Help Lizzie get to cancer treatment

$20,877 of $20,000 goal

Raised by 100 people in 32 months
Martin Heldt
on behalf of Elizabeth Heldt
 MARSHALL, MI
Falling Through The Safety Net

Lizzie always had such a beautiful smile.  It was something I always counted on, no matter what obstacles we were facing.  As long as we were facing it together we were happy.

Now both of us are terrified.

Lizzie was working at Oaklawn Hospital in Marshall Michigan when she first had chest pains. last year.  The doctors found a 95% blockage and that she had diabetes.  After a stent was put in, Lizzie went straight back to working her regular scheduled hours plus the many additional hours of on-call that the hospital wanted.  

Then Lizzie's doctors said she could only work 40 hours a week and put her on FMLA. Oaklawn Hospital quickly fired her.

So, here we were with mounting medical bills, our insurance lost, and our savings depleted. We struggled for months.

Then Lizzie found a new job forty miles away.  Its a good job.  Lizzie had put in the first three weeks and then her big heart began hurting again.  She knew how important this new job is to our family.  I wasn't working since I'd been struck by a car two years ago and my own health was shattered.  So Lizzie kept going to work -with chest pains- for the next week.

It Gets Worse

 Then our car stopped running.  I spent the remaining funds we had trying to get it running - with no luck.   Lizzie found a friend to drive her the 40 miles to work and then drive back again to pick her up.

Through chest pains and car troubles Lizzie kept going. to work and when she finally came home at the end of the week I could see how sick she was.  Her face was ashen.  I got her a drink of water  and took out the blood pressure monitor. The numbers were way out of bounds, so I asked a friend to drive us to the hospital. I kept my fingers crossed, thinking her blood sugar was probably too high because we weren't able to get her medicines.

She was admitted to the hospital when it turned out to be more than blood sugar.  Tests revealed she'd had a heart attack and more tests were run.  Then the doctor told us the bad news, he'd found a spot on her lungs, 10mm,  

Now we're going to need to go to a cancer treatment center and our car is not working.  We don't have the funds to get it running.  In fact we don't have the funds for much of anything as the whole year has seen us facing issues with Lizzie's diabetes and my declining vision.

We have to get her into treatment now.  Doctors tell us the sooner the better. We just have to  get going  on this before it is too late.

Things Just Keep Getting Worse

  We are now behind on our property tax and just now received notice of a foreclosure proceeding.  I don't know how much more Lizzie can take.  I don't know  how much more I can take.

We  stand to lose everything and  Lizzie will be dead if we can't get some help now.

We really need help now.  More than I'd ever imagine. 
Please help bring back Lizzie's smile to me and Jillie.  

Right now we don't have much hope.

Marty
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I just want to thank everyone for the support .

We're truly blessed for the help we received and it has helped us get to where we have confidence in the future as we go through this time of healing and waiting
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I just want to take a moment and thank everyone who have prayed for us, donated or linked to our cause.

We're not feeling hopeless anymore and thats mostly due to the kindness we've been shown.

Personally, I don't have much family left. My Dad, my little brother and my 2 nephews and my niece. Dad lost mom about 10 years ago and Mitch, my little brother, lost his wife just last year - something that has worn heavy on me the past few weeks. I'm not superstitious but when I first learned that Lizzie was in more trouble than the diabetes I thought of that old saying about bad luck happening in threes. I just wasn't thinking right.

I knew it wasn't my fault, but I just couldn't shake the lonely feeling I caught the first night Lizzie was in the hospital.

But that feeling is gone now. Its from the sense of community that I've found. did you know that one person, one unbelievably sweet person, even offered a place to stay while Liz is getting treatment. And I just another dear soul cheering - or goading- others on to donate again and he'd match their donations for 12 hours.

Lizzie and I felt that warmth as if we were holding these dear people's hands

Thank you



We've really never been apart since we met.
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I really want to thank those who have passed on Lizzie's link or who have contributed. Its hard to describe how comforting it is to know that people care and that we aren't alone.

Its truly helped take some of the bleakness and replace it with hope.
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I have to tell you, Jillie is my little daddy's girl. She is the only child I have ever had and I love her dearly. I've raised her since she was a toddler and and she , thankfully, has no memory of any dad but me.

Jillie had a really rough start in life. Her biological father had been turned into CPS by two of his own sisters for molesting her before her second birthday. But though Lizzie kicked him out and divorced him, the case went through the messed up child protection service and the bio father was soon able to see Jillie again. There simply hadn't been enough physical evidence and Jillie wasn't old enough to tell her story.

Two years went by. Lizzie, Jillie and me were all very happy - that is except for those days we had to take Jillie back to her bio father for visits. Then came the horrifying day Jillie came home upset. She called out to her mom "it hurts when I go potty."

The doctors at the ER did a complete examination. They found damage that should not have been there and the CPS and police were notified. Jillie had to go through a police questioning - which was difficult for her because she is developmentally delayed.

The court case was again undertaken and we went to juvenile court. Once again, bio-father had a good lawyer and his tactic was to delay.

Finally, before Jillie was going to be questioned in court, the bio-father's lawyer offered a deal where he would agree not to see Jillie again unless he completed sexual predator treatment and until Jillies' therapists felt she was ready to see her. So the case was dismissed and the original divorce court settlement was adjusted to have Lizzie as the sole custodian.

Now Lizzies greatest fear is that if she doesn't get treatment - if she doesn't beat this cancer - that Jillie will be returned to her bio father she has not seen since she just turned four. She's eleven now.

Its almost unbearable for us to consider this ever happening. This is so hard, we haven't sought to take him back to court to terminate his rights because we just haven't had the money to hire a good lawyer.





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$20,877 of $20,000 goal

Raised by 100 people in 32 months
Created December 30, 2016
Martin Heldt
on behalf of Elizabeth Heldt
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JD
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Jim Dill
30 months ago
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Kathryn Lappegard
30 months ago

Happy Birthday Martin! And Happy Valentines Day to you and Lizzie! Hang in there.

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Clara McIver
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Wanted it to be $214.17, but GoFundMe didn't allow it. I owe you $0.17 ;)

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