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Healing Journey of a Dominatrix

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My name is Amy Draa, otherwise known as Mistress Adrienne, international fetish artist and dominatrix. I have been fighting aggressive ovarian cancer since 2016 and can no longer support this battle on my own.

I grew up in small-town Ohio, with an ambition to express myself through fashion, photography, performance, and writing. Fetish and BDSM have been a curiosity since childhood, and I discovered the business in my twenties, after moving to New York. Being a professional dominatrix has been more than a job to me. It is a lifestyle, an intellectual stimulus, and, most important, an authentic and unique way for me to live my dreams of artistic expression. I put most of my earnings into the art form and am recognized for my distinctive fashion, photography, and interviews. I did not expect to be terminally ill at this point of my life and career.

I have always been disciplined and interested in health. I've spent my life experimenting with diet, exercise, and spiritual growth. I’ve been juicing daily and practicing yoga for over fifteen years. I was never sick, not even with colds. Ovarian cancer is known as “the silent killer,” as the symptoms often don’t appear until the cancer has advanced and spread.

My illness made itself known in August 2016, when I experienced a fever that lasted two weeks, with an average temperature of 102˚Farenheit/39˚Celsius. I was traveling at the time and believed the sickness was the result of too many planes and a poor diet. Finally, I went to an emergency room, and had a CAT scan of my abdomen, which was bloated. I was told that I had large cysts on my ovaries but was assured that ovarian cancer was extremely rare for a woman in her thirties. I returned to New York and lived in denial for a few more months, as it took time to find a surgeon and set a date for the surgery.

On November 22, 2016, I underwent major surgery, and woke to hear the awful news not only that I no longer had my reproductive organs but also that I had stage III rare ovarian cancer (MMMT ovarian), which had spread to the colon, liver, and small intestine and that those tumors remained in my body.

I wanted to reject chemotherapy, which is completley against my beliefs as a holistic health practitioner, but I could not deny the aggressive cancer that remained inside of me. My first day of chemo was the worst day of my life. But thankfully the treatments, in combination with my holistic practices, killed all visible cancer. In March 2017, I was declared cancer-free and ended chemotherapy. I continued alternative treatments and maintained a healthy diet. I believed I could have my old life back.

Sadly, the cancer has already returned (October 2017). It is visible on my liver, the lining of my stomach, and a lymph node. I began a new regime of chemotherapy on November 6th.

During this next battle in healing, I must dedicate myself solely to my health and life goals. I can no longer maintain my business, which has been struggling since the initial fever in 2016. This campaign is to fund my life expenses and well being, which I can no longer support on my own.

I will keep this account updated on where the funds are going - most urgently to NYC rent, bills, holistic treatments, and travel. Travel is a necessity, as it allows me to visit my loved ones and restores my faith in and passion for life. All holistic treatments are out of pocket and are essential for managing pain, anxiety, and cell repair.

Although I have faith in my healing, I can not deny the prognosis, and must spend my time completing my life mission. Of utmost importance are time with family and friends, spiritual searching, and artistic merit. When I focus on these goals, I am at peace with my situation.

I hope that telling my story will be of use to others and I feel it is my duty. When I was searching for women like me who were going through the traumas of cancer, I was disappointed that I did not find many I related to. I have ambitions to speak more publicly about my life, as a source of healing for others. I'm considering a YouTube channel and more writing in the future. I hope not only to be an aid for women with cancer but also for people wanting to discuss sexual issues, mental health, and other topics.

I will maintain my social media and fetish modeling as it is very important for me to feel connected to my supporters, and to feel beautiful in spite of the disease and the challenging treatments that accompany it. I'd like to show women that we don't have to give up our glamour or sexuality with cancer. Fetish is still a passion of mine and always will be.

Funds are needed urgently. Every donation, large or small, helps. If you cannot donate, please share this page. I appreciate every bit of support and hope you will follow my journey.

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Hello supporters, it’s been a year since I debuted this campaign and I wanted to thank you all for the aid and encouragement. Unfortunately, my latest scan confirmed that the new drugs were, in fact, not working. Going forward, it’s a “pick your poison” medley of chemos. Meaning, there is no definite plan, just a menu of chemos that I can try, some of them being chemos I’ve tried before. I plan to start treatment soon. As usual, I’m active with holistic treatments and good diet/exercise. I will continue to update you on my life and well being, but not every detail of my medications/scan results/etc. I imagine it gets confusing for readers and ultimately you care about my life, not the medical details.
As I write this, I have good energy and look great. It’s hard to believe I’m ill.
I hired a writing coach in September and have been working on a book.
Again, thank you for making this past year more comfortable for me. I can’t imagine it without having your support.
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Hello supporters, Today I met with my new doctor to discuss results of last week's cat scan. This was the first scan since taking the new medication, which I have been on for about six weeks.
The cancer levels in the blood suggested that the disease was growing and so I was not looking forward to this meeting. The scan showed that some of the tumors grew slightly in size and that only the spots on the liver had shrunk and only very slightly. My doctor seemed ok with these results and said my disease is "stable" because the changes in size are not drastic. I am not ok with these results but the alternative is to get back on chemotherapy, which the doctor is hesitant to do since my blood counts are not great and she suspects the disease that remains is resistant to the type of chemo I had been on for the past year. She said if I want, I can go back on it, but her recommendation was to give the new medication another six weeks and do a cat scan at the completion of that time.
I fasted today and plan to do so tomorrow as well. I'm feeling a bit discouraged. As I'm not eager to return to chemotherapy, I plan to follow the doctor's recommendation to try another six weeks on the current medication. However, having multiple tumors in the body should not be my new "stable". It's frustrating. Thanks for listening and for your support.
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Hello supporters. I've switched doctors/hospitals and I am very pleased with the change. The new hospital is much friendlier, much more organized, and even the patients act happier. My hard work has paid off.

My new doctor has recommended a new pill that I will take daily. Side effects may be intense, but most patients tolerate it better than chemo. I started the drug today. I was told that the first 4-6 weeks are the worst, and I aim to give this a good college try before I judge if I want to continue or stop. The new drug is a PARP inhibitor, called RuBraca/Rucaparib. It is used as maintenance therapy for recurrent ovarian cancer. As a Rupaul fan, I am telling myself it's a good sign that the drug is using Ru as part of the name ;). I know for certain that I'm much more inclined to take this drug under the care of the new doctor than the former. The former hospital had recommended this drug, but they didn't tell me why, nor did they give me a realistic run down of side effects. The former hospital also threatened that my insurance wouldn't cover it due to it's cost (10K a month!). The new doctor ordered the drug before my insurance approved it and told me she'd fight for it and had faith I'd get it. My insurance did approve the drug and I received the prescription 6 days after talking with my new doctor.

I did not receive chemo all summer, due to low blood counts. Honestly, I didn't mind. It was good to give my body a break from the toxicity. However, the disease which remains is trying to spread, and so the start of this new treatment is urgent. Please envision my success in managing side effects and success in the effectiveness of the drug. I will meet with my doctor next month to discuss side effects and the results of blood tests, which will be taken at the end of August (to measure cancer levels and also to see how the pill is affecting the blood counts - similar to chemo). I will have a CAT scan after two months on the drug, to determine it's effectiveness.

My diet, as usual, is good. I've been trying to get out of NYC as much as possible, and to spend time in nature. I've been missing work and hope to get back soon. I really appreciate all of your donations and could not imagine this past year had I had financial stress. I've been able to slow down, which was hard for me, but which I really needed.

Wishing you all a pleasurable, healthy, light-filled end to summer 2018. May we all enjoy the time we have here in this body.
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Hello supporters. I apologize for the delayed update. When I don't have definite news, I'm not inspired to write. However, I've felt bad that I have not updated this campaign.

I have been working on getting a second opinion at another hospital. It is not an easy or fast process. There is a lot of paper work and insurance debates involved. I should have an appointment for a second opinion soon. I have a good feeling about it.

The results of my PET scan in June showed shrinkage of tumors. There is not much left at all. However, I must continue treatment, something I did not want to hear.

Chemo has been delayed 5 weeks in a row due to low blood counts. Today they finally gave me a shot to build the blood.

Otherwise, I'm feeling good! My diet and exercise are supporting my health and people always remark how healthy I look. I have been getting out of town often and enjoying salt air and water at the beach. I've been able to see my parents often.

If you've noticed I've been posting less to social media, please do not relate it to my health. I've consciously decided to post less because I want to live MORE. :) Less time in virtual reality.

Thanks everyone for understanding my absence with updates. I will let you know the next time I have news.
Thank you always for your support.
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