doctor had put me on a waiting list for the chronic pain clinic as he was at a loss as to what else he could do for me. This was in early 2011. Finally in January 2014 I was called for my first appointment. After over 4 years of trying to survive this hell I met Dr. Mac Innes. We discussed in great detail everything I was going through and he reviewed my medical records. He explained that the nerve issues I was suffering from the accident could possible get some relief from a procedural nerve block injection. The procedure is not pleasant as you need to stay awake but I was desperate to try anything. I went for the first appointment a few weeks later. It helped but unfortunately only for a couple of months. I was so depressed, but he assured me he was going to adjust the amounts of the medication as he was determined to get me more longevity. My next procedure I did get significant more time but I was extremely ill for about 2 weeks after the shot. I was bed ridden with fever, chills, vomiting. The uncontrollable shaking from the fever kept me from getting out of bed at all so my daughter stayed with me, but this then kept her from looking after the business dealings as well. After these symptoms subsided I was symptom free from the nerve issue and able to look at the mess of my life and business with somewhat of a clear mind. Just being able to sleep was such a huge factor to clear my mind; the exhaustion was just so much as well.
Through all of this mess my retired accountant had contacted me to do a cleaning job. When she saw the state I was in she so kindly offered her services and dealt directly with the government through numerous audits. I did my best to be present for as much of this as possible but most times I was so ill even if I managed to get there I would need to leave shortly after.
Now over 5 years into this and knowing that these shots are not permanent I was faced with more ugly realities. [Attachment F & H] It was evident that I will never be the same as I was before and I will never be able to run this business with the demands that it in tales. I was forced to discontinue with my company and sell off the few assets that it had. In this time I was reconnected with an old friend at a funeral who happened to be a book keeper. When she heard everything that I had been going through she offered to help in any way she could. She put me in touch with Mr. Sidney Shultz, and the two of them have managed to organize everything and file all the taxes and GST that were needed.
At this time I am appealing to you to try to comprehend not only the physical and mental state that I am suffering, which kept me virtually unable to just function as a human from day to day, but, the stress of watching my entire world crumbling around me and helpless to do anything about it. The desperateness I felt each and every day not only with this but dealing with the natural stress that comes with self employment, audits, a lawyer who did not have my interest in the fore front with ICBC and managed to obtain only his fees from them and me with virtually nothing because of his lack of effort into the case, and I was just too sick to keep on top of it. As well as an alcoholic husband that shows up on occasions (last time kicking my door in and coming after me again) this leaves me in fear constantly for my safety.
I am now faced at 48 years old with losing everything that I have worked so hard for my whole life. I know that I will lose my house to pay the debts I owe. I am simply appealing for some consideration with the penalties and interest and the opportunity to sell my house in spring/summer in order to receive top dollar. My prospects for now and for the future – a gross reality – are: I work part time as I much as I am able to with a permanent disability. I believe that if I should receive this consideration I could in fact sell my home of over 14 years and meet my obligation to the government.
I just want it known that I did not at anytime deliberately try to evade my obligations to CRA. I truly tried to the best of my abilities to keep things functioning, thinking that each new therapy would help me and things would return to normal and I would catch up. The magnitude of everything just completely escaped me because merely getting out of bed to tackle each day’s events was more then I could handle at the time. I believe my history with CRA prior to the accident (2009) will show that I was always compliant.
The DVD included will illustrate my attacks and the situation I faced on a daily basis. The attacks that you will see occurred as many as 20 times per day in shorter intervals while others could last for hours with no relief. I realize this is a lengthy letter and I truly feel there is so much more I should include. I would like to ask that you please take the time to watch the DVD as it might help you comprehend what I have been going through each and every day.
I would like to thank you for your time and consideration in this matter. Please call me should you want any other clarifications on any of these issues. I will include as much documentation with this as I think is necessary but should you require any other information please don’t hesitate to ask.
"
Please consider donating anything that you can. If we're able to raise $20,000 she should at least be able to postpone losing the house. I'll keep you updated every step of the way.
$425,000 will pay off the entire debt.
Thank you,
Danielle Whincup
"The reason for this letter is to explain the circumstances which have led to the financial burden of my company.
Here is some brief background of the situation:
Back in 2009 I was run-down (as a pedestrian) by a vehicle [refer to attachment A] driven by my estranged husband’s friend with my husband as a passenger.
At this point I still suffer from the physical damage to my lower back, hips, neck and shoulders; I was also diagnosed with Trigeminal neuralgia/nerve (TBI) damage and occipital neuralgia. [See attachment B] I have included some information regarding the effects that Trigeminal Neuralgia, TBI and occipital neuralgia has on its victims. [Attachment C] The nerve problems left me in a state where I have been unable to sleep as I had constant tingling (like when your foot or hand fall asleep) in my head and face. This left me unable to lay any pressure at all on my head or face or it would increase the sensation to a point of intolerable or trigger a full blown attack. [See attached pictures and DVD]
For approximately 5 years I propped myself up with pillows trying to get any sleep at all and just the sheer exhaustion from that alone was leaving me desperate. Even the simplest of tasks such as brushing my teeth, putting on makeup or doing my hair triggered full out attacks leaving me unable to go to job sites or attend meetings. I also was afraid to drive myself and with my company being construction and mobile driving from site to site is imperative. So when I was able to get myself out I usually have a paid employee to drive me around.
To date I have tried numerous drugs to control the trigeminal/occipital neuralgia/TBI. Gabapentin, Lyrica, Rilivia to name a few. Each one of these I would stay on anywhere from 1-3 months depending on the severity of the side effects hoping that my body would get use to them and I would finally get some relief. Unfortunately these drugs were all unsuccessful and the side effects that I suffered by the drugs left me in a state even worse as not only did they not help control the issues at hand, most of them leaving me unable to function at all. [Attachment D &E]
A few of the side effects I suffered were anxiety, crying, depression, restlessness, paranoia, concentration problems, loss of memory, loss of appetite (140lb to 105 lb), nausea, change of vision, dizziness and fainting (many times smashing my head, face, body on nearby furniture or counters) increased sensitivity and pain, vomiting, loss of strength. So, all of this, on top of the physical pain I am suffering has left me unable to manage my company as I had successfully in the years prior.
All of these issues also made it virtually impossible to keep up on my paperwork as well. Not only did the physical condition keep me from being able to spend time in my office the extreme exhaustion, concentration issues and loss of memory made me unable to do the simplest of tasks. I was able to show my daughter how to do payroll but everything basically fell apart. I lost clients from not getting quotations done, not invoicing in a timely manner, if at all, accounts receivable were not entered so to do collections was impossible. This led to a shortage of funds and on some occasions not even cash flow to cover payroll. In time I started to lose employees even though we did always mange to pay them it was not always on time. I had family members helped me out with loans and I depleted my own person savings to nothing and also resorted to using credit cards.
An occupational evaluation was done [see attachment G]. In desperation I also sought out numerous types of treatments, some that are still ongoing….. Physiotherapy, chiropractic, kinesiology, cranial sacral therapy, osteopath, trauma counseling, psychologist, physiatrist, massage, Rolfing/biomechanical therapy, acupuncture, exercise programs, inferred saunas. To date I am on daily prescribed medications to control at least the physical pain to a degree. All of these therapies also ate up so much of my time as I went 3-5 days per week in desperation to get better.
My family doctor had put me on a waiting list for the chronic pain clinic as he was at a loss as to what else he could do for me. This was in early 2011. Finally in January 2014 I was called for my first appointment. After over 4 years of trying to survive this hell I met Dr. Mac Innes. We discussed in great detail everything I was going through and he reviewed my medical records. He explained that the nerve issues I was suffering from the accident could possible get some relief from a procedural nerve block injection. The procedure is not pleasant as you need to stay awake but I was desperate to try anything. I went for the first appointment a few weeks later. It helped but unfortunately only for a couple of months. I was so depressed, but he assured me he was going to adjust the amounts of the medication as he was determined to get me more longevity. My next procedure I did get significant more time but I was extremely ill for about 2 weeks after the shot. I was bed ridden with fever, chills, vomiting. The uncontrollable shaking from the fever kept me from getting out of bed at all so my daughter stayed with me, but this then kept her from looking after the business dealings as well. After these symptoms subsided I was symptom free from the nerve issue and able to look at the mess of my life and business with somewhat of a clear mind. Just being able to sleep was such a huge factor to clear my mind; the exhaustion was just so much as well.
Through all of this mess my retired accountant had contacted me to do a cleaning job. When she saw the state I was in she so kindly offered her services and dealt directly with the government through numerous audits. I did my best to be present for as much of this as possible but most times I was so ill even if I managed to get there I would need to leave shortly after.
Now over 5 years into this and knowing that these shots are not permanent I was faced with more ugly realities. [Attachment F & H] It was evident that I will never be the same as I was before and I will never be able to run this business with the demands that it in tales. I was forced to discontinue with my company and sell off the few assets that it had. In this time I was reconnected with an old friend at a funeral who happened to be a book keeper. When she heard everything that I had been going through she offered to help in any way she could. She put me in touch with Mr. Sidney Shultz, and the two of them have managed to organize everything and file all the taxes and GST that were needed.
At this time I am appealing to you to try to comprehend not only the physical and mental state that I am suffering, which kept me virtually unable to just function as a human from day to day, but, the stress of watching my entire world crumbling around me and helpless to do anything about it. The desperateness I felt each and every day not only with this but dealing with the natural stress that comes with self employment, audits, a lawyer who did not have my interest in the fore front with ICBC and managed to obtain only his fees from them and me with virtually nothing because of his lack of effort into the case, and I was just too sick to keep on top of it. As well as an alcoholic husband that shows up on occasions (last time kicking my door in and coming after me again) this leaves me in fear constantly for my safety.
I am now faced at 48 years old with losing everything that I have worked so hard for my whole life. I know that I will lose my house to pay the debts I owe. I am simply appealing for some consideration with the penalties and interest and the opportunity to sell my house in spring/summer in order to receive top dollar. My prospects for now and for the future – a gross reality – are: I work part time as I much as I am able to with a permanent disability. I believe that if I should receive this consideration I could in fact sell my home of over 14 years and meet my obligation to the government.
I just want it known that I did not at anytime deliberately try to evade my obligations to CRA. I truly tried to the best of my abilities to keep things functioning, thinking that each new therapy would help me and things would return to normal and I would catch up. The magnitude of everything just completely escaped me because merely getting out of bed to tackle each day’s events was more then I could handle at the time. I believe my history with CRA prior to the accident (2009) will show that I was always compliant.
The DVD included will illustrate my attacks and the situation I faced on a daily basis. The attacks that you will see occurred as many as 20 times per day in shorter intervals while others could last for hours with no relief. I realize this is a lengthy letter and I truly feel there is so much more I should include. I would like to ask that you please take the time to watch the DVD as it might help you comprehend what I have been going through each and every day.
I would like to thank you for your time and consideration in this matter. Please call me should you want any other clarifications on any of these issues. I will include as much documentation with this as I think is necessary but should you require any other information please don’t hesitate to ask.
"
Please consider donating anything that you can. If we're able to raise $20,000 she should at least be able to postpone losing the house. I'll keep you updated every step of the way.
$425,000 will pay off the entire debt.
Thank you,
Danielle Whincup
Organizer
Danielle Whincup
Organizer
Surrey, BC
